Things you should do before you tell your spouse about your desire to separate

If you have a joint account, withdraw your money and transfer it somewhere else.

(Don't take it out all - just what belongs to you)

Before you separate from your husband, make sure that you do not love him anymore. You need to do some serious pros and cons of staying with a person that you do not love any more or braving it if the two of... keep reading →

Marriage is a sacred and should not be intered into lightly. Anybody can give you some advice on the internet to tell you what you want to hear. Very few people will tell you what you need to hear. We live in a try it before you buy, throw away society.

Marriage is not something you throw away because you don't know how to make it work. You suck it up, honker down and make it work. People do it all the time.

1.Read government web pages on family law in your state/province.

2.Seek some free legal advice first. 3. Change the name of the beneficiary on your pension plans. 4. Draw up a separation agreement, have spouse sign it and have it witnessed by two mutual friends/family members. A legal agreement signed by a lawyer is not always necessary.

I am guessing you have children? Is your husband a bad person or are there safety issues of why you should leave no matter what? If not you owe it to yourself, your husband and your children to make sure this is the only viable option. I believe in the sanctity of marrige and in love. You need to be able to look at your children in the eye and be able to tell them that you tried everything possible to keep your family together. Counseling, couples therapy ect. If you can honestly say you have truly tried, talk to your husband. Depending on his personality and possible anger issues, you may need to do this in a public place. Make sure you have some money put away to get you through. If he was a good husband and father you owe him a real explanation and you need to listen to him in return. Hope this helps. Good luck!