Why Older women marry young Men and Older men like young Girls

I think its about perception on both parties part. I'm a middle-aged man; yet with some of the thing I do, I feel and act like I'm 19. From jogging 2.5 to 5 miles every other day; to cycling and playing sports and being adventurous; I seem to attract women much younger (in their 20's) then I do women my own age.

A few of my female friends that are around my age and single, tell me that I am to active for them.

Guys that I have met that are dating some of my female friends say they like the fact that they can slow down a bit with an older woman.

I'm sure this is not all inclusive. But, I do find it interesting.

I have a theory that men don't actually mature mentally until much later than girls do. So a 23 year old woman is as mentally mature as a 30+ year old man. That's not always the case but it seems to happen often enough that I'd say it is more likely than not.

being an older woman- young at heart of course - the reason we go for the younger man is maternal instinct - also a huge amount of self image and street cred - if a younger guy 'fancies' you then all power to your elbow. Its not surprising really with all that experience and less of that giggly younger woman thing!

Younger women for older men - much the same I think how good does it feel to have a leggy blond on your arm with super tittys bubbling up instead of the older bird with whom gravity has started to take effect! Coupled with that of course the older guy can teach the younger gal - sooo much!

it reminds them of thier younger years. Many dont want to admit they are getting old, this is just one case of how people deny it.

As I wrote this answer, my views on the reason have evolved and changed a lot.

I think it comes down to people personalities. Good relationships I have noticed involve a leader and follower. In better relationships, this changes between the partners as is required by the event. Many troubled relationships seem to be a result of either partner not wanting to give up control, and not respecting their partner’s need to control an event.

In the younger/older relationship, the younger partner would be more willing to give control over to their older (and more experienced) partner without hesitation. The older partner would also be more understanding of their younger partner’s need for control, and be willing to give it when required.

This give and take is in my opinion is what makes a relationship. It can be with same aged couples, or young/old couples. As long as a couple is willing to be open to experiencing what the other partner has to offer, it results in a good/great relationship, regardless of the age.

I am not so sure of cherryB’s comment. Yes looks are important, but their attraction can fade quickly with the wrong attitude. Where both partners are willing to give to the other, they will always (in my opinion) look incredibly attractive to each other.

I hope I haven’t sounded too esoteric, as I was just going through a personal aha moment here.