Loading... Is it better if he loves me more than I love him?

There are only two ways to find joy and peace of mind in a relationship.

1. We get what we want. 2. We learn to be happy with what we have.

When you ask if it's "better" if someone loves you more than you love them I think you'd have to ask the other person in the relationship. There are some people who require very little in return for all they are willing to offer. It's neither a good or bad thing. Just as someone might be happy with two bedroom house and a white picket fence while another won't be happy until they move into a mansion on a hill.

As long as both people are getting what they want and need from a relationship it works. The tricky part for each person though is how long they can continue to live this way. Human nature eventually forces us to pursue our desires. If deep down he is hoping one day you will love him back as much but (you never do) he may find himself falling for someone who comes along and showers him with the love and affection you can't give. And by the same token someone might come along who ramps up your heartbeat and incites desire within you. Either scenario would test your relationship/marriage. When we wonder if it's better to have someone who loves us more than we love them...What we are really saying is (I don't trust my ability to find my ideal mate. I'm now ready to let someone "choose me".) Quietly it's throwing in the towel.

In my view, as long as you are being loved, it doesn't matter how much he loves you because some people are not good with expressing love, which might make one feel that one is not being loved enough, however that is not true. If he cares about you, such as looks after you when you are sick, helps you with your work when you are tired, rings you when you are late...these are all signs of love. For me caring about me when I am in need is love and I will be happy with that.

Probably, because for years, it has been the other way around, and it is quite painful, even though I have been committed and faithful.

No couple is going to give 50%-50% love to one another. It's known that always one of the parties is going to love more than the other but it doesn't have to be a bad thing unless one is deeply in love and the other one barely cares about the other. And there's no such thing as it being better if he loves you more or the other way around because the love you have for each other is complementary, some how the amount of love that you have for one another is balanced and it shouldn't hurt at all. If it does then maybe what the other party feels isn't love.

Hmmm i always tell my girl that i love her more than she loves me. She smiles in response, it makes my day :)

Personally, I think it's great if he loves you more! Your job is to appreciate it. The main thing is to have mutual caring.