My daughter is 21 yrs.old and dating a man who is 33 yrs.old. should I be concerned.

Since your daughter is 21 (which is plenty enough adult to make her own decisions), it's not SUPER creepy that her man is 33. It would be more disconcerting if she was 18 or 19. And sure, age is only a number...there's a chance they have a good relationship and it may work out in the end. We all know couples with age differences like that who have made it work.

But with that said, one question you might want to ask is this: what exactly do a 21 year old and a 33 year old have in common? He's been divorced, it sounds, and he has a kid. He's well established with a home and job. She's in college, just starting out her life and experiencing things for the first time. How can they relate to each other? I've seen this first hand, and I've seen relationships end because of a huge age gap. This is probably what you're concerned about...and you have every right to be (though this doesn't mean that something is going to go horribly wrong...they may just break up eventually).

There's not much you can do besides keep tabs on the situation. Get to know the guy. Ask your daughter about their relationship. You're being a good parent by being concerned!

At 21 years old it is up to your daughter to decide what is best for her. If he is a good man and doesn't have serious problems like drug/alcohol abuse, a bunch of kids with different women, or abusive tendencies then I think it is not up to you to decide. Worrying is not going to do any good. My grandparents were 17 years apart in age when they married (she was 23, he was 40 and had 2 kids from a previous marriage) and were happily married for over 50 years until my grandfather passed away. They had two kids of their own and lead a very happy life. It is very possible that your daughter may find that they don't have much in common due to the age difference but she will figure that out in her own time.

well your child is grown and i think your always going to show some form of concern when it comes to who she's bringing into her life so i dont think youre being over protective but it is in her hands now. Only she can and will have the upper hand in this one. Think of ot like this...maybe he can give her something more than what someone her age can...some young guys still require alot of growth mentally..but you do have the right to be concerned she is your baby.

Hi drboyd, I know the fears that you are going through and the concerns that you must have, because I have 3 girls of my own too, but at face value from your question, your daughter is 21 years old which makes her an adult, however what you need to communiacte to her is that, this man has divorced or left his first wife on what grounds? Is he wanting a serious relationship and what is his agenda with your daughter, dont let her be another statistic, find out about this man, get to know personally.

My mom was only 19 when she dated my dad at the age of 52. My dad was married twice before she met my mom. They fell in love (and I was the product of that) and that is the truth. If they're in love, I guess age shouldn't really matter. My dad would be 78 if he's still here. But all is well. 33 - 21 is not that big of a gap compared to my parents. Haha!

Hmm not really in the topic remit but Ill be happy to try and give you a helpful answer. Firstly I think you are probably the best person to answer your own question you just want to get some perspective so firstly I would advise if you have any impartial family friends (preferably female) that you both get on with (ie she or he wont just tell you what you want to hear!) and ask their opinion. Also if the situation was reversed and you were in your daughters position would there be a prob.? It is a hard question to honestly ask yourself but very useful if you can answer it WITHOUT KIDDING YOURSELF!:) I do not see the age differance as a problem, if you know the baby mother what is she like and do the child and your daughter get on and does the ex and your daughter know each other. My main concern is really would he go back to his ex. But if you actively drive them apart you will probably push them closer together and end up pushing yourself further out. She is prob just looking for a father figure, and in my opinion there is nothing particularly wrong with that:) try not to do what mums do best, worry!:), and just keep an eye at a respectful distance on the relationship your daughter is having and at the same time make sure there is proper 2 way communication between you both. Good luck I hope it works out well for everyone concerned if you want to talk more then my email is night16@gmail.com and remember there are still alot of decent honorable people outt here even though sometimes it can look a bit hostile, luck EOEx

At this age there is not much you can do but sit on the sidelines and watch. Oddly enough sometimes these thing work out. My sister-in-law married someone almost twice her age and they are still together. She is now a 36yr old grandmother of four. Maybe this will work out and maybe it wont. The only thing you can do is offer loving advice and trust her jugement.

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My husband is ten years older than me so when I was 21 he was 31. We have been married for 3 years and together for 6. Which means when I started dating him I was 17 and he was 27. Honestly I don't think you should be concerned. Love comes along no matter what the age. I can understand you are trying to be protective, but at the age of 21 your daughter should have an idea of what she wants out of life. Just let their relationship run the course. As long as you like the guy and he is good to her everything will turn out the way it is supposed to. If she doesn't have an issue with the age difference than you shouldn't either. It's her life to live and unless something bad was going on in the relationship to where she could be seriously hurt, you have nothing to worry about.

I wonder what a man that age has in common with a woman twelve years younger. I understand why he would want to date a 21 year old, but as far as connecting on an emotional and intellectual level, 21 and 33 are light years apart. Dude is most likely going through his mid-life crisis a tad early. Does he own a jeep, sports car or motorcycle? If the answer is yes, mid-life crisis it is. He'll tire of her or she of him in a matter of time.

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