I am 18 years old and I want to get married. Is age just a number? Or can we beat the odds?

Hey there Lilly, Your head must be reeling with all these answers, mine would have been at your age. Looking back I wish I had waited, but at 18 decisions can sometimes be made spontaneously. There's nothing wrong with being spontaneous, however even spontaneity should be given a second look once in awhile. I didn't believe I was looking for, not necessarily a father image, but definitely a male counterpart. I was head over heels in love and ignored all the advise because I was 18 and knew everything. I became pregnant with my daughter, not on purpose and accidents do happen even when you use birth control, when I was 19 and at 20 a SAHM. My life prior to being married so young had been crammed with great adventures; I began as a floral designer [15] was a model and a window dresser by 17... my life was just beginning. Well, we split up when my daughter was still too little to understand and it wasn't easy, to say the least. I'm not telling you to not get married, but if you truly feel you are not 'typical' then show how much of an adult you are and really look at this, say even 5 years, down the road. Realistically examine what you could accomplish by either waiting or tying the knot... I don't know your young man, but many boyfriends change after becoming husbands. I've been down that road too. I am mother of three and adviser to countless of their friends who grace me by calling me mom. If you ever feel you need someone to talk to you know where to find me. Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone not so close, we tend to be less biased. Just make sure the decision you make is best for you and only you.

What is the rush? Nearly every person I know that marries young end up divorced in their mid 20's. While you may think that you know what is best for you now, who you are now will change drastically in the next 7 years. You have all the time now to develop your relationship, to grow and to discover and to learn who you are and what you want.

If you ask anyone in their 30's if they had it all figured out at 18 ... well I think you know the answer to what they will say.

Life is a wonderful journey. If in a few years you and your current boyfriend are right for each other you will still be together.

What do you feel in your heart? Do you love him? Can you see yourself with him in ten years? How about thirty? I got married just a little older than you, my husband was 19, I was 20. We have been married almost ten years now and have 2 gorgeous babies. We still love each other very much and are happy, it has been hard adjusting, there are a lot of bumps ahead of you, but if you truly love each other, you can make it through anything. We had a tough time, getting our own apartment, car, etc. then learning how to balance work, and marriage, you know come home tired, gotta keep up your appearance, not let it all hang out right away, and you know keep the spark going, then with babies well that's a whole other challenge in itself. In short, there's a lot of stresses and tough spots you'll find yourselves in, but you would have to get through them regardless, in life. So I think why not have a partner, someone there to help you through, to hold each other up and help each other through the tough spots. Lots of luck.. Wish ya the best..

Marriage doesn't sound like a very big deal to you, "change our sleeping arrangements and our taxes." which is fine, but then, why rush it?

It's very sweet that you two are in love, and it could very possibly work for you. For me, I know if I had gotten married that early I would regret it, and eventually resent my wife.

I met my wife when I was 20, and sometimes still wish I had met her later. I love my wife very much, but single adult life is a lot of fun.

I admire your wisdom in seeking out the advice of others.

I must agree with the opinions of those answering before, though. While there are successful marriages that start at 18, the odds are certainly against. it

EVERYTHING will change when you marry, not just sleeping arrangements and taxes. This is not a bad thing, but everything must be considered.

Talk to married couples in their 20's or early thirties that you respect and admire and have successful marriages. If you are a member of a church talk to one on the younger pastors and ask his or her opinion. The answers you get from these people may help guide you to make a wise decision.

I am 22 and was married once when I turned 18. I also questioned the marriage subject. It in a way does change things. If you are not completely in love with this person then its not like you can just leave the relationship once married. Now it costs more to get divorced then to get married. Other then that its just a way of saying you are a couple in the eyes of the government. It all depends on how you feel about this person and if you both are completely wanting to be married then no you are not wrong. You would be doing right for how you both feel if that is what you agree on. My marriage did not work out due to the fact I had lost a child and that makes a relationship have a 50 /50 chance. So if your comfortable do what makes you both happy. take care and good luck.

you are too young to get married.if you marry him now,you may divorce him with time.give your self more 3 years to know him better.

they often say that the older the wine, the better it is. its taste is more complex compared with a fresh wine which is more fruity.

for us humans, i believe wisdom comes with age. as teenagers, we tend to be too idealistic and romantic. our interaction with others and personal experiences will help us age.

it wont hurt maybe, if you delay a few more time.

You have never been as sure or mature as you are right now, but then at 40, neither have I. Of course, your decision is your own business, but I emplore you to wait for a while, the world is a mighty big place, and there is a lot you have not been exposed to. Think about if what you do right now is what you want for the rest of your life. My suggestion, don't get married for the wrong reasons.

If your feelings are real, they will still be there when you are in your twenties. Don't wast your life, you have most of it in front of you.

Well i'll tell you up front that i'm no expert on relationships. I'm a 21 year old single male so you can just take this for what its worth.

First of all I'm a Christian so i believe that if you and your boyfriend have had premarital sex, then i think you should get married because in God's sight you are already.

However if you have not then I would recommend waiting for a short time. If you are meant to be to together then you will be and another few months or a year won't change that. Forever is a long time compared to those months or a year. And not only that but if you have been dating for over 2 years, then you have not really had a chance to be your own person and find out who you are yet. Like i said its just my opinion but i wish you both the best of luck. God Bless.

I too married before year. with my experience marriage should need all understanding between each other is very important. I think its their between u. Then, no need of thinking much for getting marriage. My openion is that your age is 18 you said, its very short age, i think its better to wait for short time if its possible. Onemore don't be in a joint family it will be raised so many problems, some what better to stay in joint family but i don't think so 100%. You have long life first u enjoy your life for short time. My advise is don't go for children with in a short period after getting marriage. Because you have very small age to get marriage only, if you go for children it will be problem to you to manage.If you are studying first complete studies. You are not wrong on my views if you want 100% each other then, go ahead don't care of anything.

It is my openion on my views, Wish you A best of Luck for both of your relation and for a long time understanding.

Age is just a number, but you also have to consider if you are BOTH ready for that kind of committment. We dont know you that well so we dont know your exact position and life styles but if you are ready to do it and are financially stable and can handle the changes then go for it. If you have even the SLIGHTEST doubt (seeing as you posted this) then I would wait!

I got married when I was eighteen. This guy grew to become my best friend, and I'm twenty now, and we are still married. You just have to know besides the money arrangements, that it's not all going to be great talks and fun dates. Your going to have a lot of complications and fights, and you can't just leave from one night. You have to both have a mind set that your in this for the marriage as well as the companionship.

If you are in love then do not get married. Yes you are too young, if you are in love a few more years won't kill you and if you still feel this way when you are 22,23,24,25 go ahead and get married, how about going to college? Unless it is against your religion why not live together if the sleeping arrangements are the only thing that's going to change besides the taxes. Because a marriage will change A LOT more than your sleeping arrangements and taxes and if this is your point of view you should not be getting married.

Best of luck

I got married at 18 to a man 10 years older. By the time I was 30, we had different maturity levels and were going in two different directions. We were married over 12 years and had three beautiful children. It's unfortunate when a marriage breaks up with children involved. The best advice I can give is to get pre-marital counseling that will cover many issues like spirituality/religion, in-laws, intimacy, finances, having children, career goals, etc. to be sure you are both very aware of the success potential of this partnership for life. Sometimes I think the longer people wait to get married, and the more "dating" they do, they get this idea that there's always something better waiting around the corner. Take it from me, if you know you're in love, grab it. It's a rare thing these days. Young love in unpolluted, as long as it's true love and not obsession (or compromising because a baby's on the way, etc.). I married the man I loved, for sure, but we didn't have the spiritual grounding, intimacy, or future goals in common, which eventually broke up our marriage 12 years later. So, sometimes love is not enough in and of itself. I wish you blessings. Do the pre-marital counseling :-) Your cyberspace "Mom" :-)

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