Should a mother "hate" or treat her daughter like shit after she had sex and had a pregnancy scare??

Something like this could effect the mother for a long time. She may be going through many different strong emotions which are manifesting as "hate" such as disappointment, embarrassment, anger, disbelief, and worry. Maybe she is so overwhelmed she cannot deal with it at all at the moment. Of course she shouldn't and probably doesn't actually 'hate' her daughter but her feelings are probably all valid feelings that any mother could relate to. Mothers have fears about this kind of thing happening to their young daughters when they are coming into sexual maturity. The daughter will be going through strong emotions too, but if she can understand the reasons behind her mothers anger in this situation, it may easier in dealings with her.

Isn't the obvious answer to this question "NO" No mother should ever treat her daughter like that no matter what. Discuss the matter, see what can be done to insure that it never happens again and be loving and supportive so that your opinion matters. That is what a mother should always do.

Not at all, there is room for dicussions with love of course. A mother should be there help her daughter through whatever stage of life she going through , be supportive treating her like dirt, its not going to help use this as a way to bond the relationship stronger.

Mothers think in a whole different language. They do not have the right to treate you this way but you have to look at it from thier perspective. You are thier little girl. They want to know that you are safe and protected at all times. When girls have sex they are going into a war unshielded. They have nothing gaurding them from getting hurt. Mothers fear that. Maybee you are misreading your mothers ations. Try talking to her. Ask her questions about her first time or ask her questions that you are not so sure about. Mothers love to feel needed, and you are the little engine that drives them through the day. Let her know that you are growing up and you will always love her and need her to stand by you now more than ever. :)