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The ex boyfriend has now become friends with your good girlfriend. Is it possible to be friends?
I am trying to get over my ex boyfriend but now he has become friends with a good friend of mine, who I see on a frequent basis and we share a larger circle of friends among us so that makes it a little uncomfortable. I know they would not do anything to hurt me but I am having a hard time dealing with this. I am distancing myself from the ex but with my girlfriend it is hard b/c I see her on a frequent basis and we share a larger circle of friends among us. I don't want to feel like the jealous crazy girl. Any advice? And is itpossible to remain friends? When I see her I see him.
asked by Blondy2 3 months ago
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stricktlydating says
In this situation most woman in your situation would feel awful! Here's some suggestions about what you could do. Talk to your girlfriend about it, when it's just the two of you, be open about it and say that you don't want to seem gelous, but since you're trying to get over him, it makes you feel awkward at the moment because it seems like she's becoming good friends with him since you broke up. If she's a true friend, she'll listen and respect your feelings, as she might not even be aware that she's appearing this way to you, she may even think you've long gotton over him. So long as you are open and honest about it, it should go over okay (you don't want to appear like you're picking on her). If you are still in contact with your ex, you could also say somthing similar to him. Other than that what you're already doing by trying to distance yourself from both of them sounds like a good idea at this stage, until your feelings for your ex have more time to resolve.
debugs says
Yes why not? Unless your ex has done a terribly wrong thing -- like abused you, stole from you, threatened to kill you, stole your dog/cat; or any crime against you (or the state btw), I see no reason why two adults can't be friends. Some ex boyfriends get to be BETTER friends than lovers!
tanay253 says
You are in a awkard situation trying to forget your Ex but on the contrary he peeps on before you .Now the only alternative is to discuss this matter with your friends and make sure they dont take it otherwise.Maintain a distance where your Ex drops in.
Poetry Chick says
I understand where you are coming from, and I agree with the others. You HAVE to talk to your friend and let her know what is going on. In a way though, you cannot control seeing him with her because you cannot expect her to just not be near him when near you, but yes it is possible to remain friends once the wounds heal.
Talk to your friend and maybe together you two can work out a way to hang out while respecting eachother's feelings. Also, did he become friend's with her just to get back at you!? You arnt going to heal if you keep dwelling on the past. I know it hurts but maybe seeing him from time to time helps heal you, but maybe you also need closure to fully heal!
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