Who comes first your mother or wife?

The mother's role in your life is minimized, or should be, once you are married. Your mother may put you on a pedestal, or alternatively, knock you off a pedestal, which may affect your relationship with your wife. And if you are religious, here is a quote from the Bible along those lines:

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall

cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh…" (Genesis 2 verse 24)

Amen.

Your wfe, Genisis 2:24 "Wherefore a man shall leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and .... and they shall be one.

" Ephesians 5:31 "Because of this a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be united to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh."

Your wife always comes first. BUT you never disrespect your mother. She will always be your mother who bore you in her womb and gave birth to you. You are also the head of your household and your wife needs to respect that position. She should also not disrespect your mother. It is okay to disagree with someone on a subject that is why there is the saying you can agree to disagree, but not okay to disrespect your spouses parents. (yes even if they disrespect you--I can say this, I have had to live it!) As the husband it IS your duty to make as much peace as you can between your wife and mother. It is perfectly fine to TELL them both not to disrespect the other. They do not have to agree on the issues at hand, but you will not allow disrespect between the two to continue. Say it calmly, strongly and definitively. Tell them that you love them both, but as your wife's husband it is your God given privilege and duty to protect your wife from all harm, including emotional stress. Which means that you and your wife will not be seeing her until she can learn to respect your wife. She does not have to like her, only respect her. If it is your wife causing the dissension, you just as strongly, but CALMLY let your wife know, you will no longer tolerate any disrespect towards your mother. Tell her firmly, that she does not have to like her or agree with her, but she must not show disrespect to her. She always has the option of calmly walking away without engaging and then if your mother tries to follow, that is where you step in! If you have to keep them apart---do it!

Both need to be honored equally in their own separate rights. However, decision making and deference should be given to your wife as she is your life partner. The same goes for women and their fathers and mothers too.

Happy Her says it best & I totally agree.

Your Wife / Husband is your life partner & should be treated with respect.

Your partner should always be treated as a priority, not an option. Respect & love will always be given to your parents, but they do not take priority over the family you have with your partner

Your wife, always. Trust me, make sure you put your wife first. Your mother should understand, but you will have to explain it to her. Good luck that is a hard place to be but for your sake, put your wife first :)

Your Wife is first! Thats why you got married to have a partner. Your mother has her partner; your father, now you have your somebody to grow old with.

your wife, unless you plan on leaving her and having your mother raise your kids...

The wife comes first and a understanding wife, will allow your mother needs before hers depending on the circumstances. Always remember you should be committed to your wife. A strong man can balance the two.

Your wife! Your wife is who you will live with and grow old. She is also who you will make life changing decisions with and raise children. Your mother will be off living another life while your wife is who you will come home to everyday after work and make decisions together.

There should not be any OR in a mother-wife relationship as both are equally important in one's life.The mother has given you birth and brought you up and a wife will share the rest of your life like a shadow.So you cant undermine the contribution of any one in your life.

I believe both should be honored and respected equally, but then again, your wife is your new family and should be alittle more important than your mother, but you know the saying "you only have one mom" is also a good thing to consider.

`You sit down after your married and discuss such issues and agree Moms are made to feel most important. All the while, you and your wife know the real status of the relationships, wink, wink.

Your wife comes first no matter what even before your mother its problems like this that will destroy a marriage.Think of it is way what if your wife put someone else ahead of you.