How Do A Women Get Away From Domestic Violence?

They leave. Period. They don't blame themselves, and they don't try to fix it. They value themselves and walk or run away. They do not look back, and they let everyone who can support them know what is happening.

There are hotlines and shelters that can help, women's employment and education programs, even churches...all kinds of social outreach networks are available.

If you do not feel confident enough to leave the abuse in your own household you need to call a Social Worker/Womans Counselling Service and seek some assistance. There are many organisations in every country which can help woman in a situation like this, and it is a free service. So if you don't feel you can get away from the violence in your home, you need to look up the phone numbers in your area for these organisations and call them, even if it's only just to talk. They are trained to help people in this type of situation, and they will help to outline the options available to you.

There are a lot of avenues to leave an abuser. Womens Shelters offer a place to hide and to get a fresh start. Just packing and leaving is another option.

Also, let family and friends know if you need help. In my exwifes case, she called me and told me that her new boyfriend was abusing her and my kids. She had been choked and thrown around like a rag doll and had bruises and a broken arm from it. I drove down, threw the abusive SOB through a wall a few times to show him how it felt and helped her pack her stuff and got her out before things got worse. Probably not the sanest course of action but it was effective at the time. Point? Your friends and family care about your safety. They will be happy to help.

They gather their strength and walk out the door. Don't look back, don't feel sorry for the other person, face the fears and allow yourself to be happy.

If you have no where to go, go to a domestic violence center. If you have family and do not fear for their lives, go to them. It's not your fault and you can't change the other person you can only change YOU.

There are many ways to leave - empowerment and support being two. But a woman who is being abused needs more - she also needs self-esteem and a belief that she will be safe. Those two things are harder to come by than one might think; especially to someone who's been systematically beaten to the core.

I really and truly can't give the right answer. The only thing that I can say is take it slow and easy. Never let your left hand know what your right one is doing. Be careful, have everything that you plan to take with you together so that there will be nothing to slow you down. When you do decide that the timing is right, don't allow anything detur your mind and judgement. You don't want to be caught off guard. Plan and plan what you're going to do and remember that every step is a step closer to a better life.

Barbara

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