How to make a relationship work after one partner has cheated

Why is it that women take on the responsibility as Ms. Fix it when mens behaviors are not excusable and immature. WHy would you want to take it upon yourself to make this relationship work when he was the one that cheated. If you have any respect for yourself, stand up for something!!! I cant tell you what, but this is your relationship and you must know what it is worth and where it is going to go from here. Are you desperate? Do you NEED to be in an abusive relationship? Can you do no better? Whatever your situation you must let him take responsibility for his actions if you don't want to live a miserable and lonely life. If he cheated on you once he will do it again and the next time he will walk on you before he does it. It's not like he will respect you more after this time, it will only get worse. Get your head on right and do what you must!

Vonda G. Nelson

It all depends on the specifics of the cheat! Was it a one night drunken fling or was it a ongoing clandestine relationship?

Emotional infidelitity is the hardest to forgive for most people, If it was an ongoing thing with lot's of sneaking around and spending time and emotional intertwinings. It can hurt worse because you start to think what was I lacking, why did they not want to tell or talk to me about this or that. If the other person has been holding back from communication and intimacy and only going through the motions with you it is definately the hardest thing to forgive. A one night stand with a fellow bar patron or even a slip up with a coworker can be forgiven if the circumstances are not likely to be repeated. Are you being emotionally open? Are you keeping the sex life new and exciting? Are you there and go out with them when they want to?

A few things you can do to spice up your relationship is to rent a hotel room and have loud wild sex every now and then. Buy a wig and wear it and take on another personna and be forward if you normally hold back or vice versa. write a sexxy text or note.

If you are being emotionally cold, it isn't that hard to open up and ask what is it that you want to do and do it and be open when they ask you something. Write a text or note saying something that is about their intrests or a concern you may know they have.

If the relationship is worth it and strong and meant to be, You will be able to get over it. Of course you will have to be willing to give the other partner what they were seeking when the went out and got what they needed from someone else!

Relationship and infidelity do not go hand in hand unless you are madly in love or you have no choice other then acceptance. In both the cases of acceptance one need to maintain the emotional thunder within. ... keep reading →

Relationship and infidelity do not go hand in hand unless you are madly in love or you have no choice other then acceptance. In both the cases of acceptance one need to maintain the emotional thunder within.

To make a relationship work after such a roller coaster the foremost thing we need to do is not to "SHOW" it to the partner that you are trying to do thing only to save the relation. Doing this hurts the partner and adds to the guilt of cheating that might be already killing them. Some might also think that you are trying to gain an upper hand in the relationship because of the mistake made by the other one (this is practical and true).

To further smoothen the things in the relationship understand the reason of your partner cheating on you and never try to adopt the things the other X person had so that you can attract your partner. This only flashes back your partner to the so called mistake made.

Try all the goods things you can think of with your partner and be yourself. Accept the fact that loosing the path is a innate nature of human and proceed with a good spirit. This helps both rejuvenating and adding emotional dependency to both the partners.

The key is to forget and follow your mind and sometimes your heart too in breaking free and following unconventional ways of forgiveness because after cheating your partner would have never came back to you if they were not yours.

So respect the face that they are still with you despite all the odds and love each moment of it to the core.

It is very rightly said "Love sought is good but given unsought is better".

Take that little extra effort give that little unsought love and you can make anyone yours.