How do you avoid boredom in a long term relationship?

I know exactly what your going through. It happens! Its Normal! Thats what people tell me. But maybe talking about it together will bring it to the surface of how you are feeling, then the two of you can work things out together.

Go somewhere different or do something different you both havent done together. Have a party, get drunk, try a new sex position. There are a lot of things to do together to make it a little less boring. Then you can laugh about it later.

break up the monotony and do something that excites you. sounds like he makes the decisions regarding what is considered "fun". Get that balance going gyrl and maybe you can have fun and continue to love him

 Boredom is in the eyes of the beholder just as beauty.  Also no one would ever pair boredom with beauty the same basic concept applies.  The individual decides what constitute boredom which would be the... keep reading →

Be careful that you are not misreading your own feelings. You say you love him, and assuming he loves you back ..could it be that your relationship has become comfortable? Because the 'fast lane' and 'over stimulation' has become a way of life today.. I believe that comfort is often mistaken for boredom. Think about it. If you determine that it is a 'comfort ' thing, rather than a 'boredom' thing.. please, give comfort a chance. You may be pleasantly surprised to find that comfort isn't as boring as you thought it was!

Well since you're in a "long term" relationship im sure you know eachother through and through. So you should know what surprises him, what thrills him etc and same goes for him. Talk to him about, dont let it build up to the point where you feel the only way to make it better is to get out, or you start with the spicing things up or so to speak and see if he mimicks your moves. If he doesnt then talk to him about it. But dont attack him with it or he will feel like its battling time. Tell him you wanna make the relationship work cause you love him and tell him what you think you need then he should feel ready to try anything.

There's all sorts of things to cure boredom in relationships. Try doing new things, including finding hobbies you both enjoy and share them together. Go to new places, explore new things. It can be anything. If it's getting boring in the "intimate department" try doing more things, spicing it up a notch. Talk about what the other wants, and explore those fantasies. There's so much you can do to get back to the honeymoon stages.

Keep it fresh and new. I have been married for many years and I treat my spouse like we are dating and he loves it. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. Keep trying to impress him the way you did when you were dating and he will follow suit. Keep that line of communication open and don't get boring and comfortable.