My husband is an alcoholic. His pay slips now reads net pay $21.65/month. Should I divorce him?

Do you want to divorce him? Would your life be better if you did? Obviously you can't depend on his income & you've been living somehow. This isn't good for the kids or you. Alcoholism is a dreadful addiction. What would be best for everyone, you included?

Wow....what a mess. I was married twice and I was divorced twice. Who can tell you what to do? What is in your heart? What lies below the hurt, anger and fear?

If you have to ask us if you should divorce him then there is still something in you that wants to save your marriage.You love him and if he quit drinking you would stay.

Many would say that you are a co-dependent and you are; but so is everyone who is married. Many would say that you are an enabler to his addiction. Maybe you are and maybe you aren't.

One thing is sure, if you make your decision based on the opinions of an online community than you will regret it always. It wouldn't matter if you were told to stay or to leave, you would blame others.

This is hard place and the only one who can help you out and tell you what to do is the Lord. If you really want the truth, you are going to have to forgive your husband for all of the hurt and distrust that he has caused and then you need to get before the Lord Jesus and pray. If Jesus is your Lord and Savior, He will guide you into all truth by His Spirit.

You will be in my prayers.

Has your husband tried Alcoholics Anonymous? I've heard from a number of people that it actually works, even if a person relapses multiple times.

Have you tried marriage counseling? Have you tried to convey to your husband that his selfish addiction is tearing your family apart? Have you spoken to your children about any of this? Do you still love him? I don't know if you're a religious type, but pastors are frequently helpful with these issues.

Divorce is expensive and as a child of divorced parents, extremely painful for children to bear, especially if they're young. Children need both parents.

But ultimately, you can't remain in a relationship with a person who devotes more time and energy to the bottle than his family. Move out, take the kids, but don't take that final step to divorce. Tell him that he's got to enroll in a program to get his drinking under control or it's over.

What springs to my mind immediately is: why on earth would you stay; what's in it for you and your poor kids. Alcoholics are immune to all forms of help and they will lead you a merry dance, or not so merry in your case, as long as they get away with it. They are not immune to consequences, unless of course they are protected from them. Once the consequences become enough and the pain of drinking becomes too great then when the alcoholic genuinely desires help, all treatment becomes viable. As long as you protect him then nothing will change except your age.

I think you should ask yourself if this relationship is worth saving! Is it so bad that you want to leave? You have stayed for 17 years! Are you fed up? Are you willing to start thinking about your own issue's instead of his? Hmmm, these are personal choices!