Domestic-Abuse-Towards-Men

I don't know the answer to your questions, however at present I am watching a once confident, happy young man become a very skittish and paranoid one.

He has confided in me that his partner-a girlfriend-hits him constantly, and he simply won't hit her back. I am sick for him, but there is little I can do but listen.

Good topic-I hope you write a hub about this.

I don't know if or how an intervention would work. best advice is to let them know that you are there for them and you will help when they are ready to leave. It has to be they're decision.

But no, I don't believe that men are tortured AS MUCH, it does happen yes, but on a lesser scale. But either way it is just as wrong for a woman to hit her bf/gf/spouse, as it is for a man to hit his gf/bf/spouse.

Sorry I cannot be more help but I don't know enough about the situation being reversed to give any other advice than that. Franki

A bully is a bully male or female it doesn't matter the sex of the victim or abuser. In England they did a study on abusive bosses, bullying at work. darn if I can remember the name of it. But the study showed that these bosses had 1 or all 3 of the following personality disorders: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Narcisistic Personality Disorder, Narcisistic Personality Disorder can be misdiagnosed as Borderline Personality Disorder because they are so closely related.

In other words these people have severe psychological problems intervention will only work if the abusive person is willing to be evaluated and treated for thier psychological problems. The problem is - is that most won't even admit they have any kind of problem. Then there are the ones that do go on medications and to treatment until they feel better and quit then it's back to thier same way of dealing with life.

Thanks for your comment, to refresh I believe that the abuse that a man recieves is more towards a mental burden and that the woman, female partner in domestic violence is getting a broader range of mental and physical abuse.

The whole domestic violence situation is most often generated by problems of self-esteem issues and a lacking of respect for one self. Also the one key factor in stopping or preventing abuse of this nature is to find the good in your partner and emphasize it, thus it will possibly have an effect on that person in a postitive way. It is always better to seek out good qualities in a person rather than openly presenting the dislikes of someones personality. This is a useful and insightful topic to discuss and we all would like to understand more how to solve these relationship issues, wouldn't we?

An intervention would be the the same either sex. My suggestion would be to leave and if that is not possible, take the same steps a women would take i.e. counseling etc..via church family or other professionals. No matter what the person has to do something.

In my line of work, I do come across males that are victims and they are very hesitant to come forward because of the stigma attached to males admitting they are victims. Please know, the tolerance for women that assault me is the same as if it was the other way around. Hey, if they strike back, she is only going to call he police and have him arrested for assault. Crazy, is crazy...things have to change or that person has to leave the foolishness.