How do you get rid of the 'baggage' you have from past relationship experiences?

Relax and Trust.

Example: in the new relationship. If he is out late unusually and you couldn't get him on the mobile - don't immediately assume he is with another woman and what happened with your ex is about to happen again.

You'd find out later that There was a perfectly good reason why he was out late. (well, i hope. lol)

You get rid of baggage from past relationships by not bringing up any past experiences. Think of your past relationship as dirty laundry is you have difficulty being quiet. Surely, you will not bring dirty laundry on a date with you.

You don't you try to learn from the past and try not to drag the bad baggage with you.

Don't consider it baggage. Consider it lessons learned. If there were issues of trust, don't get into a relationship with someone whom you don't trust or if they betray your trust, dump them. Immediately. If there were issues of abuse, look for those first signs, controlling behavior, overattentiveness, how they treat people they don't know like a waiter or cashier and if they exhibit signs that are familiar to you from the previous relationship, dump them. Right away. Go into every new relationship with your eyes open but also your heart. The new relationship is completely separate from the previous one. You don't expect to see the same merchandise in every store you shop in so don't think expect similiar behavior from everyone you meet. And don't be the person you were in your previous relationship. Decide how you wish to be treated and then don't stay with someone who treats you otherwise.

don't see it as baggage. See it as a learning experience. Draw out any lessons from it and then leave the bag behind. If you constantly think about it then it will constantly be with you, just let it go. Easier said than done, I know, but its worth it.

Speaking from experience...we all need to understand that everything we experience has a purpose. If we pay attention we may notice patterns in the people who come into our lives. If we consistently see the same type of people around us with characteristics we are not happy about, then we need to look more closely at ourselves. That's when we actually have to stop and examine what it is that keeps repeating. If we are honest with ourselves...we will find that the very thing that keeps repeating has stemmed from something deep within us. Yes, it's something we ourselves do. Usually it's something we haven't noticed is in ourselves...but it's usually very apparent in these other people in our lives. This is because these other people are our reflection. The other people in our lives reflect our behaviors back at us. They will continue to reflect these same behaviors if we have not recognized and corrected the behavior in ourselves.

The way to get rid of the baggage.... is through self-improvement. That is the ONLY way to remove the baggage. It will not go anywhere if we don't change ourselves first. When something bothers us about what is happening around us, we have to simply realize that the world is our mirror giving us the answers to how we can have our own personal heaven here on earth. We all have the power to fix whatever we do not like about our lives. The world around us shows us the exact lessons that we need to learn. All of life can be our heaven if we are honest with ourselves, and if we change ourselves, we will see how the world around us will respond because of OUR change.

When something bothers me about what has happened in my life I have found that the world is my mirror, and I ask myself what I can learn from each experience that SEEMS to have gone wrong. Once I've figured it out the lesson is learned, and I no longer see those characteristics in the people in my life.