When a teenager decides they don't want to follow their parents instruction any longer, do they have that right? If a child is under their parents' authority, when does that end?

As a teenager I can safely say it depends on how much respect the teenager wants to show his/her parents and also how much they want to rebel.

My parents always use the excuse "While you're under our roof you follow our rules." This also means that my sister, who is at university and almost twenty, also has to follow their rules when she is at home.

In theory, if a child refuses to follow this rule and they are old enough to move out then they can, in theory, do so if they want to rebel. However, they will soon come crawling back when they realise they need their parents.

Just remember, the more you rule with an iron fist the more they will rebel and use the "I don't have to do what you say" argument.

Hope you find that a useful answer.

L.

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