3 Ways To Communicate Better With Men

According to experts in men and women relationships, communicating with men is different from communicating with women. As a popular cliché goes, “Women are from Venus and men are from Mars”. It is a way of saying that they are different from each other and one of these differences is in the area of communication. However, women’s lives and existence are intertwined with men, hence their need to communicate with them. Here are some tips on how women can communicate effectively with these creatures that they sometimes hate, yet also love:

Picking Your Battles - Recognize the Proper Times to "Talk"

Men are more ready and willing to discuss things when they are in the right mood. It is important that women determine the right time to talk to men or confront them with matters that they need to discuss. Women who have the ability to choose the right moment to talk to their men are less likely to encounter arguments with them. In other words, it is good to talk with men when they are in a good mood. Many relationship coaches suggest that it is best to talk when partners are doing an activity together which they enjoy. For example, a woman can talk to her husband while they are jogging or playing their favourite game. Men find this less stressed environment more enjoyable and comfortable for conversation with women. Issues are better discussed and resolved when both of them are more relaxed.

Focus on Common Ground

Speaking in a pleasant voice can help dispel any resentment or tension that men feel during communication. Eye contact should be maintained when conversing with them to show that you are really interested to listen to them and likewise be heard by them. Men prefer to be told in a straightforward manner unlike women who may beat around the bush when communicating. Most of a man’s resentment or anger can be dispelled or lessened when a woman include things that both of them agree upon. This makes him feel that she is not totally against him after all and they could settle issues peacefully.

Emotional Discipline

Women easily show their emotions while men are not comfortable showing their feelings. After crying her heart out in front of a man, a woman may feel exasperated when she sees that he did not respond to her emotional display in the way she wanted him to. Most men are freaked out by emotional outbursts from women during their talks. Experts advise women to find ways to unleash their negative emotions first before talking with men. They could find an activity which can relax them or they could talk with a close confidante before confronting their men. This way, women can prevent being too sensitive when communicating with them. Being too emotional on women’s part can bring more harm than good since most men prefer to walk away from discussions rather than deal with emotional outbursts.

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dashingscorpio 4 years ago

Good practical advice! I would also say avoid saying; "We need to talk." That statement alone puts people on the defensive or causes them to want to tune you out because they feel they are about to hear a complaint or something negative. Any other time people have something to say they will (just say it). There is no need to "set it up" with announcing "We need to talk." Like you said, choose your battles. If it's not a "deal breaker" don't act like it is. If it is a "deal breaker" then get out!

"There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in a relationship; We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have." One man's opinion! :-)


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susiebrown48 4 years ago from Clearwater, FL

Loved it - wish there were more suggestions LOL. I've found that when ever communicating an issue with my husband that genuinely starting and ending with something positive, and handling the unpleasant issue in the middle is very effective.


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BizGenGirl 4 years ago from Seattle Author

Thank you for the comment and addition Dashing!

Susie, I would love to offer more suggestions. Is there a certain type of communication within your relationship that you would like to learn more about? Or just general info like this hub? =)


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean

Voted Up and Useful. Communication is always important and you have given three important helpful hints. Picking the proper time, I think, is the most difficult to figure out but we can do it.


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Mellonyy 4 years ago

Great hub! Nowadays it is very important to put more communication efforts to make sure you are understood. Voted up and shared!


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jeshon 4 years ago

We are different that's for sure, great hub!


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writerscentro 4 years ago from India

A well written and wonderful hub. I just want you to publish one more hub mentioning about the ways to communicate better with women .... LOL ..Because opposite sex are attracted towards each other and i am not interested in knowing the ways of how to communicate better with men :p :p ...I hope you will work upon my query :)


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BizGenGirl 4 years ago from Seattle Author

I'll definitely work on that for ya @Writerscentro. I do have some hubs already written that you might enjoy in the mean time, that are advice for relating to woman. =)

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