Men Who Wear Lingerie: How Feminine Is Too Feminine?
For a great many men who wear lingerie, the point of the exercise is to feel feminine. This has been confirmed over and over again by the wonderful readers and commenters who have come out of the lacy shadows and shared themselves with the world.
The question for today however, is just how feminine can a man get before he has become too feminine? Please note that this will be of very little use for men who wish to transition genders, owing to the fact that nothing could be too feminine for them anyway. No, instead this is for men who may be concerned that their panties may be making them a little too girly.
Perhaps its not you who is worried about you being too girly. Perhaps it is the significant other in your life who wishes you'd just man up a little. Now my thoughts on women who won't stand for men expressing any kind of weakness or femininity have been expressed at great lengths over the years, but for those new to this, let me say this:
Any woman who expects you to behave like a cliché and is horrified by the notion that you might not play along in her little fantasy world where men are real men and women can do whatever they want is not someone you will be happy with. Period.
To get back to the topic on hand. Are you getting too feminine for your own liking? Do you feel that perhaps it is time to put away the lingerie and instead put on a checked shirt and go wrestle a bear? Is it possible for a man who wears lingerie to become too feminine?
Long story short: No.
Wearing lingerie is fantasy play time. It does not change who you are on the inside and it certainly doesn't change who you are as a person. Fearing becoming too feminine means that you are challenging the ego which sees itself in a certain light and does not want to be destroyed. It's actually a pretty good thing. When we question ourselves, what we are and who we are, we can sometimes learn some important life lessons which can be applied outside the arena of lingerie.
Gender often argued to be little other than a construct. On a chromosomal level we are either male or female, but it is up to us to decide exactly what that will mean. Fearing that you are 'too feminine' means that you have put behaviors into little boxes and assumed that there is some reality to them. No such reality exists, life is what you make of it.
That doesn't make lingerie play time any less fun, but it should take the serious anxiety and repression out of the equation.
What do you think, chaps?
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