" Unselfish men," Do they exist?

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" I want a woman cave!"

I’m sitting on my back patio with two of my closest girlfriends, we have been pondering, and I don’t mean “ bashing,”..... on wether or not unselfish men do exist, or are they just wired to be selfish brats?

Most men, that we have had in our lives , have acted like typical teenagers, It’s all about them. They seem to only want us around when they need something. Have any of you ( woman) had your man call you at work just to ask “you” how your day is going?, and then gripe for the next thirty minutes about how his boss just pissed him off. Have you ever gone home after working all day and your man kisses you on the cheek and says “ whats for dinner?,” even though he’s been home all day.

Let’s not forget how they turn into blubbering babies at the first sign of a cold, “ can you get me some tissues? sniff sniff. “ Us woman get a rip roaring flu virus and still manage to get the kids to school, throw in a load of laundry, and straighten up the kitchen, all while still getting to work on time. Then upon arriving home, looking like godzilla’s bride, we are once again greeted with our honey’s asking “ what’s for dinner?”

My favorite is the 'adult time selfishness,' what the hell happened to foreplay? There is probably not a single woman out there who hasn’t given her man a dirty look when he turns and say’s, “ Let’s do it.” We all know what that means, do it to him, five minutes later your staring at the ceiling while he is already devoured half a large pizza and has the scores to all the day’s sporting events running across the TV screen. And whats up with “ The man Cave?,” and why do they closely resemble their child hood bedrooms? Trophies, posters, neon signs, sports figurines and a big ass TV and comfy chair. Where’s our woman cave? The Kitchen? What woman doesn’t want “ her own cave? “ I would love a place were I could run and hide with my coffee and the latest volume of cosmo so I can learn how to “please my man,” ( sarcasm. ) I would also love a day off to unwind and recoup, maybe I should take up golf.

My friends and I have agreed that our own father’s are exempt from selfish behavior. However, we have yet to find a man in our own age group and below to have the same unselfish traits as our dads. We wonder if it’s just a generational affliction or have men just been spending to much time in their man caves watching the history channel and fantasizing about the cave man era. “ Me hungry, fix me food, me sick, take care of me, me hunt, you clean, me want loving, you give.

As for me and my friends, we will give. Give them one more chance, and if they want to act like spoiled selfish brat’s then we will treat them like ones. They will be punished. And the punishment will fit the crime, wan’t to eat?, cook it, want tissues? Get them! Want some lovin, here’s the tissues!

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andrewwilliams63 5 years ago

Wow, sounds like you've had some bad experiences with men and it's tainted your view somewhat!

Certainly sounds like a bit of man bashing going on to me!


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SpiffyD 5 years ago from The Caribbean

Funny hub that's probably intentionally one-sided for comic effect. Of course, this is not the experience of all women; that's the beauty of it. The formatting could be improved just a tad though. The second paragraph is a wall of text.


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wildove5 5 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

@ andrew, the entire hub was created while at my back patio with my girlfriends, a bottle of wine and my boyfriend of 12 years. My views on men have not been tainted, I am a woman, I know better, no man's behavior can alter my view's. I'm sorry it seemed like man bashing, I love men and I know they're not all "Neanderthal cave men." Thanks for your comments.


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wildove5 5 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

@spiffy, you're correct, this was definitely written as one-sided comic commentary. However, nine post's and a tone of positive feedback regarding my writing style and I write one post poking fun at men and my responses are from men only. One thinks I've been too hard on the gender, the other see's the humor but goes on to tell me how i could have done better. Thank you, I also saw through the humor of your comment. I bet you tell a woman that dinner was great but she could have used more salt. ( Humor ) thanks for the comment and the constructive criticism.


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csalang 5 years ago from Canada

I agree! Women should be able to have a cave in their own home, like the man cave (aside from the kitchen, ofcourse).


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suzettenaples 5 years ago from Taos, NM

This is very funny, but I bet the men could write one about us women. Not ALL men and not ALL women are selfish nincompoops. You just have to weed out the selfish ones.


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Charles James 5 years ago from Yorkshire, UK

You could try training your men / man and setting boundaries and explaining your expectations.


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hazeleyedbeauty 5 years ago from upstate ny

I liked this, very well written and said. Yes not all men are nincompoops but the ones that aren't are either already married or gay.... :(


A Father 5 years ago

Glad you exempt your Dad from the boorish behavior of the selfish "Man". Just remember, it was we who warned you about these men when we let you start dating them.Maybe, you should have listen.


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wildove5 5 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you ladies, and dad!


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Jarn 5 years ago from Sebastian, Fl

There are plenty of unselfish men out there. But, you see, the problem is the unselfish ones, by the very definition, recognize that a relationship is unequal and would inconvenience the female party. As such, the unselfish ones do the courteous thing and refrain from entering into relationships. So you tend to get stuck with the ones who see women as objects and servants.


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wildove5 5 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you gentlemen for your input! It's too bad there are some who will never enjoy a soul-mate because of their selfishness. Both male and female included.


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NiaG 4 years ago from Louisville, KY

Love this. It's so true. I know my woman's cave is NOT the kitchen. I guess its supposed to be the whole house. But I don't know about yours but my whole house isn't filled with cool gadgets, big screens to watch the latest hotties on and quiet time spaces like the man caves are. Great funny, true hub!


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wildove5 4 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you Nia! Glad you enjoyed it!


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wayne barrett 3 years ago from Clearwater Florida

Lets just say this put a smile on my face a soon as I started reading. I get it. Okay...now that were past that, what's for dinner?


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thats up to you, where are you taking me? I'm glad it made you smile!


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

Men never appreciate this conversation but the women always violently shake their heads in agreement and some "uuuh huuhs" I think I have dated your boyfriend's brother; oh the hub I could write, though I suspect it might bring some male-hate-mail.

...anyway, I think you're funny.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you, as for the male hate mail, of all the hubs I have written this one has received the most comments and mostly by men. lol I guess I'll have to write more about men if I want to increase my traffic! Just an FYI my boyfriend was sitting with me when I wrote this and couldn't stop laughing! He's a great guy, although quite the baby when he gets the sniffles.


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epigramman 3 years ago

A selfish man is only selfish if he doesen't have the right lady in his life - and then once he finds her (if he's lucky) then he can become selfish again only because he wants what is best for her and they are a team and work as one - one love, as Bob Marley would say. Ole - from lake erie time ontario canada 6:11am not that I have any of this worked out because at 54 - I have never been married with no children - but I am not a confirmed bachelor either - lol - so nice to meet you and the bottom line in this beautiful hub presentation of yours - you tell the truth - so nice to meet you and sending you warm wishes and good energy


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you very much! My man is selfish, because he found me! LOL


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kj force 3 years ago from Florida

wildove5...WHOA..pull back those reins..grab a crop..and sprint for the gate !!!

hope you had plenty of alcohol/ice packs/band-aids ...the abuse comments on this hub were unreal..men/women have made jokes about each other for years.." the ole ball and chain" just to mention one....without a sense of humor, life would be very boring...bash..bash who has the cash ? I have been married to a wonderful man for 48 years..happily for twenty three and a quarter.....hehehe


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Kj I'm glad you liked it, I love your sense of humor,,, I am working my way through your hubs, onto number 3 now! Great writing, great humor!!


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ahorseback 3 years ago

I would have hated to be the guy to walk in on THAT roundtable of jilted friends , dont think I would have got out alive !,,lol....Ed


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Nahhh,,,,you would have had fun, warm summer night, cocktails and a fire. My boyfriend of 12 years was in attendance and chuckled along with the ladies. Thanks for stopping by! I look forward to reading more of your hubs.


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MissJamieD 3 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

I know this is annoying but my boyfriend is the most selfless man you'd ever meet. I'm not kidding or exaggerating. He's the most un-selfish guy in the world. In fact right now he has a cold and he's always moaning and groaning, but he never allows me to get him tissues or make him soup or do anything! Once in awhile he'll let me give him a massage while he's sick or heat up something to eat but other than that he hates it when I baby him. He's constantly babying me and he loves to. I'm serious I'm the luckiest girl alive! If we go somewhere and there's something on sale that I'd like, he pretty much makes me stay there until I pick something. When there's a Clearance sale somewhere, he'll buy me stuff and bring it home for me (something my ex husband of 15 years never did ONCE), he gets up hours before he's supposed to for work, and will take me places and to appointments just because he wants to, knowing that he's going to be extra tired later. He has helped me when my ex was being a total psycho and I had to pick up my kids in the middle of the night on several occassions, without flinching. I could go on for hours and i've already written a hub about him but I think I have enough info for another..lol..I know we all love our selfish men too, I'm just saying I have a special one and I'm not letting him go:) I love this hub, very cute.


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

MissJamieD,

I'm jealous but happy for you. I'm wondering if he didn't have an ugly relationship prior to the one with you and so he appreciates you all the more because of it? Or he maybe was raised in a home where he had a very good example of how love and healthy relationships are supposed to be? I just don't see or hear of this occurring very often. Did his parents mass produce by any chance? lol


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Miss Jamie,,,, if ya like it then ya better put a ring on it, ut, ut oh, ut, ut oh, lol, Girlfriend you better marry the dude before someone try's to steal him from you! LOL I'm not annoyed at all, just terribly jealous! Thanks for stopping by, I'm gonna go look for your hub about this amazing man of yours then probably loose my dinner! ( just kidding )

Miss canthearmescream, I totally agree! Maybe he has a brother!


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MissJamieD 3 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

lol...he does have a brother but the brother is a loser...sorry:( And I hope to marry him one day. He's 31 and never been married, although he was with the mother of his 3 kids for 15 years. But after 30 we all tend to mature alot more than our crazy 20's so I'm definitely hoping he'll put a ring on it in the next year or so:)


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

Isn't that the way it goes, if one brother's "got it all" the other one can't? My sister-in-law has a child-possessed and her next born, five years later is like the calm before the storm. I said, God must make it this way, you have to have one to balance out the other. Now she's raising the easy one; God was testing her strength, then rewarded her for her patience, lol.


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MissJamieD 3 years ago from Minnes-O-ta

Well God works in wonderful ways, I am a testament to that:)


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I can relate to your sister-in-law, my daughter was such an easy going baby, slept through the night at 3 months, loved to take naps, and never threw herself on the floor in a store, as a teenager, well lets just say God either has a sick sense of humor or my daughter has a split personality.! She's a terror now! LOL

Miss Jamie I'm happy that you found your mister right, hang onto him!


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

wilddove5,

I'm sorry, but I have to laugh... that's too cute. Hey, look at it as just a bend in her otherwise straight road. I was a very good "kid", terrorized my parents as a teenager and then as I turned into and adult and had my own first child I learned to absolutely respect and appreciate them. I'm probably closer with them now more than ever. My son just turned 12 and I've been shaking like a chihuahua waiting for the hormones to kick in. lol. But I have a daughter that just turned 8 and I'm even more afraid of that one. Hopefully these next couple of years take a long time to get here. ;-0


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I'm glad I made you laugh! In a couple of years I will probably be chuckling at one of the many hubs I'm sure you will be writing about how you caught your son smoking cigarettes in the garage, or your daughters new tattoo! LOL Just kidding, kinda. All I can say is cherish them now, in a few years you won't even recognize them! Sorry! LOL


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

wildove5,

I'm trying so hard to distract them from growing up. I know what is out there waiting for them and I know it wont be long before the see it. I'm kind of the burping, "rough around the edges" kind of mother and I really don't coddle my kids, but I still have my 12-year-old son (6th grader) believing in Santa Claus. haha. I've had some people tell me that he's too old, but I really don't care. I know within the next couple of years he's going to be out running the streets with his homeboys, chasing girls and probably getting into something that the DARE program would frown upon. Once they're not kids, there not kids. Ya know?


JanikaLeeReyes 3 years ago

I agree, I agree, I agree, I agree!! You know, my boyfriend asks me to take off his sneakers for him!!! They're all babies looking for replicas of their mothers. I say, lets raise our sons to be self-sufficient--see if the next generation of women appreciate it or not. Lol. I am a bit divided. I actually enjoy cooking and, my boyfriend (who cooks good, but i feel i can do better hey!) never trusts me to make things my own way. Its insane. Its to the point where Im like "screw you make your own damn food youre no baby you know how you f*kn want it, make it your damn self jeez" ------but, Would it kill for them to do the laundry, offer to take off our shoes, linger a little longer after a kiss? Speaking of primitive eras, I have reason to believe they feel they don't have reason to keep chasing us to keep wooing us after they have us. I say, make it harder for them, start commanding (not demanding) they pick up some slack and cut the crap. Did they not know a man doing the dishes and mopping the house becomes the sexiest thing ever after 5 + years of marriage or just being in a relationship? Good one dear. Love this topic.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Why would he need you to take his shoes off? Did his mommy take his shoes off for him into adulthood? LOL It's funny, most men will tell you your acting like their mom, to that I reply, " Well hell, stop throwing me into the role of mommy and stop acting like a child!" Take of my shoes, are you kidding me? Do you stand next to him in the bathroom and watch him brush his teeth to make sure he doesn't miss a spot too! LMAO,,,,sorry, I swear I'm not laughing at you! Men are so silly!


JanikaLeeReyes 3 years ago

Lmao no no, its so true!!! I say much the same to my boyfriend when he says that to me!! Thats just preposterous. Lol lol. Gosh thank god no!! I think that would be my last straw.


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Escobana 3 years ago from Valencia

Funny Hub though I have to say, WE WOMEN tend to create our own cave men, by pampering them from the beginning, not expecting anything in return, hoping in vain for their undivided attention afterwards.

There are many unselfish men who hang their clothes on a chair before they go to bed, who clean up after themselves and offer to do groceries because they see you're tired.

It's about the start of a relationship. The first messages you send out and WE WOMEN tend to send out the wrong message, then blaim the men AND stick by their side, to nag them all day long which to me is the ultimate punishment...

There's a door you can open after you've observed you're in a relationship you don't like. You can talk and talk and complain about it, but it went wrong in the beginning.

You don't change your cavemen back into a volunteer. The only change you'll get is called....compromise OR leave.

My last sweetheart was a perfect guy in many ways but I quit, even though he folded his socks, washed the dishes, ironed his shirts and put out the trash. I never met a typical Narcissist before. That was my cue to leave...

Funny Hub though! I can see the humor in it even though I answered seriously:-)

Up, shared and good stuff!


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

Escobana,

You are so right. We bust our hump trying to impress our new love in the beginning; showing them how nurturing we are and how much we are willing to do for them. Unfortunately they get used to that behavior and we get tired. I guess we do create some of our own trouble.


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Escobana 3 years ago from Valencia

Unfortunately we do and it takes some guts to admit this. Many women prefer to blaim the other instead of observing their own behavior.

Other than that...we choose. We can choose for a guy who's well educated, learned about sharing, taking and giving or we choose for someone who obviously has learned nothing about that from his parents.

But if this guy is hot, sexy and a little dangerous, many women will choose a guy like that. The wrong type but so exciting to be with.

Still...we choose and we can walk away again if we had enough and improve our choices. Believe me...I know about all the wrong choices:-)

It made me more aware of my own imput as a woman...


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

I think that there is a part of us that would like to think that while we enjoy being nurturing, we would also appreciate the signs of appreciation. I think a lot of men probably appreciate in silence and some probably just take the situation for granted. Then I suppose there are men that show appreciation. Though I bet more men think their wife knows they appreciate her, but her wife would beg to differ.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I think men believe that we show out love for them by doing for them, just like their mommies did, and most of them never thanked their mom's for folding their laundry, making their meals or cleaning their rooms either. So I'm going to blame the mom's for it! LOL Thanks for reading!


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I share the blame, I'm a spoiler! Thanks for stopping by!


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I totally agree, When I met my boyfriend of 12 years we were both coming out of a bad marriage. I think we both had dealt with the shortcomings of our previous relationships and didn't want to sacrifice our own needs the second time around. I wanted attention and so did he, it's been a tug-o-war ever since. Funny though, he just came into the room and told me he washed and dried my work towels for me while I was at work. I guess I'll keep him! lol


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

You're right! It is the mothers! I guess I better start paying attention to if my son is saying his thank yous to me so I don't turn out the same kind of man! Well what the heck were we born with such a nurturing nature for anyway?

Isn't that like a man to prove you wrong when you least expect it? What a guy, after you picked yourself up off the floor I hope you gave him a huge hug and thank you! ;-)


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

You just gave me an idea for another hub,,," What a good boy you are!" I think will be the title.! lol It'll be a funny one for sure! Believe it or not I have been on Hub pages for over a year now, not writing consistently though; of all the hubs I have written this one has received the most reads and comments. That just goes to show you it's a global problem! LOL


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

Ha, you should. Isn't funny how they want their praise? We could've cooked, cleaned, worked, schooled and loved all day; we say "Gee I'm tired" and he follows with "Yeah, well I'm beat" and all he had to do was let the dog out on his day off.

Your hub's success; Most women agree and most men get defensive. (Could be the inspiration for another hub the pact of women and the always defensive man)


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I just finished it,,,there is so much I could have said about this subject but I kept it to the praise and reward system, you should write one too! It will be a hoot to see how many woman agree with us, and how many men will hate us! LOL


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Cantuhearmescream 3 years ago from New York

Awesome, I'm going to try to get over there and read it! You probably could have a Part 2, Part 3, Part 4....

I hope you're ready for this :-)

I don't know if I have the courage yet, but we'll see ;-)


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LongTimeMother 3 years ago from Australia

Happy to report that unselfish men do exist. I'm married to one!

And yes, I do know how lucky I am. :)


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

You made me giggle out loud!!!! Thanks for the report! LOL


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Peggy W 3 years ago from Houston, Texas

I think that you wrote this with humor in mind. Like LongTimeMother, I am also married to an unselfish man. He has gone out of his way on so many occasions to help not only his family but also mine. Later this year we will be celebrating our 43rd wedding anniversary. Perhaps I just trained him well? Haha! All kidding aside...I know how fortunate I am.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I have always said men are more like puppies, most are very trainable if you get them when they are young. Otherwise, you can't teach an old dog new tricks! I'm happy there are woman out their with husbands who have either never needed training or have listened well to their masters! Once again, written with humor! Thanks for stopping by!


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gaplumber 3 years ago

Howdy, I didn't want to read the comments so here is my thoughts. Love the sarcasm, you need to talk to a southern man. I love to do the cooking, take care of my self, will not admit to being sick so no problem there. Keep it up if the men reading are like they should be they can take it. Thanks


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gaplumber 3 years ago

Oh, forgot to tell you there is a list of man rules. We are such simple creatures.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

My father is from Kentucky. There is nothing better than a good-ole southern boy!!!! Thanks for stopping by! Ya'll come back now! Yahear! LOL


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

You'll have to write a hub about this list. I would love to read it!


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gaplumber 3 years ago

good suggestion, it is done


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Yay, I'll be right over!


Lesleysherwood 3 years ago

I can relate .... Boy I can relate.... No one knows how it is being a woman, except another woman. I need say nothing, you have said it all. Except - I have found a good man now. They are out there, it just takes kissing a lot of frogs first unfortunately. Voted UP and shared.


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gaplumber 3 years ago

Lesley, frogs? Really? haha


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I'm glad you found your prince Lesley, thanks for the vote and the share!


Lesleysherwood 3 years ago

Gaplumber, I thought every woman has kissed a few frogs in her time. ha ha


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shiningirisheyes 3 years ago from Upstate, New York

Ha Ha! Great hub. I can completely relate to the conversation between your girlfriends and yourself. I have found my group of friends discussing the very same subject from time to time. I am also in agreement that Dad is off limits with this!

Greta hub


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Thank you Irish! I could write so much on the man bashing topics but I don't want to come across as hating men! I love em, I just find them to be all the the things they think we are, silly, vane, childish, just to name a few! LOL


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PHILLYDREAMER 3 years ago from Lodi, New Jersey

This was hilarious. I think you have our mothers to blame for it. Most men grow up with a mom who has a big S on her chest, and its hard adjusting to the lower standards our significant others want. I'm sure I'm going to get punished for saying that, but I'm not scared. LOL


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Philly, I am so glad you enjoyed the humor of this hub! " Lower standards!" That is hilarious!! If only you men didn't need your mommies, your wives wouldn't have to act like them.,,, lol. Thanks for stopping by! I enjoyed reading a few of your hubs too!


Ausseye 3 years ago

Hi Wildove10out of 10:

Nearly caved in and wept on reading this hub about mail selfishness, through sleet and snow, rain and other weather us mail (mean) men deliver the goods…..now how can you call the mail selfish. And let my better half cook, never as I’m the better cook and I practice every day. Sure I have a cave shed where I horse around a lot, but that’s because my older selfish child wanted to view the world as a trainer of the faster four legged kind. But now you have worn me down and made me admit in my lower brain, my father-est problem…..adoring the women in my life. Loved the hub even if it was rather selfish about giving space to men, must be a patio thing…a place to make men atone for being the hairier creature of our planet and in need of care and attention….the groom of doom.


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Ausseye,I'm glad you enjoyed my rant on some of the selfish men my friends and I have had the misfortune of encountering. I assure you if I had a man who would cook for me, I'd never complain about him horsing around in his man cave! Not to mention especially if he adored me! Just a little side note, my man and I have been together for 12 years, he rarely cooks, nor does he have a cave. We enjoy each others company and I think he adores me, however he does remain rather mute when it comes to complements. I think he thinks I will get an inflated ego if he tells me I look nice! lol Once again, I'm glad you enjoyed it and I'm sorry your weather is unpleasant. Stay warm and dry!


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wabash annie 3 years ago from Colorado Front Range

Perhaps we remember those behaviors because we've seen/experienced them too often. Thanks for writing the hub!!


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Your welcome Wabash! I hope you enjoyed it and I am sorry if you have had this experience one too many times!


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ahorseback 3 years ago

You know ! Us good guys have a hard time feeling sorry for your trying to "tame " the bad boys to your likeness ! While you totally ignore the great guys ......you know like me !LOL.......you girls would be sooo fun to hang with !..........:-}


Ausseye 3 years ago

Hi Wildoves10plus:

Read it again to get the gain of a second look, so came to the conclusion that you guys (females) have us guys(males) in plain sight….. And we need to run and hid in the shadows. Got no cave, and yes do cook and I’ve been with my better half for 30+ years, so I have some experience of the gal in my life. I am working on a genetic mutation that give’s us guys another side , cause being feminine in measure gives us a far better angle on humanity, love, passion and equality. Equality is something I have fond to be a real gem, makes all sides move from their traditional path, it’s the only way to avoid the Indian hunting party. Mind you I’d like to see a few more female construction workers, something to keep an eye on instead of making it a one sided viewing. Come to think of it, there are a list of jobs and tasks you guys don’t really get your energy into, so how about it!!!


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I agree Aussey, I own a Barber shop, was an assistant manager at Auto Zone, and recently replaced the brakes and calapers on my car. Not to mention I open my own car door! LOL So when the man in my life exclaims he did the dishes, ( for me ) I have to laugh! He did it for a reason and it usually means he wants a treat! LOL


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Oh, we are fun horseback!!! I also love the bad guys! But I also like the ones that sniffle a little at a sad movie! Could you be more specific on telling me about these "great" guys you speak of? lol It's been a while since I've seen one!! LOL


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ahorseback 3 years ago

Where are the good ones ?

They smile at you in checkout lines

and secretly adore your dress

They look at you in rear veiw mirrors

they dream of your caress

They smile and think about asking

but quietly sneak away

Once again you chose the bad boy

the good guys always say.............hehe


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Horseback,,, I love it! You my friend, are a GOOD one! ( I look forward to seeing this short on your profile!)


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headshrinker 2 years ago from Western Massachusetts

Came across this article which I realize is supposed to be tongue in cheek. But I can't help but think it doesn't get written if you ever had the perfect guy in your life. And I don't mean 'perfect' since that person doesn't exist, I mean perfect for you. I hope someday you experience having a man who adores you and never lets you forget it. It's sad that so many people never find that person. My wife was that person for me and I never, ever missed an opportunity to remind her just how much I loved her. By the way some of the stuff you have written, deep stuff about your mom and your daughter is great, truly moving work. I look forward to reading more.


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wildove5 2 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Head shrinker,,,I must say,,I have met the one! He isn't as mushy as I'd like him to be, but I know he loves me! He shows it many ways, most are unusual, but none the less I know I am adored. When I wrote this he was sitting by my side as well as a couple of girlfriends. We had been discussing some of the men we trudged through and some that they were still trying to train! We laughed the entire time, even my boyfriend. That's one of the ways he shows me he loves me. He enjoyed being by my side as we man-bashed and laughed at our attempts to make men look silly!! Thanks for stopping by and I look forward to making my way through your writings!


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headshrinker 2 years ago from Western Massachusetts

Thank you for taking the time to write. I apologize for being a little too presumptuous with my comments to you. A sign of my many years counseling people I'm afraid and a usually reliable ability to read between the lines. I have no doubt you love your boyfriend and him you. I just sense a sadness in a number of your writings that speaks to another. Again I apologize and look forward to reading more of your material.


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wildove5 2 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

No apology needed headshrinker!! My man article had all the makings of a man basher,, as well as my other hub Men and compliments or lack of. That one was definitely written with my BF in mind. He is horrible at it!! But like I said earlier I have learned to except and understand that the way he dances may not be the way I'd like, but his moves excite me! I also don't hold anything back when I need him to step up his game, not in a demanding way, but honest! As for my sadness in my writings, it is my therapy! I get a great amount of relief when I write. I have written many letters in the past to my boyfriend's past and present that I have never had to give to them in order to feel better. Most times just getting my feelings onto paper is all I need. I'm sure as a counselor you understand this method for releasing emotions! So please don't apologize,, Thanks again for stopping by and welcome to Hub pages!! :)


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kenneth avery 21 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Hey, wildove5,

Nice hub. Great writing. Very helpful and informative. Voted Up and all of the choices. Keep up the fine work and it was my distinct pleasure to meet you and enjoy your work.

You nailed it. "We" are far from perfect specimens of creation. I have been married for 40 years this June and it has taken me most of this time to learn one by one, the steps of a solid marriage.

One: Listen to my wife and trust her more than myself.

Two: Willing to give my life at the drop of a hat for her.

Three: Do whatever I can to make her life a bit easier.

Sincerely,

Kenneth

Your Friend for Life


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wildove5 21 months ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

Your a smart man my friend! You know the phrase " happy wife, happy life" it's not a myth! Thanks for the votes!! Much appreciated!!

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