Learning to be Nice

Road Rage - Slow down a bit!


So the other day I am driving down the road. The light turns red ahead of me so I slow down. I see a car trying to get out of a parking lot. I stop completely so the driver can get out of the parking lot. Just at about the same time as me stopping, the light turns green. The person who I let out of the driveway was very thankful and waved. The person behind me on the other hand was not so happy. She gave me the dirtiest look, was yelling, then quickly pulled to the left of me and sped off going like a wild person. Whoa! What just happened here? The whole incident probably took around 45 seconds. Where is so important that you can’t be 45 seconds late? I bet you anything this person would be just as mad if they were stuck in the driveway and nobody was nice enough to let them out!

My Point - Why are we so mad?


What’s my point? My point is that I run into these kinds of situations all the time. What is everybody mad at? I am not saying that you specifically are mad, but you know what I mean. Why can’t we just be nice to each other? Doing small things for one another that do not require much effort would make this world such a friendlier place.

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Im not one to complain but...think before you act


I am not usually one to complain, but that is the whole point of this article. Maybe next time you want to get angry with somebody else for no reason you will give it a second thought. Just because you are mad at something that happened to you doesn’t mean you should take it out on somebody else. You need to always think as if you were the other person. Treat others the same, as you want to be treated. That is an old saying, but should still be really relevant today.

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Other Things That Are Frustrating

You have a couple of heavy grocery bags in your hand. You see a person approaching the door, so you figure you will be nice and hold it for them. You do, but the person just walks right by. They do not smile or say thank you. I know the point of me holding the door wasn’t to get a thank you, but it would have been nice if you would have noticed that I was not the doorman.

Customer Service jobs are hard. Working with the public is hard. Do you know how many times I have heard cashiers, drive through workers, sales people etc get snapped at? Remember they are doing their job. They probably are very busy and it is more than likely not their fault that the company ran out of ketchup. So before you go yelling at the person behind the counter, remember they are there to serve you, if they were not there you would not be able to use that service.

Again I was driving. This time it was on a highway. I was driving around the speed limit, maybe a little bit over. Well I look in my rear view window and all I see are these two huge eyes staring at me. I swear they were in my backseat! It was one of those monster size delivery trucks. He was driving so close to me that you probably could not fit a person in between my car and his truck. Mind you, he could have passed me on the left or the right, but instead he insisted on staying where he was. I am the type of person who will compromise in a situation. But this time I did not want to. There was no reason for him to be so close. So I stayed where I was for about five minutes until I could no longer take it. I finally gave in and changed lanes. So he won that battle. But then he did it to the car that was in front of me. That car was NOT having it at all. The car did not budge for about 10 minutes. At that point I guess the truck driver got frustrated and decided to move to the next lane. I guess he finally had a taste of his own medicine! Again, why did that truck driver have to do that? He could have easily passed either of us and been done with the situation. Instead he choose to make our lives harder. What was the point? He would have actually gone further if he had passed me in the first place.

I know if I am in a rush, I will not go to the grocery store because I know that lines can get long and the chances of me getting out of there quickly are slim to none. But if I am not in a rush, I will go to the grocery store even if only for a few items. Waiting in line does not bother me.

So I go into the grocery store one day and I have 3 items. The person in front of me beats me to the counter by like 2 seconds so nothing is out of the cart yet. Their cart is filled with groceries. They look at me dead in the eyes and then QUICKLY start putting groceries on the conveyer belt. They then turn around and say, oh you only had 3 items, if I would have known I would have let you in front of me. Why even bother saying anything to me. Does it make you feel better pretending that you would have done the nice thing? It would have been much better off if that person would have just kept loading their groceries without saying a word. Sometimes less is more!

Smile and Say Hello

Did you know that if you smile at a stranger who looks miserable, you might brighten their whole day? Maybe a friendly face was all they needed to get them out of that mood. So next time you see a person who looks like they had a rough day, give that person a nice smile and say hello. Seeing their face light up might make your day a little better as well.

I know that there are days that we are just filled with stress and just hate the world, and that is understandable. But we do not need to take it out on others. You know you have to go out of your way to be rude to somebody. You can just as easily go out of your way to be nice to somebody.

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yaknowwhat 6 years ago from USA

I think the world is battling an "it is all about me " epidemic . Selfishness and self centered-ness is a way of life for many . Anyone of us could be guilty of it and fall into the trap in our day to day - thanx for the reminder to be aware of how we are and treat others .


MaryRenee 6 years ago

Jen: Wonderful hub! It's so true! People can be so crabby, and get bent out of shape over the littlest things. Driving can be terrible when you have to deal with people like that. You're so right, smiling at someone can truly brighten their day, I couldn't agree more. Excellent hub Jen, thanks for sharing! :)


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jennshealthstore 6 years ago from Florida Author

Yes yaknowwhat, I know I myself at times have been guilty of snapping at somebody else for no reason, but then I feel really bad after : ( . I always try to think before I speak.


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jennshealthstore 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thanks MaryRenee. I love driving, but your right when people have road rage it's not pretty.


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Pcunix 6 years ago from SE MA

When we lived in small communities and were dependent on the people around us, being a jerk was noticed, noted, discussed and the behavior had consequences. People therefore developed habits that barely exist today.

Too much anonymity, too much stress, too few consequences.


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jennshealthstore 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thats true Pcunix, living in small towns today is probably still a little different than living in a larger city but times have definitely changed.


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mailxpress 6 years ago from New York

The doorman. So true. I hold doors all the time for people who obviously have their hands full and could use 2 seconds of my time to hold the door open for them. When I do it for people if they don't acknowledge my help, I simply say out-loud your welcome. I've gotten many dirty looks too over the years. Oh well.

The grocery store. I hear yea. I always let the person who has two items on them go ahead if I have a full cart. I feel people who are purposely rude are just angry at the world in general. Usually nothing will ever make them happy. Maybe the reason they are so unhappy with themselves has a whole lot to do with treating people around them the wrong way. Just nod and smile everyone. It works.


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jennshealthstore 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thank you Mailxpress for your comment. Yes, you are right, if people would just try to be nicer to each other than maybe they would not be so mad! A nod and a smile goes a long way.


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geegee77 6 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

I totally agree about the smiling to strangers, I know that has always made me feel better when Im not so happy or feeling kind of down:) Great hub!!


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jennshealthstore 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thanks geegee for your comment. A Smile can go a long way.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

I see people like the first one you mentioned everyday, and it's a shame, because they are miserable they want everyone to feel the same. I really like this hub, reminds me of one I wrote.


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jennshealthstore 6 years ago from Florida Author

Thank you fastfreta. I know, its sad but true. Don't get me wrong there are plenty of nice people out there. But you do often run into people who will get mad at you for no reason. I just want everyone to get along! : )

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