Why Does Getting Cheated On Have To Hurt So Bad?
An Open Wound
I compare getting cheated on to getting hit by a Mack Truck traveling 65 miles an hour that came from out of nowhere. You never saw it coming and it crushes the hell out of you. You can never know how bad it hurts unless you have gotten cheated on yourself. If you are in love with a person and everything as you know it is perfect in everyway, then all of a sudden you find out that the person, that you love so much and trust so much, has betrayed you by sleeping with another person. OH THE HUMANITY!
You instantly feel a knife in your heart and a second one being driven deep into your back. The betrayal alone can leave you feeling sad and disgusted. You feel that your life is over, because you never saw yourself being hurt by him, maybe someone else, but not him. "How could he do this to me?" You will ask this question over and over and over again. You will never get an answer, but it won't keep you from asking it. This will feel like an out of body experience, because of the sheer magnitude of the anger that is going through your brain, it may feel that violence is the only cure for your growing heartache. You want him to hurt just as bad he hurt you. But violence is not the way to go. You'll end up in jail with a broken heart and no bail money.
It takes a while to get over being cheated on, but you can't waddled in your sorrows forever. You have to grow some thicker skin, put on a tougher heart shield and get back out there. Chalk it up to a life experience, a really mean, low down and dirty life experience. But hey, if you come out of it clean you have graduated with the scars to show it, and now you know what to look out for and hopefully you will then know who to really let have your heart.
Here are some tell-tell signs that your man might just be stepping out on you:
- He is never where he is supposed to be.
- Never answers his phone. After you call him, he then calls you back.
- Always on the go and says that he was out with a guy friend.
- Hops in the shower as soon as he get home.
- He is always on the defensive end when you ask him, "Where have you been?"
- He keeps a lock on his phone.
- He says that he is going to hang out with the guys, but when he leaves the house he is dressed to impressed. Now who he looking and smelling good for?
How to get over getting cheated on
Most will say, the best way to get over a guy is to get under a new one. This can be a temporary fix, but the underlying hurt that you have can be transferred to another relationship. This can damage your new relationship before it's even had a chance. The reasons are because, you're not able to trust anybody right after being cheated on. Therefore your new relationships will be filled with arguments and stress.
The best way to get over getting cheated on is to ultimately take time to get to know yourself before dating again. You have to be able to love yourself again because a failed relationship can take away a lot of your self esteem. It can make you lose your self worth and put you into a deep depression. That's a lot of baggage to bring into a new relationship.
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