Why Does Getting Cheated On Have To Hurt So Bad?

An Open Wound

I compare getting cheated on to getting hit by a Mack Truck traveling 65 miles an hour that came from out of nowhere. You never saw it coming and it crushes the hell out of you. You can never know how bad it hurts unless you have gotten cheated on yourself. If you are in love with a person and everything as you know it is perfect in everyway, then all of a sudden you find out that the person, that you love so much and trust so much, has betrayed you by sleeping with another person. OH THE HUMANITY!

You instantly feel a knife in your heart and a second one being driven deep into your back. The betrayal alone can leave you feeling sad and disgusted. You feel that your life is over, because you never saw yourself being hurt by him, maybe someone else, but not him. "How could he do this to me?" You will ask this question over and over and over again. You will never get an answer, but it won't keep you from asking it. This will feel like an out of body experience, because of the sheer magnitude of the anger that is going through your brain, it may feel that violence is the only cure for your growing heartache. You want him to hurt just as bad he hurt you. But violence is not the way to go. You'll end up in jail with a broken heart and no bail money.

It takes a while to get over being cheated on, but you can't waddled in your sorrows forever. You have to grow some thicker skin, put on a tougher heart shield and get back out there. Chalk it up to a life experience, a really mean, low down and dirty life experience. But hey, if you come out of it clean you have graduated with the scars to show it, and now you know what to look out for and hopefully you will then know who to really let have your heart.

Here are some tell-tell signs that your man might just be stepping out on you:

- He is never where he is supposed to be.

- Never answers his phone. After you call him, he then calls you back.

- Always on the go and says that he was out with a guy friend.

- Hops in the shower as soon as he get home.

- He is always on the defensive end when you ask him, "Where have you been?"

- He keeps a lock on his phone.

- He says that he is going to hang out with the guys, but when he leaves the house he is dressed to impressed. Now who he looking and smelling good for?

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Website Examiner 5 years ago

Sorry, this piece made me laugh. I shouldn't, probably, because it is a serious theme. But you have written it with humor; certainly not self-pity. I see quite a few hubs on this theme nowadays, seems we're living in frivolous times. Anyway, it was my pleasure to answer your question: It popped up on my screen within minutes of you having posted it, and I happened to know the answer. Best of luck to you. W.E.


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan

Tarkishat, I think when you give up too much of your life and time to a man, that's when it hurts so much. If you're giving more than you are getting that's a problem. Another life lesson learned!


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tarkishat 5 years ago Author

Your are absolutely right Treasure. You should not invest your all in a person anyway, you should invest little by little in order to see if the investment will pay off. Thanks for the comment.


ladylogik 5 years ago from California

Your article is interesting and entertaining. I always said i wouldn't end up in a situation like this one, but we never know where our paths will go. I take a lesson from every experience 1. It never comes out of nowhere (there are always these little signs- being too secretive.) 2. Why hold on sobbing, when there are so many things in life to be accomplished, lived, and seen out there to stay home crying over undeserving people.


Miss T 3 years ago

Tarkishad I have been cheated and my husband told me he broke up with that girl three years ago and January I discover they are still together. I love him so much and trying to forgive and forget but I don't trust him and it seems like a lot was or still happening behind my back. I am not working so I stay home and wonder. How do I move on (sad)


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tarkishat 3 years ago Author

Miss T your situation is very similar to a situation that I was in with the first guy I ever lived with. It was easier for me to leave, because we weren't married and we didn't have any kids. When he cheated, it felt like he had ripped my heart out of my chest and stomped on it. During this time I lost my job because I was too depressed to even get out of the bed. I tried to stay and forgive and forget, but that is really hard to do when you just want to punch him in the face and I did just that. Lol! I'm not telling you to do what I did, but you can forgive him, but trust me Miss T, you will never forget and that is okay. You are married to this man and I'm sure you depend on him financially, so I say if you are truly ready to leave him, save every penny you get from him and find you a place or move in with relatives. Once you move out, have a sit down with a divorce attorney and make sure you have proof of his infidelity. It's time for you to hold your head up high and get you a job, cause he knows that you are not going anywhere because you don't have a job, so he feels he can do what he want and you have no other choice but to stay and take it. Dry them tears baby girl, tomorrow is a new day and life is way too short for you to waste your precious time crying over, and loving someone who obviously don't love or care enough about you or your marriage to maintain trust and monogamy within it. I hope this helps.

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