10 Advices For Your Love Relation

People often tend to forget the essence and important factors that contribute for a long life of a healthy relation. Because of the persistent ignorance about your partner and relation needs, the situations are often led to catastrophic results and bring disasters and depression because of the break up or because of that unhealthy relationship where lovers go on to fight everyday.

Below are the 10 important advices for you to follow in your love relationship. I hope you will try to find out the weakness in your relation (if any) and this effort of mine will help someone out there. Be gentle, be kind and best of luck.

10 Advices for a Love Relation

Following are the '10 Advices for your Love Relation'. Each point has been explained in detail.

1. Trust

2. A Flavor of Friendship

3. Must not be a result of 'Need'

4. Communication

5. A sense of care

6. Honesty

7. Compromises and Adjustments

8. A sense of security

9. A sense of Equality, Partnership & Companionship

10. LOVE ♥

I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you ~ Friedrich Nietzsche~
I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you ~ Friedrich Nietzsche~

1. Trust

The first and foremost thing in love, on which all the romances and love-affairs settle on, is no doubt, TRUST. There always goes a saying that “To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved”.

But trust and relation goes hand in hand, one develops it gradually but his/her acts and daily behavior. Do NOT do anything suspicious or anything that may leads him/her to doubt you. This can seriously harm your relation and once a trust is broken, nothing can turn it back they way it was.

2. A Flavor of Friendship

A sense of friendship is extremely necessary for any relation. You also must be the ‘Best Friend’ of your lover. So that in this way, he/she can easily express the difficulties in general life or that are in the relation. The level of frankness in the love relation should be such that one may not miss any other friend to open his/her heart out. YOU should complete his/her life and for that reason alone; you will be loved by your lover through-out your life.

3. Must not be a result of ‘NEED’

A relation, in order to last long, MUST NOT be a result of ‘need’. If the basis of your relationship is merely a ‘Need for relationship’, ‘Depression’, ‘Social awkwardness’ or ‘Being tagged as a nerd’ will not help you in any way and will harm your relation and your life in significant manner. Moreover, if you think that ‘things will work out later’; then I would only recommend you to be a little mature and pragmatic. Be honest with yourself, you know this is not going to last any longer.

4. Communication

This point is one of the most important factors of any relation. Communication is a key thing for any healthy relation. This is exactly why; it is generally known that long-distance relationships seldom work. Just imagine some of the most common problems that we usually face in a love relation. Communication is one of those. Your lover/spouse always complaining about the lack of communication, the lack of time you spend with him/her. You need to be in touch for a reasonable time to solve this problem and it is an important one.

5. A sense of care

An important contributing factor for any healthy relation is that sense of caring that makes you happy. Everyone needs some caring from his/her partner, it is a fact that no one can ignore. So, the best thing is to live with this fact and to use this to your own good. You have to care for your spouse or lover. You need to be affectionate; this would not do any harm to you in any way, only that it brings a smile on your partner’s face and will eventually increase your relationship health and life.

Be honest
Be honest

6. Honesty

Honesty, transparency and sincerity in a relationship are some of the things that cannot be neglected or under-rated at all. Whether it is a love relationship or any other one, mutual honesty and sincerity are the needs of every relationship. If you love your partner truly, then you will not have to work hard for bringing the honesty and sincerity part in your relation. It will come naturally, and in case if it doesn’t, there is a hint for you that something is wrong or isn’t perfect in your relationship that seriously needs attention. Go for it!

Sacrifices & Compromises increases your value and are the reflection of your seriousness.
Sacrifices & Compromises increases your value and are the reflection of your seriousness.

7. Compromise and Adjustment

There is no shame or no harm whatsoever in some sort of adjustment and compromise in your relation. Won’t this be rude if you compromise NOTHING? And every time your lover will have to adjust? It surely will be termed as rude and arrogant and will not help you or your relation in anyway. I read a quote that:

If someone really wants to be in your life, he/she will make an effort for it”

Make that effort, show your affection and prove that you are the perfect one, and that your lover will never find anybody better than you.

8. A sense of security

Whether you take this sense of security as the security for financial stability, security for emotional needs or just the feeling of being secure whenever she is with you; everyone searches for that ‘sense of security’ in the relation. And this is one of those intangible feelings that one find extremely visible when someone breaks up with you (he/she misses this feeling the most) or when someone compares you with his/her ex or the future ‘would be’. You need to be in such a way that your lover feels secure, complete and accomplished.

9. A sense of Equality, Partnership and Companionship

Dominance on a single half leads to destruction and catastrophic results in every way of our life. Do not be that dominant in your relationship that your partner lost his/her voice. You need to give him/her the right to speak, already possessed. A relation is between TWO people, there must be TWO voices to be shared, no?

Discuss with your lover, share with him/her. It is a mutual feeling, a mutual relation. You cannot just drive it all alone.

10. ♥ LOVE ♥

Apart from all the points, this is THE MOST important one. JUST LOVE YOUR PARTNER.

That’s enough. Affection, trust, companionship, sincerity, honesty, care, communication, all are automatically covered if you LOVE your lover. It is the most fundamental part of any love relation.

Show your love, say that ‘I Love You’. Do not miss any single second by not loving him/her. You never know how much time is left for you people to spend together. Make each second count, and create some loveable memories to cherish upon =)


POLL TIME!

Which problem do you think is hurting YOUR relation?

  • Trust
  • Missing the flavor of Friendship
  • A result of NEED
  • Communication gap
  • Lack of Care
  • Dishonesty
  • No compromises
  • A sense of Insecurity
  • Inequality
  • Missing LOVE
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sarclair 5 years ago

Nice hub. I agree, you should be the best friends in your relationship.


Naima 5 years ago

this is really great! :)

thanks:)


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

@ Sarclair ... Indeed. In order to be a good lover, one must the best friend of him/hers.


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

@ Naima .. Thanks for the liking. I am glad that it helped you in some way :)


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Betty Johansen 5 years ago

Every one of your points is excellent. One that is not mentioned so often is that the relationship must not be based on NEED. So true! This is a very insightful hub.


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

Thanks betty.

And yeah I found many relations that was just based on needs (after break ups, divorces, depression and all that) and none of them worked as it was supposed to.


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Ivorwen 5 years ago from Hither and Yonder

These are excellent points. Relationships take a lot of work and continued involvement, because people change.

I really liked this quote: “If someone really wants to be in your life, he/she will make an effort for it”


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

@Ivorwen - Yes you are right. One of the main reasons of such failures is we tend to loose interest or just take the relation for granted, which gradually makes things miserable to cope with.

And yeah this quote is really loved by me too :)

Thanks for your appreciation =)


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Claudin_Dayo 5 years ago from Southeast Asia

I truly agree with this =) a relationship is put to waste when two or more of your list is violated.. . nice hub!


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epigramman 5 years ago

..you should be writing for Cosmopolitan or Esquire magazine after reading this - true advice from a sage (that you are) and it doesn't get any better than that!

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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

@epigramman: oh that's so kind of you and I just wish that one day I'll be writing for magazines and/or newspapers :)


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cristina327 5 years ago from Manila

Great hub, great advice to consider. You should be your partner's bestfriend.Lasting relationships are build on friendships. Thank you for sharing these great thoughts on relationships. Blessings to you always. Best regards.


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

@cristina327: Thank you for stopping by and delivering such kind words. I am glad that you found the above advices useful :)


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Career-Guide 5 years ago from Mars

@Hunbbel - all you have said sounds really good but in reality love never holds for forever, People change! with time or whatever but most often a relationship is much harder to keep when economical or social reasons comes between them..... I have seen many people doing breakup because of them were getting a handsome salary or were more successful


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Hunbbel Meer 5 years ago from Karachi, Pakistan. Author

@Career-Guide: I totally agree with you. I have personally seen such cases and it was horrible indeed to witness them. But again the last points turns back to mutual respect and understanding. If one truly loves than he loves. Simple is this. He should not be bothered by other factors and the same rule applies for other person as well. But all these factors, will eventually lead to a healthy relationship, but won't guarantee as a single mistake will ruin all this :)

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