10 Things Women Do n0t Find Attractive
While you may be spending time improving your image to snag yourself a "hotty", you might be overlooking the single most important rule. Don't repel her!
It doesn't matter how clean and polished your routine is for attracting a woman. If you are committing any of the following offenses, you are pushing her away instead of reeling her in.
Here are the top 10 "no-no"s ~ things to avoid and never do if you can help yourself in a lady's company:
#1 Pick Yourself Apart
Now I'm not talking about putting yourself down here, although that isn't highly advised either. I'm talking about the gross act of "making yourself comfortable" that guys don't seem to care about when other guys do, but it just grosses the heck out of the ladies.
- Don't pick your nose ~ get a tissue for the love of civilization!
- Don't dig in your ear & show off the huge glob of earwax you just discovered ~ go get a Q-tip & take care of it in private
- Don't dig your underwear out of your butt like you're digging for gold ~ it's alright to walk away and take care of it discretely
- Don't "Adjust your junk" constantly ~ really, excuse yourself, we don't want to see that
- Don't pick your teeth~ go to the bathroom & take care of it.
Even after you've managed to find yourself in a relationship, your lady isn't going to instantly find these things acceptable, charming, or attractive. It just isn't sexy ~ EVER.
#2 Let 'er Rip
Farting is NOT a mating call. I cannot stress this enough. While we understand that every human on the planet must, at some point, release these gasses, that does not mean we find them alluring, attractive, or endearing.
- No farting contests
- No "Dutch Oven"
- No calling your lady over to have her smell how bad it is and say "That was a good one"
While you may, on occasion, get a laugh it isn't because you're scoring solid "in" points. Most of the time a lady just doesn't know how else to respond politely. We think it is rude, vulgar, and disrespectful.
#3 The Gun Show
Yes, we get it, you have big muscles and you're trying to turn us on with them. Really, we can notice them on our own, we don't need "tickets to the gun show".
Obvious flexing and showing off just tells the ladies that you are either immature or only interested in having sex. Either way, it says nothing about how you value her and everything about how much you are impressed with yourself.
Again, you might get a giggle from time to time if you're just playing around; but avoid doing it and definitely avoid OVER doing it. We aren't going to be so amazed by your display of muscles that we say "oh, wow, take me now. I can't wait another second big boy." .... yeah, just not going to happen, sorry.
#4 The Extensive Resume
Honestly, we don't ever, ever, EVER want to hear about all of your past conquests, qualifications, and "skills" that you acquired before you met us. Keep it to yourself.
Telling a lady that you have been with a large number of women before her just lets her know that she needs to be extremely careful with you. First because you could have something she doesn't want to catch. Second because you clearly have commitment issues and are only after one thing.
In a relationship it is important to be honest with your partner, I'm not saying lie about it. I'm saying ~ skip the details. We don't need to know names, birthdays, birthmarks, or favorite positions.... You wouldn't want to hear it from us, so why would we want to hear about it from you?
#5 Born In A Barn
Yeah, believe it or not, it's okay to act like you were raised indoors by respectable people. You don't have to act like a barbarian or cave dweller.
- Chew with your mouth shut
- Close the door when you go to the bathroom
- Use your manners and be polite
- Pick up after yourself
- Wash your hands
- Brush your hair & teeth
If a lady wants someone who she has to take complete care of, she'll get a dog. She doesn't want to be your mother, your maid, or your nanny. Let her know you have the ability to walk upright & not drag your knuckles.
#6 What's Your Sign?
If you approach a lady with an incredibly cheesy pick-up line, your sign is most likely going to be "EXIT NOW".
It can be challenging to talk to a lady for the first time, especially when you find her attractive. Just remember that she is a person, not a slab of meat on a shelf. She wants to be treated with respect and dignity.
You aren't in a '70's movie ~ this is real life.
#7 Dress To Impress
What you wear says a lot about you. Women are excellent detectives in this area.
- Don't wear potent cologne ~ you aren't trying to make her pass out from the stench, are you?
- Don't wear skin tight pants to present your "goods" as prominently as possible
- Don't wear saggy pants with your boxers hanging out the top ~ (Thugs don't really make the best boyfriends)
- Wear clean clothes that fit appropriately ~ this shows her that you respect yourself and have the ability to respect others.
Regardless of whether you are looking for someone to connect with or just "hook up" with, it doesn't make sense to go into a situation where your first impression reeks of disrespect.
#8 Operator Speaking
If your phone is going off so often that you can't even complete a sentence, you are losing points ~ big time.
First impressions or in a relationship, a girl never wants to take the back seat to the phone. She needs to feel like your attention is on her. You can't do that if you're constantly holding up a finger saying "just a sec, I gotta take this."
Shut the stinking thing off when you are on a date or spending time with your lady!
#9 It's All Fun And Games
If everything is lighthearted, funny, laughable, and goofy it leaves no room for anything serious. That means you aren't going to be able to take her seriously, a relationship seriously, or be responsible.
When nothing is a "big deal" to you, that is a serious red flag to your lady that nothing matters to you, including her! It's alright to put the jokes aside from time to time and just relax. Not everything has to be funny. Sometimes it just shouldn't be.
#10 Let's Go!
If your idea of foreplay is "Hey babe, let's get it on" then you are in serious trouble.
A man who isn't willing to "preheat" the oven isn't one that really cares about his lady. He isn't looking to satisfy her, he is just looking to satisfy himself. Women see this as selfish, childish, and unattractive.
You might get away with it for a little while in the beginning, but as time goes by you'll find yourself being turned down more and more. Why? Because who wants to play a game they never get to win?
Sometimes the best part of the whole "intimacy" thing is leading up to the race, not just who gets to cross the finish line first. If you aren't enjoying your lady because your too busy worrying about your own enjoyment ~ shame on you.
Avoid The Danger Zone
In short, when you are "wooing" a girl, lady, woman, or whatever you want to call her ~ treat her with respect. Avoid doing the things mentioned above.
Act like "one of the guys" when you're with "the guys" ~ be a gentleman when you are with a lady.
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