15 Things To Find Out In 15 Dates

Getting To Know Your Date


There are a lot of things you can discover about the person you're dating even before you meet in person through the internet, texting, and Skyping, but some things you just have to learn through observation over time. Each time you're with him make sure you're taking mental notes. You want to learn as much as you can as soon as possible. What if he's not the right one for you? If he's not, it's better to know sooner. So sneak in those all important questions in every situation but, don't act like you're conducting an interview. This will make him feel uncomfortable, and he won't be able to relax and be himself.

Here are some things you'll want to find out as soon as possible:

  1. IS HE CALM AND COLLECTED? Does he get all sweaty and nervous in certain situations? You want someone who can maintain themselves in all situations. If you're going to feel at ease you want to know the person you're with can handle things as they come along.
  2. DOES HE HAVE GOOD MANNERS? It's not just about whether he chews with his mouth closed it's about how he treats others. How is his interaction with the valet, the waiter, or the store clerk? It does matter how he treats these people.
  3. DOES HE HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR? Maybe he does tell jokes, but most guys that are funny just have a certain perspective on the world that makes us laugh. You can't buy this , it's a gift.
  4. DOES HE ENJOY HAVING A GOOD TIME? He might not be the life of the party, but can you still have fun with him? If you're with the right guy it shouldn't matter so much what you're doing.
  5. CAN HE COOK? This is always good to know. If he can it can bring elegance to any day of the week. Think about it. Steaks on the grill for the weekend. Muffins on Sunday morning. Protein shakes after a workout. The list is endless.
  6. DOES HE LIKE TO WORKOUT? You know he'll live longer and be in better shape along the way if he does. Besides haven't you always wanted a workout buddy?
  7. HOW DOES HE FEEL ABOUT HIS MOTHER? This is very telling. You know that a guy with warm feelings for his mother can't be all bad. In fact it can show that he is a caring and loving man.
  8. DOES HE MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL? Somehow you don't know how good you can feel until a special person does it for you. It's about more than mere compliments. Does he respect you enough for you to feel it? Do you love being around him?
  9. DOES HE APPROACH THINGS WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE? This is something that takes being in several situations to discover. But, even small things like how he responds to someone who's ill, can show a little bit of a positive attitude.
  10. DOES HE HAVE A PASSION? Having something you love to do with every waking hour is fantastic. If you do, you'll always have a reason to get up every morning and something to talk about at cocktail hour.
  11. DOES HE LIKE TO DANCE? As we all know, how a person moves on the dance floor is directly proportional to how they move in bed. If this is going to be a long term relationship you might want to find a good dancer.
  12. IS HE HAPPY? Does he smile and laugh? When you're around someone who's happy it just rubs off. So why not pick someone who's really happy?
  13. DOES HE FOLLOW A CERTAIN PHILOSOPHY OR RELIGION? When someone believes in something greater than himself they can't be egotistical.
  14. DOES HE LIKE HIS JOB? Is he the type of person who works at a job so he can fund something else he like doing? Is he going to school to get a better job?
  15. IS HE GOOD IN BED? This is something that matters for today and for the long term future. You just don't change that much about a person's sex moves.




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Thundermama 3 years ago from Canada

Interesting hub, I suspect some of this information would be difficult to find out on the first date, but certainly you would hope to answer these questions in the first few dates. Great food for thought.


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lisasuniquevoice 3 years ago from Michigan Author

Thanks Thundermama. It may take longer to discover everything you need to know about a date, but the faster the better.

Lisa


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Au fait 3 years ago from North Texas

Interesting list. No onions or garlic allowed within 48 hours of a date?

I guess offering to pay part of the bill if you're a woman would be a good way to determine if he would expect a woman to support him -- a good way to sort him out fast.

I think excessive burping is disgusting no matter how often somebody excuses themselves. Shouldn't a person refrain from eating gassy foods for 48 hours before a date also?

How do you feel about alcohol on a first date? You didn't say anything about how that should be handled.


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lisasuniquevoice 3 years ago from Michigan Author

Au fait,

I do agree that people should not eat gassy foods for 48 hours before a date too. Good point. This could make either person on the date uncomfortable.

As for alcohol on a first date, one drink is probably okay, but any more and it could spell trouble. A person could get a clouded vision of their date. You're right, it is an important issue that I should have mentioned.

P.S. Sorry about that comment on the parasites in the brain from cat litter and undercooked meat. I had a severe cat problem that day.

Lisa


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AmandaJon 3 years ago

Pretty interesting hub! I think there are questions that shouldn't be asked on a first date no matter how fast you want to know a person better it still needs time. Waiting for more ideas from you. Good luck.


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lisasuniquevoice 3 years ago from Michigan Author

Thanks AmandaJon. You know there are some things that are better left alone on the first date. I was watching a show where a girl told a guy she Googled him and wanted to know why he did not pay his child support. All this on a first date. Yes I would be concerned if a guy did this, but maybe there's a better time to talk money. I think it would have been better if she waited and let him talk about the circumstances behind the internet info she found. Then she gives him a chance to be honest and forthright in his own time.

Lisa


Stargrrl 21 months ago

I think these are good tips, and you definitely want to know the answers in the first few dates--I don't know that you would find out all of that information on the first date. Usually the first date is more of an icebreaker, getting to know the basics of someone. Some of these can wait. That is just my opinion. It was a good, well written hub, though.


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lisasuniquevoice 21 months ago from Michigan Author

Stargrrl,

Thanks for your comment. It just seems to me that people don't want to waste any time when dating these days. I think it's great when you can make some decisions about a potential romantic interest right away.

Lisa

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