10 Things Every Successful Player Must Do/Have

Becoming a player or being a player is never as easy as you may have been thinking. True players can only tell you this. The problem is that the real players have been able to mask the underlying internal workings of the game to the extent that you only get to see the peripheral, glossy and somehow bewitching aspect of the whole thing.

But first things first.

First of all who is a player? In my own little understanding, a player (or a playboy) could be said to be a man who is never ready to commit himself in any love relationship. Although he is ready to go the whole length in making the girl i.e. his mark feel on top of the world, it is only for a moment. When the right time comes, he will take his exit from her life sometimes without even making any forewarning announcement. Reason why? He is a player and he gets his kicks from doing just that!

To be a player is not easy. There are many strings attached to that bad-boy status as you will soon see. There are many things you have to learn if you really want to become one. The following are some of the things a player must do or have. They are also the things you have to watch out for if you think you are involved in a sizzling romantic relationship with a player.

Listen.

A player will surely break someone’s heart. What’s the whole point of being a player if someone is not crying out there for your love and attention? Is it not what shows that you are good in the game? A true player might even compile the list of all the heartbreaks he has caused because that will actually serve as a benchmark for him to know when to stop. But does he really want to stop?

A player will always be clever. He knows all the moves. He knows when to submit to your lead and when to go for the kill. Without these marksmanship skills, a player is in trouble and in the danger of being exposed and that is why he has to always be clever.

A player will be bold. One nice thing going for the bold is that if the boldness is well applied, it always has the intimidating effect which shuts up the victim anytime. You catch a player in one of his numerous lies or antics and what does he do? He knows he is stuck and he knows he is also running the dangerous risk of losing the girl. But then, he knows that there is a way in which he will indirectly admit to the charges and still gets away with it and he wouldn’t hesitate in using that last option. This last option is the boldness we are talking about.

A player will be funny. Everybody, most especially and most unfortunately women, like people who can make them laugh and that is what a player knows how to do so well. He knows all the stupid jokes; he knows all the flirting moves, and all those little though foolish things that matter a lot to women. He is a true master of the game and this is because he is often times blessed with this great sense of humour and women love that…regrettably to their detriment though.

A player will never take things serious. That is exactly part of the reason why he is a player. If he starts taking everything all that serious; he will most likely be a father of three or four kids by now…inside wedlock. But no, he will never take things serious and that is actually what is saving him as well as pushing him on all these while.

This player got loaded pockets 'n' swag!
This player got loaded pockets 'n' swag! | Source

A player will always have a loaded pocket. He is rich and he has got the cash to burn, the flashy jewels, watches, clothes, cars and things of that nature to display. Those things could actually be gifts from his previous victims which he is keeping as souvenirs while at the same time using as the next bait to catch the next fish. He may not actually be rich but he knows how to create that aura or semblance that could easily deceive his target. I said it earlier on, players are very clever!

A player will be always be prepared. He knows where all the good things of life can easily be gotten. He knows the best eateries, the best places where the fun parties are, he knows how to plan his time such that things never clash and even if they do, he will have a way of rearranging things simply because he is a very good planner. A stitch in time saves nine…all true players know this.

A player will always watch what he says. As we all know, women feed on words because they intuitively know their powerful meanings. Oh what a helpless victim she will easily become in the hands of an unsuspecting player who just happens to know all the nice and lovely things to say at the right moment while carefully and cleverly concealing those things he dare not say…at least until the right time when he wants to execute the exit program.

A player should be able to take quick decisions. He knows the importance of this. It is always better to shoot first and apologize later. The fighter who knows how to make quick decisions will always be rewarded with the gift of surprising his victims all the time. He is always one or even two steps ahead. While the victim is still trying to decode the situation and reason out what to do, the player is already plotting his next move thus short-circuiting the victims’ ability to reason clearly while at the same time forcing her to only be responding to his antics, that is to say, playing his game.

A true player always knows how to watch out for the exit. If he starts noticing the warning signs such as if the woman in question is beginning to hopelessly fall for him or if she is beginning to set those kinds of traps for him, he knows it is time to go. Simply put, a true player knows when he has had enough.

A player will always be ready to provide and fulfill a fantasy. A lot of fantasies actually. That is even why he is in high demand in the first place. To the woman who wants a slave-lover, he becomes a slave-lover, to that who wants to flirt 24/7, he provides all the flirting. To that woman who wants some confidant-companion, you will find your ultimate listener in this fellow and to the woman, who wants marriage, a true player knows how to provide and sustain that very semblance of marriage and that is why he can fool you without you actually recognizing the actual point in time when the fooling actually started.

But now, let me tell you something you might find very hard to believe about a player.

A player is always ready to fall in love! After all, that is one very sure way he can quit. Like the saying goes, you don’t know who loves you; you only know those who you love. That sums up a player’s attitude and lifestyle. He knows those he loves and that could be the reason why he is playing around because he is yet to find that very person who will calm his soul even though the supply of women is never in short demand for him but once he finds her, and she shoots the cupid arrow through his heart, he automatically becomes the victim.

Now I have some questions and possibly some answers for you too. First, do you think that finally settling down and having a sizzling romantic relationship with a player is advisable? My answer to that is to listen to this famous statement once made by the great Niccolo Machiavelli, the master strategist himself:

“Any man who tries to be good all the time is bound to come to ruin among the great number who are not good. Hence a prince who wants to keep his authority must learn how not to be good, and use that knowledge, or refrain from using it, as necessity requires.”

Now for your answer permit me to reword that statement so that it will now go like this:

“Any player who tries to be good all the time is bound to come to ruin among the great number of women who may come his way. Hence a player who wants to keep his authority and reputation in the game must learn how not to be good, and use that knowledge, or refrain from using it, as necessity requires.”

So in a way, having a romantic relationship with a player could be good for you because he knows all the tricks in the game and if he decides to use it for your own good, I bet you, cloud nine will be yours forever!

Now to the second question, do you think I am a player?

Sorry, I can’t help you there!

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Renee-Michelle 4 years ago from Georgia

To answer your first question; a player is only useful for when both parties are playing games for then it becomes a battle of wits to see who is actually better at the game.

Secondly, I would never advised any woman to settle down with a player unless she truly knows what she has on her hands and what it will take to keep him from his "player ways."

In many instances, there isn't anything she can do because he has an inner problem with himself. Now, I am not one of those ones that believe once a player, always a player. I have met many of reformed players. However, many women were hurt by them on their road to reformation. So, for a woman to "settle" down with a player; I say it will be at her own risk.

To answer your second question - no I don'think you are a player...but I could be wrong :-)


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Emmyboy 4 years ago from Nigeria Author

Renee-Michelle, thanks a lot for reading through and giving that candid opinion of yours.

One other thing, about my second question, I wouldn't mind to know why you think you could be wrong...


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Renee-Michelle 4 years ago from Georgia

I simply said I could be wrong because you never REALLY know about someone. You have an innocent face, but so did I when I was in the game. Plenty of people never knew that I was the type of person that I was. Sometimes, looks can truly be deceiving. :-)


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dotty1 4 years ago from In my world

Loved your hub :)


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Emmyboy 4 years ago from Nigeria Author

Thanks dotty.

But be warned...I've mastered how to be one step ahead. So unless, you love being behind, you might have to double up a lot because being a player is not a game for the faint-hearted or people who love to be led, you know?

Anyway, thanks for reading and just so you know, I will be watching my back as from now to spot the dotty dots behind moi!

Hahaha!


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Mellonyy 4 years ago

Great insight on this topic! Completely agree that "a player will always watch what he says" and yes, women know the powerful meanings of words. Voted and shared!


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Levertis Steele 4 years ago from Southern Clime

Emmyboy! You certainly know a lot about players!

You wrote, "Now to the second question, do you think I am a player?

Sorry, I can’t help you there!"

You may or may not be a player because a seasoned person, man or woman, knows all of the tricks of a player without being one.

I am the daughter of a father and neice of many uncles, the sister of four brothers, the old girlfriend of a few ex's, the wife of a husband, an aunt and cousin of many males, mother of two sons, and caretaker of hundreds of boys for a great part of my life. I am not an expert in the psychology of men, but I did learn a few things during my lifetime of associating with them. Players hurt others terribly, but a smart person knows that players have problems--needs that they seek by hurting others. That is an illness like a rapist has. It is a need to hurt others in order to feel powerful or in control. Counseling is needed. I have seen many players end up on the played side of the coin. I have seen a few run into the WRONG WOMAN! One who does not play the game so well, you know, "If I can't have you, no one will!" Bang! Yes, players often get a taste of their own gravy when they realize that there are women out there who are just as cunning as they are.

I remember this one line of a song that I heard years ago, but I am not sure of the title: "You played on the player!" It was about a player finally running into a smarter player who provided an unforgettable lesson. Players come in both sexes. There are crooked people who would pay someone to play a player in a way that he or she would find unavoidable, but meeting a rude lesson. They will use the player's weaknesses to do it. Most often, it is money. If you are a player, you'd better watch out because "Every road has got to end somewhere!"

I wish you well, and thanks for a great, interesting, and informative read! I am voting up and clicking the good buttons.


pLAYAhATA' 8 months ago

Hahaaaa ~!

Levertis Steele .. same here with the male dominated upbringing and every last one of them were fine too .. and didn't have to play females

these would be as putty in there hands ..

But they taught their sisters ..aunties.. and so on this one line ..

" I DON'T GET PLAYED

I PLAY ALONG ... "


Priyanka 6 months ago

i am in love with a player n i told him about it...initially when we met all i saw in his eyes for me was lust n now i see the love developing...he hasnt said anything about his feelings for me...but i feel that he has feelings for me coz otherwise he would ve used me n thrown me by now...we ve known each other for about 2 yrs now...but i dont know how to get him...he is very confusing...when its just me n him he is this amazing person but as soon as we r in a group he gets cold n distant...i know that he is playing mind games...how can i make him mine?

PS:- everyone who knows about us say that he would be a fool to lose me coz i am the only one who sees the real him amidst his reputation n behaviour...i would really appreciate some help


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Emmyboy 6 months ago from Nigeria Author

Believe me, Priyanka, it's hard, very hard, to tell you what a player really wants or how to make him fall for you.

Some will tell you, just be yourself. Some will tell you, try to play some mind games back on him.

But in the essence, the thing is that you can never tell who really loves you. All you can do is to rely on some certain pointers but that too is not all that conclusive.

A simpler way I think that could do the magick is for you to simply ask him.

Ask him what he feels about you, whether he thinks you guys can have or be in a relationship, where he thinks the relationship is heading, etc...

And make sure you are watching him closely. In other words, make sure you are 'listening' to his body language as he responds.

Good luck.

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