101 Ways To Tell Your Husband, "I Love You"

Pick 5 A Day And Watch Your Relationship Blossom!

As we enter into marriage, we may wonder how we ever lived life without our mate. We're focused on each other, and that makes us close. However, the longer we're married, our focus tends to turn to jobs, bills, or children and less on each other. Unfortunately, this causes many marriages to turn cold and some eventually die. Have you ever wondered how people stay married for 30, 40, or more years? Do you want your marriage to last a lifetime? The key is to stay focused on your mate. Here are some ways for you to show your husband your love. Choose at least five every day and watch your marriage blossom into a wonderful relationship!

  1. TEXT HIM A LOVE MESSAGE Send him a romantic text message on his cell. Make sure it's sweet but spicy!
  2. DO ONE OF HIS CHORES FOR HIM Pick a chore that he dreads, such as mowing the lawn, and do it for him. Watch him as he sighs with relief.
  3. START A HOBBY TOGETHER Sharing a hobby together such as horse back riding, completing a home improvement project, or selling on eBay can help keep you close.
  4. PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don't tackle him unless you're laughing!
  5. SHOW APPRECIATION When your husband works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.
  6. MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE Let your home be a haven were your husband can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.
  7. LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS Don't let the little things that your husband does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn't be the same if he didn't do these things.
  8. PRAY FOR HIM Ask God to give him that extra boost to make everything OK. Let your husband hear you pray too. This will let him know that when you can't make it right, you'll ask someone who can.
  9. CHECK BEFORE THROWING THINGS AWAY If your husband has some things that seem useless to you, don't trash them until you've made sure he doesn't need them.
  10. CHECK BEFORE REARRANGING Ask your husband if it's OK before you move or straighten things on his desk or work area. If he has things where it's easy to find, it might make it chaotic if it's moved.
  11. TAKE A WALK OR A HIKE TOGETHER Let nature set the mood for romance! Talk, listen, and hold hands.
  12. DON'T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND If there is something you want your husband to know about you, tell him. Don't expect him to just know what you're thinking or what you need.
  13. LAUGH TOGETHER Forget your adults for awhile, and just act silly together. Also, if something should go awry, try to find some humor in it somewhere. This will also reduce the stress of the situation.
  14. RESIST THE URGE TO SNOOP Don't sneak around and check up on your husband, if you want to know something, ask him to his face.
  15. GIVE HIM A ROMANTIC CARDDon't wait for a special occasion to give him a card. Find the most romantic card you can find and leave it in his car. Don't forget to add your own personal message! Maybe you'll even make him nervous, wondering if he forgot an anniversary!
  16. PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.
  17. TAKE A BUBBLE BATH TOGETHER This is self-explanatory.
  18. E-MAIL HIM AN INVITATION FOR ROMANCE Invite him on a rendezvous with you! Build his anticipation, then tell him to RSVP!
  19. TAKE HIM TO TEST DRIVE HIS DREAM CAR Drive him to a car lot some Saturday, and let him test drive the car of his dreams - even though you probably won't buy it.
  20. LET HIM BUY THAT TOY Permit him to buy that toy he's been wanting so badly. Better yet, put some of your own things off, save the money and buy it for him yourself!
  21. TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE The future isn't as far away as it seems sometimes. Talk about where you'd like to be when you're married 50 years, and work on making those dreams happen.
  22. GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT Don't jump to conclusions if your husband has said or done something questionable. Give him the chance to explain before you pass judgement.
  23. LET HIM BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE Although this is growing increasingly unpopular, it does still work. Just because your husband is in charge of the household doesn't mean that you can't share your opinions, it just means he's captain of the team.
  24. SAY, "I'M SORRY" Although you may not want to admit it, there will be times when you're in the wrong. Maybe you've said something hurtful or done something insensitive. Never have too much pride to tell him you're sorry.
  25. KEEP YOUR PROMISES If you told your husband you'd do something, make sure that you follow through.
  26. RUB HIS FEET Steer him to the recliner and pull off his shoes. Rub his feet for at least 20 minutes. It has been told that this may even improve his health!
  27. MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A LOVER'S PARADISE Turn your ordinary bedroom into any lover's dream without a lot of expense. Remove clutter and anything that doesn't belong, and replace it with scented candles and fresh flowers. Hang pretty curtains and find some comfy bedding. Place mirrors to reflect candlelight, and misting fountains for a romantic effect.
  28. WRITE A NOTE ON THE STEAMED-UP BATHROOM MIRROR While your husband is showering, sneak in and write, "I love you" on the steamed-up bathroom mirror. This will steam him up as well, especially if you seal it with your lip prints!
  29. PUT LOVE IN HIS SUDS I'm talking about a bar of soap! Scratch "I love you" into his soap so he'll find it the next time he showers. (You may not want to seal this note with your lip prints, though).
  30. GIVE HIM A MASSAGE Go buy some sweet smelling oils and turn your bedroom into a spa! Give your husband a full body massage and work out those aching muscles.
  31. PLAY ROMANTIC MUSIC Keep a good deal of romantic music on hand in your bedroom to help set the mood for romance.
  32. PUT A SIGN IN YOUR YARDPlace a sign in your yard such as, "THE WORLD'S GREATEST HUSBAND LIVES HERE." Let everyone know how special your husband is to you.
  33. LET BYGONES BE BYGONES If your husband has done or said something to hurt you, forgive him. Don't keep bringing up the past every time you get into a disagreement, especially if he has shown remorse.
  34. BE HONEST Don't hide things from your husband. Be open and transparent. This will help him trust you more.
  35. BRAG ON HIM IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS Men naturally rely on boost in their ego now and then in order to stay confident. Let him hear you tell others about the great things he says and does.
  36. CLEAN HIS CAR FOR HIM Surprise him by giving his car a good detailed cleaning. If you don't want to tackle it yourself, have it professionally done.
  37. PUT HIS PICTURE IN WALLPAPER Let him know that you still think he's a gorgeous hunk by putting his picture on your computer desktop!
  38. BUY A BUMPER STICKER Put a "I Love My Husband" bumper sticker on your car.
  39. WORSHIP TOGETHER The couple who prays together, stays together. These will be very tender and special moments shared between the two of you, as well as important.
  40. EAT BY CANDLELIGHT Cook his favorite meal and light the candles. Take time to focus on each other, and to look into each others eyes.
  41. BE DEVOTED TO HIM One of the greatest gifts that you could ever give your husband is your true faithfulness. This includes physically, emotionally, and in your thoughts. If you're struggling with temptation, nip it in the bud. Tell him your feelings in a sensitive and loving way. Don't bottle anything up, this is asking for disaster.
  42. RUN YOUR FINGERS THROUGH HIS HAIR Or massage his temples if he doesn't have any. Do this while he relaxes. Remember, your touch is important to him.
  43. DON'T CONTRADICT HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS This will only embarrass him and cause people to lose respect. This is especially important if you have children.
  44. DON'T CRITICIZE HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS If you feel that your husband needs a bit of constructive criticism, make sure it's just that - constructive. Don't offer it at all unless it's in a loving way, and in private. Being criticized in front of others lowers self esteem and causes hurt feelings.
  45. DEFEND HIM Don't let others disrespect your husband. Even just a snide comment can hurt. Stick up for him. Don't let someone drive into the ground the most important person in your life.
  46. LOVE YOURSELF Many times we as women hold back on our husbands because of our own insecurities. Learn to let it go. The things that we're so worried about, usually don't even bother him. What bothers him is when we hold back. Remember, although this may sound strange, you can't really love someone until you love yourself.
  47. PAMPER HIM WHEN HE'S SICK Men love to be pampered, especially when they're sick. Make sure everything is comfortable and that he has his "special soup."
  48. LOOK HIM IN THE EYES Look your husband straight in the eyes when he talks to you. Not only will this show that you're interested in what he has to say, but there is something about looking straight into his eyes that will give you butterflies.
  49. DISPLAY YOUR WEDDING PHOTOS Don't tuck away your wedding photos after you've been married awhile, keep them on display. This will be a great reminder of how your love was at the beginning, and how much it has grown.
  50. DISPLAY YOUR MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE Frame the sacred document of your marriage. This will be a wonderful and constant reminder that your love is sealed, and you really do belong to each other.
  51. TRUST HIM Too many times wives just sit around and wait for their husbands to do something wrong. Cut him some slack and dare to believe in him.
  52. HAVE YOUR PHOTO MADE TOGETHER You may have done this when you were dating, but why not now? Get a current shot to place on the bedroom dresser or the desk at work.
  53. LET HIM WIN It is inevitable, even in healthy marriages, to argue occasionally. What would it really hurt to just let him win? At least you wouldn't be arguing.
  54. DON'T GO TO BED MAD Although you've probably heard this one for years, and it may have been your grandmother's first marriage advice to you, it is still true. Going to bed hurt or angry keeps feelings under the surface. When you wake up you don't want to continue the argument, so you you hold in your frustrations and they begin to mount. It's best to talk everything out, and fall asleep in each other's arms.
  55. DON'T COMPARE HIM Don't EVER, EVER compare your husband to another man - not even your father. Your husband is his own person and unique in his own ways. Love him for it.
  56. GREET HIM AT THE DOOR Don't wait for your husband to say, "Honey, I'm home!" Watch for him, and greet him at the door with a hug and kiss.
  57. MEND HIS CLOTHES Buy a sewing kit and repair those sock holes! Break down and sew on his popped-off buttons. This may increase his wardrobe by 20%!
  58. TALK IN CODE Pick a code word for something that only the two of you know the meaning for and say it openly in public. You'll have your own inside joke. This will help keep you close.
  59. HAVE A WRESTLING MATCH This will get you both laughing, and the closeness will be fun!
  60. WAKE HIM UP WITH KISSES Make his whole day go better by waking him up with kisses. He may even keep you there through breakfast!
  61. HELP HIM SHAVE This is a fun way to be close and to get you both laughing! (As long as your careful, that is).
  62. DEDICATE A SONG TO HIM Did you have a song that was "your song" while you were dating? Call up your local radio station and request it, and have them to dedicate it to your hubby!
  63. MAKE HIM A HEART-SHAPED BREAKFAST Make heart-shaped pancakes and heart-shaped toast! Trim little pads of butter into heart shapes as well.
  64. DON'T TRY TO BE HIS MOM Remember you are his wife, not his mother. Don't jump him every time he leaves something on the floor or his clothes don't match. It's OK to lovingly remind him, occasionally, but don't nag him.
  65. GRAB A KISS WHILE YOU WAIT Kiss your husband while you're waiting at the stoplight or in the food drive-through. Your wait won't seem near as long, and you may wish it could last a littler longer!
  66. FLIRT WITH HIM Just because you've snagged him, don't stop flirting! Wink at him, squeeze his muscles and, WHOOOO, or now that your married, it's not at all out of line to be a little bolder in your purpose.
  67. GO ON A LONG DRIVE Go for a long drive and sight see. This is an excellent chance to talk or just be in each other's company. The way gas prices are, you'd almost have to love someone in order to take a long drive. If you don't want to spend the gas, drive to a pretty park or lake and just stop and soak up the scenery while you talk and hold hands.
  68. BE HIS BEST FRIEND Let him feel confident that you'll always be there when needs to talk, to laugh, or even cry. Let him be free to be himself at all times and stick with him through the thick and thin.
  69. EAT AN ICE CREAM CONE TOGETHER Buy one, large cone, and eat it together at the same time. You may miss the cone, and touch his lips, which will even be sweeter!
  70. CHERISH THE SMALL THINGS Concentrate on the way he walks, the way he talks, his smile, or the way he says your name. These are really more important than you think, and no one can do it quite like him.
  71. HELP HIM WITH HIS CLOTHES Ask him to let you help with the buttoning or unbuttoning of his clothes as he's dressing or undressing. Caress him gently as you're doing it.
  72. KEEP YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE It's easy to fall into a "housewife" mode and just walk around in "cleaning clothes" with your hair twisted into a mess. That's OK while you're actually cleaning, but try to be more presentable by the time your husband sees you. Bathe, put on clean clothes and a dab of perfume, and set your hair nice.
  73. DON'T PUSH THE BUDGET It is important to learn to live within your means. If you can't afford certain things, don't buy them. Financial stress is very hard on marriages.
  74. DON'T COMPLAIN Don't complain about your standard of living or whine about the things that you don't have. If your husband is doing his best to provide for you, make the best with what you have. If you complain, this makes him feel that he is not a good provider, and this is a great blow to his self esteem.
  75. HAVE A PILLOW FIGHT If you must fight with your husband, do it with pillows! Make sure nothing is around that can break, then go into battle! See how long you can go without laughing.
  76. LOOK OUT FOR HIS HEALTH Encourage your husband to get plenty of sleep and exercise. Try to get him to keep medical and dental appointments. Cook healthy meals, and give him nutritional supplements.
  77. BUY HIM SOME SEXY BOXERS Buy several pairs of sexy shorts for him! Try silky, colorful, and glow in the dark! Make sure you tell him what a hunk he is while he's wearing them!
  78. WEAR THE LINGERIE HE LOVES Some wives love it, some dread it, but just make sure you wear it!
  79. DARE TO BE BOLD Too often, wives wait for their husbands to make the first move in the bedroom. Try showing little aggression yourself once in a while. This will majorly ignite your husband's passion, and the fireworks will begin!
  80. DON'T DEPRIVE HIM Husbands need sex probably more than wives need hugs and compliments. This is one of the main ways he feels loved. Naturally, there will be sometimes you don't feel like it. But even then, if you just give in, you will before it's over.
  81. SPLURGE OCCASIONALLY Although money is a precious commodity to many couples, try to find a way to splurge on something now and then. If you have children, find someone to care for them and get away for the weekend. If you can't afford a trip, find a hotel in or near your hometown with a jacuzzi. If it's still too costly, buy something that you both would enjoy, like a new CD.
  82. WORK ON YOUR WAYS It's easy to see and point out flaws in your husband, but if you're honest, you'll realize that you haven't earned a halo yet. Try to work on your own shortcomings and make yourself a better person.
  83. DON'T BE A PESSIMIST Try not to focus too much on the negative. Keep a positive outlook in your marriage.
  84. DON'T RUB IT IN IF YOU'RE RIGHT If you've disagreed on something and it turns out that you were right, don't gloat about it and throw it in his face.
  85. WASH EACH OTHERS HAIR Jump in the shower and suds up! Watch the water and soap trickle down his face as you wash his hair.
  86. EXAMINE HIS FEATURES Take a moment to delight in your husband's features. The shape of his nose, the set of his eyes. If he catches you staring, wink at him.
  87. SEEK HIS ADVICE Ask for your husband's input and advice on anything from children to what he might like to eat. This will let him know he's needed and that his thoughts are important.
  88. KEEP TIDY Keep things neat and tidy around the house. Decorate and make things look comfortable and welcoming.
  89. TALK ABOUT HIS INTERESTS Bring up a subject that interests him and listen to him talk. Even if the subject doesn't interest you, enjoy watching him as he gets stirred up over the topic.
  90. SHOP FOR HIM When you run to the store, see if there is something that you should pick up for him. This could save him a lot of time or keep him from missing a lunch break.
  91. KIDNAP HIM Plan a special evening, make all the arrangements, then show up at his job just as he gets off work. Tell him to get in the car and no questions. (Make sure you smile, so he don't get alarmed). Whisk him away for a fun-filled evening, then return to get his car later.
  92. RAKE LEAVES TOGETHER Go to your back yard and rake up a pile of leaves. Before you bag them up, play in them together.
  93. DON'T LIVE IN A FANTASY WORLD If you can't read a novel without getting depressed over your love life, throw them away. Many books or movies can portray romance in very unrealistic ways. True love and romance is what he is already doing -providing for you and loving you unconditionally.
  94. GO CAMPING TOGETHER Find a good camp site and pitch a tent! Buy a two person sleeping bag.
  95. DON'T TALK HIS LEG OFF IF HE'S TIRED If your husband is tired and you need to talk to him, go straight to the bottom line and spare the details.
  96. SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM Plug in some flashing lights and turn on some romantic music and start slow dancing. (Clothes optional).
  97. PLAY HIDE AND GO SEEK IN YOUR NIGHTIES Put on your sexiest negligee and challenge him to a game of hide and go seek. He'll say, "Ready or not, here I come!"
  98. MAKE LOVE UNDER THE STARS Find a secluded place and throw out a sleeping bag. Make love by the moonlight as you gaze at the stars.
  99. SIT IN FRONT OF A FIRE TOGETHER Snuggle up together in front of the fireplace and make out. If you don't have a fireplace, consider buying an electric one, these look realistic, and are still romantic.
  100. DOTE ON HIM Pick a night and wait on him hand and foot. Draw him a bath, fix his plate for him, and anything else that you can dream up!
  101. JUST SAY IT Make it a point to say the words I love you every single day, and mean it.


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knslms 9 years ago from North Carolina

I would agree that well more than the majority of these are true. Very nice blog =)

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sukritha 9 years ago from Cochin

Great Work Keep Going

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Marye Audet 9 years ago from Lancaster, Texas

Great list! I have been married nearly 28years and I can say that it works.

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exinco 9 years ago from Malaysia

fantastic list. i'm not read all yet but found interesting and valuable. keep on good work


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singingmommy 9 years ago from OKLAHOMA

Whooooo! Whooo!! Nice List!!!! Sometimes we as women we consentrate on what were deprived, but if we would borrow some of these ideas, we would both feel loved and fulfilled.

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Michele Engholm 9 years ago from Hutchinson

Well done! I agree with singingmommy...we as women can have the tendency to get together and complain about our husbands. What we should be doing is talking about how wonderful they are. It would make us feel better instead of crabby! This is a GREAT hub!

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks for the comments. I have found when I do things to please my husband, I'm happy too!

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Misha 9 years ago from DC Area

I bet you are a happy couple, and you will stay happy for many years to come :)

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Yes, we are very happy. Not perfect, but definitely happy. I'd marry him again in a heartbeat!

Marriage Prep Online 9 years ago

Great list! Reminds that the best things can be simple and inexpensive. Both husband and wife can do a "I feel loved when..." list to help their mate know what makes them feel loved, valued and appreciated.

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ebourne 9 years ago from Washington, D.C.

Wonderful ideas! Any husband who gets five of these a day would feel like a king. ;-)

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Caregiver-007 9 years ago from Florida

Blessed Mommy has a blessed husband! I've always marveled at God's instruction to put Him first, then your spouse (not yourself)... because if each of you does that, each of you will have your needs met above and beyond anything you ever could have done for yourself! I love how you treat your husband.

And needs include delighting the other... and the many, many little considerations and kindnesses.

It's true, too, that "foreplay" starts the minute you open your eyes in the morning. How you speak to each other, smile, patiently wait or comfort... kindnesses, little thoughtful things...

I also like to paraphrase Antoine de Saint Exupery who said, "Love consists not in gazing in each other's eyes, but in looking outward in the same direction." The best version: "...eyes, but in looking outward in the same direction toward God... and as you each focus on the one thing, on Him, He draws you ever closer together, as He is the peak of the triangle with each of you in on the base in perfect harmony and unity."

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks for the comments, everyone. Also, those were beautiful additional words of wisdom, Caregiver!

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Mr Nice 9 years ago from North America

Interesting topic, nicely done. Keep up the good work.

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G-Ma Johnson 9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

I can't say I have done all of these..but many..loved for all the right reason's.and he still walked away after 33 years for a younger woman...but I still love him...better to have loved..and lost..than to have never loved at all. Keep up the good work my dear....G-Ma ;O)

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

It takes two to make a marriage work, G-Ma. I'll bet he misses you but is too prideful to admit it. At least you know you've done your part and don't have to live with regret. I'll be praying for you, you must be in pain.

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Melissa Uhles 9 years ago from pdx

So many great ideas! Thanks for that, I plan to try a few soon!

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leezj17 9 years ago from canada

Well done I have been married for six years and still going strong!

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Mrs M 9 years ago from Ohio

I'm impressed that you actually listed all 101 ways. :-) You know how some people try to take shortcuts. This is great advice that I will definitely use. Thanks!

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Congratulations on 6 years, leezj17! I wish you both many, many more!

Thanks everyone for the kind words and for stopping by! I hope that this list helps bring spice to your marriages!

Abby 9 years ago

This is great, just been married for about a month today. I intend trying this. Thanks for the tips, please keep more coming.

Pat 9 years ago

...nice ideas to avoid a break up...

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Dottie1 9 years ago from MA, USA

Great tips. In 4 months it will be my 25th anniversary. Your hub just reminded me how important it is not to neglect one another and to not get so stuck in your own ways. Thanks for the reminder.

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RFox 9 years ago

This is a wonderful list and so true!

Great ideas for keeping a healthy relationship blooming. Couples need all the help they can get nowadays. I know I will get in trouble for this comment but I believe feminism definitely caused problems with the dynamics of relationships. Although I am a fiercely independent woman I truly believe that a man needs to be needed. It's in their genetic makeup. They are programmed to take the lead and so your comment about "letting them be the man of the house" is right on. Women can take the lead in business and their careers (and they should!) But when it comes to relationships men like to be the protectors.

The happiest couples I've seen are the ones where the man truly knows he's needed and the woman relaxes and allows him to shower her with his devotion. It's a difficult concept for a lot of modern women to capitulate to. Too many equate needing someone (especially a man) with being weak. Which of course is simply not true. So kudos on a great list! It will surely keep the homes fires sizzling for years to come.

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Abby, Congratulations on your new marriage! I hope that you have many years and that this list will help add to your blossoming romance.

Dottie1, I wish you the best on your Silver anniversary! May the next 25 be better than the first!

RFox, Thank you for the lovely words of wisdom that you've shared. These make an excellent addition to this page, and I am glad that you stopped by.

To everone else, I appreciate your comments and for reading my list. I hope that it helps bring more joy to your marriages -wishing you all the best!

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PaladinGames 9 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

Love it! Great info here.

ann 9 years ago

this is great advised to all the couples

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enamfs 9 years ago from Lake side.

Great philosophy ! I've read many books but found little materials into those. But this article has focused almost every secrets of a loving and happy conjugal life. I must thank you very much for such nice revealation. Hope to read more valuable literature from you ! Bravuoooo !!!




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Sean Fullmer 9 years ago from California

This was a beautiful list that applies to how a man can treat his lady, likewise. Thank you.

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Rapidwriter 9 years ago from UK

Okay, Blessedmom - you have to put this into book form. It would make a wonderful little books - the square ones which focus on simple but profound topics like: 1001 simple pleasures. One for men and one for women - would be excellent. Then we can all have them on our coffee tables, or sneak them into stockings come next Christmas.


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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks everyone for the wonderful comments and kind words!

Paladin, Thanks, I really appreciate it!

Ann, Thank you. I really hope many couples will benefit.

Enamfs, You are very kind, thank you.

Sean, Thanks for commenting! I actually do have a list in another hub for the guys on how to treat their ladies, if you'd like to read it.

Dear Rapid, What a great idea! I will have to keep this in mind. Thanks for the encouragement and for stopping by.

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MoralsEthics1960 9 years ago from Florida

This brought up so many buried feelings.I once was just like you.

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Morals: I wish you all the best in life and beyond.

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funride 9 years ago from Portugal

Thank you blessedmommy!

Even though I can´t complain about my other half, I´ll show her this hub anyway! # whistling # lol

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

That's great, Funride! Print off my other one for yourself and exchange them for Valentine's Day! Or you could also tell her that this will be your marriage's New Year's resolutions for each other and these are resolutions that you plan to keep! All to best to you and your honey!

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soyelude 9 years ago from Lagos - Nigeria

You are a special person...your husband is truly blessed. I waited to read the hosts of responses before adding mine. The world will surely be a better place when the family unit is maintained as ordained by God. Pls keep it up...you have a message .

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks, Soyelude, for your kind words and comments. What you said is very true - if people would just follow God's plan for the marriage relationship (both partners must do this), then divorce would be extinct.

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LdsNana-AskMormon 9 years ago from Southern California

BlessedMommy -

Wonderful 'honeydo' List!

For Valentine's Day, I have decided to take this list, as well as the one on the HubPages made up for wives... I will print and frame these separately, for my husband and I. I have three daughters who are also married, so I will do the same for them as well.

And perhaps at the top, put a scripture from the teachings of Paul on it.

It has been said, that the greatest gift that parents can give to their children - is for their children to KNOW that they love one another.

And in particular, there is something very powerful when the children SEE the love a father has, for their mother.

Love it!


(I raised five children myself and also always felt like a blessedmommy)

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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Dear LdsNana,

Thanks for leaving such a lovely comment! I hope that you, your husband and your grown children always find the list a positive influence in your marriages. I love the idea of adding Scripture! Thanks for stopping by!

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ripplemaker 9 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Great hub! Love expressed in little and big ways make a whole lot of difference in any relationship. :-)

angel luv 9 years ago from London

Great job blessedmommmy.You really have a great heart and mind to write this. Am not married but i think i will have such a romantic and loving marriage because i gonna afollow your steps thank you very much.


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blessedmommy 9 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Ripplemaker: What you said is very true. Thanks for the comment!

Angel Luv: Thank you for the kind words that you expressed through your comment. I wish you all the best when you find the love of your life.

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yojspew 9 years ago

I really needed these tips...^^..thanks blessedmom..^^

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lisabare 9 years ago

wow thank you for the tips.

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Chymes 9 years ago from Philippines

hi blessed mommy! funny some of life's great solutions to big problems are simple and usually free! great work!

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rehesa 9 years ago from yogyakarta

great detail for our reflection...

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bernardhoa 9 years ago from Singapore

wow! that is sooo great info...

these are a lot of "litte things" that motivates a husband to be a better husband!

Well done!

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singingmommy 9 years ago from OKLAHOMA

The Best Hub!!! #1 It's allot to swallow, but it will sure taste good if we do:.)

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Princessa 9 years ago from France

Very good. It remaind us that we do not need to wait for Valentine's day or an special occasion to say I love you, but we can say it everyday in different ways. Great hub. Thanks for the tips

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Tasteful Tidbit 8 years ago

If all couples would pick even one a day to do, there would be more harmony in marriages. Sometimes smallest gestures are the ones that mean the most. Great hub.


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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks, yojspew and you're welcome!

You're welcome, lisabare!

You are right, Chymes! Usually free but the benefits are priceless!

Thanks, rehesa!

Yes, bernardhoa! Thanks for commenting from a man's point of view!

You are very kind, singingmommy!

You're right, Princessa! No need to wait for a holiday to show our love!

Thanks, Tateful Tidbit for the "tidbit" of wisdom!

Christa-Gloria 8 years ago

Thank you so much these tips.They rekindle my womanhood!

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Vicki3329 8 years ago from Canada

Good hub....My boyfriend and I text each other everyday and when we are apart for a few days, we make sure that we text each other that we miss each other and love each other...I also like the one about not going to bed mad, I think that is important. We also make a point of giving each other a kiss goodbye in the morning as well as saying I love you.

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Riggy 8 years ago from Beautiful southern California

I loved this list. Who cares if some think it's 'unpopular.' Women who truly honor their husbands will delight in doing these things. Awesome job!

markion 8 years ago from London

wow, any such tips for men?!

Blizzard Gaming Forum 8 years ago

being a guy, i can agree that a lot of these DO work

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Evelyn Lim 8 years ago from Singapore

This is an excellent list. Some of your tips had me laughing. Great hub!

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creatingwealth 8 years ago

Wow! You did a good job. Great hub.

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seamus 8 years ago

I know from experience about #9. Oops. Great list!

robbie 8 years ago

Always put God first before everything...

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likethisfree 8 years ago from India

g8 nice

jj34 8 years ago

"HELP HIM SHAVE" this is funny :)

PS: Great hubpage

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Mschanl 8 years ago from USA

This is an excellent hub. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.:)

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Hazok 8 years ago from Malaysia

you already have so many comments. i hope another one wont bore u. most of them are logic and so simple...... but one tends to take them for granted and/or ignore them. excellent job.

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Hazok, I love to receive comments and I read each and every one. I realize that I don't always respond each and every time someone leaves a comment but I certainly do appreciate them.

dlhoh 8 years ago

Thanks for the sharing. I'm sure that the list works for my wife, I mean things that I can do for my wife. :)

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privateye2500 8 years ago from Canada, USA, London

A lot of this reminds me of that old newly circulating article from the 1940's on how to be a good wife.


lol :}

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Granny D 8 years ago

I love the list, my husband loves the rub your fingers through his hair and wouldn't like me to help him shave, he's not a damn hippie but a "well groomed mountain man" complete with long hair and a long beard.

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Hope Wilbanks 8 years ago from Louisiana

Terrific ideas! I wrote a simliar Hub a couple of days ago called "How To Write A Love Letter To Your Husband" http://hubpages.com/relationships/How-To-Write-A-L...

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stevemark122000 8 years ago from Southern California

Great Advise for how husbands can love their wives too. Great Job!

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seamus 8 years ago

Great advice. Many thanks for this hub. I'll try one of these ideas out soon with hubby.

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solarshingles 8 years ago from london

WoW, that's so much!

But, I am sure you could find one per each day in a year, which would mean 365? Well, is that too much?

Never too much for a real LOVE, I guess

patty56 8 years ago

Amen and thankyou, your blog about being a Godly wife is a blessing and one that I will return to. If we can manage to make our husbands feel valued and special, using even just one of your tips a week, imagine how our divorce rates would dwindle!

God Bless You,


expressionless 8 years ago

Wow. Didn't think I would read to the end of the list but I did. Been married only 4 months and am already falling into 'old wife' mode. This is very helpful!

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Expressionless! Thanks for reading! It's easy for all of us to wives to fall into that "mode" but we must quickly climb out! Thankfully, you seen it early on. Keep loving your hubby using the tried and proven tips above and you'll have a life-long honeymoon spirit! Mind you, I'm not saying that all will always be perfect, but you're relationship can thrive through the ups and downs and grow stronger through them all. You'll soon see what I mean! ;) All the best to you and your hubby!

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

I didn't overlook the other comments, I appreciate them as well :) Your input makes this hub so much nicer!!!

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blissnow 8 years ago from Byron Bay Australia

Gee I shoud do one of these a day. I liked this one, RUN YOUR FINGERS THROUGH HIS HAIR Or massage his temples if he doesn't have any. Do this while he relaxes. Remember, your touch is important to him.

LiveAndLetLive 8 years ago

just one more that you can add on. It also increases the relationship if you allow him to get away for a weekend. Encourage him, perhaps once a month, to take his buds out for a relaxing weekend at the lake. sometimes he just needs to get away, encourage it!

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks Blissnow for stopping by, glad you liked it!

LiveandLetLive: Thanks so much for the input!

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Melissa Lynn 8 years ago from Dana Point, CA

Great list! I recently read the 5 Love Languages, and my boyfriend and I were able to put back together a relationship we thought was over, and now are going to get married :) I am going to keep these and save them, as they are the exact types of things we have talked about that I know will keep our love growing and strong.

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christinekv 8 years ago from Washington

Wow Blessedmommy, great hub and from all the responses, it's clear God is really moving through this! PTL! Like Melissa Lynn, my husband and I recently grew together again through materials from the 5 love languages as well as materials from Jeff and Shanti Feldhahn. I agree you should publish your own book! "Love in His Suds," "Worlds Greatest Husband Lives Here" sign, Wrestling Matches and Pillow Fights are all new tips I will have to put into practice. The massages and foot rubs definitely speak love to him (as does any form of sex!). By the way my mom is in her 60's now and I know one of the reasons she'd resisted Christianity and the Bible was because of the misconception that sex is only for procreation....I think w/ what you have here, it very clearly indicates that not to be the case! Bravo for dispelling that myth as well as providing so many practical tips for how to love our husbands which = a happy marriage!

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Melissa Lynn: Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! May God smile on the two of you and give you a wonderful life!

Christinkv: Thanks so much for the wonderful comment! It is truly my prayer that God uses this article for His glory and to help marriages to be blessed and successful!

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sri krsna 8 years ago from Philippines

This is really such a great blog especially for newly weds... start doin it, it works for a better relationship.... I definitely love to forward this blog with my friends.... now I know why you have your name here as blessedmommy...

shaddy 8 years ago

If my wife did half or even 3 things on that list, id be more happoer than bein a millionaire

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mcarolyn 8 years ago from Philippines

very lovely tips for lasting relationship..

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks, Sri Krsna!  I'm so glad you liked it and thanks for sharing it too!

Shaddy:  Make sure that you're doing you're part as a husband -  wives enjoy these tips too.  If you're doing all you can, then leave your marriage in God's hands and ask for His help.

Thank you very much, Mcarolyn!

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byee 8 years ago

Thanks for this! Marriage is definitely hard and it's easy to lose track of what you need to do to keep working on your relationship. Keep it up!

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evespalace 8 years ago

My husband is a work-a-holic and I'm a perfectionist. What a combination, I'll have to work on some of those pointers. But, I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. Just a note, a little aromatherapy during those romantic interludes works wonders too. :-D


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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Byee: A good marriage is truly worth all the effort that we can put into it!

Thanks, Evespalace for your comment and input!

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Annette Rozen 8 years ago

Incredibe incredible hub. I just became an instant fan of yours!

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Annette! You are very kind. Thank you!

mcdamas 8 years ago

Great............... How could you be that resourceful with such an inspiring idea. Two thumbs up. I hope I could apply them in my real life. Thanks

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Andrew0208 8 years ago from Zion

Very inspiring.  Keep up the good work.

Melissa 8 years ago

This was a very inspiring idea I will apply a few to my life style. Thank you!!!!

Keep up the good work

ruthysexy061008 8 years ago

i just married....your tips are very inspiring......i guess its a big help for a newly wed to know about all this ways....im sure know that i will be a good wife to my husband and pray that we will be together forever.

Mrs Fitz! 8 years ago

Thanks for the great ideas and the encouragement that I'm doing a lot of things right already! My hubby and I were married just this may and I defintiely want to do my part to make our marriage strong!

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starrkissed 8 years ago from Arizona

This is adorable! I'm going to try these. :)

Nadia 8 years ago

Great work I'm defenitely trying some of your techniques.

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Jamie Carroll 8 years ago from California

Hi blessedmommy. I am not married yet, but will definitely be using your tips when God blesses me with that special someone. I'm currently reading The Power of a Praying Wife. It's an awesome book! I want to prepare myself as much as possible for that special someone. I think we prepare for so many other things in life, but people rarely think to prepare and equip themselves with knowledge when it comes to marriage. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and experience with us. I, for one, am very appreciative.

I've heard of the Five Love Languages. I'll have to read that as well.

Widian 8 years ago

I love it,wow this is just amazing, I'm not married yet but I'll keep these tips in my mind,thanks for this amazing job.

Tamara 8 years ago

My husband is in the Army and is home for short periods. I want to make him feel all the "extra" love and warmth that he isn't able to "feel or see" while he is away so I have decided to make a list to print out that is FULL of great ideas to do one or many of them a day for my beloved. I have found this web-site to be very helpful. I do do one thing that my husband loves and actually gets sad if I haven't done it in a few days that I didn't see on this web-site. I cut a piece of plain white paper into a buissness card size and write COUPON, good for one free ______. Then I take clear tape and tape the front and back to make it hold up in his wallet for as long as he needs. He gets to stick them in his wallet and use them whenever he wants. I leave them eveywhere, ex: taped on his shampoo, in his work pants pocket, in his book where his book-marker is, exc.... He loves it and shows all of his friends and when he finds one it is sooo cute because he comes running to find me to tell me he found another one and I ALWAYS get a great BIG kiss. Totally worth the whole 10 minutes out of my day to see him sooo excited from something "I" did for him. You really feel the love with the true, genuine, happy smile you both share looking at each other for that brife moment.

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Lovely comments! Thanks so much!

ninjakc 8 years ago

some of these are extreme, I looked at 101 for husband and wife. I am looking for a way to please, so he will start pleasing me, some day!! Nothing like giving your all and never getting in return....


Ruba 8 years ago

praying and worshiping together make my husband and I the happiest couple in the world.

I loved the ways you offer so keep the good work


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hot dorkage 8 years ago from Oregon, USA

nice collection. I stumbled it. When we remember to do these little things life is that bit sweeter.

Preeti 8 years ago

hey its really a great list. I m going to marry 1st week of Dec. I am sure that these advice will help me.

priyanka 8 years ago

its nice...we should apply all these in our personal life

Helen 8 years ago

Thanks a lot for this list blessedmommy... it is very helpful. i'll get married with my fiancé on may 2009. i am preparing myself to be a good wife and a mother for our future children. so, thanks again and God bless you and your family.

MissingHim 8 years ago

Wow, excellent list and oh, so true. I wish I had found this list a long time ago AND taken it seriously. Especially #23. I failed MISERABLY at that one. I was so scared he wouldn't take that honor and responsibility and use it wisely, that I took it away from him. God's design for marriage is that the husband be the leader of the household and I can see now that that was my main contribution to the demise of our marriage. Here I am, almost 10 months after he left, praying for him like I should have been doing all the years we were married, praying that God will bring him home. I miss him so much.

Please ladies, take this seriously. I agree completely with the previous poster that this is a very important aspect of a healthy marriage. Marriage is an institution of God and God tells us clearly the roles of the man and woman in marriage. Let them be the captain. Many of the others I failed at as well, but had I taken just that ONE seriously, the others would have fallen into place.

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

MissingHim: I am getting so many comments on this article that I don't respond to my readers as much, but when I saw your post I was touched. My heart hurts for you and I will pray for the reconciliation of your marriage.

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Lgali 8 years ago

wow thank you for the tips.

Orchid (fake name) 8 years ago

Thank you for sharing these wonderful ways with us! I am a married woman, 55 years old and I don't think we EVER get too old to LEARN. I've been putting into practice some of these ways to show my husband. I even wrote him a love letter tonight. He "cheated" on me back in July - September and God brought us back together. I love him NOW more than ever.... sometimes we must see what we losing to SEE it at all. AGAIN, thank you for the MOST inspiring words of wisdom that a wife can read. I'm sure my husband would thank you as well.

Annette 8 years ago

I wish I would have seen these months ago, my husband cheated on me and I thought my life was over ,with self evaluation I will use these words I hope we can get the spark back...

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Julie Smith 8 years ago

Enjoy passionate sex with him often. If you want to show love for your husband, become his erotic lover. But your suggestions for kissing and "little peeks" make me think that you are trying to imply this anyway. Men often feel deeply loved when they have a truly sexual and erotic relationship with their wife.

emily 8 years ago

What if I've tried almost half of these things and he still keeps saying it's over and he's done???

It is now five days until our 2 year anniversary and all he will say now is "i can't do this anymore and we aren't going to make it to the two year mark."


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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author


You and your husband need professional counseling and the sooner the better. Check with local churches in your area or the yellow pages in your phone book. Pray that God will lead you to the right person to counsel with. Try to get your husband to go with you, but if he won't join you, go anyway. Fight for your marriage...IT IS WORTH IT.

Praying for you,


Alexis 8 years ago

Those are all excellent suggestions and they do work! Thank you for sharing them!

Someguy 8 years ago


I Need a pice of advice.

We are having problem in our marriage. I loved my wife dearly. After we got married within a few months I realized that it was not what I was dreamed it to be. I did not feel like I was that important for my wife. Initially I thout may be it would get better becouse this was our first marriage for both of us. My wife is normally a person of great moral values and a very mart person. We both have PhDs. However I noticed that she would admire other handsome man. This is tatally abnormal to me. if by some odd means it is normal, why she started tell me also that how handsome a guy we met somewhere was. To give you a sense. One day we went to show organized by the company I worked for. There were a lot of people I knew and we talked to a few of them. After the show we walked home. It was a very nice summer night and we did not take the car so that we would enjoy the walk back home. All the way home she went on an on how handsome and beatiful one of the guy was. I was very shocked and upset obout it but did not really know how to react-we were only married for 6 months. I did not say anything ant tried to end the conversation by adding yeah he is a nice guy. I hid my felings so well probably that this kind of stuff happened at least for 5-8 different guys afterwords. In one case it was about a friend of mine who I knew for a very long time but my wife met recently at the time. She repeatedly told me how handsome he was and how his girlfriend was not good enough for him. She was basically jealous, otherwise why would one care who is paring with who. we were not that close friends. Basically whenever she sow someone hansome this would repeat. God forbid if we invite someone over and the guest happens to be one of the guys she thinks as handsome. She would turn into this perfect wife and clean and coook variety of foods. (I have to say though, she is morally very strong person and I can safely say that she would not do any kind of phsical cheeting- I hope I am write.) This went about two years that I did not reacted at all. One day we went to bed and she started for a different guy. That was the last drip for me and I went off and told her that what she was doing was not normal and we ended having a big fight. Of course she kept telling me how thoughtless she was being. Although I did not say anything during that two year, period her commends about other guys really bothered me and I felt like tied up or lost selfesteme or something or got mad whatever the reason is I distaned myself from her for which sometims she would complain. Our marriage is basically almost very dull and no romance since then. This is because of me since I still can not get over it. It bothers me that why she would marry me if she thought I was not handsome. I am fine how I look but what your wife thinks of you is important I guess. It has been 10 years we are merried and have kids. Beside these she does not clean, she never puts any afford to create a worm home. She thinks that she does not have to to clean or cook. She yels all the time and does not think that these are her kids. She loves them very much but does not take the mother role. We both work so I don't expect or to take responsibility of everything but the lack of any afford to do anything somehow tells me that she basically feels like she is trapped in this marrige. I see woman who take care of their husband. I would not want that but would not be a woman at least a little bit considerate for her husband? We live like collage roommates, nobody has resposibility for each other. She would not care if I have no clothes to wear the next day, or may be I am sick that I may not prepare food. Even if she decides to clean one day she would not move a glass from the table if she knows that I left it there. I do most of the cleaning. So the relationship being this way, I don't buy her flowers, I don't tell her I love her, etc. She makes attempts now to fix our relationship but I am the one who is keeping the distance. With all the signs that indicate her lack of love and affection for me I feel like I have to pretent to respond her. I just cant do that although I tried.What I don't understand is that although we had numerous talks about this and she still tels me she does not understand why I behave this way.

I thought, since you are women, you could help me to understand if she cares about me. if I ask her she will say yes. Don't want to go to therapy-she did not ask anyway-, and don't want to get a divorce because of kids. By the way we have no finncial problem. We have very good jobs and doing really good financially-- if you think that would be a factor. Mine is just a curiousity becouse I feel like I don't want our relationship to get better becouse I am mad at her. This is may be partly due to the fact that although I let her now my concerns she did nothing to reassure me that she cared about me. Well she said it verbally.

wishing you best

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blessedmommy 8 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Someguy: I will say here and now that I am NOT a professional marriage counselor and I do not intend to replace therapy. Even though you are not wanting to see a counselor, by everything you've told me it would be a very wise choice. It seems to me that you and your wife have communication issues and have never communicated well. You never should have hid your feelings from her in the beginning...this caused your wife to believe that her behavior was acceptable to you. And with you keeping your distance from her she probably feels unloved by you and it sounds like that she is not communicating this to you very well either.

It is my guess that you both love each other but are trapped by this wall of lack of communication. You need to learn how to work through these issues that have been building your entire marriage but if you attempt this alone it may lead to arguing and higher walls between you. Please consider seeing a therapist who can walk you through the steps that you're needing to take to resolve these issues. You are not saying that you have failed in your marriage by doing this but rather that your marriage is important and worth fighting for.

Also your wife may be going through depression. Many times when she neglects things in her life such as her home and family it is because of unresolved feelings. This neglect is one of the first tell-tale signs. If this is true a therapist may be able to recognize it and then your wife can see a doctor and get medication to help her get back on track as you're working through this. Many smart and intelligent people have used medication temporarily to help them get back their focus.

Best Regards,


susan 8 years ago

Great list. Just what a happy married couple need. I am married for 14 years and I really do practice most of these advices. I am very happy in my marrige. Keeping and saving marrige is hard, but it is worth all the hard works.

lovelyshanny2000 7 years ago

blessed mommy very good list my husband and I are high school sweet hearts we've been togethor for eight years now, and out of the eight we've been married on paper two. I am 23 years of age and he is 25 we have two beautiful children one boy one girl whom we love very much. I'm glad I found this article because I was beginning to think that my smart remarks and relentless arguments were gonna cause my husband and I to end. We've been through a lot, yet I see know from your list that I've been selfish. I love my man with every ounce of my being, which is why I will do all of this list for as long as he allows me to . Oh and to some guy, I'm sorry that your marriage took that plunge, but from what you wrote your wife was telling you something in the beginning, you just didn't speak up. When you let her down by not expressing your thoughts she saw you in a different light, maybe it's not to late to step up and be that man that she desires, open your mouth let your heart speak to your wife. Your children need it you need it, and she may also need this. Talk to the woman you married and honestly try and find the reason why you and her decided to become one. If it doesn't work out that love is there anymore, then be friends for the sake of the children. I wish you luck, and true happiness.

jabswifeforever 7 years ago

awesome list. shows me how i have been very selfish that wiill be changing

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Lidia 7 years ago

I love it!!!! Praise the Lord!!!!!!

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Butch Lastimoso 7 years ago

I love this man so much.. a man of my destiny as the Lord set Him for me.. He was my close friend and the protector of my purity. I praise the Lord that i have him now.. Through all my past he accepted me.. i was blessed to hve him as first and last woman in his life,,, the Lord will surely bless us both if we serves him with all gladness. I bring back the glory to God... I love him but the Lord loves him more than i can..

Ellez_13 7 years ago

I love you butch.. So much. I will always praise the Lord that through you i can see his goodness.. you are indeed a blessing to me.. You are an answered prayer.. I still remember the words that i tell the Lord.. I said i will love the man that He will give to me.. I miss you all the time.. I know in God's perfect time.. we will be together. I believe He has chosen you and set you for me.. All the glory and Honor belongs to Him!

Sara Shamoon 7 years ago

Oh my God, I've never seen such an amazing list of things that will seriously make him happy. Thank you so much

ans 7 years ago

I wish i cud get my husband my husband love with thee tips....

jhudz 7 years ago

good day... your suggestion will truly be a great help. Right now am seeking for solutions to keep my husband, i was so lucky and thankful that i browsed into it. Your God given to us wives who really wanted to be REAL WIFE this time. Now Iam not thinking/entertaining negative thoughts about my husband but looking forward for the results of these 101 ways. More power and God Bless!

Denise 7 years ago

Hello Blessed Mommy,

Thanks for this inspiration. It got me thinking and I wrote about the 101 Ways to Tell Your Kids 'I Love You'. (http://www.home-is-fun.com/index.php?post/2009/02/101-Ways-to-Love-Your-Kids) these 101 ideas sound so easy, but it really is work to get them down. After a rush of inspiration I thought I was close to the end and realized I had "only" reached 67! Well, there are 101 ways now, and thanks to your inspiration.

I have also worked on decluttering our bedroom. Yes, it should be a play room...!

May your love with your hubby keep growing.

linda 7 years ago

Thank you for all those good point for all wife.

But , i have face this 2 times already ie whenever my husband get very angry to me,(not my mistake ) i always have to say sorry to him . He surpose to say sorry , hug & kiss me. He will not admit his mistake ...... All man has big ego how to deal with it.

opinionatednewageman 7 years ago

I'm sorry, but I can't agree with everything on this list.

I believe a marriage should be more of a partnership, but how can it be if he's the head of the house, and you have to make everything special and stress free for him?

I'm not saying argue all the time, but women have stresses as much as men and if you can't communicate them - what kind of marriage is that?

Some of these are a plus, but some are naivity of women pretending their marriage is an honest and happy one.

I'm not married yet, but the woman I have is grade A. I go to work, and sometimes she makes me a really good lunch. I'm always so pleased when she happens to show up and we eat together or she slips a piece of pie into the lunch.

When I get home from work, she's pretty tired from all she's done, as am I.

I usually come home, we eat dinner that she's made, I rub on her back some nights ( she suffers from chronic pain) and then we cuddle and talk about the day. Sometimes, we watch a flick or go out.

We talk every disagreement out. We spend our weekends together. Saturday, we do whatever we want. Sunday, we go to church together.

The whole point is: Not everyone has to be a Stepford Wife to make her man happy. Mine does just fine for me.

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author


You obviously missed the point. Marriage IS a partnership and couples should not just try to please each other but to LOVE each other. When you truly love someone it is not a chore to please them.

I'm not a perfect wife and my husband is not perfect. But we are in love. I was never implying that couples HAD to be perfect.

I was also wondering where I ever said not to communicate about stresses? I didn't. I made several references to good communication in the above tips. Communication is one of the top keys to a successful marriage.

You also talked about the ways that your wife (on yeah, you're not married) does things to please you and how it makes you happy. Wasn't this MY point?

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thelesleyshow 7 years ago from US

its amazing how the simplest things can make a marrage great... thank you so much

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love your list thanks

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anicheri 7 years ago from Illinois

I am planning my wedding and started a hub for it. I've asked people to vote on what they like best and I add a new element each week. judging by your hub I think you could help me a lot. right now it is bridesmaids dresses and is soon to be changed to bouquets. I would greatly appreciate it if you could stop by and take a look as well as vote on the dress and my page.

lots of love--nina

pyxi 7 years ago

Some of the suggestions are good but I don't agree with (80) DON'T DEPRIVE HIM Husbands need sex probably more than wives need hugs and compliments. This is one of the main ways he feels loved. Naturally, there will be sometimes you don't feel like it. But even then, if you just give in, you will before it's over." Sorry but having sex with him when you're not even in the mood, just because you know he wants it, is wrong. IMP you should only have sex when you BOTH want it - makes it more special and meaningful.

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ratcliffe07 7 years ago

This is a great list and how i want to treat my husband. I know it will be extremely hard...it is hard now to have just a boyfriend. It will take lots of work

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

pyxi: My point...don't "DEPRIVE" him. It's okay to say no occasionally but don't let it become a habit or it will become a wedge in your marriage. Many wives have failed to meet their husbands needs in this way and too many times it has led to unhappiness or even unfaithfulness.

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

ratcliffe: I'm glad you like my list.

If you are "truly in love" with the man you marry these things may come easier than what you first thought. Thanks for stopping by.

Marriage Man 7 years ago

Wonderful! I can tell a lot of work has been put into this. Some of my favorites are 27, 42, 59, 61, 72, 80 and 92. But 98 would be the best.

You're right, strong and consistent sex with his wife makes a man feel loved.

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Melody Lagrimas 7 years ago from Philippines

Excellent! Glad to find another Christian hubber. God bless. Hope you could take time to visit my hubs too. Thnak you very much.

John doe 7 years ago

#72 would help out a lot of marriages. I hope my wife finds this page!!!!!!

shelly 7 years ago

very good ideas !!! infact great !! i love these ideas !! and will try these on my loving hubby too

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Just want to wish my husband a "Happy Anniversary" today!

Thank you, honey, for 14 wonderful years!

m3lody 7 years ago

somehow i found this..

this is amazing!!!i love thisi've posted this link to my friends who got married...

that would be the great present for them!! thanks you so much blesse

and yet i'm in a relationship but still long way to go for marriedbut i've bookmark ur page for me

i'm sure it'll be useful for me too ;) in one day.

wish you have a happy married life blesse

and happy anniversary to you n ur husband too!!!

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Thanks m3lody for stopping by to comment and for the Anniversary wishes for my husband and me!

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IslandVoice 7 years ago from Hawaii

I'm sending this to my daughter and she can share this with many of her friends who need to improve on their marriages. I'll be applying your ideas for myself to create awesome love in our home! Happy anniversary too!

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Good to hear from you, IslandVoice! Glad to hear that you'll be sharing my article with others. I sincerely hope that they find my ideas beneficial.

Thanks for the anniversary wishes too!

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

Quite a long list there, and certainly a long list of comments too.

I will work at one or two at a time, my husband deserves the best, I am sure he has been reading your list, or maybe he wrote it ha ha

\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

Quite a long list there, and certainly a long list of comments too.

I will work at one or two at a time, my husband deserves the best, I am sure he has been reading your list, or maybe he wrote it ha ha

BIN 7 years ago

I tried most of the ideas that you have jotted down here and honestly it works...I can see a spark in his eyes that was missing after marriage. The ideas are truly wonderful. Most of the ideas have brought us closer despite of the fact that we are busy working 5 days a week. Thanks for putting these amazing ideas, i'm sure most of the women like me will be benefited from this and set an example for others.

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Brenda:  Yeah, it's a pretty long list but even taking one or two as you mentioned seems to work wonders!  It's good to hear that you feel that your husband deserves the best. That statement alone shows your love for him. Thanks for the comment!

BIN:  Glad to hear that the ideas are working in your marriage.  It's just an idea until it's put into action!  Thanks for sharing your successes!

michelle 7 years ago

thank so much your list was very helpful

Blessed 7 years ago

I am yet to be married, but I have made a promise to myself that I will have only one man and one blissful marrriage all my life. I thank God for leading me to this page. It is very helpful and educative. The role of God in a marriage can never be underestimated. One important thing is for every lady to make sure their partner is a god fearing man. If not, you may try all you can, but the marriage still may not work. The fear of God in a spouse is a very important factor in making a marriage work. In addition, ensure you study the word of God. Thanks again for these tips. I will print them out and read each day. I know my marriage is going to be blissfull. I believe that it is going to be a model union. I know that God will reign in my home and in my kids lives.

sana 7 years ago

wow..what a beautiful list...im so glad i found it..im gonna print it and keep a copy with me at all times! i've been married 3 yrs now, and have followed quite a bit of these simple rules...but really..if any woman follows it..she can live a blessed married life forever. Thanks!

lea 7 years ago

thanks for the tips...

ab 7 years ago

Hi, thank you so much for this list. I think I'm much too hard on my husband most of the time, and I'm only just starting to realise it, he says he loves me every day, he can never do enough for me, always kisssess and hugs me, but I'm the one pulling away, like I don't have time, but i think it would make me feel better too, If I stopped and thought and tried some of these, we have been married 3years in september and i'm going to make this year the best of marrige ever by following some of these very true points!!!

sim 7 years ago

very well done.........

Roy 7 years ago

great list, but unfortunately, one of the most important things got left out. how about "eat healthy and stay fit so he can be just as attracted to you now as he was on the day you got married."

a nakshatra by name 7 years ago

its a fantastic guide u have put up to help women to make their marriage a wonderful and an everlasting experience....

madhmesh 7 years ago

its so love to read,, thanks to advise us....

its fantastic wordings

marisol sierras 7 years ago

my husband and i have been married for ten years and i feel we still have a lot to learn.I know that the only way we can truly be happy is to start to go to church agin and put God first in our lives.my husband and i belong together and i know God has a plan for us i pray that when we finaly take the step to live for God its not to late.

Sam 7 years ago

In a few days, my husband and I would be married eight years. I have been working on cultivating our relationship. This is great information for me and to share. He is indeed the best husband there is. Right now we are miles away. I am working in the Caribbean and he is in Georgia he has been caring for our children all by himself for the past few months and doing a super job I may add. We ofen take our spouses for granted. We are more in love today than ever and I am looking forward to seeing him this weekend. Keep it up ladies our men is worth it that is why we married them. Our reward should come from just being that best friend.

mp 7 years ago

thanks blessedmom... there is some real wisdom in this hub... it really is the little things done consistently over time that keep things alive and interesting... I love your tips... very creative

beena  7 years ago

it really brought tears in my eyes while reading it

there are some things we really feel ourselves that it works

wonderful list.

Bindu 7 years ago

Felt very good after reading it really work some time and make life more happyer

Mona Kumar 7 years ago

Wow.............what a gud list to make your marriage ever lasting.....

The ideas are fabolus....and the best part is they work.

I read all the 101....and now i m feeling very happy and excited as i have lots of gud ideas to make my husband more happy n loving.


Misty McGlugritch  7 years ago

M.A.R.R.I.A.G.E. Magnificent Arrangement Richly Rewarded In All Gods Expression!Taken from my book NAILS Necessary Atonement In Lamb's Sacrifice. I could not help but be drawn into all the wonderful ideas. I have done a lot of them but you have given me some new and creative ones. I have been married for almost 29 years and I have to say I truly love him more today than I did when we were married. I can't help it. I just fall in love with him in new ways every day. Thank you for the list and all the people who comment.

Be Encouraged,

Misty McGlugritch


chrissie 7 years ago

you jus saved a marriage

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createmorelove 7 years ago from Bay Area

I loved your advice especially number 101- that is something I like to do often. I must admit, I too have a wonderful husband.

sneha 7 years ago

Its a very good list,evrybody have to read this 101 points.And am sure ,even they will b happy like the way i am now.Thank you so much.please add some more tips into it.

Bhavna 7 years ago

i really appreciated your tips, going to put them in practice.

thank you

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Vanessa Howarth 7 years ago

So good i actually bookmarked on my tool bar to come back for reference..

jenny 7 years ago

I have personnaly benefited from it, thanks and blessings.

sue 7 years ago

that was so great thanks

sam.z. 7 years ago

this is really terrific ..im not married yet but am on my way,and with these tips that u mentioned ,i feel each day hes going to luv more and more...luv my baby hoom

shiru 7 years ago

this tips are great !

GOD BLESS for reminding this generation that husbands are the head of the home.

ans_saj143 7 years ago

I really like it... some of this I've already done but honestly if you can do all of this Your husband will love you more and more... Yes I really love my husband, I don't know how to express but he is the man Im looking when Im single. He is very understanding, loving, everything... Thanks for the additional idea...

Loucy 7 years ago

your site and advices are beautiful and great..thank you for sharing this to us..:0)

dimediva87 7 years ago

GREAT LIST!!!my husband and I have been going though some hard times, thanks to this list, I think he will be a lot happier now!! Wish me luck!!:)

Miracle 7 years ago

I really enjoyed it. Is very interesting. Thank you very much.

acquaint 7 years ago

these tips r great & i've been practising most of them.. it really works.. thanks a lot for the writer.

Tochi 7 years ago

Wow!!! If these tips are applied in every marriage then the world would definitely be a bed of roses!

Madhu 7 years ago

these all 101 tips are realy working as a mgic stick.....thanx

angel 7 years ago

i pray men learn to treat/respect women just as we try each day to please and make them happy.amen

Anu 7 years ago

I really like this article and must follow all the things when I ll get marry with my sweetu.

Cheri 7 years ago

My husband and I have been married for five years. We have three children and it seems we've let them and the pressures of life get in the way of our romance. It's good to be reminded of the things we did when dating. Sometimes we forget how to treat one another like we still care....it goes unspoken. Thanks for the helping hand. My marriage will appreciate it!!

Tynsie 7 years ago

Great list. I'll take your advice and do 5 per day. When i have done all you've said, I'll start all over again.

melai 7 years ago

great list.. i love it... but in 101 i can say... only one i've done in my 5 years of marriage...Oh my gosh!!! I feel that I'm loosing my husband, yes maybe Im not worth it for him..

serena 7 years ago

I like this list very much. he'l feel like a king. 5stars

simzy 7 years ago

wanted such a list


Lilu Luna 7 years ago

Awesome! I'll start putting those in to practice today!

Kareena 7 years ago

Whoo these tips were just awsome it worked well in my life.

neha garg 7 years ago

hi maam i m a 20 yr old indian who married to her man against everybodys wish as i knw tht we were made 4 each other.we r married 4 3 yrs now and it is still going stronger everyday.........in these 3 yrs i have tried all most all these things and i want to tell everone tht they do work almost every time...........................i love him beyond anything else and yes it is true,i am incomplete wout him.........it is he who made me the woman i am.....he loves me 4 wht i am..........i may nt be the most bful woman around but he makes me realize tht i m the most beautiful creature on this planet........thank you Shobhit for being there for me..............

Dilini 7 years ago

i really loved it. great list

Laura 7 years ago

i tried one of the one of the steps and it worked i was talking to my husband and told him to call me my cute private name he has for me but he gets embarressed in front of his friends but i told him its ok i understand and that im not gonna start a fight over that cause he means a lot to me and he said it after that and he has never done that in front of them i am gonna do the other tips and see how it goes

hannah 7 years ago

good list!

Steph 7 years ago

What if your husband told you that he doesn't love you? And, he just married you to basically please and serve him including his kids to his previous wives? Are you still be willing to do all this things?

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blessedmommy 7 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Steph: You should have watched out for the red flags BEFORE you married him. The fact that he had previous *wives* should have been a clue.

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Steph 7 years ago

Yes, but it's too late now for me. He was s nice so i thought he changed but i was wrong.. its sad..

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Steph 7 years ago

I tried to do some listed here observing something on him.. But, he was complaining all the time he doesn't know how to appreciate things. What important to him is how can i make his life easy. Don't get me wrong this is a good list to follow and its worth a try. But, I guess it will really work only if atleast there is love between couples. I hope someday he realize it. His kids loves me to death. I don't want to be separate from his kids but im already on the edge of giving up. It's hard.

LILIAN says: 7 years ago

Your list are fantastic and educaive, i must start it now, i've been doing some of them before, and my husband has been happy all this while with our marriage.

Thanks, because i know u'll use this to change many lives including me, because it takes two to tangle.

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ching 7 years ago

thanks, this is very healthy for us...this help us to keep a healthy relationship.

morgan saxon 7 years ago

I am getting married in September '10 and I was studying ways to show him that I love them. Most of these are common sense acted in love. I Agree with all 101 of them.

Khalan 7 years ago

I really enjoyed it. It was simply great!

vivian 6 years ago

i believe in all these.its real

Deepa Gaauthem 6 years ago

Wonderful & so true :)

Liliya 6 years ago

Very nice I like it its very good. Bravo Bravo Bravo!

Evelyn 6 years ago

This is so inspiring. I got married recently (last month) and i feel everything said is important in marriege. thank you so much for helping me with the hints. i will surely start doing them one by one. i realy enjoyed it.

Ojay 6 years ago


i thatnk you for your input in helping people's marriages. i for one am one of the unhappy husbands around. my problem is just on one this (love making) my wife does not just like giving it to me. can you imagine that if you had to ask me when i last had it with her, i would say i can not remember. the rest of the thing she is very okey but just love making. all i do nowardays is masturbate to relive myself. please help me. maybe there is something that i do to her which i do not realise. please i am in urgent need of your advice. thank you.

6 years ago

I loved it!!!! Thanks a ton!!!!

TNT 6 years ago

I been with my husband for 13 years the wonder he loves me so much. never knew their was a list out there, keep up the great work. its important that people stay together, and remember why they fell for each other.:):):) LOVE IS GREAT;)

mpazi2009 6 years ago

Blessedmommy, i need your advice. i would like to find out if it is normal for my wife not to show me how much she loves me. i say so because my wife never shows it to me. how i wish she could read your list. i am in trouble, i punic to love her because i fear she might have lost interest in me and will leave me. we don't even sleep in one bed. what should i do? i miss making love to my wife. to tel you the the truth blessedmommy, i do not have any affair outside my marriage.

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Rose Nwaebuni 6 years ago

Hoops! am short of words, keep it up

no name 6 years ago

nice blog.

mommyluvshannah 6 years ago

You have enlightened me as a wife. My husband & I have had a very rocky first 5 years of marriage but we truly love each other. It's hard to reach out to friends & family due to their biased opinions but reading these has given me the instruction I needed to make a change for the better. Thank you!

imane 6 years ago

we didn't married yeat but i ll tried from now :-) thank u

pooja 6 years ago

its really gud.it works.

deborah 6 years ago

Thanks so much blessedmommy,

I have learnt a lot from this list and I must change for the better. In the area of keeping my house tidy am not doing well on this but with this list I have read, I must put more effort to make sure my house is kept tidy always. God bless you in Jesus Name. Amen!

hungry4love 6 years ago

Hi, I just read your post, and was really encouraged. Thank you so much for this list, I plan on keeping it close

to me and practicing all of it.

I will be married 15 years in Feb. and I'm 34 years old.

My husband and I have had a rough go of it and I'm always

looking for new ideas to bring us closer together. Both

of us love the Lord and go to church and love each other. So we can't quite figure out why we have so many difficulties in our relationship.

Perhaps, just perhaps I'm not treating him like a true man.

I just happened to type "How to treat your man" into Google and this was the first thing that popped up. I've read it and now will practice it.

My husband is a good man and I love him dearly. I plan on

having 15 more years with him too.

loucy 6 years ago

i love the point blank suggestions and ideas.!!!!

thank you for this !!!

sana 6 years ago

very useful and nice ideas thank u very much

Vernia 6 years ago

Good Work and extremely helpful to me as a beginner

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sara 6 years ago

ive been married for four years now and i think its time i try these out

neetha 6 years ago

ohh!!! its really wonderful.i gonna try it.thanks a lot.

ifekene 6 years ago

i can say that all this are wondderful charms and most needful in the home. thanks

Ashley 6 years ago

Great ideas. I've actually already did a few of these things. Need to try them all. Been married almost 3 years. everybody said give it 6 months all the luvy dubby stuff will be gone. Ain't gotta be that way! it's way better now. Love him way deeper.

anu 6 years ago

really helpful tips.

vidhya 6 years ago

great info to all the couples.

soleil 6 years ago

thank you so much. me and my boyfriend were kinda going through a rough patch in our relationship but now using these ideas were doing really good. i love him sooo much. and thank you and god blesss you : )

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salvacion 6 years ago from naga city

so many good ideas! 'love them all! great hub!

2.10.09 6 years ago

Well, I'm definitely not married, or engaged, or have been together for years. But I can say that we've been together just over 5 months. Yes not long, I'm only 15, but that doesn't mean that me and my babe are not as happy as any married couple. He is what keeps me sane, and is what also drives me insane (: He's the most caring, loving man I have met, I guess you could say so far in my young life.. He's the kind of guy who doesn't need to be reminded to do something, that involves taking care of me, more so reminding me to make time so he can give back to me. I love this guy. The only one who makes me fully happy, the only one I can just relax and not worry about one thing around.

Well anyway back to te point, I just wanted to say thank-you for these absolutely true, and lovely ideas. Leaving special noes around will be my first doing (:

Seham  6 years ago

I really enjoyed this comments, it's really valued and romantic in the same time. I think i will have to pick up the most important ones and the one's dat am missing in my relationship....

ali 6 years ago

I really like all 101 points and every girle/Wife should follow this and there is nothing bad.(Wives, Please think on it to save ur husbands from the life taking tension.PLEASE)

seba 6 years ago

really nice :D

vasandra abareethan 6 years ago

These tips are very interesting to follow and above all these will be very useful for upgrading the love and to love more..............

aarthi 6 years ago

superb ideas... thanks a lot

Kristie 6 years ago

this is great :)

hazna 6 years ago

awesum.... i wud reeeeeeliconsider dese thins in ma marrd lyf... hope i did learn sumtin.... thnxxxxxx it waz usful

roz 6 years ago

very lovely.... its true..

tania 6 years ago

I know that but also love to read again.And i want to apply this in my married life.

rita wilson 6 years ago

really wonderful tips.i have send my man a love text after i read this article.Thanks for the helping hand.good job!

Beloved 6 years ago

I've almost been married for two years, and it's sad to say that I haven't done much of the things that you listed. Nevertheless, it's a great list and one I'm definitely looking forward to follow. I have an awesome husband, he deserves my best!

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Jen MFG 6 years ago

I think this list is fantastic and I do a lot of these things on a pretty regular basis. I am young but have very traditional male and female values. I love it and think that every woman should read this at some point. After we're married the relationship does change. But it is fantastic and the little things are the things that count the most. That list is 101 little things that put you at the top of his list. Jon I love you and hope you realize how spoiled you truly are to have a wife that does most of this pretty regularly! I

kezimo 6 years ago

i don't agree with all of them but hope it can still be vice versa to women.

Ritu 6 years ago

I use some ways to make my hubby happy but still there are many more to do so.... Thanx, i'll try ...

Amanda 6 years ago

I am fixing to get married in 38 days now, and am looking forward to being the BEST wife I can be. Thank you for this it was a great tool.

S.O.G 6 years ago from Colorado Springs, Colorado

Two things to remember. (1) the Husband is to protect and provide.(2) the wife is to submit. before you get upset lets go over the submit part. submit is another way of saying to support your husband in everything he does. the husband is to not only protect you from the world but he is to protect your heart by loving you and respecting you. I pray that your marriage will be full of blessing and that you two will always look to each other for help rather than the world. ONE more thing REMEMBER to invite Jesus Christ to your marriage and ask him to dwell in your hearts and home.

Cristy 6 years ago

I think this list would be the way to make our relationship MORE STRONGER! thank you for sharing this.

neha 6 years ago

thank u

ahyan 6 years ago

this is really great for a relationship to be more BETTER and STRONGER!!!!

Sharyce Humphrey 6 years ago

I read thru all these things and I realized that even tho we are young and only been married 5 years I don't do a lot of things I shud be doing to let him know that I still love him and always will no matter what mistakes he and I have made and making him feel like the king he deserves to be treated like. This was a very helpful website to show me how to make things better in our marriage.

RV 6 years ago

2 thumbs-up for you..Thank you..May God always touch you:)

muskaan 6 years ago

its really good one..i love it

Ioiela 6 years ago

These are really good ideas and they will work if both, husband and wife, are in love with each other. However, if the husband does not love his wife and the wife is trying to "win him over" by doing these things, she might end up being even more frustrated than before; the reason is that a wife has needs, too and if her husband does not love her enough, he won't care to respond to her in the same way.

Daisy 6 years ago

We are not married yet and I did not do all of them and yes others are working as a charm because every time when we have serious talk he would tell me how much he need me in his life, how he want to see us getting married and waking up every morning and finding me next to him, smiling.

jasmine 6 years ago

it all seems much easier said than done... help me to have the motivation to do these things help me to want to. i am always so mad at him!

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blessedmommy 6 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

jasmine: You may feel mad at him but love isn't always a feeling, sometimes it's a choice. You must be interested in making things work or you wouldn't be reading this article! Love takes work and I believe that you're already motivated just because you stopped by. All the best to your marriage!


wifey 6 years ago

i have tried it all:~):~)

lucky to have d most romantic hubby~i fall in love wid him evertday.....

Kristy 6 years ago

So old fashioned - BUT i agree. Too many women these days care more about having freedom to do what they want now they are equal, and control any situation, than to just get back to our genetic roots and serve your man! I am sure there is a reason women in most cultures have always been subservient, we are carers.

me 6 years ago

Was just wondering at what point do Husbands have to recipericate? My husband of 8 years and I have an amazing relationship. He is my equal and I am his. At no point has he made me feel that I need to work two jobs take care of the kids and the house while making him feel like he is a king. I find too often women will follow directions of an anitquated era with hopes that this will save marriages. I guarantee you no matter how much you do if you aren't getting the same in return. Your marriage is going to fail. It cannot be one sided. We have earned the right to vote, work and have children without a husband. Yet we still believe that instead of being treated as an equal we have to stroke the male ego. My husband is everything I could want and then some. I do things for him to let him know I love him. But you have to do what is in the best interest of your relationship and stop following directions that still believe that you are only there to make him feel superior. .

I G N O A 6 years ago

This is exactly what i've been looking for great advice thank you

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blessedmommy 6 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

To the person signed in with the username me...It seems to me that you more than likely follow the philosophy, "the only way that I love you is if I know you love me too." I agree that marriages should not be one sided and that both partners should care for the needs of the other...that is why I wrote articles for both husband and wife. However, what happens if you are not always treated the way you think you should be? Do you quit loving him? If so, then you married for the wrong reason. You do not marry to be treated like a queen/king. But...if you love someone this is something that you should do to prove your love. Quit trying to be his equal. You are not his equal and he is not yours. You are two separate individuals with different strengths and weaknesses. What does it hurt to make him feel like a king? You love him right? If the thought of that hurts then you are housing selfish motives in your marriage. If you want what is in the best interest for your marriage then I would advise that you DO follow the directions. Quit trying to push yourself to the front of the marriage. You said that you are in an amazing relationship and I'm guessing that the reason you feel that way is because your husband loves you enough to help meet your needs in the marriage whether it's showing affection or helping with the kids and housework. But I'm wondering by the attitude I'm sensing here...If he was asked, could he say the same for you?

preeanca 6 years ago

wow..its just amaizing...i cud imagine myself n my fiancé at each of the steps. thank u so much...next month m getting married n it will surely help me out. i love the ideas u gave....i will be implementing them in my married life..thank u once again....!!

Nikitha 6 years ago

Wonderful blog

Will surely try all this in our married life

Hope everything works out well

and thanks for your precious lines

candace .s. 6 years ago

not bad,i'm not married and most of the things mentioned i've already done them but to the more daring ones,i will try them out when i do get married....that's VERY SOON!

Miranda 6 years ago

Thank u so much.That was gr8t.Keep on.

Ayten Rasmy 6 years ago

i really love it... i felt special feelings towards my husband while reading this,i really love him aloooooot and i hope to do allll these points ill put it in my sch. today thanks alot alot i really love it

ruth 6 years ago

pls i always feel jealous when he always talk to his ex i don't know what to do plse help me

nicole 6 years ago

what a nice message...101....ways to say i love you....ive learned a lot..keep up the good work....

lubna 6 years ago

wowwwwwwwwwww what a nice ideas.............

zara 6 years ago

great it nice message fr my newly married life! definetly i wll fllw thm....

rinalia 6 years ago

seriously all wat you said is awsome,i love it and if we practise that will have the most happiest marriage life,i love my husband and i will practise all to make him happy.

Ijeoma Ofoegbu 6 years ago

After reading i put into practice and it worked very well for.

My Thanks goes to does who has volunteer themselves to write this.

Mrs M 6 years ago

Thank you for posting this and related lists. We married young(ish), at 21 and have been married 2 1/2 years. We went through a really rough patch recently and considered separation because neither of us were getting treated the way we wanted to and very hurtful things were said and done. We managed to talk things through and commit to treating each other much better for both of our happiness. I found this list and "101 ways to tell your wife I love you". At first I was shy about sharing it with my husband but got up the nerve and told him nicely. Now we both use tips from the lists and both love it. It just hadn't occurred to us to do many of these things and over time we felt alienated from each other. My biggest no -no from this list was not acting like wife instead of his mom! I was being really bossy and smothering and didn't realize it. I love the extra attention I've been getting too. Thank you so much!

abc 6 years ago

nice ideas! x

His Hot Wifey 6 years ago

Great ideas! These arent general or boring like most websites. It was great to see how many of these things I already do and all of the ones that I will now implement.

Scuba Steve 6 years ago

These are great for my husband and i enjoy doing them

Tope Idornigie 6 years ago

nice,i hve more spices to add to my home.Thanks a lot!

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blessedmommy 6 years ago from Oklahoma City Metro, Oklahoma Author

Happy Anniversary To My Husband of 15 years!!!?? Love you Honey!!! ??

Toughtet 6 years ago

wow..thanks..love you papa..

SAJ 6 years ago

OMG!! This is really usefull. Even though we were really in love before I get kids and before starting to live by ourselves after we got really busy with two kids and both of our full time jobs we started to live like machines. We don't be together for months believe me it was really stressfull to me. But my husband didn't even care he was just busy and always get angry just not even talking to me even a single loving word like he used to be. I was really worried but I have so much patience. I tried solutions and just one day googled something to solve the problem and came across your posting. OMG I just tried only few things you have mentioned her. He understood how stressfull I was and he is getting back to his normal life like he used to be with me before I got my kids. I don't have words to thank you for these posts.. I am much much happier now. I hope to do more things on your list.. Will let you know..


Beauty Anwuri 6 years ago

Thanks for this.....

mariam 6 years ago

Great ideas.... thanks a bunch!!!

123 6 years ago

i like these advices and these have real worth for me

mercy 6 years ago

wat a good job not yet married but it a nice tips

Sonali 6 years ago

Wow......many many thanks for these wonderful ideas.

have done with few from past 1 year but by reading this got a better idea and confidence of performing it.

MZS..jci 6 years ago

WOOOOOOW very nice..

THANK YOU so much for the brilliant idea you've deliver...

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Anza  6 years ago

omg iam sooo happy yet exited iam getting married in this julyy nice list GOD bless you guys xoxo

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margaret rozario 6 years ago

u have saved my relationship with these tips thank you

manu 6 years ago

Its so good and teaching...Thanx

Regina 6 years ago

Felt lyk evrything to work out with me, your words are very useful and teaching. Thanx a lot, with this ways i think my relationship will work out!!! God bless you!!!

Letizia 6 years ago

Really nice list...im not married to my boyfriend...yet...but most of the things on the list is such common small things that we as woman forget in life!!!my age is 24 and its nice to have something solid to always remember how to make a relationship work....KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!

andy davo 6 years ago

i wish that my girlfriend remembered why i fell in love with her in the first place... now she is in it for herself and only cares when it has something to do with her. Thanks for hopefully 'reminding' her of the small things that actually do matter. Cheers!!!

Lazarus 6 years ago

You Guys are the best! Your information is vibrant and reliable..............

rose 6 years ago

very nice

yetunde 6 years ago

I love this a lot of thanks for the word keep it on

ha ha ha 6 years ago

good collection

Slama 6 years ago

Thanks ,........

lizzy 6 years ago

This is a wonderful messege, i really appreciate it all. Grace to put it into practice God will give us.

Heidi 6 years ago

I really enjoyed reading this, but I wish I would of came by this article alot sooner. In Aug will be my 2nd Anniversary on my 2nd marriage now. I thought everything was find I WAS HAPPY and I really thought he was. To tell you the truth I have never had a good relationship w/ a man I have been in very abusive relationships prior to this one.

My husband is in the Army we have been going thru our first deployment together and its been more but stressful, well we have almost split up 2 times prior b/c he keeps looking for woman online and sneaking around. Last week he told me it was over (I had no clue this was even coming) I was shocked after 10 months of waiting for him he calls it quits 2 months before he is to return we even were suppost to go to Germany by the end of the year together. I have children from prev relationships that are very hurt over this also b/c they loved him also.

The thing I don't understand is how a man tells you he loves you and is happy. and than all the sudden wants a divorce and is so distant and says he has never been happy. I just wish he was here for me to do some of these things for him and try to change for the better. I do think I have been a good wife maybe there was more I could of done, but I also think the man needs to also do some of these things for us too. Anyways I did read it ALL and I do think its a great article. I will apply it and see what happens.

I keep praying for God to perform a miracle in my husbands heart and to make him realize how much he is loved and how hard this is on me and the kids. This just happened about a week ago so I am still pretty distraught over it. sorry so long.

ArmyWifeStrong 6 years ago

This is a wonderful list and puts it all in perspective as well. I wish I could actaully do these things...but my husband moved out on May 1st and therefore I can't do any of this now...

imee 6 years ago

it's nice..more power!!!

June 6 years ago

Thanks for sharing....

edith 6 years ago

It is great. Practise them en evrything will be ok.

Jules  6 years ago

AMAZING! Accidentally came across this and I am grateful I did. Made me think twice at the things I don't do but need to!

It's the little things that count!!!!!


God Bless you all

sofy 6 years ago

wowww its really nice

Andrea 6 years ago

I do a lot of these things and it doesn't do crap. I'm still taken for granted.

amna 6 years ago

very nice article. thanks for writing

feedy 6 years ago

i am going to win his love completely

Sandy 6 years ago

This is exactly what i'v been looking for in my relationship.

eve 6 years ago

i really love it an d gonna give it atrial.

good blog

Thila 6 years ago

great ideas...will pick up some.....

Sue 6 years ago

These are nice ideas

O. N. Nyemah 6 years ago

I really love them all, I'm printing them out immediately for my wife to see.

Jess 6 years ago

Wow! These are really good tips that most of today's society forgets to do. You see the divorce rates and gosh I mean after falling in love this type of stuff is what keeps love ignited for a lifetime. I'm not married yet, but a classmate is getting married this Saturday (maybe I should pass these on to her). Me on the other hand am still waiting for my prince (sigh).

USMC Wife 6 years ago

I've been married for one year and we have been together for two and a half. I LOVED reading this blog. It sure has helped me out with my marriage. We've been on some rocky roads lately mostly cause of his job and how long he has away from home and how were not as close and how we have no communication at all. We even talked about a divorce but because we had no comminucation and no respect for eachother. But thanks to this our marriage has gotten better and were getting along so great. Our son is happy to see us happy and having fun with one another. No more fights in our house hold. Im the happiest person ever! I've used a whole lot of these so far and my husband now feels appreciated and loved. The other day he told me that he thought i didn't love him anymore. I cried and told him that i could never stop loving such an amazing man. I married him for a reason and that will never change. Thank you for everything. Keep up the good work and i hope to see more blogs to help marriages. God Bless!

tina 6 years ago

wow, this is amazing!!! i enjoyed reading every one of it!

this definitely would keep ur marriage so happy and enjoyable. This is what people are missing out and thats why they end up in divorce, they don't know how to love and be loved!

i appreciate u taking the time to make this list, its definitely a keeper ;)

God bless u & ur husband, & keep u always happy!

shanna 6 years ago

i like the article, i am in a situation where by husband likes more to spend his times with friends rather than me. he couldn't stay at home more hours but at night he comes to sleep. when i say that he says that he is a man and men cant stay at home for many times. it is not like that he is with another women, i call him, he answers, i hear from background voices of men. he earns money by doing works and buying things and selling,so its his way of socializing. i do understand, but i feel sad because i want to spend more time with my husband, to enjoy to be loved and cared. so is it a problem if i am asking him to stay with me more time

faryal 6 years ago

i was so in need of this!!!!!! im getting married in few months!! i want to do ALL this with my husband and i hope to keep him happy always :)

sherii 6 years ago

wow..im gettin married soon and was reading your blog

!!! hope that will surely helps ...thanks

natalie 6 years ago

i love it

alhaja bashirat 6 years ago

thank you very much for this message i love it and am happy to read it wish to read more.

MakingMoneyEasy 6 years ago

thanks! :)

cuty 6 years ago

Thanks for sharing the nice ideas

name 6 years ago

i think its not all true coz guys are not all the same, are they?????

Russian Girl 6 years ago

This is good, but I all man different so I guess you learn as you go. Thank you!

b0rderlander 6 years ago

I loved this and the "101 Ways To Tell Your Wife 'I Love You'" post. Number 101 is my favorite. I do tell my husband that I love him before he leaves for work and before we go to bed at night, but I never thought about how good throwing in a couple extra "I love you's" unexpectedly throughout the day would make him feel.

Thanks for the lists, and for putting something positive into the world.

mona27 6 years ago

that is so true,i love my husband and he loves me,

but i am sure he will love me even more if i try some of

these things to blease him.thank you so much for the lists.I will take a lot from it to make my marrige healthy and ever lasting thanx.

Jacky 6 years ago

This is my first year of marriage.

Even though it's a bit hard when he's away at sea

for work, but he always returns, and calls when

he's at shore, visits are also amazing spending time

.. we talk only 3 days every month every year for

4 months. He's a happy man, he's looking forward for

a family now :)

RS 6 years ago

Thanx for writing this for all women. m sure ill do some stuff with him.

doda 6 years ago

thanks 4 this site a lot.

princess1 6 years ago

I really like that list, i think i will try it.I thimk alll the husbands will like this list

bahath  6 years ago

its real amazing eeh! at list the ideas turning me on to think of marriage! for those who try these can either improve or completely win this thing called love!

"love is GAME which take players to a fantastic GOAL"

Gurvinder 6 years ago

I am gonna married in few months and surely m gonna use maximum of these tips........... I know it will really make my married life a heaven

Jerimi 6 years ago

My husband and I are going through some tough times in terms of losing our home. He's so good at taking care of everyone else, that I didn't realize how it was impacting him. He feels like he's letting me down. This list is a good reminder of how we need to not get lazy, but always appreciate each other and SHOW it. I'm starting on the list tomorrow. Thank you for sharing it. It's an inspiration.

taylor 6 years ago

thank you so much this helped so much, after reading this list i realized how many little things i don't do. it made me look at myself and realized i should be doing more for him! i will keep this list forever and i know he will appreciate it too! god bless

Fel 6 years ago

Thanks so much for the tips. i believe my marriage will be the best thing ever. it doesn't need one to put alot of effort but just to apply them. God bless

Loved Up 6 years ago

I Loved Every Point..:)

I Wil Make Sure I Doo Most Of Those When Im Married

Thank You 4 The Advice x x x

KK 6 years ago

My husband of 29 years had an affair 6 years ago....it was hugely painful for both of us, but I cannot stress how important it was for me to truly forgive him. It took some time and a large amount of effort on both our parts, but it was well worth it. No one is perfect, but I am married to my soul mate and I love him unconditionally.

KK 6 years ago

My husband of 29 years had an affair 6 years ago....it was hugely painful for both of us, but I cannot stress how important it was for me to truly forgive him. It took some time and a large amount of effort on both our parts, but it was well worth it. No one is perfect, but I am married to my soul mate and I love him unconditionally.

May 6 years ago

These are great tips and I'm sure they will work if put into practice. I will try them out myself. my hushand is a very loving person but I know he can do better if Imotivate him. thank you

Rach 6 years ago

Loved these questions. My husband and I celebrated our one year! I"m soo blessed! These questions were real encouraging!

ruchika 6 years ago

these all ways r very lovely and happening i tried to accept most of them and give my husband best and make our life loving and wonderful

shafaque 6 years ago

dats gr8.i felt so special abt my hubby while going thru ur points.i vl surely try to do them .i love my hubby a looooooooooooooooot.

Vidya Rakesh 6 years ago

i love dis points & i love my sweeeet kutttoooos

maxxie villegas 6 years ago

did a few with hubby even before discovering this page, i'd say, most are really true...keep on loving each other guys!!!

kvc41 6 years ago

Really nice I do agree but find it kinda difficult to change my old ways any suggestions?

Anita 6 years ago

This is so wonderful makes me note them down and work on them!I am very blessed with it!

Am just about to get married and I see everything would be wonderful if I really do this!Just as a fiancée I see his potential and I will try my Best to do everything very well!

God bless you so much!

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salvacion 6 years ago from naga city

i love this hub! i'll surely keep these ideas in my head..always..just reading them and imagining those new ideas i get from here makes me love my sweetheart more and more! THANKS!!!

lynvic arroyo 6 years ago

i love this tips... i love my husband more than i ever had... thanks to ur tips....

Nnenna 6 years ago

i will surely keep these in mind...my husband deserves every bit of them.thanks a million...

gabby 6 years ago

thank you so much i really love this tip.......

Isabell 6 years ago

I believed this things will help every one who needs them i'm trying to help a very close friend with this tips from you.

Aysha 6 years ago

in a strong serious relatnshp nw nd probably getting married soon i guess i hv gotten a learnin slate 2 follow... tnx u 2 much

maika 6 years ago

i want to point out that most of the things listed come naturally in the beginnig of most relationships but as time goes by some people, not all start taking things for granted and just neglect the most important things that brought them together and gave birth to the marriage or long term relationship. also it takes 2 to tangle

Sassy Lui 6 years ago

Worth reading. For sure i will gonna do this.

anjelina 6 years ago

wow that is amazing keep it up it is realy important i want get married soon and iwill do this 101 examples

Ifunanya 6 years ago

thanks for sharing these great thouhts. whoooo, keep it up

Lilian 6 years ago

Its really good work. Thank you so much.If couples followed all these it would have been fan.

Newlywedgirl 6 years ago

I love and agree with this! Very well Put. I have been applying alot of these just out of true love. I really think it just comes out of you if you love someone alot. There are a few points, which I admit to be somewhat guilty of, which I plan to improve. Thanks truly, I think u should write it in a cute little book.

Benefits of Military Loans 6 years ago

Great list! Reminds that the best things can be simple and inexpensive. Both husband and wife can do a "I feel loved when..." list to help their mate know what makes them feel loved, valued and appreciated.

Christina 6 years ago

I can honestly say that I do most of these with an exception to about 4, and my husband I are very happy. Our life is a lot of fun, and our children are very happy as well. As my husband always says, "You work to live not live to work, so remember to love your family to the fullest because you only have one."

Ls 6 years ago

I just got married last June 26th, we only dated 4 months and then get married. We followed the christian way w/o doing things before marriage. In the beginning i feel so loved. And something happened twice already that i think he still is grieving w/ his late wife. It hurts me and i don't feel loved by him although he does things so devoted to me. Can anybody suggests what to do for me to feel his love and trust him completely because i want this relationship to work as a vow to each other and to God. I know i love him but i don't feel his love sometimes. Please help me. Thanks!

Kathy 6 years ago

What a wonderful website! Next week is our 25th ann. I'm married to a man who treats me like a princess, but with work, children, etc., I sometimes take that for granted. Will put this website in my favorites as a reminder to let him know how much I appreciate him.

Amanda 6 years ago

Great list! We are on the brink of separating and this list shows me how much *I* can do to try an save my marriage. Put another way, it shows me how much I haven't been doing in my marriage over the years.

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fakhiakamaal 6 years ago

really soo sweet wch all need to knw those who are really in love and want to spend gud life shuld have a look on it.. help ffullll

jeng 6 years ago

your ways makes me feel better..i'l do it...thanks to you.

jennette 6 years ago

its nice to have this.. it will help to grow have stronger relationship to your husband.

BMS 6 years ago

I wish I practice atleast some of these some days.. nice blog.. :-)

Nengi 6 years ago

This is really interesting...With all these,my husband i'll always run home after work..Thanks

sully 6 years ago

My 80 year old husband has been in hospital for the past 4 1/2 weeks, we have been together for the past nearly 15 years, 24/7, never apart except for another 12 days in hospital when i also visited.I just want to world to know how much i love and miss him, though i visit him every day we both just want him to get well and come home again safely.

sanjukta das 6 years ago

thanks.......i realy needed it

PeggyJohnson 6 years ago

Wow, these are wonderful tips for lasting marriages u'v got here. I'v got some stuff to correct from my mistake few days ago. Thanx alot 4 these tips.

gladys 6 years ago

thank you so much for the tips. i have two weeks only in marriage and i hope this will work for me as well. thi gonna help a lot as well

personalised gifts 6 years ago

This is a great blog, usually i don't post comments on blogs but I would like to say that this post really forced me to do so!

meeta 6 years ago

good one

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becca storer 6 years ago from U.K

What a great hub, enjoyed reading this, marriage takes a lot of effort to make it work well :)

Newlywed 6 years ago

I have always done these types of things for my husband and that's probably why he married me but will my man ever do these things for me?

Niharika 6 years ago

really nice points. some of them i try. and some of them i will definitely try at home.LOL niharika

Rookie70 6 years ago

Excellent Tips - Definitely one to Bookmark.

Always put God first before everything...

its nice to have this.. it will help to grow have stronger relationship to your husband.


nayani 6 years ago

This is a great article. Happiness in a marriage is something we earn for ourselves.

Guigo 6 years ago

Live more you will learn more.... i liked it, it is really helpful. Thank you....

ps i love you 6 years ago

wow brilliant.. i m not married.. but i really want to be a good wife..

we hav been together for the past 9 months.. and i guess i was being so selfish..i ve never seen things from his point of view.. thanks for opening my eyes..

i m going to pick some of your suggestions now and is going to surprise him when he is back from his office...

coz i love him and i dnt want to loose him at any cost..

thanks a lot . and god bless you..

Jessica 6 years ago

Thank, GOD!Ihave been looking for something all day that i could do for my husbad just because. Been trying to spice up our marriage a bit. We been together 9 years and married 6. Got 2 kids and well life just gets in the way. The sign in the yard thing is an awesome inexpensive way to say i love you, im thinking about calling the radio station and playing that song stuck like glue by sugarland (country), and i've already made him one of his favorite things to eat that i never fix because i don't like it (meatloaf) and i've put a picture of him as my desktop on the computer and wrote the best husband in MY WORLD! If those don't get his attention and let him know i love him, i don't know what will. i thought about washing his truck (ive never washed his vehicle for him, ive washed mine and hes washed both ours but ive never washed his) but i think ill save that for another day. thanks alot. great list. ill save it.

sai kell 6 years ago

thank you for the great tips, im engaged, getting married during this summer ^^ love my fiancée to bits. this list is great, i already do most of the things on it ^^ and the best part is so does he i really think it will last with us!! your list genuinely is amazing, im moving country to live with him, i think that shows commitment. your list will definatly help me be a good wife, its my one aim to be the best i can for my husband. ^^

thank you so much ^^

saran 6 years ago

its nice really working

Gwen 6 years ago

I really like this list too. I've already done some of these things, but I want to do more. My husband is very good to me, and I want to show him and tell him how much I love him.We've been married for one year and eight days. IWe are both happy together. Gwen

swati 6 years ago

i will give comment after my marriage

nice tipsssssssssss

Bhumi 6 years ago

I m so happy.......................for tips

Gab 6 years ago

I was looking for new ways to thank my husband for being so great... and am so happy I found this list! I hate to admit it, but I have a tendency to be a bit selfish - and then wonder why he looks miserable! I think this list is exactly the motivation I needed! Thanks!

julia 6 years ago

this list is great and it helps a lot of people to make their relation with their husbands better and better

Meg 6 years ago

Thanks for the inspiration :)

Jahnavi Bavisi 6 years ago

Thank you.

SALLY 6 years ago

I like all of these advises but then how about if ure husband is not the type that likes these things.

And yes its true that women complain more than ever.

Lorena 6 years ago

Yea i think i need to do something from this list, my marriage needs a little boost! We'll see if it works out!

j4215 6 years ago

This is very helpful and interesting!!!!!!!!!!!!

thitha 6 years ago

thanx for the ideas

SAMANTHA 6 years ago

I love the ideas that is on this website. I have done some of these things and he enjoyed it very much.

Jenny 6 years ago

It' funny cause I know the all the ideas myself.... but love how I read them too makes me happy that I have done these.... All are very true! That's how u keep a marriage to last.

Ramakrishnan 6 years ago

I'm an unmarried Guy and I'm in T.Y.B.Com and I went thru both the Hub. Firstly, "101 ways to tell your Wife 'I LOVE YOU'" and then also "101 ways to tell your Husband 'I LOVE YOU'". U all must b wondering Why a Guy like Me is giving a Comment!!

But the Truth is dat, "When a Guy or a Girl comes to know about such things, they become truly qualified for a Lovely relation called a 'Husband & Wife Relation'."

Mak Ur life beautiful guys. Bye. :-);-D

mariya 6 years ago

all da ways to tell ur husband i luv is just so wow

suad 6 years ago

woooow,dat was nice//keep goin,u r makin peaples mariages perfect,thnx

tropicicalfusion8 6 years ago

it's a very useful ideas. thanks for sharing this wonderful advices.

ivz 6 years ago

my husband and i were married for seven years and im glad we still love each other to bits but i need more ways to show him how much i love him and this list is really great,,,=)

Ann 6 years ago

I truly enjoyed reading the list of 101 ways of how to tell your husband you love him; I don't yet have a husband but I have a boyfriend and I can use some of your ideas in this relationship; perhaps he will become my husband. Here's hoping!!

Melissa Spencer 6 years ago

Very Nice.

I find it kind of funny how, Even though I am on the verge of becoming an "adult" and I am not quite there yet, that my boyfriend and I are very close, and I do a lot of these things for him. Now, I don't mean, showering with him, or sleeping with him. What I mean is that we are very close, I spend a lot of time with him, and we get to do a lot together. Including some of these. He seems like something I was missing all along. We take walks at the park, I will scratch his back or rub his feet without him asking, and he does the same. It is very nice, how we do so many things for each other. He is currently in college and every weekend that I get to see him we always have something for each other. Usually its something small and sweet that we have each hand made and we love it! ( a couple weeks ago I went to see him at his dorm and he had posted over 50 posters saying "I love my Milly!" on them. IT WAS SO SWEET!) We understand each other so well. I am so happy to have met him. We tend to think about the future a lot. He wants to marry me, steal me away forever, and be his, and thats the way I want it too. Life is just so much better now.

Thanks for the advice! I will definitely try some things on here that I already haven't. :D

nrosario 6 years ago

I cannot thank you enough for these great tips...if anyone doubts that these will work, I have to tell you...

Just two weeks ago I thought that after 12yrs of living together and 1yr of marriage and a 9 yr old son...and dealing with my husband's crazy money hungry ex, and his crazy family, and our son's autism...well, the stress of daily life was just too much...we had a huge fight that I ended up going for a walk to talk to a neighbor...I really thought it was just over...he did too...and then I decided to really listen to what he told me in the argument, without attempting to say "well, but I have my reasons too"...and just let it go...and as I was looking for sites on "when it's over", I found this site...I decided to tell him "I'm sorry that with all the problems we have had, many out of our control, that I was so lost in those problems that I forgot to really let you know how much you meant to me..." I think he was truly like "sure, whatever...we'll see"...and with that I began following this list...I can tell you that our relationship has taken a 180 in the opposite direction...without me asking he's even started to kiss me before he leaves in the morning even though I am still in bed fully asleep...that's what wakes me up now...there are still a few times I get a bit overwhelmed with problems, but I take a deep breath and do one of the things on the list INSTEAD...and so far, I can say that our relationship has blossomed...Thank you so very much...maybe this needs to be required reading for couples in trouble...

5AY 6 years ago

nice words and nice ideas i will soon be married and i will try these steps thx

chetna 6 years ago

well, i will definitively immplement these tips im my life n i am sure it will work

kt 6 years ago

really nyc!! vry thotful ideas.. will surely make us feel happier :) :) :) thnx!!

yssa 6 years ago

we've been doing this for years...love the ideas and it really works...we're on our 15th year and we're getting stronger than before..

zaneerah 6 years ago

whhoooa....;-)this is a vry realistic thng...im marid 4the last 2yrs....n my attempt hs always been 2keep any boredom away....lol...so al thez butterin tips ...hmm...i alrdy tried many of em....n i confirm tht it wrks....;-)...going thru thez tips made me feel gud;-)nw i knw tht i try my best 2 show my husband tht i love him...n in the process makin him feel it....

gr88888 job....cool advices...keep it up....it rocksss

designsbycarlia 6 years ago

what a blessing this is to families all over this is a form of "kiss of lyfe" #KOL

thank u for making a difference in sharing for it is caring...

Carlia Helm

moriam 6 years ago

amazing advice.....we really need to put this into practice. if we tried ourselves to make a difference and didn't expect so much i think we would see a big difference. i've no doubt your advice will keep my marriage strong..or should i say make it even stronger. thanks

lots of love xxx

aicel 6 years ago

oh my! thanks for sharing those advice! im married already,hope things will work out if i did what you advice!...

Aarushi 6 years ago

Amazing tips.... i have got married a month ago and i think i can really make a difference applying these tips in my married life. Biessedmommy you are really great.

lunnetes 6 years ago

im getting married in a few months and this really helps me a lot,this will help the relationship last forever and i cant wait to be with my husband,this really shows how much you love and care about him

keesha 6 years ago

This is absolutely the most gift for me n my husband.keep it up l like it

guys101 6 years ago

I hope my wife one day does any number of these. Such Healthy habits.

I'm a pretty run-of-the-mill dude, and I can honestly say these tips would enhance ANY relationship.

Ladies, if you want you marriage to be healthier, these tips are only going to help.

krishna 6 years ago

Gr8888 job!!!

puls 6 years ago

Its really amazing!

I'm going to get married soon, I hope it will work for me for sure :)

I know how I bahave when I got irritated or when I'm angry but if I'll start working on these ideas given by you will definitely going to help me a lot!

Coz we wont get anything rather than hurting our partner if we keep on showing them our irritation or anger!

The best way is to LOVE them unconditionally!!!

Thats what I'm planning to do!


apo 6 years ago

The best advice for couples...it really works! hope to read more...nice and inspirational clips!

Sara08 6 years ago

Ij ust luv it the fact that I have by pass these things and thought it's all his fault, blaming him for the wrong reasons....

Thank you for that it has inspired me.

Hansi 6 years ago

This is a wonderful list. It's so much easier to complain about what you don't get than appreciate your blessings. I will surely add these to my to-do list as 'high priority'.

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hummi 6 years ago

thankyou so much...i hope the tips will work for me!!

Mrs U :) 6 years ago

Owsome............:) These all points already suits on Me and My Husband..:)

libbie1982 6 years ago

This is such wonderful advice. I have been married 9 1/2 yrs. Things are a little wobbly at the moment, i have been searching for advie and stumbled across your page. Its wonderful! Thank you x

Soinluvwithmyhubby 6 years ago

We are going on 8 years married in January & we have had a long road to get there. For about a month back in mid October we were really working hard ourselves, because lets face it that is what it comes down to, & my husband discovered the 101 ways to tell your wife you love her & he told me that there is one for women as well if I was interested. We agreed not to look at each others list so that high expectations take away from the effort. Well I got to tell you my goal has been to do every single one then recognize the ones that he really loves and contiue to do them and enhance them to show my love for him. Now ladies no I am not living in a bubble, there are days when I don't feel like he desrves it, but who am I to judge. So what I try to do then is turn around & pick one that is difficult & do it anyway......The results are AWESOME girls!!!! God created us to LOVE with no limits or expectations, therefore when we obey that command the outcome is always a great blessing. Thank you for the advice because the future of the church is the strength of the family unit. May the Lord continue to bless others for your commitment to making it work & bless you & your family.


Lakshmi Ram 6 years ago

Realy great...10q 4 wonderful advice

can make my husband more happy..i luv him so much..

10q again

melanny 6 years ago

i love my husband so much. excellent advice. Good job

Indranee 6 years ago

Great post...I'm gonna get married soon and I love it!

chris wright 6 years ago

I am happily married to my soul mate. We both complete and compliment each other. I am not afraid to speak what he feels. I lack tact which he has. He is the soft side that I hide. My husband runs our house. I run the kids with his help. I never let the kids come between us. If he lays down a law I uphold it. I am blessed to have him. I have ocd and so does he. Checking and rechecking door nobs does not bother either of us (we both do it) it is just something that can make the average person crazy. Im far from perfect. When he is doing something that irritates me. I close my eyes breathe deep and imagine my life without him. That stops my tongue. I remember what a blessing he is. He puts up with me. That is a handful. He was 49 when we met I was 37. I am just saddend that I met him later. I had to go through hell first. That way I could truly appreciate him. I try not to bring the past into my marriage. He is my future. He is my heart. He is my true love. My love for him does not end not even death could stop it. My love for him is eternal. I love you, Charlie.

sapna 6 years ago

great ideas keep it up

brie 6 years ago

Really Nice Blog...!!!!!!

M so sure u r a happy couple....

God Bless You....


vidula ...durgesh.. 6 years ago

actuly...!!!nic 1 it is....i like...i lke...n thankssssssss

surbhi 6 years ago


komal 6 years ago

half things i do..

and half of the i learnt..

thank you...

blondmedic 6 years ago

3 months

well i must say that im on op of the list and maybe even 2 steps ahead. while i was reading there were more than a few that i and my husband already do. nice to know im on the right tract. Guess thats why were in our 30s both 1st marriages and waited for each other and never settled. Our friends and family are a bit envious, and of course very happy for us, but i guess thats the one guilty sin i will gladly take:) I see 50yrs+ that is if we live that long lol.

khadeershabana 6 years ago

Very romanticly explained to a wife and husband how to interact with each other. With every small thing makes relation perfect. When i read this i'm very impresssive everu couple should read this to make their pair perfect. And to be a PERFECT COUPLE. just like us. Me KHADEER and my loveable wife SHABANA. WE LOVE EACH OTHER A LOT AND I READ THIS NOW I MORE TRY TO MAKE HER MORE HAPPY AND LIFE SHOULD BE MORE ROMANTIC

Farida 6 years ago

Nice one :-)

The Mc Intyre's 6 years ago

very impressive we loved it.

it's a must read for all married couples

Steph 6 years ago

I've tried to do many of these things, but he doesn't like a lot of the things that I've tried on this list but the things I've tried are the only things I can really stand to do every day. I used to make him a special breakfast every morning, he doesn't like to kiss, I'm a stay at home mom and don't have any friends or anyone to talk to, but he doesn't want to talk about anything but work. I was hoping to find some tips to make him treat me like he loves me again

Ahlam lbrahim 6 years ago

I have to admit that those advice will definitely keep marriages fun and loving! I am not married but i have a boyfriend whom i have been with for one year and i love him dearly! but we are so close that it is in gods hands for us to get married! the reason i say that is because my parents dont approve of me having a boyfriend and they believe in arrange marriages! i dont have that belief and i am truly deeply in love with my boyfriend! and i am going to do my best to work things out! but your 101 ways to make a husband happy are the best!! thank you for taking the time reading this!

God bless you and your husband!


Joy 6 years ago

Its very nice idea,i think i need to use it from n0w on

Deepz 6 years ago

Thanks A Lot

deepak trivedi 6 years ago

thanx a lot for sharing such practical but worth ransom ideas.

keep on posting ideas like this.

elizabethanderson 6 years ago

I recently got engaged and I'm looking to do something special for my fiance'. Like a creative way to tell him I love him, I have done almost everything on your list, anyone have any creative ways to show him I love him??


Natalya 6 years ago

I want to thank you and I mean it from the very bottom of my heart.

May your family life be always protected by this love that you feel!

Zury Dickinson 6 years ago

Wow I absolutely loved reading this blog. it's amazing and it will definitely help a lot of us. I just got married to my wonderful husband 3 weeks ago and i want to always show him that i love him in many different ways. This blog will come in handy although i already naturally do alot of these......there are some that are excellent ideas. thank you so much for sharing.

God bless. :)

Anna 6 years ago

I am getting married in july, i cannot wait to be his wife and finally live together! These will really help me in making him happy, and when he feels good, he makes me feel good. I would do anything and everything in my power to see that smile! x

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ela 6 years ago

nice it will help a lot.

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Anjili 6 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

Hi blessedmommy,

That was great. How did you compile such a large collection of tips for married couples? Good work. Keep up with it and God bless.

Julie duong 6 years ago

Many Great Idea , gonna try it , thanks !!!!!

Anne Nguyen  6 years ago

So great ,Thank soooo much now learn more a great lover ... great in bed :)))no way husband forget ,

shai 6 years ago

great job blessed mommy

really true tips

antu 5 years ago

it works.wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

thatoneguy 5 years ago

if my wife would only do one of these thing every so often it would be so much better but as it is everything is about her and it's all give give give on my part and take on hers any tips or ideas

preety 5 years ago

Great list.

Cynthia 5 years ago

I'm printing this out! Although I am not married yet, I can start doing this stuff now to build towards a solid relationship. Thanks for putting this list together-- I love it!

ana 5 years ago

thank you very much i think i have a lot to practice

Sameera 5 years ago

GREAT .....GOOD JOB,i just got married 1 month ago and i m so happy to get these great list of advices.i m looking forward to practice them.

Thank you very much!!! i really appreciate!

jj3109 5 years ago

My husabnd and I have been married almost 2 years(just a few weeks shy) and I can say we have had a good number of arguments. Of course. I do like to be right, and I like a lot of things my way especially with our daughter. But once I started to let my husband take control, things have been better for us. It does hurt that I can't "control" everything. I would much rather hang on to our marriage and family. These tips have helped a lot. I feel better with myself putting my husband first.

vars 5 years ago

good list:-)

Komujuni 5 years ago

after my fiancee's first marriage, he was scared of marriage again, i have read these and the 5languages of Love, fascinating womanhood, the power of a praying wife and i can tell you everyday He calls me His virgin queen. I only use what i have read here...thank u, Iam so happy

DemonGirl 5 years ago

I love this!! I can just see this whole list working out for all you married couples!!! I wish yall luck and a happy life! This is a very very good and funny list and that is what marriage is supposed to be: Funny and Happy! Luck to all ya!!

Chinnu 5 years ago

I love this thanks a lot.... This is going to help me a lot. We were like on the way of separation but by god's grace every problems solved and we are starting together again... This is really gonna help me thanks a lot

Jhal Espinosa 5 years ago

great suggestions. most if not all of them are workable.

Ruth 5 years ago

Really good advice. Thank you!

Sumandak from Sabah 5 years ago

Very Nice Advices...And very useful words...

U r the best! and Im going to Print it now as a reminder for me starting from today until death do (husband & me) part...

Thank U so much~~

Michelle 5 years ago

I found this info so useful and agree with ALL of it! I have saved it to my favs and will refer back often! Thanks so much for the advise!

janvi 5 years ago

Thnx. .... its vry useful. ... I have saved it n m going to refer over n again to make my hubby d happiest......

pj 5 years ago

And by doing these we are teaching our husbands how we want to Be treated , he won't do it all or even any but he will love and respect you more , I've been married for more then 20 years and yes I WOULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN !

Emma 5 years ago

nice list.soooooooooooo sweet

Irum 5 years ago

hi..really nice list juxt wamt to tell you i stated with the 1st tip,i meessaged him that i love u and etc..he didnt reply me n dint talk to me about when he was back home..he ignored it..i felt so bad..he is very romantic but when i say hin to go out and spend some quality time with me,he says be practical and come out of ur dreams..

sarimaedith@yahoo.com 5 years ago

please i need to know how to make my fiance happy and feel better for me and also for to know whatever he wants without telling me so that i can know it my self without him telling me what he needs.

shruthi pavan 5 years ago

it's a great job ......... go on ........... nice tips ......... i would like to try ..........thanks........

Gandhirams 5 years ago

Great Job... is very useful tips to make a good reationship... I'll recomment this site to my friends.......

aileen 5 years ago

nice....interesting topic...ive learned to love my hubby everyday.....godbless us all....

ballajallow 5 years ago

very educative,thanks i love it and had teach me already

connie 5 years ago

very nice!!! out of 101 i have like less than 20 that i usualy do for my husband.......and from this i was awakend and yes! i will apply lots for my husband....Bongga!

Emma 5 years ago

This is really such a sweet list!

Cindy 5 years ago

I have been married for 12/half yrs and I have spent so much of that time being angry and upset b/c I often look for my hubby to make me happy and alot of the advice have been through out my marriage have been stop complaining and do something nice for your hubby and in return you will see how nice he becomes too you but unfortunately I didn't take that advice often enough. But after reading your list I found that it's what people have been advicing for 12 yrs for me to do. Yes we are pass all the crazyness and I must surrender to doing somethings on your list and I will do one today Thank you so much Silly ME

Shade 5 years ago

Although I'm not married yet, blessedmommy ,I intend to practicalise all these in my marriage. I'm getting married to the most wonderful man in the world and these tips are gonna help me be the best I can ever be for him. Mind if I borrow some of these tips for our courtship? They are practicable, applicable and invaluable. Thank you and may God bless you real good!

Swary 5 years ago

Nice... i Love it

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