10 Biblical Tips for Bringing Happiness Back Into a Troubled Marriage

• Obedience is a key to happiness – Psalm 119:1-2

  • Obedience to God's word as it relates to marriage will invoke his blessing on the union because his word cannot lie.

If you know these things happy are ye if you do them –Jn. 13:17

  • Happiness is doing what one ought to do and not what one wants to do. Happiness can be restored to the couples who stop procrastinating and begin to implement what they already biblicaly know and not what they selfishly want.

Knowing who you are


  • Many people associate themselves with their profession and what they do instead of who they are. Unhappy people may wonder why they are here and continue to search for answers in wrong places with wrong relationships until they become new creations in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Don't stop pursuing one another


  • David in 1 Samuel 30:8 asked God the question should he pursue after his family to rescue them from the enemy the Amalekites and God told him to do so and he would recover all. Enemies today for married couples begin when they stop pursuing one another as they did when they were dating. Somehow when the big "I do" is pronounced the feeling of I have arrived takes over and they seldom continue to do the things they did that brought them to the alter.

Don't stop learning new things about one another

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)


  • The longer that two people are together the more they must guard against the thoughts that they know all there is to know about each other. Watching a rerun on television soon becomes boring because the outcome has already been predetermined. On the other hand excitement and expectation are the emotions displayed when seeing a movie for the first time. There is so much in this vast world that has not been experienced, places that have not been visited for a person to say life is boring. God has created so much depth in mankind that even he has to reveal new and undiscovered territory. He declares in 1 Corinthians 9...But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him but God has revealed them unto us by his spirit. Begin each day looking for new discoveries about one another and familiar and boredom will leave.


Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)


  • Honor and respect has a way of drawing people close while disrespect often does the reverse. If any object such as a car or home is respected it is also maintained and continues to bring value and happiness to the owners. Couples who maintain one another by honoring and respecting each others feelings, needs and desires bring value and happiness into the marriage relationship.


Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)




  • The family that prays together stays together because when couples express their needs before God and begin to see those prayers answered it brings joy and happiness. Jesus said in John 16:24 Hitherto have you asked nothing in my name ask and ye shall receive that your joy might be full!


Learn to take responsibility

And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.And the Lord God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat. (Gen. 3:12-13)

  • The blame game has been going on since the creation of the first marriage couple and continues to do so today filling homes with unhappiness and despair. In marriage everything will not be 100% perfect because there will be mistakes, poor choices, bad decisions and so on but the door to happiness opens when couples learn to take responsibility for those actions instead of blaming the other and bringing unhappiness.


And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.And the Lord God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.(Gen. 3:12-13)


Blaming God


  • The quickest way to being unhappy is to blame God for what transpires in the world today. God is not the blame for broken homes and marriages, but people are because he has given mankind the right to choose and make choices.


Silent Frustration


Wherefore she said unto Abraham, Cast out this bondwoman and her son: for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, even with Isaac. (Gen. 21:10)


  • Sarah and Abraham both made a terrible mistake when they tried to help God out in bringing the promised son Isaac to pass. Sarah does something most women would not do by asking her husband to lay with another woman named Hagar her handmaid. As most men would do with this strange type of request,..Abraham was glad to ob liege. But Sarah had to live with the consequences of this decision in silence for years because after all it was her idea. Many couples live with silent frustration until unless something changes, divorce is imminent.One day Sarah saw Ishmael mocking Isaac and all of the frustration she endured for years finally gave voice and she demanded that Abraham cast out of the house Hagar and Ishmael. The demand was grievous to Abraham because he had more invested into the relationship with Hagar than Sarah did. God tells Abraham that Sarah is right leaving Abraham to do something that was hard for him and that was to send his son and his son's mother packing.Imagine the unhappiness in this household as these events happened. Silent frustration is so damaging that it takes God to intervene and after he does, healing takes place over time

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teaches12345 2 years ago

This is wonderful information on how to make marriage a strong foundation. Love the scripture references that prove the value.

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