4 Unconventional Ways to Use Online Dating

From finding new dates to maintaining healthy relationships, technology has become an important part of our romantic lives.

You can’t deny it. In fact, you shouldn’t.

Nowadays, technology and dating often go hand in hand, and understanding the huge role that social media and technology plays in your dating life, can be vital. Moreover, for dating purposes, you should use technology, the digital world, social media websites, and the luxury of outsourcing the legwork required for your dating life (yes, it’s possible, recommended, and we are going to discuss it in detail).

In this post, we are going to take a look at some of the unconventional dating tips and tricks that are associated with our modern technology and social websites & apps.

1. Tinder Hacks — They Work & They Are Awesome!

When it comes to online dating, Tinder has become sort of a big name.

Almost everybody is using it, and some of them are seeing great results. But as you must know, Tinder does not always work for everyone. There are many Tinder users who just do not get enough matches.

Fortunately, you can change that.

There are certain tips and tricks — what we like to call Tinder Hacks — that almost always work.

Here are a few awesome tips and tricks to make Tinder work for you.

1. Use Your Best Photos

This one goes without saying, right?

But we want to focus on the importance of having your best photos up on Tinder. Visuals do matter, and Tinder is all about making a good first impression. And do you know what makes the best impression?

Yes, your profile photo.

Upload the best one. Moreover, utilize the real estate that Tinder gives you. If you can upload six images on Tinder, upload all six and do not leave any empty slot.

Why?

Because it is not about just making a match. It is all about making the right match that you can, hopefully, lead to an amazing relationship. Those extra photos are a great way to display the lifestyle you have.

Are you an adventurer? Why not upload a relevant photo that shows your adventurous side. Are you a traveler? Display that with pride.

This ensures that you attract like-minded people that you can actually have a relationship with. Moreover, having more photos — instead of just one — also gets you more matches.

We will also discuss more about the ‘perfect photos’ at the end of this post.

2. Perfect the Bio

After the first good impression (or shock) comes the bio.

Tinder users are usually on a swiping streak, and you want to stop them in their tracks and take notice of your profile. There are two ways you can use your bio to do that:

  • Gimmick

  • Greatness

Gimmick leads to shock, laughter, awe, and inspiration, but it doesn’t always lead to a date. In fact, it rarely does. This is why when you search for the “Best Tinder Profiles”, you never actually see the ‘best’ Tinder profiles. What you see are — at best — funny and weird profiles. Here’s one of them.

It’s very funny — and intelligent, too — and it made a great screenshot. But would it lead to a serious date? Not necessarily.

Greatness, however, is what will improve your dating life. Here’s how you can achieve that by adding the following things in your bio:

  • A teaser of what you do. Women love curiosity.

  • Mention and tick box the items that you know women always look for men. Believe me, it works.

  • Be witty and humorous. After all, no woman likes a boring man.

  • Intelligence. This is a pleasure point for intelligent women. But make sure that you sound intelligent, and not condescending.

3. Breaking the Ice

Okay. Here is the thing.

Too many people focus on putting up the right photos and bios on their Tinder profiles. In fact, they completely forget about the ‘chat’ aspect of Tinder. Ultimately, it is how you chat — especially how you begin — that will get you a date.

Please, do not open with a sleazy pickup line. It’s very common, and it can be a huge turn-off for most people.

Instead, use any of the following four techniques to break the ice:

  1. Start the conversation with a compliment, but do not make it about their physical appearances.

  2. If you are not comfortable with a compliment right away, start with chat-invoking questions. Use simple networking techniques that we use all the time.

  3. Talk about a mutual friend (if you have any).

  4. Start the conversation with a common interest. There is almost always an opportunity to do this.

Moreover, once you have the conversation started, use active listening and make the conversation about them. It is a proven communication technique to build and strengthen relationship — not just on Tinder but also in our real life. Also, do not be afraid to use appropriate humor and witty banters when an opportunity presents itself. You do not want to be boring. But, at the same time, don’t try too hard.

The key is to constantly keep testing and trying out new things. Give one strategy 5-6 weeks before moving on to another. It’s all about finding the right combination of Tinder hacks that work for you.

2. Hiring a Virtual Dating Assistant — Yeah, It’s a Thing

And no, it isn’t completely unethical.

Are you a good copywriter who knows how to use the right words at the right time? Well, some of us have the natural ability to play with words and weave great ideas with them, but not all of us can do that.

Fortunately, there are professionals who can do that very effectively. Moreover, it isn’t just about hiring someone to say the right things on your behalf. That would have been somewhat morally questionable. In fact, the biggest reason for hiring a virtual dating assistant is because we do not have a lot of time to actively pursue our dating lives.

I mean, how many times have you seen people getting sucked in their jobs and businesses, only to forget that they also have to take care of their dating life? It is much more common that we like to admit.

The good news is that you can now hire a professional virtual dating assistant who works solely to take the burden off your shoulders. While you are busy in making money, keeping your jobs, and advancing in your career, your virtual dating assistant is working hard to find the right dates for you.

You do hire assistants to take care of clerical works, administration, email management, research, and other mundane tasks. So, why can’t you hire a virtual dating assistant to take care of another aspect of your life that is just as important?

Scott Valdez, the CEO of VirtualDatingAssistants.com, says:

”I graduated from college in 2006 and took a job with a startup company working 40 to 50 hours a week. Gradually, my responsibilities grew, and I found myself working for almost 70 hours a week. So, although I was making good money I didn’t have any time left for my personal online dating endeavors. So I had an idea of getting an assistant with a writing background who could do this for me. I hired a creative writing grad with a little bit of experience in online dating from Craigslist, showed him the ropes, and he took over my accounts and was able to produce really good results for me.”

That’s how he basically started this business. But isn’t that a story for almost all of us? We are too busy, and we’d love to have someone else doing all the legwork and setting us up with people of our choices.

Scott further says:

”I told a few friends how well it was working for, and they all started to ask if they could get my guy working for them.”

This shows that Scott wasn’t alone. In fact, if you have been also struggling to find the time required to invest in online dating, you can consider hiring a virtual dating assistant.

And you don’t have to hire a creative writing grad. Now there are professional companies that provide you experienced virtual dating assistants.

They are thorough professionals. They know what works and what doesn’t. They get in and get the job done!

Virtual dating assistants can be used to build online dating portfolios, profiles, attractive bios. Moreover, these assistants can also help you organize your dating calendar and schedule. They can sort through hits, help you finalize dates, and offer you some great practical advice.

See? Technology isn’t all that bad!

3. Use “Second-Tier” Social Media Websites

Apps, such as Tinder, are too obvious for dating purposes. You should use them. However, you must not completely neglect the second-tier social media websites as they also have plenty of great dating opportunities.

We all know the power of Facebook. You can find out about a person’s relationship status, likes, preferences, past relationships, mood, and pretty much everything in between. Manually search for your best possible matches there and don’t be afraid to reach out to them.

Also, don’t forget to use Twitter.

It will be hard — there is no doubt about that. But using Twitter for dating purposes has a very distinct advantage, i.e., not everybody does that. People are more focused on OkCupid and Tinder, which gives you an uncompetitive dating domain on Twitter.

Here are a few tips:

  • Don’t just randomly follow people hoping that will land you a date

  • Twitter is a very active and dynamic platform. The kind of content someone is sharing on their Twitter profile is a great reflection of their personality. Try to connect with that.

  • Don’t be afraid to send a direct message (DM) to your potential dates once you build enough familiarity. The last part is important here. You do not want to be seen as a creepy stalker. Start the conversation, make yourself known, and then smoothly take a more personal route.

The medium might have changed, but online dating is still all about ‘the game’. If you have it, you can use any digital medium to land yourself a date. On the same note, have you considered using Yelp for dating?

Yeah, it’s a real thing, and it is working very well for some people.

Why Yelp?

Again, people don’t usually go to Yelp with the intent of finding new dates. This gives you lesser competition and a greater advantage. Secondly, although Yelp isn’t designed to help you find dates, it is actually perfect for that.

How?

  • The profiles are very comprehensive — at least, they give you a brief introduction of someone.

  • People add a lot of photos to their Yelp profiles.

  • Unlike Facebook, you will not find many fake accounts on Yelp — which is a huge relief for online daters.

  • You can easily start communication by sending a direct message. You can also follow people.

  • Most importantly, you can understand someone’s personality by reading the reviews they give. In those reviews, you will not only find out the places they go to, but you will also learn all about their preferences, likes, and dislikes. To me, that’s an excellent advantage to have.

If you play it cool, you can declare your dating intent by sending them a direct message and make it work in your favor.

4. How to Game Photos?

The success of your online dating endeavors largely depends on the photos you upload. There is no doubt about it.

However, unfortunately, there are no fixed rules on how to game photos. It mainly depends on what the other person decides to see in you. But it doesn’t mean that we do not have any tips for you. In fact, we have a few of them.

  • A medium shot almost always works well. Extreme close-up shots do not create much interest, and neither do far away shots.

  • Never use a narrow portrait. It indicates that you might have someone cropped out of the pic. It’s a huge turnoff.

  • A study by Wake Forest University proves that photos that show the left side of your face more prominently are more likely to be perceived as pleasant. It is because we present more emotion with the left side of the face.

  • Another study — this time by Tracy & Bell, 2011 — studied the different emotion expressions and the level of attractiveness each emotion generates. It was observed that men found smiling and happy women more attractive. On the other hand, women were found to be most attracted to men who displayed pride. So, the next time you take a photo for your online dating profile, display a little bit of masculinity and pride (head tilted up and expanded chest).

And you can always get creative with your photos, like this.

Final Words

Online dating doesn’t need to be hard. Use the techniques that are mentioned in this article for better results. If you don’t have the time, hire professionals — virtual dating assistants — and leave it to up to them.

Good luck.

More by this Author


Comments 3 comments

dashingscorpio profile image

dashingscorpio 11 months ago

Very good tips!

It pays to research apps and sites before selecting one. There are also niche sites along with Meetup.com for hobby and interest groups.

It's important that people remember online dating sites and apps are just another (tool) for meeting new people.

You're responsible for who you say "yes" to.

Just as a fork is a tool for eating. One can eat a garden salad or they can eat a slice of double fudge chocolate cake. However no obese person would ever blame {their fork} for their weight gain!

And yet lots of people will blame online dating sites and apps for their bad dating experiences!

Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

If you are having one bad dating/relationship experience after another it's probably time you re-examine your "mate selection criteria".

When we change our circumstances change.


mackyi profile image

mackyi 11 months ago from Philadelphia

Very interesting! I guess because the probability of you finding a mate ---- when you hardly even go out to meet people --- is very slim, the internet, Apps, social media, etc, somewhat emerged as a blessing in disguise, especially for these home bound individuals. However, you have to find the best venue --- for lack of words --- to "market" yourself! It's just a matter of choice or what seemingly works for you!


dashingscorpio profile image

dashingscorpio 11 months ago

mackyi, You're absolutely right!

In many ways I believe online dating and sites like Meetup.com which is primarily for people with hobbies and similar interests are especially good for people in their mid 40s and beyond.

After one reaches a certain age they are either very busy with their career or are past the age of wanting to stand in long lines waiting to get into an overcrowded nightclub. No guy wants to be the old dude sitting at the bar looking at the doorway every time someone walks in. :)

Another great thing about online dating is there are various niche sites for anyone's "must haves" such those seeking a particular age range, race, religion, political affiliation, pet owners and so on. I'd say the free sites are for the most part a waste of time. Anytime something is "free" you are bound to get a ton of undesirables in the pool.

Nevertheless everyone is responsible for who (they choose) to engage with!

It's not where you meet but (whom) you meet that counts!

    Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account.

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No HTML is allowed in comments, but URLs will be hyperlinked. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites.


    Click to Rate This Article
    working