5 Smart, 5 Stupid Things to Do When You Have a Crush on Someone

A man with a hopeless crush on another woman

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(The guy to the right) is in pure-misery. He is dating this decent-looking woman, but he has this hopeless crush on a woman at work. But she, the woman at work, doesn't have a clue that this man feels this way about her.

So he goes through the motions of loving the decent-looking woman while pining-away for the lovely, feminine woman he works with in the Accounting Department.

His crush on his coworker is so serious, that he gets about three hours of sleep at night. Then he is up by 4 a.m. to drink coffee, shower, look his best for work just so if he gets the chance, he will tell his "coworker crush," of how he feels. This guy is in serious trouble.

"I think I will tell her how I really feel."

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I said (the guy in the blue sweater) was in serious trouble

because he is on the border between doing (at least) 5 Stupid Things or 5 Smart Things about telling his coworker of his true feelings.

Guys, if you are in the same shape as this guy, pay attention. Do not let having a crush on a sweet woman "blind you of common sense." Stop right where you are and do some serious thinking.

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Crushes have been around for years | Source
This man cannot stand to be away from his crush
This man cannot stand to be away from his crush | Source

Here Are 5 Smart Ways to Tell Your Crush How You Feel

  • Gently talk your way up to the point of confessing your feelings. Your crush will appreciate your patience and respect for her. Women like things like respect and honor, so do your best to be methodical and at the same time, precise in your confession. Take your time. She will understand how much pressure you have been under.
  • Send or hand-deliver a special note or card to your crush. Inside the note or card will be your simple-worded invitation for her to have dinner with you at a low-key restaurant. Do not "put on airs." Women can see right through these flimsy attempts to confess your feelings.
  • Be direct with your crush. And tell her when there are no other people around. At work, be careful to not let people hear you. Oh, and if you two are married to other people, you have to be extra-careful if this works for you or not. A wrong word overheard can lead to two marriages being in-trouble and two friends losing a great friendship.
  • Ask her if she would like to take a walk with you in the park on a pretty day and say in a gentle manner, "Oh, and I need to tell you something while we are at the park." And wink at her. A little flirting never hurts.
  • Be bold. Go for it. Sometimes women like for chivalry to be presented to them. Just be out with it. But here is your out if she balks, "I do not want us to stop being good friends, but I have to confide in you about something." That statement shows trust for her and at the same time, your need to talk to her.


"Why did I do that?" Tell my crush how I feel by buying her $50,000 worth of stock.

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Now you can cry all you want. You have lost a good friend because you were too impatient in telling her how you feel about her
Now you can cry all you want. You have lost a good friend because you were too impatient in telling her how you feel about her | Source
A man is at his most-foolish when he does something stupid when he tells his crush  how he feels by hiring a professional singer to sing her "his" song
A man is at his most-foolish when he does something stupid when he tells his crush how he feels by hiring a professional singer to sing her "his" song | Source
Being alone, and stupid, are not good feelings
Being alone, and stupid, are not good feelings | Source

Here Are 5 Stupid Ways to Tell Your Crush How You Feel

  • Do Not rush-out and purchase your crush a new car. Seriously? You have wanted to tell her about you having a crush on her, but a new car? And you with enough payments already. This is a stupid move on so many levels. Your crush will be shocked and then be confused because she may not feel the same as you. Be careful. Do not buy a new car, but maybe a single red rose will do the trick.
  • Do Not go overboard. The yelling, "I am into you," at work only works in the movies, not real-life. She could stop being your close friend and tell you to never talk or look at her again. Telling your crush about how you really feel is no a thing to gamble on. Think before you do this thing.
  • Do Not start using phrases like: "When you and I are married," "You can quit your job and I will keep working." She will look at you like you are a fool. And you are a fool if you do this. You have had this serious crush on this lovely lady for about one month. And you are now wanting to marry her?
  • Do Not call her every day. I am serious. Sure, women love attention, but at the right time. If you do this stupid move to confess your feelings, she will go from saying, "Hello," to "Oh, you again," so get a hold on your emotions. Call her occasionally.
  • Do Not bombard her with asinine questions if another guy should talk to her. "Who was that? Your new man?" Questions like this will surely ruin any chance you ever had to let your lovely crush know how you really feel toward her.

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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Great tips here and you said all with a simple explanation. A helpful and interesting hub. Having a crush on someone certainly makes one want to do stupid things.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear DDE,

Thank you for stopping by to see me and read my new hub. And thanks for the comment. I appreciate it.

I have asked you in the past, what does the DDE stand for?

I appreciate your input

Have a peaceful day.

Kenneth


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grand old lady 2 years ago from Philippines

Interesting tips. However, if the girl really doesn't like the guy, I think no approach will work. And if she likes the guy, she may be the one to either gently pave the way to express his feelings or say it herself. Depends on the girl. Life, courtship, I am so glad to be over this!


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

grand old lady,

Thank you for your comment. I appreciate your candor. You are also right. It depends on the girl and how she handles his method of confessing his feelings for her.

Most girls will be flattered, and even if she is not interested n him, her maternal, nurturing hormones will start to work and she will show compassion on his suffering.


sheilamyers 2 years ago

I think these tips can apply to men or women who have a crush. I'm going to remember these in case the guy I think is Mr Right walks into my life. I sure don't want to say anything stupid and mess it up.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, sheilamyers,

Thanks for the comment, and I have faith in you that you will not mess up.

I sense from your writing that you are a wise, discerning girl who knows the score and will not be taken for a ride.

Am I right?


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catgypsy 2 years ago from the South

We do indeed do some stupid things when we have crushes! Great list of do and donts!


sheilamyers 2 years ago

Ken: Thanks for the compliment and I hope my wisdom and discernment don't get knocked out of kilter when I finally go all silly in love with someone.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Catgypsy (still love typing that name),

Thanks and yes, we do tend to be crazed when we find out we are in crush with someone.

I know. I have been so stupid and had such bad-timing on when to tell the girl how I felt that I am a self-proclaimed "Crush Expert."

That was a joke.

Love, Kenneth


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, sheilamyers,

I am confident that you will remain as you are now: Confident, independent, wise, discerning, sharp to his flimsy demeanor. You will be great. I am not telling a lie.

By the tone of your hubs and comments, you are one tough lady.

I mean that in a good way.

Kenneth


sheilamyers 2 years ago

Ken: Thank you for the wonderful compliments.


Kenneth Avery 2 years ago

Dear sheilamyers,

You are very welcome. It is the truth. There are Two Things I Try not to waste: Time and Words. So when I give you a compliment, I am not wasting time.

I am so glad that I met you on HP.

And thankful for all of the adventures we will have.

Have a Safe Night,

Your Friend,

Kenneth/ from Northwest Alabama

a/k/a Kenneth/from Northwest Alabama


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Mega Galatic 2 years ago from NYC

I've had a crush on this guy for years. I don't dare tell him. I just stare at his profile pic on fb all day lol

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