50 Things You Can Do To Pass Time When You're Single

I may be single, but I will always be fabulous.
I may be single, but I will always be fabulous. | Source
Do improve yourself physically, mentally, socially, academically, environmentally... you get the picture.
Do improve yourself physically, mentally, socially, academically, environmentally... you get the picture. | Source
Get yourself pampered. Best. Medicine. Ever.
Get yourself pampered. Best. Medicine. Ever. | Source
Whatever you do, NEVER wait around for a person to call.
Whatever you do, NEVER wait around for a person to call. | Source
By all means, scratch your plans for the pity party in the afternoon.
By all means, scratch your plans for the pity party in the afternoon. | Source
Celebrate being single. You have no idea how many couples are jealous of you.
Celebrate being single. You have no idea how many couples are jealous of you. | Source

Scared, bored or tired of being single? Here's some tips to pass the time.

What not to do: pull split ends, call your ex (or drunk text them), wallow in self-pity.

What you should never do: Facebook stalk your ex, post drama queen messages on your news feed, eat yourself into a trip to the ER, have cheap affairs to dull the pain.

Well, if you're single, and have been for some time, you might consider the last tip as a "break in case of emergency" last resort. But make sure you use protection (and at least be somewhat selective with your choice of emergency warm body).

For all non-emergencies, here's a list of 50 fabulous things to do while your single. I'm sure you're an expert at passing the time on your own, but in case the thought of breaking the glass comes to mind, here's a few ideas before desperation sets in:

  1. Draw. You don't have to be artistic, just pick up a pen or pencil and doodle. Very therapeutic. Especially when you draw an ex with horns and a snake tongue.
  2. Volunteer. What do you like? Pets? Art? Kids? Try any place where they can be found, like a shelter, museum or hospital. It really gives you a boost to give unconditionally.
  3. Write. Journal your thoughts. Start a blog. Write a novel you've always dreamed of. Oh, here's a crazy thought: join HubPages.com and become a contributor!
  4. Do yoga. Not only can you get in shape, but you can find your inner peace. This is even better for guys: you can meet lots of women as they outnumber men by about 30:1.
  5. Get your hair done. No need for the $200 salon treatment. If you are tight on your budget, find a local beauty school where they will pamper your hair for less.
  6. Find an extra job. Look up freelancing opportunities in your area doing what you're skilled at. The extra income will make you feel better, and give you more liquid cash to pay for liquid pleasure at the bars on weekends.
  7. Read. Go online for quick articles or read a novel about enlightenment. You can't go wrong if you give yourself some time. Oh, but stay away from the sparkly vampire stories... it's bad for your blood.
  8. Make friends. That means you'll have to get out and socialize, so yeah, be brave. The worst that can happen: you're ignored. The best that can happen: you meet new friends. Duh.
  9. Play music loud and sing along. Or just dance. You don't need an audience. A mirror in your home will do.
  10. Try on outfits. This is a tip mostly for women, but it won't hurt to try regardless. How many times have you been invited somewhere and said, "I have nothing to wear!" Well then go and find something ahead of time.
  11. Pay your bills. I know, you should do it anyway, but sometimes you forget this stuff when you're so busy being single... and fabulous.
  12. Do some gardening. Assuming you are a homeowner or rent a place with a yard. Otherwise, you can buy a house plant and just nurture it. Find something low-maintenance like a cactus, or you'll be more depressed when you see the withering plant when you come home.
  13. Wash your car. I know, Captain Obvious again, but really, when you wash your car by hand and see the before and after result, it really can give you a boost for a sense of accomplishment.
  14. Put on some sexy clothes. Hey, you don't need a partner to feel sexy. You can psyche yourself up for the real deal when it happens by having dress rehearsals in the meantime.
  15. Watch feel-good movies. I suggest Bridesmaids for women, The Hangover for men. Bonding with friends-- that's where it's at... *wipes tear*
  16. Bond with your friends. Schedule regular visits with the homies (or home-girls). *wipes tear*
  17. Take a luxury bath. Scented candles, bath oil, soothing music, ambiance... the whole nine yards. You're worth it.
  18. Do yourself. Why not? No one is watching.
  19. Buy something you want but don't need. And in my case, that's something I need but can't afford on my priority list. Go ahead: buy the name-brand hair conditioner!
  20. Laugh. Watch a funny movie or attend a comedy show.
  21. Clean out the clutter. Don't be in denial-- we all have some junk hanging around. Pull it out and throw it away, have a garage sale, advertise it online, or schedule a pickup with a donation center. YOU CAN DO IT!
  22. Find a new look. For women: try a new makeup style using magazines as inspiration. For guys: change the color of your shirt.
  23. Find a new hobby. Always wanted to try cooking? Go to a food instruction course at a local college or find an amateur chef holding classes at his or her home. Try Craigslist.
  24. Go for a walk. You must have some access to public passages near your home. Go. Walk. Talk to yourself. Talk to your imaginary friend. Relax and enjoy the views.
  25. Go for a bike ride. Assuming you have a bike, of course.
  26. Chat online. That is: with people who are single, and you aren't leading them on with false hope.
  27. Adopt a pet. Once you do, you'll have lots to do as a responsibility to your pet. You won't even wonder what you should do to pass the time.
  28. Tend to kids. Assuming that you have them. Or you can spoil someone else's kids-- assuming they're your close friends or relatives.
  29. Do an act of kindness. Pay a homeless person on the street. Let the person behind you with less groceries ahead of you. Pay for the person behind you in the toll booth. Karma, baby!
  30. Cut out one bad habit. Drink too much? Talk too much? Watch too much porn? Cut back on the bad, and accentuate the good. It's a win-win.
  31. Enter a marathon. Remember that you'll have to work up to it by starting weeks or months in advance. Otherwise, you might throw up and pass out on the event.
  32. Go to a reception. Art gallery? History museum? Concert? Where there's red tape to be cut, there's opportunity to mingle. Go-- socialize!
  33. Start a project. Men are good at this with their model cars and fixing real cars. Women: try knitting a sweater, try a new recipe, or do some Spring cleaning (even if it's the dead of winter).
  34. Attend church. Assuming you don't already. Or try a new one. Break away from being a creature of habit. After all, religion is about acceptance and tolerance. You can't go wrong.
  35. Try a new food. Hate curry? That's okay, so do I. But do try to expand your taste buds by trying new things. You might find that new flavors are just what the doctor ordered.
  36. Hibernate. Figuratively speaking, of course. You don't have to date. Enjoy your time on your own snuggling up with a warm blanket and the TV.
  37. Try something you've never tried before. This goes beyond your culinary escapades. Go for something that requires actions, words, writing, or energy.
  38. Clean out the clutter-- in your life. Reconnect with old friends or loved ones you've been neglecting. Take on the goal you've been putting off. The best that can happen is you find the true self you've always tried to be.
  39. Take a class in a new passion. You're never too old to learn, nor are there too many skills you've aced. Common... be honest with yourself and try something new and daring.
  40. Clean your room. Hate to sound like a mommy, but the answer I often get from my kids is, "I felt so much better when I cleaned up. I can't believe I didn't do this sooner!"
  41. Dance. Oh yeah, like Lady Gaga sings, "Just dance!" Best way to wiggle out your stress and feel tons better-- instantly!
  42. Drive. I love the way a long drive on the 405 near the beach feels when I drive back from LA. Assuming there's no traffic. All two days of the year, of course.
  43. Go to the beach. Oh, like the previous post, there's something so fundamental about hearing the waves crashing, the seagulls crying and the peacefulness that nothing else matters but you and the sand beneath you at the moment. If you're on any coast-- DO IT!
  44. Lay on a makeshift beach. Like the previous post, any watering hole will do. Just have a blanket, lay down, close your eyes and relax. The motion of the ocean (or lake, river or stream) will do the rest.
  45. Call your friends. "Reach out and touch someone" was not just a marketing logo-- it is a call for humanity!
  46. Shoot something. Okay, take pictures preferably. But shooting guns, paint balls, BB's, or going to a laser tag center will do the trick. Bring a friend if you have to... or make a new one.
  47. Forgive. Take time to look back at old wounds, and learn to let go of old animosity. It will do YOU more good than it does your enemies.
  48. Burn old photos. You know the ones I'm talking about. Do it. It's cathartic-- trust me!
  49. Make plans. Get out your calender and start penciling things in. Even if it says, "Dinner for one, starring 'me'."
  50. Rest. Go to bed early, or take a nap. When you're rested, you're more able to deal with the stresses of life. You owe yourself that favor. Make time and do it.

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ChitrangadaSharan 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

Celebrate your freedom and avoid self pity---are the most important things to do. Keeping yourself busy always works. Useful and comprehensive list of ' To do' things, when you are single---nice and interesting hub. Thanks for sharing.


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wonderful1 4 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks for that, ChitrangadaSharan. Time flies when you're in love or having fun, so if you don't have love in your life, at least have fun in the meantime.


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nurseleah 4 years ago from West Virginia

Oh, I had to stop reading and skip straight to the "Comments" section when I got to #22: "For guys: change the color of your shirt." Too funny!

When I'm single, I love to get as healthy as possible. I've got plenty of time to count calories, simple and complex carbs, proteins, saturated and unsaturated fats, etc. I have time for gym activities, new exercise regimens, and more.

I also love any philanthropy activities, especially those that involve road trips with friends. A couple of friends and I recently drove 6 hours to do a suicide walk. It was incredibly cathartic. This article actually makes me miss being single. Freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want to do it and be totally self-obsessed...priceless.


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wonderful1 4 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you, nurseleah. I appreciate the kind feedback. Good to see you're on the right path, regardless of being single. Kudos!


buddhaanalysis 4 years ago

I do these things cos i'm born single.


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beibe 3 years ago

#'s 29,39,41, and 47 all strike me as doable. #48 I don't know about. Did that in 2004 and now regret not having them anymore. I am just starting here and like your article. It's plain to see that you have a talent for writing. Will enjoy reading more in the future. beibe


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Efficient Admin 3 years ago from Charlotte, NC

Join Meetup.com to find a group that specializes in doing activities you love to do, i.e. hiking, dining out, volunteering, you name it - you will probably find it on meetup. Get out there and make new friends and have fun.

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