6 Ways to Ruin Relationships Fast
Here are six behaviors that tend to ruin our relationships with others. If you want to drive someone away, try one of these six behaviors. If you want to nurture your relationships, try doing the opposite.
Always assume the worst. Constantly accusing your partners, friends and co-workers of malicious actions and harmful intent will ultimately push those you accuse to seek other relationships. No one likes to be doubted, falsely accused, snapped at and thought of in a negative light, especially when they are trying so hard to make you happy. If someone was constantly assuming the worst about you, wouldn't you want to steer clear and find someone else to spend your time with who saw just a little bit of good in you.
Take people for granted. Treat those close to you like doormats that will always be there for you to use and abuse. Never saying thanks for kind acts or showing your appreciation to those in your life will breed resentment over time. People need to know they are of value and that you appreciate what they add to your life. Automatically assuming that someone will always be there and taking him/her for granted is the quickest way to lose someone.
Be a nagger. Naggers constantly point out what they don’t like about someone else’s behaviors, life choices, style of dress and more . . .
They never stop pointing out faults, telling you what to do and gripping about what is wrong. If you get to nagging someone all the time, pretty soon there will be no one to nag. People hate to hear constant criticism and will look to surround themselves with people who do anything but criticize.
Know it All. Know it all behavior discounts the ideas of others and people who are "know it alls" never think that someone else can do anything with competence or in the correct way. They always have an opinion about the proper way to do any task and know every thing about every thing, stifling the creativity and enthusiasm of those around them. People want to have their ideas and skills counted and discounting them will make people avoid you and your know it all ways.
Break trust often. Sure, everyone lets someone down or breaks a promise and has to say sorry and make amends to earn that trust back. Habitual trust beakers are people who constantly show that they can not be trusted and destroy any faith in their ability to be dependable, honorable and true to their word. Relationships without trust are hardly worth having and lead to a history of hurt feelings and bitterness.
Overly Needy. Nothing turns people off more than being constantly in need and being unable to stand on your own two feet. I am talking about being emotionally needy, smothering and clingy to those around you. Neediness is characterized by excessive phone calls, texting, emails and all around stalker-ness ~ demanding attention at every turn. Relationships take time and space to grow. Excessive neediness turns people off.
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