Qualities of a Good Friend
Friendships are precious. We forge countless friendships as we go on with our lives. We come to expect a lot out of them and of our friends. Good friends, however, are hard to come by. We are often disappointed at a friend having let us down. While it takes a lot to build up friendships, it takes a matter of seconds to destroy them. The disappointment is greater often times because we have not recognized a friend as being a good friend. There are friends and there are good friends. Good friends can be differentiated from the rest by certain characteristics, which may seem obvious, but are rarely reflected upon by most people. If you really want to know if a friend is a good friend, then evaluate them on the following parameters.
Who is a Good Friend - Qualities to Look For in a Good Friend
These are the qualities that differentiate an ordinary friend from a true friend!!
Trust: A good friend is someone you can trust totally with your deepest and darkest secrets, knowing full well that they would not share it with anyone else. A good friend will not break your trust and gossip behind your back.
Loyalty: A good friend is absolutely loyal to you through thick and thin. A good friend doesn't betray you when the going gets tough. A backstabbing friend is no friend.
Honesty: A good friend is someone who is not a "YES person." They will not be afraid to criticize you or point out your flaws. A good friend will not think about pleasing you at all times by saying YES, when in fact the situation warrants that they say things which may be unpleasant, but true.
Accepting: A good friend accepts you for what you are, no matter what the world thinks of you. A good friend does not try to change you, except for suggesting things you can improve upon and pointing out where you are going wrong, constructively.
Supportive: A good friend always supports you, especially when you need their support. A good friend enjoys your successes as if it were their own. A good friend isn't jealous or envious of your successes.
Helpful: A good friend is someone who takes the time to help you out with things you need helping out with, without looking at it as a chore or avoidable hassle.
Understanding: A good friend is one who understands you and knows when something is troubling you. When others can't see anything wrong with your body language, a good friend knows something is up, seeks to find out the source of the trouble and helps come up with solutions to the problems you are having.
Nonjudgmental: A good friend is nonjudgmental and doesn't rush into making superficial, instantaneous and often hurtful judgments about your actions without understanding or seeking to understand the reasons behind them. Rather, a good friend takes time to look at a particular action of yours and how you've handled it from your point of view and offers constructive opinions / suggestions of how you could have handled it differently, if it could have been handled differently and in a better manner.
Stays in Touch: A good friend isn't oblivious of you or your existence and calls or contacts you occasionally, if not often, to know how you are doing. A good friend is concerned about you and your well being even when they are away from you and would be bothered about you if they haven't heard from you in a while.
Doesn't Use You: A good friend would never use you to further their own interests. Whether it be money or something else, a good friend would not be bothered about it all - just you! A friend is not a good friend if they just hang around with you for what you have to give them, rather than be with you for you!
Not Embarrassed To Be With You: A good friend would never be embarrassed to be with you, rather proud of you! He/she wouldn't bother about what others have to say about them being friends with you. He/she would stay with you through thick and thin no matter what people around say. They wouldn't be bothered about how you look or what you do. They would just treasure you for who you are - the person you are.
Sacrifice: A good friend makes sacrifices for you and isn't selfish and self-centered. You matter equally to them - their world doesn't just revolve around themselves.
Money: A good friend doesn't let money get in the way of your friendship. They don't hang around with you for your money or the perks that come with it. A good friend stays with you and supports you irrespective of whether you are rich or poor.
Share Interests: A good friend may not always share all of your interests, but should at least share a few of them.
Listener: A good friend is a good listener, who is there to listen to you whenever you need to share your thoughts.
Respectful: A good friend would not put you down in front of others. They would respect you and would treat you just the way you would treat them - with respect.
Friends are hard to find and good friends, harder still. If you have a truly good friend, you are one of the lucky few because good friends aren't that easy to find these days, so count your blessings and keep your good friend! They are truly invaluable and irreplaceable. While it may take years to develop a strong friendship and have a true friend, it only takes seconds to break that friendship. So, treasure your friendship and your friend and don't take it for granted. Especially, don't let your friendship break over petty, small reasons. A good friendship, like a plant, needs constant nurturing and tending to. So, do not neglect your friend or friendship or take it for granted. Keep working at it and you'd be a much happier person for having a friend that you can really depend on and turn to when you really need him/her.
Quotes on Friends and Friendship!!
Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.
It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.
True wealth can not be found in your bank account. It can only be found in those you call friend. Those with whom you share your deepest feelings. And those who accept you for who you really are.
A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else.
Your friend is that man who knows all about you, and still likes you.
A true friend is one who overlooks your failures and tolerates your success.
Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself-and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is.
A true friend stabs you in the front.
Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success.
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.
A good friend can tell you what is the matter with you in a minute. He may not seem such a good friend after telling.
~ Arthur Brisbane
A true friend unbosoms freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeably.
~ William Penn
© 2011 Shil1978
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