A Personal High School Reunion 42 Years Later

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I Connect With a Classmate from the Past

Last year, I received an email from a classmate who I had gone to school with 42 years ago, and I was delighted.

After exchanging several emails, we exchanged phone numbers and he called me. I spent well over an hour speaking with him. It was a great conversation, and we shared a lot of laughs. He made several more calls, and we realized that we would have to talk again, after all, 42 years is a lot to catch up on!

When we weren't on the phone, we talked online. I came home from work one day to find an email, asking was I free on Saturday for lunch. I was taken by surprise at first, gave it some thought, and replied that yes, I would love to join him for lunch. We agreed to meet at an old diner we both frequented when we were kids in high school.

I Remember What Once Was

Saturday arrived, finally. I awoke at 5 a.m., realizing today is the big day, the lunch date. Several thoughts cross my mind, such as, should I go or not? What will he look like? What will he think of me? Will we find the meeting awkward? Even though we chatted on the phone and online rather easily, will we find ourselves at a loss for words once we meet?

As I went about my day, I wondered if the boy I remember now the man he has become? Will I recognize the boy I remember? Will he have changed much? Will our lives have been spent in two different worlds? What will go through his mind upon meeting me? Will I be the girl he remembers, or not?

So, while I was waiting for my coffee to brew, I tried to process these thoughts, then just as quickly, put them out of my mind. I went about my morning routine, fully aware of the time. It was now 10:00 a.m., and we were meeting at 1 p.m. I guessed I should start getting ready and decide what to wear. After I took my shower, it was now time to look over my choices of what to wear. I picked out an outfit, and thought, this looks good. I put it on, looked in the mirror and said, oh heavens, it's awful. So, ok, I'll pick something else. Well, this went on for about 20 more minutes when I finally decided on black pants and a brown knit top with sparklies around the V-neck, just a bit more casual than dressy. Now, for the hair and makeup. I wasn't feeling good about the hair, so I messed around with it some more till I got a look I could live with. Now, it was time for the makeup. I have to take my glasses off to put makeup on, which kind of defeats the purpose, so I asked my daughter to do it for me. There, done, perfect. A spritz of perfume, something light. It was now 10:40 a.m. I went and fixed another coffee and played on the computer to kill some more time. I had a 30 minute ride to get to our meeting place, so I finished my coffee and hit the road at 11:00 a.m. I suddenly realized, that will make it 11:30 a.m. when I arrive at the diner, leaving me 90 more minutes till we met. Heavens, was I anxious or what? I was beginning to feel like the 17 year old girl I once was, the one with butterflies in her stomach. I thought, ok, it's time for a short detour.

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 Killing Time With the Butterflies

I turned off the highway and headed to the car wash. My truck really needed a washing anyway.

I arrived at the car wash and the line wasn't bad. I got out of my truck and went to the cashier, then waited outside. It came out in a few minutes, and I hopped in, checked the time, and thought, ok, that killed a whole 20 minutes. I headed on back out to the highway. To kill more time, I decided to do the speed limit. I arrived at the diner, and it was now 12:15 p.m. Still another 45 minutes to go.

As I sat there in the diner parking lot, I listened to my cds, music from the 60s of course. My cd player is belting out songs of yesteryear, flooding me with memories of my beloved high school dances. As I recalled the dances of the day, I realized we never even danced with each other, nor did we ever date. We actually hung around with different people.

I kept checking the time. It was now12:33 p.m, ok, less than 30 minutes to go. Feeling jittery, with those butterflies in my tummy, heavens, I was feeling like I was on my first date. But wait, this is not a romantic meeting, just old school chums catching up. Calm down Patty.

We Meet

Finally, I saw a man approaching, he came to my window, held up a picture, and said, do you remember this guy? I had to laugh. I couldn't believe it! After all these years, he was the same, a bit thinner than I remember (wish I could say the same about me LOL), and his smile! It just lit up his face. I jumped out of the car, and we gave each other a big hug and with a peck on the cheek, off we went to eat.

We spent probably two hours in the diner, and our waiter couldn't have been more charming. The waiter asked, would you like something to drink, so of course we said yes, coffee for me and tea for him. The drinks came and we continued smiling and talking. Probably another ten minutes went by, when the waiter came back and said, are you folks ready to order? I said uh, actually, no. We were so engrossed in conversation we hadn't even looked at the menu, and the young waiter said no problem, take your time, as he walked away with a smile on his face too.

Gee, did we look like we were on a date? Did we really look that happy? I guess so. After a short while, the waiter brought us our food. Everything looked great, so we proceeded to eat. Once we were done, the waiter brought our check and we left the diner to take our tour.



  We Visit Old Haunts

We didn't have far to go, less than a mile to our little town. Our town is only one mile square, so it doesn't take long to go through it.

Wow, so many changes! The old high school is closed. The boat club by the bay is where we used to go to swim, and it is now home to the new high school and million dollar condos on the water. We then drove down to the water works, where we used to go ice skating. It's still there, but I doubt anyone goes there anymore. The police station that sat next to our school was torn down. They decided to put it in an existing building on Broadway, the street where all the little stores are. Some of the stores still had the names we grew up with. The many old, wonderful trees that used to line our streets have been removed, giving the town a rather sterile look. The old railroad trestle that crossed over the street by my house, gone. Trains no longer go through that part of town.

We drove down to our old school and parked. We got out, walked up the steps and peered in the window. The room was still looking the way we remembered it, old desks, old chairs and chalkboard. We tried to recollect teachers' names, and came up with more than we thought we'd remember. As we walked by the auditorium doors, we recalled the dances held there, our favorite place to be on a Friday night.

He had suggested to me prior to this meeting that I should bring a camera. 

Well, I didn't, and he couldn't find his, so we were without cameras. He had wanted us to sit or stand on the steps and grab some passer-by and ask them to take our picture, as he wanted to post it in our Classmates website. That would have been so neat, but hey, a good excuse to get together again :)

So, we left there and drove down to the bay, to the new park that had been built by the water. We sat there and talked for probably another hour and finally he said it was time to get back.

I did not want it to end. He was so very nice looking, so very sweet, and oh, so funny! The greatest sense of humor, and he could tell you stories that just made you laugh out loud. When he smiled, his whole face lit up, and he had the most incredible blue eyes framed by charming crinkles, and wonderful laugh lines.

Why, I ask myself, was I not attracted to him in high school? Why did I always seem to go for the bad boy type? The Jimmy Dean type? The older guys who wore black leather jackets and maybe even drove a motorcycle or a souped-up car. Maybe I liked the idea of being a bit daring. Who knows? Back then, I was always a flirt.

Well, the time had come and we parted ways, and with a peck on the cheek, he said he had a great time and we'd have to do it again. My heart smiled .

On my way home, so many thoughts went through my mind. Why didn't we ever date? How different would my life have been? Apparently, it was not ever meant to be. After high school, I was fortunate and met a wonderful man (not from my school) who became my husband. But sometimes, you just wonder.

Comments 38 comments

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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

This is a very nice story. I enjoyed reading it. I have only missed one of my class reunions and always have a great, and interesting time. Thanks.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi James,

I wish I could say the same.  I've only been to one class reunion.  For whatever reason, our class didn't have our first reunion until 20 years passed.  Our town was so small and we had only 60 in our graduating class.  I attended my school for the whole 12 years, and through the years I have learned that several of my classmates met untimely deaths.

I did have a nice time at the reunion I attended.  I almost went to the last one but I didn't want to go alone, so if I'm still around I'll go to the next one.

Glad you enjoyed my hub, thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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John Z 7 years ago from Midwest

I really enjoyed reading your article. Have just been invited to my 35 year-lol-not sure I want to go. but this article pushed me closer to it. Thanks!


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi John!

Glad you enjoyed it.  My 43rd year is coming up, so I'm not sure when they are planning the next one.  With the rate we're losing people, it might be for the 45th.  I also need to renew my Classmates account if I want to get any more news.

I hear you about not being sure if you want to go.  My thought on that is, oh, I don't have that hourglass shape anymore, I'll be embarrassed.  A silly thought, really, because chances are my classmates don't look the same.  Case in point, the reunion I did go to, my girlfriend brought a guy over and said, Patty, you remember him.  I stared, and said, no, I'm sorry, I have no idea who he is.  Well, once I found out his name, I was shocked.  In school he was short, skinny and blonde.  Now, he is tall, dark haired, and good looking.  Not at all who I went to school with :)

So, I say, go!  We certainly aren't getting any younger.  Bring your camera and have a great time :)

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I created our class reunion and wasn't even the President of our class. It is always nice to see some of them again. I have 3 very close friends from 3rd grade that have been very close to me until this day. Thumbs up!!! :)


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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

What a delightful hub trish. What happened next? :)


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

hi Aevans,

Good for you!  That's quite an undertaking.  I'm lucky if I can put together a birthday party LOL.  My best friend and I have been friends since 1st grade.  There's nothing like new friends, but it's an accomplishment, I feel, to have a friend or friends from childhood, a nice, warm fuzzy feeling :)

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Feline,

Thanks! 

Ahh, a mystery :)

We're just friends and still talk now and then and get together for a lunch here and there, that's all.

Thanks for commenting :)


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muley84 7 years ago from Miami,FL

What a fun hub to read! It has been 36 yr since I graduated, God the years go by so fast. I hope to maake it home, Rochester, NY for my 40th reunion


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi muley,

Yes, the time sure does go quick.  Sometimes it feels like yesterday that I was just a kid.  My mind is still young but the body isn't cooperating LOL.

I hope you make it to your reunion!  You'll have a great time I'm sure :)

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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Christoph Reilly 7 years ago from St. Louis

lol, Trish! I guess you left early enough, huh? If I had gotten ready that early I would have been a nervous wreck by the time we met. Sounds like you had a great day, and you told the story so charmingly! Hug!


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KCC Big Country 7 years ago from Central Texas

I had to laugh about all the time you appeared to be taking bathing, fretting about clothes, hair and makeup... only to learn that only 40 minutes had elapsed. LOL It sounds like a wonderful date!


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Christoph! 

Yes, I sure did leave early enough.  I've never been one of those women who think it's ok to be 'fashionably' late.  I suppose the theory behind showing up late is to make the man salivate more in anticipation of the meeting.  On the other hand, showing up too early might suggest an over-eagerness or something.  I don't always show up early, and rarely too early.  It just depends on my level of excitement about something.  Most often, I'm within five minutes of the set time.

We did have a great time, and we plan on doing it again. 

I'm very happy that you found my hub.  I was beginning to feel abandoned LOL.  Hug back at ya!


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi KCC!

Yes, when I look back at it, it was all kind of silly.  I must have been reverting back to feeling like I was in high school again.  But hey, nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression :)

Thanks for stopping by!  Nice to see you again.


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Shelly McRae 7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

So, when are you seeing him again?


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Shelly,

Hard to say, I guess when time permits.

Thanks for stopping by.


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Sally's Trove 7 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Every time I read this story I love it more and more. It's got to be one of the best reunion tales ever. Of course, I'm a little prejudiced, as I know the characters as well as the setting. You brought back some lovely memories for me. A big thumbs up!


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hello dear friend,

Glad I could spark some old memories.  And yes, you do know the people involved, and I'd have to agree, we are characters LOL.

Glad you liked it and thanks for commenting :)


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Benjimester 7 years ago from San Diego, California

A very excellent story. I enjoyed it the whole way through. Just friends!?!?! Feline asked what I was wanting to. I would have thought for sure that something would have worked out. Maybe it still will? Who knows.

oh, by the way, I was hoping that I could send you a present in the mail :) To make a long story short, I've been working with a brand new publishing company recently, and have gotten two of my books printed, and I wanted to send you one as a present to thank you for all your encouragement. If you email me your address, I'll put it in the mail.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Benji!!

As much as everyone loves a love story with a happy ever after ending, this classmate and I simply share a school history and friendship.  I certainly don't have the benefit of being psychic LOL.  At this point, we will always be friends.

A present? for lil ol moi?  I am beyond flattered!  I'll be glad to send you my address, and I'll send it through HubPages.  Just promise me you're not a stalker, ok?  :)  Just kidding!

Glad you liked my story and thanks so much for stopping by and commenting.  It's always a pleasure to hear from you.


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Benjimester 7 years ago from San Diego, California

Haha, ok I promise. Thanks for emailing me. I'm going to try and put it in the mail tomorrow, but I might not send it until monday if I get bogged down with work.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Ok Benji, sounds like a plan. Thanks again!


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sixtyorso 7 years ago from South Africa

Great hub well told. I also seem to do a lot of calling back the past. I have friend from Grade 2 ,56 years ago we get together about once a year or so and pick up where we left off. amazing that.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi sixtyorso,

Thank you very much.  I too, have a best friend (female) from 1st grade and we've been best friends for the past 55 years.  We get together often since we don't live far from each other.  It's great, isn't it?

Thanks for stopping by and commenting :)


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Steve Rensch 7 years ago

44 years, and I've never been to one. Never thought I would. I didn't like high school much. But you're making me think about the next one.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Steve,

I say, go for it.  In fact, I just had lunch yesterday with my friend, and he talked about putting together a reunion for next year.  I'm a little excited about it, as it will give me the push I need, I think, to get some of this weight off :)

Chances are there will only be about 7 or 8 people left who will even show up.  My graduating class only had 60 kids.  Since our school was so small, what they have done is make our reunions for the freshmen through seniors.  I don't care for that, but, since the participation was never as good as it should have been is my guess why they changed it, simply to get a bigger turnout.

So, I'm glad I have you thinking about it at least.  Even though you weren't fond of school, my guess is you'll surprise yourself and have a good time.  I'm hoping you do, and if you do, I'd love to hear about your experience.

Thanks for commenting!


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ReMarkaBlogs 7 years ago

After reading this I just had to call my siblings in California to have them find out about our next reunion-can't wait to check out my fellow aging hippies.

This was written in such an easy to read, free flowing style, I enjoyed it. Thanks.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi ReMarkaBlogs,

That's great! I'm glad it inspired you. Hopefully you will be attending yours soon.

We just had another one this year, but I couldn't go. My classmate went and he said not one person from our class was there. Not surprising since my graduating class was a grand total of about 60 kids. Quite a few have passed on, sadly. So, I didn't miss much.

Glad you enjoyed this and thanks for commenting :)


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Putz Ballard 7 years ago

Enjoyed your hub, golly its been 42 years for me as well but it sure was a lot of fun.

Robert Ballard


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Robert,

Time sure has a way of speeding up the older we get, doesn't it? In my mind I still feel like I'm 17, however, the body differs :)

Thanks for stopping by and commenting, and for becoming my fan.


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lxxy 7 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

Hey trish,

This is a sweet and endearing story. Thank you for sharing, and congrats for having guts.

I find, far too often, that those you connect with at a distance remain to be those you connect to regardless of form.

It's quite often a sense of wonderment--what WOULD it have been like? But would you have it any other way? Besides, one of you, somewhere, is concurrently experiencing that reality.

Don't hog him all to yourself. ;)

Hope you guys can remain great friends, old memories resurrected and new ones set to begin.


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trish1048 7 years ago Author

Hi Ixxy,

We are still good friends and that's the way it will stay. Although we've led different lives, we have our history which opens up new dialogue about that history and where it's taken us, and exploring where the rest of our lives will take us. It's quite exciting.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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carolina muscle 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

I always wondered about what a reunion with someone from high school would be like... I just figured it'd be as unpleasant as high school was. LOL

Great post!!


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

oh, I hardly think so, carolina! I'm sure you had friends you'd like to see and catch up with, even if your school experience was unpleasant. A reunion is great for a lot of laughs, recalling the crazy things that were done when you were kids. So, wonder no more. Look up a buddy or two if there isn't a reunion looming in the near future. See if you could get together, go out for dinner and/or drinks and just have fun. Just sayin,,

Thanks for stopping by and commenting, I appreciate it. Glad you enjoyed.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

Very nice Trish. I like the walks down Memory Lane!


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trish1048 6 years ago Author

Hi Micky!

So do I! I'm all about nostalgia :)

In fact, I have a hub in the making about more long ago memories. Glad you enjoyed, and thanks for commenting.


Halwick 4 years ago

Very nice story and glad it was a positive experience. I once tried to reconnect with a former high school girlfriend I haven't seen in twenty years. We found we weren't the same people we used to be and didn't share any common interests. The lesson learned is never try to rekindle the past; the fire turned to umber.


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trish1048 4 years ago Author

Hi Halwick,

I'm sorry to hear you had a disappointing experience. In my case, this was just a friend, we never dated. I did once however reconnect with someone from my past, and it was nice at first, but as time went on I found, as you did, that we were pretty much on two different planets. No regrets, however.

Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

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