A great spouse is...
I just hate the word 'spouse' it sounds like spout or sprout or shout all of which are not the best redeeming qualities that I would want to find in any marriage.
Before anyone points out that sprout is not even a quality, I just detest them, those little green cabbages that smell when you cook them, taste like yuch and are all together revolting and they also make me sick...but my husband loves them with a passion. Guess what, I cook them for him , put up with that stench and serve them without moaning. If that 's not love ,I don't what is, What I am trying to say is that I will do anything to make my hubbie happy and to let him know how special he is to me.
By now , I am sure you are aware that this is my second marriage, as it is also, for my hubbie. Before we got married we became best friends and used to discuss anything and everything and generally put the world to rights. We found that we had similar interests and beliefs. The one thing that we both had very strong feelings about was our children, I had one son and he had two sons,well we agreed that before our feelings could be taken further, the boys had to not only accept us as a couple but also each other. All of this took time ,and soon we were one big family unit, with all three boys regarding us as the parents,and as important both of us taking all three boys as our sons.
At the time of our beginnings ,I had my own home, and the five of squeezed into this tiny two bedroomed cottage, not adequate by any stretch of the imagination. Friction within the family, caused by the home being mine and not an 'our' home was becoming a issue although nothing was said, I could feel it. Brainwave time I suggested that we sell the house and find one bigger and more suitable..there were arguments for and against..though the benefits of a move far outweighed the downside. In my wisdom and love for hubbie it was the best thing that I could have done ,everything , with a little thought for others , can be overcome. In my marriage I think and put the good of the family needs before my own .
We work well together,I keep the home and he keeps the garden .Both of us have input in the decision making but ultimately the final decision for our own domains is his or hers. We have found that this system not only unites us but also gives each other space for thought and creativity.
We both work, hubbie leaves for work at 6.45am as do I ,My job is split which allows me to be at home most of the day and to return to work again at 4pm. Hubbie comes home at 4.30. We share the meal preparation, I will prepare it all and leave instructions and bless his heart hubbie follows the instructions and cooks the evening meal for when I come home again at seven. Our lives are in sync, I do love him so.
It's the little things we do that make our lives the way they are. The laughter and the tears both make us appreciate one another. The other day, when I came home from work all tired and aching with a cold that would not go away, he told me that a bath was run for me. I went upstairs ,a bath with bubbles , candles and a rubber duck floating in the water. I laughed at the duck but what a wonderful thoughtful thing . This act of kindness was all the more special as hubbie is not one for showing emotion at all. Sometimes if I am down the shop I might pick up a silly sweet, chocolate egg or rabbit or even a gob stopper. great hilarity then, keeps him quiet for a while amid the laughter and the tears. Treating your loved one and making them feel special does not have to cost a lot, it's the thought and love behind that matters.
Housework, YUCK, Who actually enjoys housework, oh it's great when it's all done but the process, God. Anyway as I said we both work and in my opinion the housework shouldn't be all up to one person. I went on strike, hubbie started to moan that this wasn't done nor that, the debate followed, in conclusion I do what I do and if this does not meet with expectations then he should feel free to contribute. Problem solved, never moaned again and helps alot more...Please note this was in the early stages , not now .
We don't argue, [before you say , everyone argues] thats what I thought , but we don't. How can you possibly argue by yourself. If we disagree, we state our point of view and the other just clams up. We couldn't argue no matter how hard we try..You see we are both scorpios , we both have the sting, we were born 6 days apart and we both think and feel the same. Our sense of humour is warped if one of us gets wound up the other just laughs. Discussions take place in our house caus we are both always right!
Is it possible to have a soulmate? if it is then I think that I have found mine. Even now after 16 years my heart takes a leap when he comes home, I look forward to coming home and even rush to get there when I know he is there. My mind is consumed by him,don't get me wrong he can be very irritating at times, and so can I but all in all - I love him & he loves me - What more could anyone ask for?
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