A great spouse is...

I just hate the word 'spouse' it sounds like spout or sprout or shout all of which are not the best redeeming qualities that I would want to find in any marriage.

Before anyone points out that sprout is not even a quality, I just detest them, those little green cabbages that smell when you cook them, taste like yuch and are all together revolting and they also make me sick...but my husband loves them with a passion. Guess what, I cook them for him , put up with that stench and serve them without moaning. If that 's not love ,I don't what is, What I am trying to say is that I will do anything to make my hubbie happy and to let him know how special he is to me.

By now , I am sure you are aware that this is my second marriage, as it is also, for my hubbie. Before we got married we became best friends and used to discuss anything and everything and generally put the world to rights. We found that we had similar interests and beliefs. The one thing that we both had very strong feelings about was our children, I had one son and he had two sons,well we agreed that before our feelings could be taken further, the boys had to not only accept us as a couple but also each other. All of this took time ,and soon we were one big family unit, with all three boys regarding us as the parents,and as important both of us taking all three boys as our sons.

At the time of our beginnings ,I had my own home, and the five of squeezed into this tiny two bedroomed cottage, not adequate by any stretch of the imagination. Friction within the family, caused by the home being mine and not an 'our' home was becoming a issue although nothing was said, I could feel it. Brainwave time I suggested that we sell the house and find one bigger and more suitable..there were arguments for and against..though the benefits of a move far outweighed the downside. In my wisdom and love for hubbie it was the best thing that I could have done ,everything , with a little thought for others , can be overcome. In my marriage I think and put the good of the family needs before my own .

We work well together,I keep the home and he keeps the garden .Both of us have input in the decision making but ultimately the final decision for our own domains is his or hers. We have found that this system not only unites us but also gives each other space for thought and creativity.

We both work, hubbie leaves for work at 6.45am as do I ,My job is split which allows me to be at home most of the day and to return to work again at 4pm. Hubbie comes home at 4.30. We share the meal preparation, I will prepare it all and leave instructions and bless his heart hubbie follows the instructions and cooks the evening meal for when I come home again at seven. Our lives are in sync, I do love him so.

It's the little things we do that make our lives the way they are. The laughter and the tears both make us appreciate one another.                                          The other day, when I came home from work all tired and aching with a cold that would not go away, he told me that a bath was run for me. I went upstairs ,a bath with bubbles , candles and a rubber duck floating in the water. I laughed at the duck but what a wonderful thoughtful thing .                                This act of kindness was all the more special as hubbie is not one for showing emotion at all. Sometimes if I am down the shop I might pick up a silly sweet, chocolate egg or rabbit or even a gob stopper. great hilarity then, keeps him quiet for a while amid the laughter and the tears.                                                Treating your loved one and making them feel special does not have to cost a lot, it's the thought and love behind that matters.

Housework, YUCK, Who actually enjoys housework, oh it's great when it's all done but the process, God.  Anyway as I said we both work and in my opinion the housework shouldn't be all up to one person. I went on strike, hubbie started to moan that this wasn't done nor that, the debate followed, in conclusion I do what I do and if this does not meet with expectations then he should feel free to contribute. Problem solved, never moaned again and helps alot more...Please note this was in the early stages , not now .

We don't argue, [before you say , everyone argues] thats what I thought , but we don't. How can you possibly argue by yourself. If we disagree, we state our point of view and the other just clams up. We couldn't argue no matter how hard we try..You see we are both scorpios , we both have the sting, we were born 6 days apart and we both think and feel the same. Our sense of humour is warped if one of us gets wound up the other just laughs.                                 Discussions take place in our house caus we are both always right!

Is it possible to have a soulmate? if it is then I think that I have found mine. Even now after 16 years my heart takes a leap when he comes home, I look forward to coming home and even rush to get there when I know he is there. My mind is consumed by him,don't get me wrong he can be very irritating at times, and so can I but all in all  - I love him & he loves me - What more could anyone ask for?



A truly kind and thoughtful thing to do
A truly kind and thoughtful thing to do

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chillingbreeze 7 years ago from India

Aww, what a lovely hub. Frrankly speaking, found it little weird when I started readong but I enjoyed throughout. Yes, you've got a soulmate as I could make up from your hub, your intense feelings, and your delighted mood. Stay happy and pampered like this always :) It feels special I know..

P.s: But where's the duck?? I didn't see that in tub..lol


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall Author

Hello and welcome chillingbreeze, thankyou for your comments - wierd! I did say I had a warped sense of humour..lol


Iphigenia 7 years ago

The warmth and love that you have created fills this Hub - and the care that you and your husband put into making sure that your sons were comfortable at the beginning of your new relationship is an object lesson.

I'm with your husband on the sprout thing though - love them ! Sprouts and chestnuts mmmmmmmmm yummy - lots of windy-pops afterwards !


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall Author

Iphigenia , how could you possibly?Sprouts yuch

thank you for the great comments, I just tell it how it is , thanks again


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Lgali 7 years ago

Another good hub I enjoyed throughout

spouse or sprout..


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dagny roth 7 years ago from Neverland

How sweet! I am happy you found your soulmate! Iloved the rubber ducky!


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall Author

Thanks Lgali, pleased you enjoyed it.

Hi dagney roth, we haven't met before, really great you stopped here a while. Thanks for your comment.


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

Oh my goodness that is absolutely sweet, you are soulmates how wonderful that you found your love of a lifetime. :)


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall Author

Thanks AEvans, yes, I am truly blessed


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

You certainly are , and you are a relationship that many need to follow. My husband and I are the same way , not only lovers but best friends. :)


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall Author

Only way to be!!!!!!!!!


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Frieda Babbley 7 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

I love that thought, "we are both always right". That's a thought that would definitely solve many problems. I'm going to have to think about that one... maybe lol. No, actually, I think I just may talk about that one with my hubbie. It is a two way street, sacrifices and decisions and oppinions to be made and had by both and understood and accepted by both as such. That is certainly the key. Beautifully written, Hawkesdream. Glad you shared this story with us.


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Hawkesdream 7 years ago from Cornwall Author

Thank you Frieda for your comment, think talking is the best solution for any decision, that and compromise.


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wannabwestern 6 years ago from The Land of Tractors

I enjoyed this hub immensely. Lovely thoughts and so nicely done!


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Hawkesdream 6 years ago from Cornwall Author

Thank you wannabwestern, much appreciated


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oliversmum 6 years ago from australia

Hawkesdream. Hi. What an absolutely fabulous story and relationship with your spouse/sprout what ever works for you, but I am on his side as Brussell Sprouts are one of my favorite vege, but no one else in my family will eat them ,my partner is the complete opposite to me, so I don't win too many "discussions" that's ok, but can stand my ground when I need too. enjoyed reading this story very much. Thank you :) :)


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Hawkesdream 6 years ago from Cornwall Author

Hi oliversmum, thanks for reading..I personally thing there are occasions when we have to stand our ground - good for you.


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Lamme 6 years ago

Great hub! Congratulations for finding your soul mate ... that's a rare thing.


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Hawkesdream 6 years ago from Cornwall Author

thanks Lamme, it just gets stronger every day

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