Always Choose To Make Commitments Not Mere Promises

Commitments are like solid ground, promises on the other hand, are more like bad checks.

You know a winner by their level of commitment making. True commitments are not entered into quickly or without thinking it through.
You know a winner by their level of commitment making. True commitments are not entered into quickly or without thinking it through.
People who know how to honor commitments, usually know how to keep their marriages going, even in tough times.
People who know how to honor commitments, usually know how to keep their marriages going, even in tough times.
In order to raise stable children, parents must be committed to rearing them with love and compassion.
In order to raise stable children, parents must be committed to rearing them with love and compassion.

Sydney J. Harris said it best in his book Winners and Losers, Harris states in the very first page of his book "A winner makes commitments; a loser makes promises." A very simple yet, very profound statement. I remember being blown away when I read it. This statement made me realize, that when I made an offer, or agreed to do something, I had better be willing to stick to what I agreed to. otherwise, I would risk, being just another loser drifting through life, and never really offering anything real.

I realized that the people who hurt me  the most, are the ones that simply made promises and never kept them. They just wanted the attention, or simply to get others off their back. Trying to please people momentarily with a lie is the unkindest cut of all. Promises, that are unkept are like checks that bounce, they can be written for any amount and yet remain worthless.

Many people make promises to their children they have no intention of keeping. Promises like "yeah we'll get you that puppy next year, if you keep your grades up." You notice how these parents want something from their children in exchange. There also those promises that people make to get their spouse off their back, small promises like "sure honey I'll wash the dishes tonight' or bigger lies like" If your careful with your spending, I'll get that special something you want next month dear."

Then there are promises that were made at the altar like to love, honor, and cherish, that are soon forgotten. Lets face it, how many people use offensive language, and even threats when they don't get their way. Then there is the promises of for better or for worse, richer or poorer, and in sickness and in health. We can't deny that many marriages break up because of sickness, money matters, or just plain irreconcilable differences. Then there's the big one, forsaking all others until death do you part. Given the amount of infidelity in our society, you know that many people lied during their marriage vows. Maybe not intentionally, but they had no intention of sticking it out for the sake of their marriage.

On the other hand, commitments are different. Commitments are solid, not just some pie in the sky promise made at the heat of the moment. Commitments require thinking things through, and are not made quickly or lightly. You know commitment makers by the wonderful examples they set. People always cherish the memory of those who knew how to honor their commitments. Keeping a commitment takes character, sacrifice, and unselfishness. These are the marriages that not only survive but bring great joy to the couple who understood what their marriage vows meant. It is through commitment to good parenting that we rear stable and happy children. It is through the commitment of sticking it out in school, that great careers become not just a dream, but a reality.

If everyone in our world made commitments from governments all the way down to every individual. What a different world we would have. A world with no broken marriages, no hurt children, a world where the elderly wouldn't have to worry about who will take care of them when they are too old to care for themselves. A more secure world would prevail. I know that is not the world we live in, but imagine what a wonderful world it would be.

Like Sydney Harris wrote "A winner makes commitments; a loser makes promises. So be a winner.

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Putz Ballard 6 years ago

I like your hub.


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RackyB 6 years ago from The Treasure Coast

True words :)


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

12/6, hello, Dear Friend, theinternetwriter...GREAT and truthful piece. Amazingly-written. Got and kept my attention. Voted up and away. YOU Have been such a warm and consistent follower of mine, I thought I would surprise YOU today and read some of your great items. And glad that I did. You are so talented that I am ashamed of my petty offerings. And I am glad to have YOU in my life. Have a Merry Christmas. Kenneth


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Internetwriter62 4 years ago from Marco Island, Florida Author

Hi Kenneth,

Thank you so much for all the kind and sweet compliments and your hubs are not at all "petty offerings" they are really amazing and very insightful, I really love the way you write. I also enjoy the sincerity with which you write your hubs with, and I enjoy learning from you, you know so much about people and life in general, you are a really great teacher and a very wise man. I'm really glad you liked this article, I owe this one in part to my good friend Sydney Harris, who wrote some amazing books and his quote inspired this one. I guess life itself has a lot to do with this one as well, thanks again for all the kind words and for the vote up, I truly appreciate your stopping by, it means a lot coming from a dear friend and excellent writer as yourself.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Dearest Internetwriter,

Woweee, I mean, wow! What a stunning remark from such a sweet girl and talented hubwriter as yourself. I never told you this, but when YOU became one of my followers, I recall smiling most of that day. Truthfully. And you are very-welcome for the things I have said to you recently and in the past seven months. My mom and dad taught me to never waste two things: Time and Words. So with you, I dont mind spending time, but I want MY WORDS to count to YOU! And to me, you are an EXCELLENT writer, my dear friend. YOU always make my day worthwhile. I cannot say thanks enough to you. And if you should ever need me, Im as close as your pc or laptop. Sincerely, Kenneth


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Internetwriter62 4 years ago from Marco Island, Florida Author

All I can say, is Thank you and your parents are very wise people, because it is true, time and words are two of our most precious resources and must always be used wisely.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Dear Internetwriter,

YOU are very welcome for hearing/reading the truth. I stumble a lot in life. And yes, I am too guilty of procrastination....not anymore. I will try to upgrade my priorities and of course,seek God first, then PUT YOU GUYS, my followers on the list NEXT. I appreciate you so much.

Kenneth


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Internetwriter62 4 years ago from Marco Island, Florida Author

Thanks again Ken!

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