Are Internet Online Love Affairs On The Rise?

Cyber Internet Love Affair

Online Love Affairs

Do you know someone who is strictly in an online love affair?

They say that 40% of married men are in online relationships with women. Why? Its very convenient. Married men and women do not have to leave the privacy of their homes. Internet technology taking off who would suspect their significant other of cheating online. Most people that do have love affairs online do not even think of it as cheating. They think what's the harm, they can fulfill their fantasies online and their wife will never suspect anything. Its just the computer right. There's no physical contact. Lets face it cheating is cheating no matter how you look at it. If there are married men that are reading this and you think its no big deal think again. An online love affair is very damaging to either party. Especially the marriage.

The reason why its on the rise is because the person has lost desire and intimacy in the relationship. They are looking for excitement to fulfill in their lives. Nowadays people are on Face Book, in chat rooms talking as friends. It may seem harmless at first but after a while you end up sharing intimate details with your new friend. You need to be cautious. This is how an online love affair starts. Its very emotional and you start sharing more with your friend than your spouse. The people that do this justify it and excuse the behavior. They may have been married a long time. They have lost communication with their wives and the lack of sex in the marriage has decreased. They do not want to face the fact that the marriage is in trouble so they go online looking for excitement and fantasy.They don't want to divorce their wives they are just looking for excitement.


Women And Men Beware!!!!!

If you are talking with someone online make sure you know where you stand. Can you meet this person face to face? Does your new Internet friend keep giving you excuses? Men and women are using the Internet to draw in lonely people online looking for love and attention. They will be a great friend to talk to. Sure they are! What do they want? Do they tell you they just like to chat? Why do they want to chat? Bottom line, Sex. What do I mean by sex and the Internet. Its called cyber sex and web cam. These men and women want to befriend you so you will start to feel so loved by them that you will be willing to do anything for them. Think twice about this. Are you that lonely and desperate that you are willing to cyber with these people? Have you lost your dignity and respect? Stop talking to these men or women and break off all communication. They are not going to leave their spouse for you. You are only their fantasy. Once you leave they will find someone new. There is no love you are only there to serve the purpose of their fantasy. In the end what do you have but empty words on a screen.

I have spoken with someone in this circumstance. Can you imagine being an an online love affair for 3 years. No physical contact. This woman befriended a married man. It became innocent at first talking and meeting in a chat room. She thought he was such a great talker. He did tell her he was married but most will lie about it. It got extremely emotional for her. She would cyber and expose herself on cam at least once a week. She thought she was falling in love with this man and would do anything to please him. This is a sick and perverted way to love someone. You can love someone in person. She did not realize she was feeding his fantasies. She thought one day they were going to meet but that never happened. They would only communicate through email and a chat room.

This is so sad and I wanted to share this story so women that are or know someone in this type of abusive relationship can get out of it. This woman knew what she was doing but I think this man had manipulated her with all his sweet kind words. He used and manipulated her to the point where she wanted to please him. Women there is no reason for this. These men are sociopaths. This is not normal behavior. You can meet online but watch out for these type of men. If they are lonely and want someone to talk to, tell them to go and talk to their wife or get some marriage counseling. This type of behavior is an addition called cyber sex. They will say they are addicted to chatting but its more than just chatting. They use words to befriend you, to see how far they can get with you. This is not love ladies. This is abusive and invalidating behavior. Watch out and beware!!

God Bless,

Sandy

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thevoice 6 years ago from carthage ill

unique hub well thought thanks


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

thanks very much!


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Online love seems to be on the rise. If the man/woman never want to meet you then all types of signals should be going off in your mind. Great topic and hub.


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

Chris you are so right. You can meet online but don't let the fantasy cloud your judgement. You need to have human interaction in person to really get to know someone.


In the Closet 6 years ago

Your story here is familiar. You see, I was in a cyber relationship, only I was the one that was married, he wasn't. It was exactly as you described it above: I was unhappy, unfulfilled, & actually not looking for anything. He homed in on me....was very persistent until I finally gave in & started talking to him. It was intense then he started pushing for more. Next thing you know I was doing things I never dreamed. He made me feel like a woman, very sexy, all the crap they feed you. He did exactly as what you describe above; manipulated me. I was a basket case. He brought me up & down to keep me hooked, disappearing then popping back up. I was wrecked. After about 5 months of this, I finally came to my senses. I haven't heard from him since then except for one text message he sent one night, out of the blue. It was very disrespectful. I shut him down. No more contact & I'm happier now than I've ever been. Warning to all women: Don't say it can't happen to you, it can. This was a good article I stumbled upon by accident. But there are no accidents, are there? Thank you.


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

Yes I hope this helps someone. Use the net wisely and becarefull!


hie 6 years ago

online love is great its no cheating at all


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sandylongman 6 years ago Author

It is if your in a relationship or your married. When you become more intimate with someone other than your partner you open the door for your relationship to fail.


sadia khan 6 years ago

I am dating online these days with a very handsome and single american man ... well It is me who hangs him and comes after one or two weeks and make him wait for me ... anyways its a good experience and he has proposed me after 4 months of our meeting online ..but it took me a month to answer his question and guess what I said YES and we are getting married in November this year ... well best of luck to all ladies.


Justsilvie 6 years ago

Sadia you have met in person right?


Ron Klimmek 5 years ago

I met a girl from the Philippines nearly two months ago on Face book and we are deeply in love. I'm married 22 years but my wife and I can't talk without disagreeing and arguing. She has refused me sex for over 10 years. I'm 61 and met this nice 18 year old girl. We exchanged e-mail letters and have fallen deeply in love . I plan on meeting her in the Philippines some months from now. Am i wrong in pursuing this love interest and am I cheating ?


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Ron don't be fooled this girl is 18yrs and lives in a different country many are online to lure lonely men to get to the United States. Arguments and fights and no sex no wonder you feel this way you are getting attention from another woman that's all. Real love is not always perfect. Try marriage counseling. God hates divorce. If marriage counseling does not work than you need to end the relationship before starting a new one. You are cheating.

I think you can get the love back with your wife.


Terry 5 years ago

I also have a online married male friend. I am married(a arranged marriage) from a controlling mother. I have three adult child(all married) My husband never did truly love me, he never helped raise the children, I did it all and gave it my all. I really want to leave and be on my own. I haven't done that because of what people might think of me. I am so unhappy. Counseling never helped because he did not want to go.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Hi Terry, sounds like you are lacking the love you deserve. You must be online because you are loneley, but ask yourself, what are you gaining by talking to a married man online ? Empty words on a screen that's all it really is! Find your happiness! There must be some love left for your husband.


commodityfever 5 years ago

If a teenager does not have either romance or sex in his or her life, there could be many reasons for it – but it is certainly not peer pressure. He or she may be introverted, afraid of being caught, lack opportunity or maybe busy with studies.

It is also a mistake for parents to think that sexual maturing has not taken place – that teenagers are not ready physically. In fact girls are conscious of their sexuality from the age of 12. They inspect themselves intently in mirrors, taken pains over their appearance, and observe boys with interest. Boy look at girl’s bodies and become conscious of their own. We have to remember that in ancient times children married early. While this is not desirable, possible or practical now, we cannot halt the sexual rebellion amongst the young. No matter how much parents rave and rant about the evils of western influences, and the decline of Indian culture, the facts are that the desire to interact and romance the opposite sex is natural and has always existed in India! By denying the existence of such natural feelings parents are alienating their children.

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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Busy with studies? Make some time to get out in the real world and meet people instead of getting lost on a screen with just words!


commodityfever 5 years ago

It is also a mistake for parents to think that sexual maturing has not taken place – that teenagers are not ready physically. In fact girls are conscious of their sexuality from the age of 12. They inspect themselves intently in mirrors, taken pains over their appearance, and observe boys with interest. Boy look at girl’s bodies and become conscious of their own. We have to remember that in ancient times children married early. While this is not desirable, possible or practical now, we cannot halt the sexual rebellion amongst the young. No matter how much parents rave and rant about the evils of western influences, and the decline of Indian culture, the facts are that the desire to interact and romance the opposite sex is natural and has always existed in India! By denying the existence of such natural feelings parents are alienating their children.

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Nifty Tips 5 years ago

If a teenager does not have either romance or sex in his or her life, there could be many reasons for it – but it is certainly not peer pressure. He or she may be introverted, afraid of being caught, lack opportunity or maybe busy with studies.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Yes and teenagers are curious. The net leaves a great temptation to explore. Especially if one is intoverted. I agree. Thanks for the comment but do not always believe everything people say on the net.


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sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Thanks so much I do appreciate your kind words! Love to write!!! Have a great day!


Akash Frm India 5 years ago

very usefull thanks....! Great.


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sandylongman 4 years ago Author

Thank You!!!


Allen 3 years ago

I'm into that situation now, me and my wife are distant from each other and I found out that she had been in communication with other men on email and chat and have said every word that made me look as a beast. She maintains several facebook accounts for her "suitors" and when I have found out about it she just created more FB accounts so the communication would continue. And it has been going on for years and I feel cheated... Worst she now has a work husband and I have read on facebook that she is dating this work hubby of hers...


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sandylongman 3 years ago Author

Why are you putting up with it Allen? Cheating is cheating no matter if it is intimacy or sex. When your married along time we can all fall into a trap of day to day life and sometimes when someone pays attention it's thrilling. I would personally give an ultimadem. She either wants to cut off her Facebook and work on the relationship or end it. You deserve respect!!!!

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