Are Women The New Men?

In the good old days, men were real men and women were real women. Women stayed home, jobless and with no way to support themselves without a man, and men went out and earned money. It was a perfect patriarchal set up in which being born with two x chromosomes automatically made you a domestic servant and professional baby maker for life.

Nowadays however, women are expected to have jobs like men. They are more independent and have the choice to live their lives as stay at home moms if they please (if they have a male partner who will support them in that goal,) but in general, they're expected to support themselves and be fully fledged grown ups who take on responsibilities, earn money and pay bills. This has changed the landscape of Western gender roles completely.

This gender revolution has brought with it many changes. Some people say that women have become more masculine, more like men. Some say that this has ruined everything and that women should go back to being the way they were before all this equality rubbish got into their pretty little heads. Some even claim that women are the new men.

The root of this problem is the fact that we associate power and pants with men, therefore, if a woman weilds power and wears pants, she's often accused of being some man-creature who doesn't know how to be feminine. A modern woman is free to pursue her happiness and a fulfilling career and family life, but she may very well be shunned or even attacked by men who find her threatening.

What's even more terrible about this is that many men are secretly attracted to these more powerful women who seem ever so slightly androgynous, but don't know what to do with them when they have them. They were alluring when they were out there in the wild, but when they get their modern tigresses home, men discover that a woman with claws is a danger to their masculine perception of themselves. If she's not a damsel in distress who needs a man to provide for her, then what use is a man?

All of these problems are related to the false belief that a woman who wields power and wears pants is masculine. A great deal of these issues could be solved if both men and women realized that although their roles have changed, their biology has not. Women still want, love and need men in their lives. (With of course, the exception of those who prefer women themselves.) The majority of women still react to traditional male traits, they like men who exude strength, both physically and emotionally. They like men who make them feel safe, again, physically and emotionally.

More than anything however, women like men who are not threatened by their intellect or by the power they may wield in their careers. It's very hard to respect a man who feels threatened by you, and it's very hard to feel safe around him or to see him as being strong, after all, if he is threatened by a woman, how frightened must he be of the rest of the world?

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GoneNylon 6 years ago

Hope,

Corollary to your query is the question of what our environments are doing to make your assertion more true. The considerably higher amount of phytoestrogens now dietarily available and environmentally present actually do have some marginal feminizing effect on the male populace, at levels that are probably minimal at this point.

Of course, there's an upside: after a couple of generations of those phyto-estrogens, and the men's side of the underwear department in the stores will have a tremendous slection of bras. Guys will be needing them by then.

Maybe then that sartorial equality you've been writing about so convincingly for so long will finally happen.


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katyzzz 6 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Tis indeed a sad world, women are having to do everything and getting less pay, less super and less time for themselves and children are suffering.

Nature has decreed that women make the best mothers, not men, and women certainly do not make good fathers.

Let's not return to a previous era but do give women a fair and equitable go. Good hub, well illustrated.

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