Are You Hearing Or Listening?
The Ear Is An Amazing Organ
Many people do not respond in the way we expect after communicating a message. Sometimes this is received by the speaker as a disrespect or loss of interest from the transmitter. The difference between hearing and listening, communication has cause and effect.
We are created incredibly perfect and complicated...our body is amazing! The organ we have for hearing is the ear; it is divided into three components, the outer ear, the middle ear and the inner ear. Each one of them has it's unique functions.
The ear picks up sounds around us and then translate the information into our brain. Hearing is one of our five senses. When we listen carefully to what we hear we understand the verbal code and the communication is effective. In a noisy situation our auditory system allows to isolate other sounds, tunes and noises to focus our attention. It is an ability that not everybody has the capacity to control. Occasionally the procedure is not perceived since it becomes a normal body response.
I am not listening
Today many people do their chores with music in their ears with a device which permits the control of volume since it digs into the ear, but five feet away from them it is heard. I watch daily, people staring at the speaker trying to defeat sounds and in my experience doing both ends up in frustration and very bad communication problems.
Lack of interest
There are times when we really aren't interested in the conversation or our mind is wandering in thoughts. Sometimes what is being said is not clear enough for various reason. The way words are used, the inflection, tone or volume of the voice makes difficult to focus even in the best environment. We also have to consider hearing problems, the loss in the ability to hear or discriminate sounds.
How to know if hearing problems comes from a physical condition?
- Having speakers modify their voice to: louder, slower or clearer
- Turning the volume up or down of the television or radio
- Avoiding conversations
- Feeling annoyed by sounds that aren't to others
- Difficulty understanding what is being said around others speakers or various sounds
Sincerity and acceptances of weakness does not make us lower individuals than the rest. We all have issues, we are not perfect by no means. We need to clarify our weaknesses in order to find help. The help we get the better we execute.
How loud or low is normal
When the receiver interprets with understanding the sender's message with the intention it was sent, effective communication will exist between them.
- Become an active listener.
- Listen to the reasons without often criticizing.
- Disagreement does not mean war.
- Listening helps understand others views.
- Words and feelings makes a different meaning.
- Be cautious responding to an emotional speaker.
- Take messages from who they come.
- Keep eye contact.
- Learn body language from the speaker.
- Misunderstanding should be clarified.
Progress comes by practicing. If we become communicators (listeners, as well as, speakers) with good habits we will receive the reward that good communication produces; and that my friend is called understanding.
We all want to be understood. We all need comprehension. It all starts by just communicating properly.
Blessings to all as we start listening instead of just hearing!
© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
Learning to listen
© 2011 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill
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