The Art of Silence

Ever wonder why they say that: "Silence is Golden"

It is very difficult to be silent when someone is playing with your emotions. Our Ego's tend to clash with that person and we are urged to speak and argue over that particular matter which we feel could be different 'cause we want it that way. We tend to open our mouths and then starts the relentless argument over a matter which in the coming days will be so fruitless.

What do we get out of it?

Sure, sometimes, we succeed in getting it OUR way and that pride sure makes us feel so GOOD. Isn't it?

There are times, when we don't succeed in that argument and end up so sad and dejected. What for? Did that change the world IF we lost an argument?

In a relationship

The Art of Silence for a partner is Bliss especially when you see the other partner loud and cannot be grounded. Silence is the key to happiness. It sure will take away the floor under you and the decision will be made but, it won't be for long. Humans are Social Animals and eventually the loud and unreasonable partner will realize that it is no fun to be playing alone thus, will come to your level to discuss any issue.

Parent-Child

The Art of Silence is applicable even with a child and an adult. Children are innocent and thus, when it gets into their system to get anything they go on and on about it. Adults are mature and should not lose their temper over it. Instead, make the child understand about that the pros and cons about the thing he is stubborn about and then just keep quiet when being discussed in the house about it. Eventually, the Art of Silence will be understood by the kid as a NO and what better way to make him understand the concept!!

Boss-Employee

The same concept applies for an employee and his boss. Argument between them can only cause friction thus, accepting the Art of being Quiet when any such situation arises is the key to maturity. However, when the situation has cooled down, one should definitely make an attempt to get your message across to the other person (Boss/Employee)



My hub, Social Animal---takes us into the insight of our relationship with Man.

Man is a Social Animal and we like to seek company of another Man. Let's try to be civil to be each other and try to love thy man since; there is no life with out each other!

Humans cannot live without Humans and if we learn this Art of Silence our relationship with Humans will be improvised and we will be at peace. Our Ego's will not be shield when communicating with Humans and this liberation will make us so happy and stress free.

Give it a Try!

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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Yes - good advice. It is not wise to try to rationalize and debate when angry. It is better to cool down and then come back around to the poor subject later. Thanks for the reminder too!


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Thank you RealHouseWife for your precious input and stopping by. Your loyal support towards my hubs makes me feel lucky to have such hubbers around me...Cheers!!


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

I agree. One does not have to always be right. When a quarrel erupts, a cool down period is essential. Thank you for the reminder.

Cheers


SusieQ42 5 years ago

Exactly my thoughts about it. I LOVE the peace and quiet! But my husband was great at giving me "the silent treatment" everytime we got in a spat about something. (He's getting better at NOT doing this) That isn't exactly the right way to settle a disagreement. It drove me crazy.


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Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

Great hub. I have taught my daughters that sometimes it is better to remain silent and just look at someone when they are being foolish. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Thank you Always Exploring for your precious input. As usual; always love your feedback.


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

@SusieQ42...I also realized this Art when my better half started using it. It sure drove me nuts but, now use it often.

Thank you for your precious input...Appreciate it!


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epigramman 5 years ago

..well my mum used to say to me - listen son, you can hear the silence - and believe me when I read this most rewarding and stimulating hub subject I was in revered silence myself ...thank you for giving pause and this silent moment and making me think with your enlightenment and absorbing point of view.

lake erie time 2:49 pm where I often hang in the balance between yin and yang (silence of the lake and the environment and my music -lol)


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

So True Dexter and I aim to teach my kid as well about this Art which is so precious and never goes out of fashion ;-)

Thanks for stopping by with your precious comment!!


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Ruchira - you are so complimentary:) It is my pleasure to read your thoughtful hubs. Also being silent seems to be one of my problems sometimes......I could use this reminder every day:)


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

@RealHouseWife---I too seem to have the same problem of being silent haha...we are sailing in the same boat lady :)

My husband had been using this silent treatment for quite some time and finally I got it. It sure has been hard/tough to keep mum but, I am getting there and once I attain this Art; I oughta teach my kid :))


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

It is an art to be silent - and to know when not to....but don't you think as writers - we would have a hard time not asking, questioning and telling others? See - I just say it's my job:)! lol


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neeleshkulkarni 5 years ago from new delhi

times to be silent and times to speak out both exist. there are times when being silent will result in the other party going so much down the road that it becomes impossible to come back and then one must speak up to stem the flow.this of course does not apply to our loved ones where what you are reccomending is appropiate.

and yes it requires great strength to stay silent. good one ruchira


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

@ Epi--I am glad that I could make you go back in times to what your mom advised you.

Cheers!


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

@RealHousewife...I loved your defense on the above Art...LOL

I just might use it when I am in trouble :)))


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

So Well Said Neeleshkulkarni. It sure is an Art to be Silent since it requires so much vigilance. But, I guess Awareness to this will eventually make us move towards that path :)

thank you for your precious comment and stopping by...appreciated it!


Binaya.Ghimire 5 years ago

When we remain silent most of the people tend to think we are coward. When the endurance of our silence breaks off we explode. However, by what you have explained and I have understood, silence is an art that has been touted even by the Buddha.


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Well said Binaya. Silence sure is an Art which we fail to practice either due to negligence or ego. Buddha is a good example. Thanks for stopping by with your precious comment...Appreciated it!


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Deborah Demander 5 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

I like your statement, Silence is the key to happiness. This is something that I would do well to learn. Thanks for the lesson.

Namaste.


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Namaste Deborah :) Silence sure is difficult but once learnt the Art of Silence can be so enduring in all sorts of relationships :)

Thanks for stopping by!


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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

A wonderfully delightful hub for us all. I agree with you totally. A well written and discussed piece. Sometimes, silence is golden. Thanks


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Hello ubanichijioke,

Yes, Silence is eternal and golden thus, difficult to achieve.

Thank you for your feedback and taking the time to read.


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makusr 5 years ago from India

Ruchira,

Greetings from MAKUSR. In India 'maun vrata' or silence vow has been practiced from yonder. Gandhiji used to say be thrift with your words. A poem I've read somewhere,

A wise old owl sat on an oak,

The more he heard, the less he spoke,

The less he spoke, the more he heard,

Why are we not like the old wise old bird.

Thanks for sharing this wonderful hub. Very interesting.

Lots of Love,

MAKUSR


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Thank you Makusr for the read and such a valuable comment...liked the poem.


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Being silent sometimes has far more impact than words.

A great hub and good advice, thank you. Best wishes MM


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Hello MM,

Yes, as said...Silence is Golden and just being silent at times can get matters resolved :)

Thank you for the read and comment.


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thumbi7 5 years ago from India

Yes. silence works with your husband, your children, mother in law, your boss. Beautiful hub and good advice.


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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States Author

Hi thumbi7,

Yes, Silence ALWAYS works but, the difficult part is to learn to be silent ..lol

Thanks for the read and comment. Pleasure to hear from you!


Divya 4 years ago

a very nice read Ruchira. I always tell my teenage daughter that sometimes it is better to remain silent then say somethings that later on she might repent.

'I have often regretted my speech, never silence'

-Publilius Syrus


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hello Divya,

I am glad that you enjoyed the above. This Art sure is tough to ingest but, once digested, it works well :)

Thanks for stopping by!


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Excellent article and I agree with you. Not sure if you've seen my hub called Tips for couples fighting don't say a word. I would like to put a link to your hub in mine if you don't mind.


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Perspycacious 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

As I recall it, the Dalai Lama said that "Sometimes the best answer is no answer at all." I would equate that as meaning silence.


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Someone I loved very much once told me that while I was talking I couldn't listen--seems simple doesn't it? But difficult to do--I loved this hub!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Susan,

Thanks for the read and comment.

Sure, Pleasure would be mine...go ahead and link it.

I will visit your hub and pay her a visit...lol


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Well said indeed, Perspycacious

Staying mum is very tough thus, only "wise" men have been able to master this Art...lol

Thanks for the read and comment!


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jeyaramd 4 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

Thank you for sharing your enlightening on the tried and true principle of silence. Silence does not mean that you lost an argument. You have actually won, because you have control over your thought, words, and your mind. Unfortunately, many people fall pray to their own escalating emotions. There is necessity to be assertive when necessary. However, letting your emotions get the best of you is a sign of weakness. Being loud and aggressive in your tone is a foolish way of handling conflicts. Thats childish and immature. As adults, we are setting examples for our children. We have to teach then about strength, restraint and self control. Thanks for sharing a principle that I have always cherished for helping me through the most dire circumstances. Like you mentioned, these past arguments are fruitless when you look back at them. They had no value to your present moment except more pain and frustration. Awesome hub. Voted up up and away.


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FrugalandFab 4 years ago from New Hampshire

Wonderful hub. My main downfall when emotional is my mouth. Darn thing gets me every time. I can truly attest to the power of shutting it once in a while and allowing oneself the opportunity to simmer down before engaging. Thanks so much for writing this.


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Rachel Richmond 4 years ago from California

Excellent advice! I love your hub ~~ surrender and seek the higher view of the situation. :)


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia

Lovely Hub! I can't agree more with your message, though I have to say it's not always easy to be silent.

I'm the type of person to struggle with that but nevertheless, I know it works. In my relationship it works very good, as well as in other situations.

Great Hub, voted up, away and shared!!!


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tarajeyaram 4 years ago from Wonderland

Silence is golden. I have learned it from my husband and my mother. Practicing silence is really hard but it works wonders. Silence does not mean that you are losing a conversation. Silence is golden. Thank you for writing beautifully and simply. Voted up and sharing.


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shampa sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

Hello Ruchira,

Voted up and awesome. Today's world need this art very much and I feel, I need it too. Sometimes I reciprocate very sternly especially when I feel the person is behaving arrogantly. I am sure, I won't be able to change the person through my words so to maintain my inner calm it is better to be silent. Thanks for this beautiful hub.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

Amusing at best ! Ha ha , I always find it hilarious that liberals cry the loudest from the courtyards of free speech and yet if the conservatives whisper into the medias deformed ears , then cry foul! ..........Yes ! Silence that bastard fox news ! But .......let free speach reign forever free. My a$$ aches.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

Sorry , I said a bad thing!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Audrey,

Yes, it is difficult to listen when talking all the time. I feel for a relationship to exist, we gotta learn to be quiet and listen as well.

Thanks for wonderful comment and stopping by!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hello Jeyaram,

Well said indeed. We have to set example for our kids and thus be responsible adults by getting a grip of ourselves.

You have expressed your thoughts beautifully. Thanks for such a precious comment...appreciate it!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Frugalland,

Awareness is a very important key to self-improvement and now that you are aware of what comes out of your mouth...you will unknowingly make an effort towards learning this art of silence.

Wishing you loads of luck and was a pleasure to meet you. I will stop by your hubs and pay you a visit.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Rachel,

Beautiful words indeed. Surrender and seek its pleasure. Initially, it does not work but gradually the opposite person becomes aware of our strategy and bows down...lol

Thanks for stopping by with your beautiful insight. Always appreciate it!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hello Escobana,

I am happy that this strategy works for you, as well.

It has changed my life and my relationship to such a beautiful extent that even I would vouch for it.

Wishing you luck, my friend. It was a pleasure to meet you. I will pay a visit to your profile and check out your hubs. Thanks!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Tara,

Yes, being silent does not mean you lose a conservation but, it's just that you are smart :)

Thanks for stopping by and agreeing with the above. Appreciate you stopping by. will check out your hubs.


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ahorseback 4 years ago

Ruchira ! Somehow my forum posts ended up here..... forgive me ....? I am sorry .....Please disregard those comments!....:-}


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Yaduvanshi 4 years ago from Bharat Vrse

It is good to be silent and it pays off


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hello Shampa,

Yes, maintaining our inner balance is tough and many a times life can be challenging when we are not composed from inside.

Wishing you luck in mastering this Art, my friend.

My journey had begun a while ago but, I still go rockety rocket and clash with my ego and create a scene...lol

Thanks for dropping by with your valuable input.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Ahorseback,

I am glad that you threw up whatever was in your mind...lol

I am hoping that once all is clear, you will attain peace :)

No harm done to me, my friend!

I am glad I could be of help!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hello Yaduvanshi,

Yes, well said indeed.Silence is golden!

Thanks so much for stopping by to give your valuable feedback on the above. Wishing you joy!


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Zac828 4 years ago from England

Interesting hub and I agree in part; silence is indeed a great thing, as much for confronting arguments as for listening to your own heart. Thanks for sharing.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Zac828,

I am glad that you agree with the above. It sure brings peace to the mind and body IF practiced.

Thanks for stopping by!


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lex123 4 years ago

Silence is the golden key to maintain peace in any relationship, whether it is with your spouse, children, parents, in-laws, in the office or with anyone who is an angry person on the other side. But many times people forget to follow this rule.

You have rightly said - "However, when the situation has cooled down, one should definitely make an attempt to get your message across to the other person (Boss/Employee)" Very true.

Beautiful hub.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Hi Lex123,

I am glad that you agree with the above data :) Silence sure is golden and NOT all can practice it. But, it sure feels good when we learn to conquer this in our lives.

Good luck in your future ventures, my friend!

Thanks for stopping by!


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

I know remaining silent is most difficult in situations of disagreement but it will surely reap rewards in form of less heartburn and unnecessary arguments.

Most of the times things are said in the heat of the moment which we regret when we cool down. This is the time we wish we had not argued but remained quiet.

Well said, Ruchira. We must all cultivate this habit.

Voted up. Useful.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

Well said indeed, Rajan.

This is a good habit to cultivate but, takes years to get perfect in it.

Thank you for your vote of confidence...always a pleasure!


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

I was going to say a few things but decided to take this hub's advice ;) Voting this Up and Interesting.


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

haha...Alocsin :) Thank god you did not utter those "few" things..lol

Thanks for stopping by, my friend!

Peace & Joy to you!


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

Hi Ruchira,

I was taught that Silence is Golden, and that one can learn much more by truly listening than by talking. Of course there is a happy medium that is sometimes hard to accomplish because of our thoughts and feelings. But it is something to work on and hopefully achieve.

Your hubs are most often thought provoking and teach good lessons. This one does just that. Up votes!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Not sure how I missed this hub...I'm sure not the silent type, but I do appreciate silence once in a while. Fabulous advice!:)


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States Author

thanks peggy.

appreciate your votes and visit.

thanks linda. haha...silence sure can be bliss once in a while :)) Cheers!


IntegrityYes 4 years ago

I voted way up!

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