Mean People Suck

Beware

It's not like you don't already know that mean people suck, but I thought by using the warning of "beware" you might be more attentive to the issue. The issue being that mean people really suck!

Luckily, my encounters with mean people are far and few between, but when they do happen to encroach my space, they pack quite a wallop. How dare mean people be so mean!

They are thoughtless cowards who are insecure, insensitive and inhumane. Their mission is to take us non-mean people down to their level.

Well, little do they know we refuse to allow their nasty mood swings to knock us out of the ballpark. Nice people will not tolerate being attacked for no reason, other than a mean person releasing their venom of the day.

Are you with me, nice people? Can I get a "Heck Yeah?"

I heard you loud and clear! Now that we are on the same page, here are a few ways to handle the meanie heads...

First and foremost, I will admit that I am nice, but I'm not perfect. I'm sure somewhere along my journey of life, I've been mean. Not intentionally, because I know for a fact that I do not start my day with mean thoughts. I do not wake up in the morning thinking, I'm going to be a meanie head. Instead I start my day with a positive outlook, but if some one might happen to push my buttons, I might have a desire to retaliate.

Most of the time I just brush mean people off. The older I get, the easier it gets. I don't have the time or energy to waste on some one or something that is basically insignificant. Instead I use my time and energy to spread the niceness. Unless of course my buttons are pushed. Then again, depends on the situation.

How we handle meanie heads, defines who we are. When attacked verbally, we could attack right back, but if that isn't who we are, we are allowing mean people to win.

We could choose to take the high road. Nice people are better, so why shouldn't you just ignore the mean people. They are who they are. Chances are you didn't make them that way, so why should you have to try to fix their problem. So, you carry on and do not allow them to ruin your day.

Keep in mind that mean people are actually people who need the most loving. That statement might sound confusing, because how are you supposed to be nice to some one who is down and out nasty? With patience and understanding, you just might be the one person who could help that mean person see the light.

We could allow karma to tend to the task at hand. Who doesn't love karma? Whether it's good or bad karma, it's bound to catch up with each and every one of us. I prefer the good karma to catch me.

Unfortunately mean people tend to breed little mean people. Well, it's not like we could get all mean people "fixed" so that they wouldn't be able to breed. Instead what we could do is if we spot a little mean person, try to undo what has already been done. Keep in mind that they are still young and naïve, but kids are very sharp too. If they realize it's more cool to be nice than mean...you just might help them switch teams.

Keep Out: Mean People

Some people just don't like confrontations. I tend to thrive on them, once again depending on the situation. When confronted by a meanie head, instead of responding to their utter meanness, you could stop, drop, roll while sobbing, "Why you gotta be so mean?" Their expression of your actions just might make them realize that they have serious issues. Or that you do. Either way, chances are your confrontation is null and void.

Many people are mean because they are just insecure. Again, it's not your job to fix them. Just don't allow them to take their insecurities out on you. If approached by a meanie head who you might suspect is insecure, toss them a bone. Not literally, unless you happen to carry bones around in your pocket. Toss them a compliment. Granted, this might be a difficult task, but give it your best shot. If this tactic doesn't work, at least you know you tried. Now carry on, hopefully you don't get hit upside the head with a bone on your way out.

Mean people tend to think they have power and by being a meanie head this is their way of showing you who is boss. I do not think so! These type of people really irk me. A "title" does NOT give any one the right to abuse their authority and take it out on you. If ever encountered with a mean person like this, report them. I don't care what position this person holds, some one is above them and needs to know. Unless of course, this person is your toddler or infant then...don't sweat it, they will grow out of their power struggle stage.

The internet is a breeding ground for mean people. Cyberspace is the perfect place for the not-so-perfect mean people to multiply and attack their prey from behind a screen. The meanie heads who are the most transparent are the ones that attack, then play nice, and then try to convince you that you were the culprit. Those people make for good entertainment when you could use a laugh. Block, delete, ignore...do what you have to do to eliminate them from your social networks. They aren't worth your time.

Nice People Unite...

Don't allow mean people to suck the nice out of you. Remember, you are not the one with issues. They are. Always be thankful that you are not one of them.

Could you imagine the baggage mean people carry around on a daily basis? I'd never want to find out. I have an extra 10lbs that I've been trying to get rid of and that's enough baggage for me to carry around.

Life is too short to allow mean people to control your moods. Do not allow their negativity to invade your positive aura. Do not take their bitterness personal, they are just showing their true colors, not yours.

Now, if by chance you feel the need to go bat-shit on a meanie head, take into consideration, that they will most likely beat you, due to their experience. They are pros at being mean.

You are nice because you choose to be, it's who you are, it's how you tick. Don't permit bitter people to take you down. Don't allow them to control your emotions. The next time a mean person gets in your face, instead of punching their face, you could save face and walk away. Why? Because that's how nice people roll...

Mean people suck. Nice people don't.

Taylor Swift: Mean

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Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

Hiya Linda, Oh I have met a few in my time! In fact back in the day if someone was mean they confronted by me, a little Jack Russell! LOL! these days I tend to walk away then punch a pillow! so far these days I haven't met one for a while, but you never know, and I never know what my reaction would be, nice I hope! lol!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

I'd swear you have been following me around for the past week! I tell you GF, the meanies are crawling out of the wood work. Everyplace I went their was a grouch.....and every time i asked a simple question I got a snarl or 2....WTF??? I had to wonder what was in the air.

Hey, I'm with you, Linda Sue.....rise above the Bull$hit or kill them with kindness. Either way, we can't stoop to the level of being an "Ugly Ole Meanie!" LOL Only if we absolutely HAVE to.....

I just passed a car the other day that had this bumper sticker on it.....and I had to laugh as I read, "Mean People Suck.".....All I could think was, they SURE as heck do!

Thanks for the great hub and even better advice!....Up+++ Pinned


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Peggy W 2 years ago from Houston, Texas

Hi Linda,

If mean people are on the periphery of your life and you are able, it is best to just walk away; block them from your social sites, etc. As you wrote, they are simply not worth our time! If however one of them is a family member or a co-worker, different tactics must be employed.

Fortunately I have not run across that many people in my life that I would actually describe as "mean." Cranky, daft, crazy, embittered, self-centered and selfish...yes. I have also met really wonderful, generous, cheerful, giving people which more than balances the scale.

Up votes and sharing.


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Perspycacious 2 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

The hard part is keeping focused on our knowledge that such folks are also children of the same loving Heavenly Father who loves all His children, and will judge them one day with righteous judgement, thus saving us the necessity we sometimes feel to judge them nere and now.

Your point though is the whole basis of the TV show "What Would You Do?"


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Jodah 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

Good hub Linda, I guess most mean people usually have a reason for the way they are and we don't always know what they have been through. That being said I find it much easier to be nice to people. It's not their fault for whatever you have been going through. Besides being nice makes you feel better. Voted up.


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Pamela Kinnaird W 2 years ago from Maui and Arizona

Enjoyed your hub and the remarks by other hubbers. I zeroed in on this hub when I saw the title because I deal with just such a person every little while -- the same person -- no escaping it. Love is the answer, but it doesn't come easy when every time you think you're both getting along again, WHAM. The porcupine quills come at me, I get stung and get things thrown in my face and ears I never expected to hear. Sometimes it makes me wish for the old days when no one could reach us unless they had left a message on our big old voice recorder attached to the home telephone. Voting way up.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Nell, This article was actually inspired by Taylor Swift's "Mean" video, luckily I haven't encountered mean people lately either. Rude, maybe, but not mean.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Paula, I also saw a Mean People Suck bumper stick recently! Some guy at my local 7-11 was wearing a shirt also...between all of that and Taylor's song stuck in my head, this hub was inevitable! :)


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Peggy, A balanced scale is a good thing...Thank you for sharing your POV, very much appreciated.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Perspycacious, I like that show "What Would You Do!" Yet, it didn't enter my mind while I was writing this hub...I'm honored! Thank you.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Jodah, I agree...mean people usually do have a reason for being meanie heads, but they shouldn't take out their frustration on innocent bystanders. Thanks for your comment.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Wow, Pamela...I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you luck. You must be a very patient person. Thank you for sharing.


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mary615 2 years ago from Florida

I can't say I encounter mean people. I find some people a little rude, but I just ignore them!

Liked the video!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Yay, Mary! I'm glad you took the time to watch Taylor Swift's Mean video...it's one of my favorites of hers. Word is that she wrote this song in honor of her critics who were mean to her...


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moonlake 2 years ago from America

We saw a few mean or rude people today, but three young nice girls that checked us out at three different shops, made the day perfect.

There are some very mean people out there. Voted up on your hub.


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FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

I enjoyed your good advice on dealing with meanyheads. One of my favorite examples of how someone dealt with ugliness was a Disney hotel employee who was being cussed out for something that was not her fault. She told the man to have a magical day. We cracked up as he stormed off in a huff then congratulated the girl on her composure which of course is trained into them as employees there. She was as marvelous as he was awful.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

I'm wondering if anyone will vote "yes" on the poll. LOL Love the message here, Linda. Power to the nice people of the world!!!!!!!


lovedoctor926 2 years ago

I come across mean & rude people all the time. Helpful tips and suggestions for dealing with these "meanies." I'm a nice person, heck yeah! lol


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

I have come across all sorts including mean people and have chosen to keep my distance from all.


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Pamela99 2 years ago from United States

I agree that life is to short to allow mean people to control out moods. I avoid mean people when possible, and I do not react when someone spews their wrath my way. It's their problem. This is a great topic for a hub. Awesome hub.


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suzettenaples 2 years ago from Taos, NM

Great hub and advice. Let's all unite against 'mean people.' I agree with you the best way to deal with them is to ignore them, but sometimes they will get in your face. Oh, the world is not a perfect place, but we certainly don't need 'mean people.' This article made me chuckle and I love the photo of the dog!


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Blond Logic 2 years ago from Brazil

I have heard there are only 9 mean people in the world, they just move around a lot.

I too try to avoid them and their toxic thinking.

They seem to think that because I want to look at life positively, there is something wrong with me. Go figure.


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Lady_E 2 years ago from London, UK

I just let karma deal with them.

I like your funny photo. :)


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Vellur 2 years ago from Dubai

Great hub, wise words. You have put it so well-

You are nice because you choose to be, it's who you are, it's how you tick. Don't permit bitter people to take you down.

Great write, voted up.


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KathyH 2 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

I see them all the time in the comments sections of news stories! I just told my husband last night, I was reading a story about the young lady from the Duggar family who got married yesterday - and someone wrote a very mean comment aimed at her and her family! I thought how could anyone be that MEAN to these people? It's crazy sometimes! They hide behind computer screens! Great hub! :)


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CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

Ahh, I see a lot of them on board. I don't know what their problem is but I am trained to keep my mien. So, I can perfectly fake a smile :) and still please them and then I sing in my head because truly, it's best to simply just ignore them. Period.

Enjoyed the video. Have a great Sunday Sunshine! Yes, there's plenty of sunshine today in my part of the world!

Love from the sky~


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Moonlake, It's always nice when the positive outweigh the negative.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Flourish, I could never imagine a Disney employee being mean even though they deal with so many different personality types each and every day. Kudos to her!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hey Bill, I was also waiting for someone to vote for being mean AND it has finally happened! :)


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I totally agree LoveDoc, I can't imagine you being mean to an innocent bystander or to any one else!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

DDE, Pamela, Suzzette...Keeping your distance is the best thing to do.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Blond Logic, Very interesting about the 9 mean people. Funny too! :)


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Lady E and Vellur ... Thank you for sharing your opinion! You are both so darn nice! :)


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Kathy, Mean comments on social networking sites is one of my pet peeves...I try my best to avoids the comments and focus on just the article. Facebook is a haven for people who pounce on posts just to leave a negative comment. Such sad lives that they lead.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

CrisSp, I can't imagine being in the confined space of an airplane and having to deal with meanie heads. You are a rock star!!


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old albion 2 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi Sunshine. Most people are nice people, we all want to help another at any time. However there are nasty people in this world and we will not change them. We have to deal with them when they come along in life. We must do our best in the situation we find ourselves in. A thought provoking hub. Well done.

Graham.


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

I love it, Linda! Mean people suck indeed! I try to avoid them like the plague, but sometimes they jump in your face when you least suspect it. I just turn my head and keep on keepin' on. Notice meanie heads aren't mean to other meanie heads, just nice people?


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MartieCoetser 2 years ago from South Africa

Oh, and just today I was intimidated by a very mean and rude customer, and before I could stop myself I showed him my mean side and slammed the phone down in his ear. I don't know why, but some people are oil on my fire. I just can't stop myself from exploding. Now I wish I have stayed cool and nice. But no, the damn asshole don't deserve to be treated with respect. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire, and hope you don't burn to ashes in the process. Will keep your advice in mind, Sunshine :))


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annart 2 years ago from SW England

I feel sorry for the meanies but they certainly can bring you down. If you can't disarm them with a smile or compliment then walking away is the best thing, I find.

Good positive attitudes and friendliness are the words of the day in my book! Great one, sunshine! Ann


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WillStarr 2 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Mean people are pretty lonely, aren't they? Angry, resentful, and vengeful is a hard way to live.

Excellent Hub, Linda!


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ChitrangadaSharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

Very nice and thought provoking hub!

I feel I am no body to decide, who is mean and who is not. People behave in a mean way, due to their complexes or frustrations or anxieties or problems. Its probably wiser to leave them alone and let them resolve their issues or if possible help them to change their mean behavior.

On our part, we can be just nice to them like everyone else.

Thank you for sharing this wonderful hub!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thanks Y'all for sharing your thoughts on mean people and how they suck! :)


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Suzanne Day 2 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

I think the easiest way to spot a mean person is that they just can't seem to let others do what they want in peace. For example, I like doing cross stitch. No, I'm not a grandma. But anyone who has negative things to say about my hobby is immediately classified a mean person in my books! Voted useful. x


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I hear you, Suzanne! Mean people should keep their negative opinions to themselves. By the way, not only grandmas do cross stitch, knit or crochet :)


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rasta1 2 years ago from Jamaica

I have realized people who are considered mean just lack proper methods of communication and are really not malicious. Then there are those who really suck.


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Victoria Lynn 2 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Meanie heads suck! Some people really are mean for the fun of it--their own fun, not mine or ours! Great hub. You're so right. Voted up and all the way across. By the way, it seems someone did answer the poll with a Yes! We have meanie heads in our midst!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Good point, Rasta...I'm thinking they might need a communication refresher course.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

I continue to be shocked at the mean people who are nasty for the fun of it...seriously?? Get a hobby to help better yourself. Just a thought :)


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poetryman6969 2 years ago

Being a meanie is a tough job but somebody has to do it!


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Great comment poetryman! :)


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PurvisBobbi44 2 years ago from Florida

Linda,

What a treat to know others take note of rude people. I try to always be positive, but if the need calls for it---I can take care of the rude people with the greatest of pleasure.

Have a great week.

Bobbi Purvis


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Bobbi...I'm not a fan of mean people, even though I could be mean too if my buttons are pushed, which luckily doesn't happen too often.


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Cari Kay 11 2 years ago

I often say 'Mean People Suck' would be my favorite phrase except I'm too polite to say it. I so appreciate kindness and often am left befuddled by rudeness and unkindness.


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FantasticVoyages 2 years ago from Texas

I'm so nice it makes me sick sometimes! I love going up to mean people with a big smile on my face, and ask them how they are doing. I won't let them ruin my day!


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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

mean people grumpy people and plain old angry people: Hear this.....I can't see you and I can't hear you. Stop wasting your time trying to make me miserable like you. I refuse.

BTW...it's easy. YOU can refuse too. Try it, you'll like it.


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Sunshine625 2 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Way to go Effer! I also refuse to allow a mean persons 'tude to cause havoc on my mood. Same applies to when I'm not in a good mood...I do not take it out on an innocent bystander. Unless of course they assisted in altering my mood. I do love Taylor Swift's song Mean...so awesome!!


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Happyboomernurse 2 years ago from South Carolina

Dear Linda,

"Heck Yeah," I'm with you!

Love that you kept a sense of humor throughout the illustrations and great tips you gave in this article.

We can't change a meanie's behavior but we can always be mindful of our response to it, using helpful coping mechanisms that you've described here.

Voted up across the board and shared!

Hugs & Love,

Gail


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Happyboomernurse 2 years ago from South Carolina

Dear Linda,

"Heck Yeah," I'm with you!

Love that you kept a sense of humor throughout the illustrations and great tips you gave in this article.

We can't change a meanie's behavior but we can always be mindful of our response to it, using helpful coping mechanisms that you've described here.

Voted up across the board and shared!

Hugs & Love,

Gail


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tillsontitan 2 years ago from New York

Oh yeah, meanie heads do not deserve your time or effort. I had a girlfriend who used to tell me not to get upset about meanies, she said, "Remember, they own the problem, not you." Lots of good advice there. They do OWN the problem. You can always be nice but when a meanie is super mean again you are right, smile and walk away. Most of the time that kills them!

Voted up, useful, and interesting.


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peachpurple 22 months ago from Home Sweet Home

i agree with you with 10 fingers up!


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Sunshine625 22 months ago from Orlando, FL Author

10 toes too! :)


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colorfulone 22 months ago from Minnesota

Oh, all of that. Ten fingers and ten toes, Sunshine!

I do my best to be nice to everyone.

Sometimes that means biting my tongue.


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Sunshine625 22 months ago from Orlando, FL Author

I totally understand about having to bite the tongue! :)


Rayne123 21 months ago

This hub says it all with a touch of humour. Great hub.

Mean people or bullies, like u stated, just use this way to fit in or think they do. They feel it gives them control and power, but in reality they are lonely. Usually it's a cry for help.

Thank you for the great hub.

Laurie


Rayne123 21 months ago

I also wanted to add, (sorry, ran out of edit minutes lol) mean people sometimes thrive on bullying out of resentment/jealousy.

I always tell kids in school if you are getting bullied, its not you, it's them and what's going on in their world.


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Sunshine625 21 months ago from Orlando, FL Author

Hi Laurie! You have presented excellent points as to more reasons why mean people suck! Thank you! :)


Rayne123 21 months ago

Your quite welcome.

Thanks again for great hub.


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savvydating 9 months ago

I have found that sometimes, in the workplace, the meanies will come around if I am consistently polite. But not always.

I've also noticed the meanest of the meanies on the internet complain a lot about other people who they deem meanies, because that person has a different viewpoint or worse yet, a factual viewpoint that reveals their non-factual opinion.. I can be polite to those meanies, but I'm not necessarily "nice." It depends upon whether the mean person's words or actions are affecting "the whole pot."

Lovely hub. Your advice is sound!

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