Birthdays and Getting Older

Lessons I learned in life and which I put into practice. Meditation cards created by Violetsun.
Lessons I learned in life and which I put into practice. Meditation cards created by Violetsun.

 

I was about to be born on November 14th, and wow, what a journey being more than a half a century old can be! Its a time to look back and express gratitude and to ponder.

If I had a crystal ball that could have seen my future, it would have been a movie portraying twists and turns, that probably would have dismayed and thrilled me at the same time; life on Earth as we all know is in a dual reality, where we experience the good as well as the challenges, because we cannot know "hot" without experiencing "cold", or "love" without experiencing the tears of "rejection". Fortunately, we don't need to stay stuck in a negative polarity, we can transcend our experiences through the growth of our awareness.

If I had a magic formula that could make me 35 years old again, but with the condition that I would go back to my emotional level of being 35 again, I would pass, even if the vain side of my femininity, would love to retain the physical body of a 35 year old. I find that yes, we do age somewhat by the time we reach our 50's, but being in a place where one can react with wisdom and equanimity to life, is a wonderful place to be in. I have found that in order to reach a higher place within, we need life's wide range of experiences, as well as focusing on the understanding of Truth, the workings of the mind and emotions, or else we stay stuck in the drama of this world.

Phil
Phil

Do I value the life I have, on a planet that often seems to the human perception, filled with chaos and uncertainty? Yes. Life is a sacred gift, even if I don't necessarily want to come back to Earth (should I have a choice after my demise) so Creator, Mom and Dad, (wherever you are) thank you, for bringing me forth into this planet. I got to experience true love for the first time in my middle years with a partner who is my playmate.

Life is meant to be joyful, to be expressed without repressions from anyone, and this is what my life and that of my mate's looks like now; we are together, but we are literally flying free as the dove in the picture I am sharing here, because we do not suppress each other's spirit, we allow each other to be. The love, quiet harmony and potential for continuing growth which we both experience nowadays, has made my trip on the second half of my life worth it and balances the sorrows of yesterday.

He is my best "birthday" gift.

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Jackwms 6 years ago

That is beautiful. Now that I am in my 70's(nearly 74), the 50's seem so young. Did you see my new hub about my soon to be 54 year old son? http://hubpages.com/family/Michael-Don


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Jackwms 6 years ago

Oh, I forgot to add: Happy Birthday!


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anjalichugh 6 years ago from New York

Hi Marie: Wish you a very happy birthday and a bright future filled with immense joy and prosperity. I'm really happy for you for having found a partner who makes you feel that life is worth living. Its never too late. If I get to live only a few years full of bliss before I die, I would depart as a contented soul. He surely is your best b'day gift. Cheers to you two!


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, Jack: Thanks for the birthday wishes, and comments. Will check your hub.

Anjali: You never know, you may find the years full of bliss when you least expect it; life is so full of surprises, that would be wonderful! Thanks for your wishes and stopping by! Hugs to you.


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Raging Bull 6 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

Hi Violet Sun,

A lovely and well articulated hub. Have great Birthday my friend. It's great to be reminded of the mysteries and surprises of life. Nice one, thanks!

Billie


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Dottie1 6 years ago from MA, USA

I'm with you VioletSun on passing up the younger years if it means going back to the emotional level we once housed. Reaching the half century mark isn't half as scary as hitting 40. So much to learn in those years to the benefit of our soul. And I wouldn't trade that wisdom for a million dollars. Have a beautiful day. A very Happy Birthday to you! BTW I must mention how much I love your meditation cards, absolutely beautiful.


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Elena. 6 years ago from Madrid

Happy happy, merry merry! Feliz cumpleaños, chica! Very true, what you have in the card up there -- a Chinese proverb says that bamboo is stronger than oak, because it yields in the wind, and its yielding will spare it from breaking :-) That's a lesson there, if there ever was one! Muchos besos and have a wonderful day!


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alekhouse 6 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

Happy Birthday, Marie. Enjoyed your hub, so glad you found your soul mate.


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Tatjana-Mihaela 6 years ago from Zadar, CROATIA

Happy Birthay Mary, wishing you fullfilment of all your dreams, happiness one every step of your life-path.

You have given us so much joy and love here, you are gift for all of us.

Your Phil is really special man, you deserve that bliss.

Love, light, peace and hugs...

Be always happy.


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Cris A 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines

Hi marie!

I wish you the happiest of birthdays. And keep looking forward, so much is uncertain about the future and therefore more exciting. And oh enjoy your um gift :D

Btw, have you noticed the "related hubs" (on the right side) to this hub? Nothing really, I just find it amusing is all :D


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

Happy Birthday Marie !!! I turned 49 not to long ago and I am still rockin .


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emohealer 6 years ago from South Carolina

Happy Birthday Marie!!! What a beautiful tribute to life you wrote and what a great gift to give yourself and the world on your most memorable day. I would not go back either, in fact even the physical body from my earlier years does not have the appeal I thought that it would. Each experience is a gift and I, like you have appreciated the gift of each and every moment, even some of the hardest ones. Bless you on your continued enjoyable bright journey through life! Sue


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Wow, nice to get up to comments from my Hubpages family! :)

Billie: Thank you! So glad you are still around as I know you were planning to leave.

Dottie: I used to be angst ridden, LOL! Not anymore. Thanks for the mention on the meditation cards. I am working on my website where I will be selling them. I am slow when it comes to website creations, but I will finish soon. :)

Elena: Muchimas gracias, amiga! I like the Chinese proverb, and its so true- when we are not resistant, we don't bring in tension into our bodies, energy and life- we expand, grow.

Alekhouse: Thank you! Good to see you.

Tatjana: Aaaw, thank you for your loving words. I feel blessed to have connected to you and the warm family of hubbers here. Hugs and love :)

Thank you all for your comments and birthday wishes!


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Cris: Hahahaha, just looked at the "related hubs" (and no I hadn't noticed, LOL,), interesting topic about May-Dec relationships. :) And yes, I will enjoy the, um... gift. ;)hehe.

Tony:Happy Belated Birthday! 49 is young! Continue to rock way into your 50's and beyond. I feel good physically, I think I am more playful nowadays than when I was in my 20's. :)

Sue: What a beautiful message; thank you for stopping by and adding to the hub with your words. I am glad we connected. :) Much love to you.


Linda Spenceer 6 years ago

Happy Birthday Marie,

Many blessings to you always.You have been such a wonderful friend.I am sure we will always be friends.

Love you,

Linda


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Oh, Linda, how nice you posted here! :) It makes my day! Yes, we have been friends for over 30 years, wow, that's a looong time. LOL! We met when were err... 9. Right? LOL!

Love you!


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drcrischasse 6 years ago from NH/Foxboro

Great and uplifting hub


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thanks, DrCris! :)


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Outspoken writer 6 years ago from BEAUMONT, TX

Hi Violet, and happy, happy, happy Birthday! You know Violet, there are only certain people of a particular spiritual depth that I can be real friends with; I sense you might be one of them. Some points in your hub that reached me were your warm kindness and your sincerity, I look for those attributes first in a friend. Then, your unselfishness in the ability to appreciate your life mate at this stage in your life is so beautiful. He's a lucky man indeed! And your comments about aging could not be wiser. This is a hub I hope many a young people will see and learn from so I hope you will let me use it in my magazine at some point.

There was a time I feared growing up but now I've learned that maturing is a beautiful journey we ought to feel feel blessed to expereince. Thank you for that beautiful hub!Looking forward to more sharing from and with you. Sisteryly Love, Winsome

By the way, would you tell me about your name Violet Sun. Perhaps it's on your profile... I'm on my way there now...


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Outspoken writer: I read your comments in Dohn's hub about the corporate world; been there done that, and so glad, I am no longer in that environment. :) Thank you so much for your kind comments, its appreciated it. And yes by all means you can use it in your magazine whenever you are ready.

Regarding my hubpages name "VioletSun", it just came together without thinking too much about it, but I see the color purple as a spiritual color, and sun as a giver of warmth and supporter of life. :)

Its very nice meeting you!


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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

Belated birthday wishes VS...and happy times! :)


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thank you, Feline Prophet! :)


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D.A.L. 6 years ago from Lancashire north west England

your hubs are down to the experiences of those years you have spent on this wonderful planet.I only met you lately but feel I have known you for many of those years. belated happy birthday and thank-you!


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Dal: Your comments made me smile and feel warmth. I feel we are all connected, all part of nature. Thanks for reading and adding your comments!


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

I recently lost my job a week before my 51st birthday, so I am managing many difficult feelings around age, my contributions to the world I live in, and what my future holds. Your writing is very inspirational, and I appreciate your insights into life and living. Thanks for sharing your words.


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Mike: I was in a situation like yours, found myself unemployed after working 28 years in the corporate world, and it was scary, very sary to not have a source of income coming in and no job prospects for me; but things fell in place, even in the midst of financial struggle; doors opened and now I am glad I am not working for a company.

I wrote a hub reinventing yourself after a job loss. Maybe it will help you.

http://hubpages.com/business/Reinventing-Ourselves...

Thanks for reading and adding your comments, its appreciated!


ralwus 6 years ago

Happy birthday! I never knew what hot was until I laid eyes on you. I am happier now than when I was young, more settled too, but now and again I like to play with kids and be irresponsible. What's with the ask capsule up there?


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Ralwus: Thank you, you are very kind. :) We are like kids here at home, being silly and irresponsible at times is good for the soul. LOL! I noticed the ask a question capsule just a few hours ago, and it must a new hubpages feature because I didn't add as I would with the Amazon capsules.

Thanks for stopping by!


ralwus 6 years ago

Well, I must stop by your place now and again. Not enough though. I noticed these new capsules everywhere but on mine. hmmm


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Amanda Severn 6 years ago from UK

Happy belated birthday! I shall hit 50 myself in the New Year. I hope to be as happy and fulfilled in my second half century as you appear to be. It's always good to read your wonderfully upbeat hubs.


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thanks, Amanda! I guess its all a state of mind and how we take care of ourselves; self care affects our emotions and sense of well being. Cool you celebrate your birthday in the New Year, that makes you a Capricorn. :)


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

What a wonderful idea, VioletSun and belated Happy Birthday!

My birthday is on the 26th, yes Thanksgiving Day, this year :) Hhhmm, Maybe I should do a hub. Thanks for sharing your wonderful and encouraging story!


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, Money Glitch: A Thanksgiving baby? That's cool! Wishing you a Happy Birthday! Thank you for adding your comments, and by all means if you are inspired to write a hub on your birthday go for it. Its fun reading different perspectives.


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Putz Ballard 6 years ago

Wonderful hub a great philosophy of life.


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SweetiePie 6 years ago from Southern California, USA

I try to enjoy my life every day as you suggest in this hub. Happy belated birthday!


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Putz: Thank you for reading and adding your comments, its appreciated.

Sweetiepie: You are so young and filled with wisdom by the time you reach my age, you will have so much to share. Thanks for the belated birthday wishes!


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NewHorizons 6 years ago from Gozo, Malta, EU.

Hi, great thoughtful writing in this Hub. Enjoy your life to the full with Phil and Happy (late) Birthday. All the Best for Christmas and the New Year 2010


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

NewHorizons: Thanks for the belated birthday wishes. And have a Merry Christmas and wonderful 2010!


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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

The best thing we can do with our lives is to love the things we already have. To be content and to "have enough" is such a blessing. Thanks for another excellent hub!


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Susie Writes 6 years ago from Northern California

A touching hub VioletSun. "I find that yes, we do age somewhat by the time we reach our 50's, but being in a place where one can react with wisdom and equanimity to life, is a wonderful place to be in." I wholeheartedly agree with this lovely statement. And I too would not go back to being 35. I've worked too hard to get here. :-)


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Dohh and Susie: Thank you for adding your comments. Appreciating what we have, even if it takes getting older is a good place to be in.:) Sorry, I took so long in replying, had no idea there where comments, which I love to recieve, :) in my hubs as I didn't get the email notifactions. Bummer.


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ripplemaker 6 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hi Marie, what a beautiful reflection on birthdays and getting older. I loved reading your thoughts as it continually inspires me to see things in a different light. I can just imagine you and Phil together and it delights me endlessly to know how you found each other and are sharing love the way you both want it. So inspiring and wonderful! May all your birthdays be filled with wonder and gratitude and love. :) Hugs...


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, Michelle: It took me a long time to meet the right man. When I was in my 30's, I had long periods when I was alone, dateless, and then I would get in cycles where I would become involved in dysfunctional relationships as I didn't have much self love. When I was ready to be alone and happy, I met Phil.

Thank you for your beautiful presence in my life, I appreciate you! :)

Hugs...


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glassvisage 6 years ago from Northern California

My mother always says, "Having a birthday is much better than the alternative!" :)

Thanks for this Hub! Age is just a number... I took an online test to find my "true" age and was told that I am really -2 years old! :P What does that mean? haha


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Glassvisage: LOL!!! It means you got it right, you are still a fun loving child. Haha. I love it! Thanks for adding your comments, much appreciated.


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Ariztokat 6 years ago from AZ

Great article, VioletSun. Thank you for brightening a 60 year old's day. :)

btw: May I copy your lead pic? It is so beautiful and inspiring. I'd only use it on my desktop.


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Greeting Ariztokat: So glad my article brightened your day! :) Sure, you can copy the lead picture, I too love this photo and use it often.

Thanks for reading and commenting.


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Epiphany99 6 years ago from TN

I just recently celebrate my Birthday as well, I tell people everyday that I am glad to be breathing oxygen everyday that I am awake. Be happy not sad, enjoy the moments down to the seconds.

http://hubpages.com/@epiphany99


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Hi, Epihny: I am with you, we can enjoy life if we make up our minds to do this. Happy belated birthday! :)


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

Thanks and (very!) belated birthday greetings. I turned 66 in December and am noticing the joints more than I used to, LOL!

Your Hubs are very uplifting and inspiring. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your life.

Love and peace

Tony


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Tony: And Happy Belated birthday to you to! Its true, we notice our joints more as we get older. LOL!

Thank you for your encouragement and kind words; its very much appreciated! :)


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frogyfish 6 years ago from Central United States of America

Phil is a good looking dude. You match! :-)

Happy Birthday!

Oh yeah, it gets better in parts and worse in places...


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Frogyfish: Thanks your sweet comments and belated birthday wishes! :) I smile when I look at your froggie avatar because Phil also uses a froggie avatar in his writings. LOL.


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loveofnight 6 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

congrats.....and having someone to share these special times with is like the jam on the bread, it only makes it better.


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Loveofnight: Yes, I agree, I feel grateful! Always good to see you.


SunnyJay 5 years ago

I love it, I love the way you express yourself about your mate and this time of your life.


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VioletSun 5 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie Author

Thanks, Sunny Jay for reading and your comments. :)

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