Boys Versus Men; What Women Want

What do Women Want? Beats Me, I'm Just a Woman

What do women want? Honestly, it changes by the second. Yeah glad I could help, now you can move on and read the next hub. Just kidding. Women want the whole package while men just want the wrapping so I believe a woman chooses a younger man, for instance, not just for looks. Women choose men a certain age for various reasons.

My credentials for writing this hub are 1. I'm a woman (OK don't congratulate me just yet, I was born this way so it's not a stretch), 2. I have always been attracted to younger men, and 3. My best friend has always been attracted to older men. My friend and I have had some interesting conversations over our major difference in this one area so I wanted to write about it and shed some light on just one of the many mysteries surrounding women.

I do know one thing, if a women chooses a younger man, he better have brains- that would be considered having the whole package. If a woman wants an older man, he better have an ability to relax and have a little fun or turn on the boyish charm. You see, whether or not a woman wants a boy or man, she still will seek the whole package and he must deliver on more than just age based traits alone.

Boys; The Younger Man (Woo Hoo)!

The younger man isn't doing so shabby anymore. Let me give you the obvious example of Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. He isn't slumming off her for money. Younger men are fairing better with older women because they are now becoming successful and stable at an earlier age so the old mentality of older men being stable isn't exclusive for them anymore. In fact, I would bet there are more older men searching for themselves and a profession than younger ones.

Women who prefer younger men enjoy a list of benefits:

  • More active
  • good bodies
  • joke around more
  • haven't had enough responsibility in life to take it too seriously
  • less baggage (emotional, divorce, kids, etc)
  • still have a gleam* in their eye
  • listen better in the bedroom- let me chat on that one for a second. Young men listen to what a woman wants sexually while older men don't listen because they think they already know what a woman wants. Maybe you'd call it willing to learn (boys) vs. know-it-all (men).
  • The real world is still exciting to them, they want to experience life whereas older men would rather watch what's happening in the world on TV.
  • When you disagree, they don't call it an argument, they just want to discuss it more over coffee or a beer.
  • they have a cool dog
  • if they don't shave, it's hot and considered the gruff look.
  • they have a great natural smell, like babies. Older men have "other" smells.

 

Men; You are MEN After All, That Says it All

My best friend I mentioned earlier helped me with this list. Yes, I can find great traits and benefits of dating older men, but I wanted to get firsthand info from a girl who dates them exclusively and would consider herself an expert.

  • want marriage and kids and to "settle down"
  • secure in who they are
  • ability to discuss meaningful topics- politics, education, religion.
  • seem to just "take care of things." For example, ordering dinner for a woman, making reservations, anticipating her needs, and fix the car.
  • have learned from past mistakes. You can't buy wisdom or charm wisdom- it comes with age.
  • willing to accept more faults or if the woman has baggage herself, an older man "understands"
  • confident, not cocky like boys.
  • more likely to get in a verbal fight rather than a physical altercation.
  • traits that remind women of their dad's- a comfortable feeling or perhaps a dad they never had.

I acknowledge there are many stereotypes in both lists, but these attributes are more about the "idea" of a man. It's the idea of the way a man is or might be that attracts a woman. She gets a sense of who he is based on factors like age. Psychologically, we all categorize people we would consider being better friends, lovers, neighbors, etc. Knowing this, it doesn't make the older man/younger man preferences any less real. They are very real and many women stick by them. I hate to say it, women are probably less flexible in their preferences than men.

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boyjyoti 6 years ago

Well I just came across a few gals 15 to 20 years younger than me who could die for me! Swear.

Oh forgot to mention. The gals are just out of their box (teenagers) and so ...... (stupids perhaps or too intelligent perhaps!))


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Like I stated in my hub some girls need a daddy replacement and go for older guys. I find the more secure a woman, possibly the more likely she will date a younger man. The more insecure, the more likely she dates older.


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

thanks for joining, by the way.


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boyjyoti 6 years ago

Thanks to you in fact dear friend. You showed me the way to like of the old Yahoo 360 kind of site here. 360 was closed last year and I was wondering where to move now. I could have started new yahoo profiles account but as they closed 2 things earlier, I did not want to be on a train which is scheduled to derail anytime. Moreover I am thinking whether I can risk my Google account by linking here so as to make few extra bucks as I write my heart out before you friends.

Sincere thanks.


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

boyjyoti~ well who am i to stand in the way of you writing your heart out for us on hubpages. You're a thinker and Of course i'm in favor of you writing herebut I don't know enough about google accounts and all that and wouldn't want you taking too many risks, but you are a nice edition to hubpages.


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boyjyoti 6 years ago

By the way I expected you to be the first one to visit my first hub. But it seems you either did not see it or did not like it.....

Don't you want to boost my morale? I am sure you're going to find my next hub humorous and like it too, but I am more about the first one.


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TheManWithNoPants 6 years ago from Tucson, Az.

I'm taking a day or two off from writting my stuff to catch up on some of the people following me, and check out their pieces. Laura, you've acomplished what I strive for .. you put your heart into the hands of your readers. Good writting allows one to place themselves into a position of vunerabilitly not possible otherwise.

Everytime you hit the key pad, I feel better. Keep up the good work.

jim


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ReuVera 6 years ago from USA

Great hub with really psychological observations. I must confess that when I was younger I was only into older men (young men were too infantile for me, can be only my friends) and the reason was exactly that subconsciously I was looking for a Daddy I grew up without. Now I am older and wiser. With time age difference turns into a dangerous gap. I am still not into younger men, but as close to my age as possible.


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Reuvera~ Glad you enjoy my hubs. You make a very good point; as you got older and wiser you wanted men closer to your age. Even though I dated younger men mostly, as I got older and eventually married, I picked someone close to my age. Perhaps I wanted younger guys because htey were like my playmates and psychologically speaking I never had any siblings so I liked the playfulness of younger guys. Could be that- i'm just throwing that out there, but who knows.


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TheManWithNoPants 6 years ago from Tucson, Az.

I'm an only child also, and have always had younger women. hmmmm.


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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

tmwnp~ see we have that in common- I think I'm onto a new theory. Only children are looking for a playmate. I think it's great you keep your playfulness side as you age. Most guys aren't able to do that. They get all serious after 35- blah!


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A.A. Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

Interesting hub; however I must disagree. I must be an outlier in the statistical population of older men. I'm 40, yet I can act much older, be as funny and immature as an 18 year old, love to listen and act on what my lovers desires. I was a soldier, so if push comes to shove I can stand my ground physically or verbally. I'm fascinated with history and science, yet enjoy watching spongebob and King of the Hill. Is there any hope for me?


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

A.A.Zavala~ Plenty of hope! you would be what women want! Most women would love to have a man with traits from both older and younger men. You didn't mention money though and that is what a lot of women who date older guys want. When I found my husband, the traits I was looking for was someone who could hold a job and joke around- that is the best of both worlds. SOunds to me like you have a good balance too.


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A.A. Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

Whew! There's hope for me; I can keep using my teeth whitening kit for a reason. For a moment I thought I would have to give up style and begin wearing plaid shorts with black dress socks and sandles. As for money, I don't have to donate plasma for gas money if that's what your driving at. Thank you for giving me hope...


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

A.A.Zavala~ I think you'll do just fine with your sense of humor alone :-))


Jeanine 5 years ago

Fun Read... and some things I had not thought of...


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Glad to give you a different viewpoint. My best friend and I thought long and hard on this topic many years ago. Writing this brought back back some good memories and great discussions we had.


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C.V.Rajan 5 years ago from Kerala, India

I took time to read several of your hubs. You have the natural flow of writing with confidence and assertiveness. Quite good, informative and insightful.


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

C.V.Rajan~ thank you for taking the time to read some of my hubs. My main goal is to give people insight into things I've learned and putting a twist of my personality on it.


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sameerk 5 years ago from India

nice hub , loved it


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Thanks sameerk!

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