Break Up Sex

 Break Up Sex.. why do we do it?  Is it an attempt to keep our lover?  Do we just need to get the other person out of our system?  Do we believe at that moment and time that we will never have sex again?   Break up sex is not uncommon and a lot of couples go through it. But why?

The term Break Up Sex has made the urban dictionary. It is defined as when a couple has decided to break up but wants to have one more go at it. It is also defined as having sex with the intention of breaking up afterwards. Couples who have experienced break up sex have stated the the sex more passionate,playful and hot than when they couple was actually dating. Why is this? Experts believe that since there is a break up there no holds barred so to speak. Many believe it can be a better experience when there are no expectations.They have nothing to hide from each other. Why else might the sex be better? Perhaps each person want to leave their ex mate with a little something to remember them by ;)

The dangers of Break Up Sex

Some of the dangers of break up sex are that the sex may not end. The relationship is over but the sex is not. It could become one booty call after another if one is not careful. Of course if tis is what one chooses that is fine, but it will hinder other potential relationships. This lead to the next point. It is difficult for many if not impossible to separate the act of sex from emotions. It makes break up sex very complicated if a person is overly sensitive, emotional or distraught!.

 Break up sex can be angry and a little out of control.  Enough said about that!

Is it a good idea?

 Break up sex has been described as the best sex a person has ever had.  But many agree that its not a good idea!  Most men polled believe any sex is good! Could you have sex with a person knowing it is the last time you will ever sleep with them? 

 A lot of people stated that Break up sex was a bad idea simply because it would put you right back in the position you were in before.  If the relationship was bad then end it and move on.  Others believe it will get more complicated as old feelings will start to resurface again. One lady stated it clouds the mind and shakes the heart!  Some women felt bad after their experience with their ex. They felt bad for giving in to him.

 On the Flip side some women state its only sex and are fine with the booty call. They even state the break up sex helps releive the tension and helps them be friends with their ex.

I myself have never had break up sex and don't think I could put myself through it.  ( I know never say never!) Maybe break up sex is the all the leftover emotions you have for that person.  Or as my surprisingly intuitive boyfriend put it.. maybe it is just a way to create a good memory when you say goodbye.

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belgam 5 years ago

I always thought it would be hard, but it actually got me to see that it's finnaly over because after it had happened i felt good and i also felt that it had to happen at one point. But now i feel free, that i can move on. It was a fun way to change our relationship to ex-boyfriend and girlfriend to friends. And it was very hot!


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

An intelligent hub which is well shared.


Brent Lawless 5 years ago

As most men tend to think with their groin, (not me of course !), I think they generally view break up sex as a no brainer because they don't know how long they may have to wait until they get lucky with someone else.


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jtrader 6 years ago

I don't think I would want the memory of having sex with someone who has hurt me.


Rookie70 6 years ago

It must be a coincidence, we have written about the same topic. Look under the "related hubs" section.


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv Author

what the??


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shar-shar 6 years ago from manchester

its something i do ...i think i do it so he can remember how great i am wrong i know but its my way of dealing with letting go ,i have had break up sex where its made me feel worse in fact i started crying imediatley after and didn't stop for days ...i guess he was the one i truly loved and i kinda knew he didn't feel the same even though i still cant admit this even to my self three years on ....


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aefrancisco 6 years ago from somewhere down the road

GREAT TOPIC :)

Thanks .


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advisor4qb 7 years ago from On New Footing

Interesting !

No further comment....until after I get divorced...


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

Hi Jesskillmenow it would take maturity for men to refuse it.. interesting to onote at this time 50% of thoise polled would in fact have break up sex..I wonder if they were all guys that voted ;) Thanks for being a good fan


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Jess Killmenow 7 years ago from Nowheresville, Eastern United States

Great treatment. It takes maturity for a man (maybe this is something of an oxymoron?) to refuse break up sex, but break up sex is truly empty, hopeless sex and good for no one. Thank you, Ms. Chevous


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

melbrown1..what? your student asked you what?? I would say it is not a normal question to ask an advisor! Thanks for stoppin!


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melbrown1 7 years ago

Interesting topic. One of my students long ago asked me advice on this very same subject. "Was it a good idea to have break up sex?" My answer went along with what you presented on your hub. That is not a normal thing an academic advisor like myself would answer.


Rachel M 7 years ago

GOOOOOOD GOODBYE SEX HECK YEA!!!!... and a good memeory to boot. Good Job!


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

yep Goodbye sex that is a good name for it too..


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shamelabboush 7 years ago

This might be a sympathetic sex for both sides, a goodbye sex too. I think, both of them want something to remember the other by and that can be achieved thru crazy love-making. Glorious hub Ms. Chievous...


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

Thank You Katie51566!


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katie51566 7 years ago

I love the hub! great topic


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

AllMom and Jewels. So far most agree that break up sex is a no go..Thanks for stoppin by


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Jewels2940 7 years ago from Martinsburg, West Va

I'm guilty of break-up sex and you're right, not a good idea


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AllMomNeeds2know 7 years ago

Makeup is great but break up no thanks... :)


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

LeonJane, I agree!!! Lyricsingray...Thank you for stopping by


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Ms Chievous 7 years ago from Wv Author

Thank You CiscoPixie!


lyricsingray 7 years ago

I love it - 'no expectations, with one more go at it - great write! Thanks! Kimberly


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LeonJane 7 years ago from Australia

No to breakup sex, yes to makeup sex! :P


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CiscoPixie 7 years ago from I'm in a world of my own, but aren't we all?

A great hub once again! Keep up the fantastic work!

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