It Takes Two to Tango

Bridging The Gap of Long Distance Relationships

It's not the distance; it’s the misunderstanding that made the bridge collapsed.

Remember the story "The Tower of Babel"? The people did not finished building the tower because of misunderstanding. They do not understand one another because of different languages. It can also be compared to a relationship. Without proper communication, one can leap into a wrong conclusion! And the love that you have built from the start will be wasted forever.


Long distance relationship is a very delicate situation that two hearts will undergo. Not all successfully survived in this quest. All it takes is courage to trust with all your heart.

Before embarking into a long distance relationship, both must first weigh the consequences it will bring. If it is important that one has to go away, both will have to agree to set a common goal or a plan from very beginning. Set out your priorities and be committed to it.

I know that it is not that easy waking up one morning and finding your partner gone beside you. It'll take a lot of time and effort to overcome our longing for the things you were doing at the start.

But think of the bright side! It will be a day less when the time comes that he’ll be coming home again. And think of the advantages of them being there, maybe he is there to save for your future, to give you the things that will make your life more comfortable or maybe he's there so that you will have your future together.

Who knows, there are a lot more important reasons why someone has to go away, leaving you behind. It's not that they will vanish or would never come back. If they love you, they will.

Before signing the "I do" on this long distance relationship, have a heart-to-heart talk, weighing every possible consequences this relationship will offer to both of you. If it is clear to you that it is important that he’ll be away, be open and tell him of your expectations.

What you expect out of this relationship will help the other consider other plans and other important things that will eventually matter. So he will know that this is what you want and what you don’t want.

Bridging our two half-hearts with love.
Bridging our two half-hearts with love.

For a great start, be open and honest but stay loyal. It is the greatest gift that you can offer your loved one when you are away. Take good care of yourself because they feel twice the pain if you get hurt or sick and they will feel helpless on the other side of the line.

They will feel bad of being away when you are suffering. So it is a very good thing that you are always in good health so the other will have not to worry too much and can avoid depression and sadness.

Don’t whine and don’t blame them for going away. At the onset of the plan, make sure that you really understood why they would go away. Be clear and concise of your plans to avoid hating and blaming each other. When you feel sad and you feel like problems is pulling you down because nobody to lean on, think first before hitting the send button on the email or text message.

It is okay to vent out to him and tell your story but AVOID, really AVOID blaming the other of the misfortunes or the problems that comes to your way. It is not right, believe me, no one survives on this kind of technique.

The very important thing to keep in mind is communication. Keep in touch every time you got a chance. This is the best remedy of keeping your relationship alive no matter how many miles he’s away from you.

It bridge the gap of your hearts to vanquish sadness, pain and emotional crisis. This helps a lot for keeping the love alive as well.

Think positive always. From time to time, send him messages telling him how much you love him and misses him and always be there to lift him up. If he comes to you with problems on hand, some people jump quickly and blame it on the other. Don’t do that. Listen first then focus on the solution, not on the problem.

Don’t let your emotions toil your anger. Be calm and take time to inhale. Thinking negatives things will radiate negative energy that could affect both of you. And if this happens a lot, I’m sure, that “I do” will melt.

You never knew you are pushing him away - pushing the person you cared about away from you. Then one day you’ll wake up, he’s not the person you used to know anymore.


And lastly, help each other... Remember, it always takes two to tango.


© 2012 Mycee. All Rights Reserved.

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Comments 30 comments

Phoebe Pike 4 years ago

Those are some good tips for long distance romances. Awesome job.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thank you, phoebe... been there for more than 5 years :)


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Esther Earl 4 years ago

How I wish every body thinks like you do.. Perhaps there will be lesser broken hearted people!

Trust and understanding should always go hand in hand to last this kind of relationship.

Great ideas! Thank you.


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kj force 4 years ago from Florida

My daughter has a friend who has been in that type of relationship for 3 years..they both live/work in different cities..they will marry in Oct 2012 in Minnesota ( her home) but will then relocate to Chicago. I give them alot of credit,this is not for everyone.Thanks for sharing the info..


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

You were right. It doesnt have to be that hard if we just do our part, both of you in a relationship.. then maybe things will work out great! Thank you!!!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

wow..congrats to them and may them find happiness always. long distance relationship is not for everyone, so i also give credits for a couple who fought the distance to save their true love. and in the end, what they've sacrificed will give them fruits of happiness.


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Rosalinem 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

Hi unknown spy, very true and everything beautiful takes work and commitment.Voted up and useful.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Yes..i just wanted to share some of my experiences to others so that these things do happen when you're in a long distance relationship. Thank you for the votes! :)


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

Great ideas and tips to make a long distance relationship work.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thanks Vellur.. :)


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Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

Voted up and interesting. Long distance relationships are the most difficult and it takes a lot of work from both sides. The longing is the most painful and the trusting the hardest. Great hub.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Gypsy Rose Lee, thats 100% true. We always fight at first..especially when he give me reasons not to trust him.. i just loved him that much, i put extra more effort to bring back whats before..and sometimes i whine or blame him for being away and i feel that the love was drifting away..


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vnsatakopan 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Very interesting. Commitment is the key to such relationships. Ultimately, it is all in the brain.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Thank you sir. I also do believe in commitments.


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rahul0324 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

Great hub! I have been in long distance since 4 years and everything is fine as I have been following the above aspects.

Obviously there are fights and insecurities... but be determined to prove your love is above these petty matters

Wonderful Write my friend:)


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Wow. Nice to hear that Rahul. Fights and insecurities are just normal, sometimes you fight because you just miss each other and just wanted a hug :) but at the end of the day, love will always win.

As always, my heart says thank you for stopping by.


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snowdrops 4 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

Long distance relationship is not for everyone. Rahul here is one great man.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Well, not all survives :)

I know one. Rahul did survived.


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rahul0324 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

You see... Spy... you are exactly on the point:) Most of the times the fights and misunderstandings in a Long Distance arises due to the frustration of being away... if not realized this changes to higher levels of misunderstanding....

But wait... whom am I explaining ? You already know all this... , your wisdom and insight show a lot of depth and precision which is visible in your writing :)

Keep them coming!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

lol.. you made me smile. yeah, and you rock!

its a matter of choice... choose to fight, then fight, later on you break up. choose to understand and listen, then you get happiness.

PS: you already had a fan here..snowdrops.


Peter Adams 4 years ago

Very good hub! Relationships fail of one-sided love. it takes the effort of two people to stay together. I love it.


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snowdrops 4 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

Spy..you are correct..been there and i can say its true.


rose 4 years ago

Hi Dr.Gboco. I just wanted to thank you for the spell and the effectiveness of it...I used the Leave My Man Alone, and then the Love Me Again but because I didn't see anything happening, I kind of gave up on the idea of the kit working. When I first finished the second spell kit first week of December, I went to contact my ex. Last time we spoke, he said to me that he wanted time to figure his feelings out about me, and his ex was still in the picture. He said that he would contact me once he takes care of things. Well, that day when I called him I got some info, which was that him and the ex girlfriend are back together, although things are a bit rocky. I was upset, and was depressed for few days, but was able to go on with my life, slowly, but surely. I wasn't going to call him or anything, until I was ready to accept the fact that he's with someone else.and I kind of was just concentrating on my life. Then, the night of January 15th,my phone rang. It was him. He told me how I was right all along about everything, and that he missed me, him and the other girl have been broken up for few weeks already, etc etc!!!! ...I just wanted to let you know that at least the difficult part, which is to get back in touch with him, is done, and the other party is gone. Now, I need to have him to myself!!!!! Wish me luck...I'm sure I will be contacting you again soon. gbocotemple@yahoo.com you are really a gifted spell caster...


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Hi rose.. I don't really know what to say, maybe this message is not intended for this hub? what do you think?

but thanks anyway for stopping by. :)


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Midnight Lights 4 years ago from USA

Long distance as in never met in real life? If so, I avoid those like the plague! Best advice is don't have XXX and stay just friends! It doesn't always work out like you think. :/ But, if this is just about having someone in the military or other reasons, and you were already partners before the ldr in real life, then yes, perseverance and determination will make it last, if it's meant to last, and only then.


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

no, the one you're going steady for years and suddenly he has to go away..like for work or for studies..but eventually he has to come back, that is for another who-knows-years.. :)

Thanks for the comment :)


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

So, you have qualities yet untold... spellcaster?..Dr gbocotemple?. hmmm! I guess I'd better be careful with my comments.

Very good hub! Communication is the key to any relationship, prior, during of after (should that be the case). When the talking stops, the lawyers do all of it. Great Hub!


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unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Hi Richard.. hahaha! I guess..maybe? hehe. thanks for reading.. it's all based on the experience the long distance relationship taught me.hehe


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mayodmv 3 years ago from Philippines

Thinking negatively always can cause a relationship to crumble. I am not good about this topic but I think it's trust is one of the cornerstone that has to be taken care of, especially in long distance relationships. Just stating my point!


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unknown spy 3 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up. Author

Negative things - that's my number 1.. been on a long distance rel for like a million years but we still manage to build our future. thanks for commenting!

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