Can Long Distance Relationships Really Work?


I have been in a number of long distance relationships. From those experiences I can say that in the end they don't really work out. That doesn't mean that you should not go into a long distance relationship. You just have to keep in mind that by getting involved in a long distance relationship you are only setting yourself up for heartbreak. So, before you get involved in one ask yourself if you are willing to risk ending up with a broken heart because in most cases that is how it is going to end.

Long distance relationships are the hardest because you cannot see each other or spend time with each other on a regular basis. And there is always the risk that one of you will meet someone or be introduced to someone close by and will end up falling in love with that person, in turn leaving the other person in your long distance relationship heartbroken and alone.

In the end, the only way a long distance relationship can last, thrive and actually become meaningful is if one of you leaves your hometown behind and moves to the hometown of the other person. Another option would be for both of you to leave your hometowns and move somewhere entirely different, but that is not the best choice of action.

Without one of you moving to where the other lives the relationship will be filled with lots of negative things like stress, loneliness and sorrow, tears, and potential heartbreak, which may scar you or the other person for life.

Of course even long distance relationships have happy and exciting moments that a person will remember and treasure for a lifetime. And regardless of the outcome in the end there is plenty to write about, think about and digest.

So, are long distance relationships better than not being in a relationship at all? Being in a long distance relationship does bring you moments of happiness, excitement, and adventure, at least in the beginning, but most likely it will not work out, leaving you with a desire to not get involved with anyone ever again for fear that it will only end in a bad way. So, perhaps it is not a good idea to get involved in a long distance relationship. At the very least you shouldn't get your hopes up and not get in too deep, as the heartbreak, pain and disappointment will be even worse than it can be.

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lovebuglena 3 years ago from Staten Island, NY Author

Thank you for your comments brakel2. Sometimes even if the two people are very rich and able to fly to each other's neck of the woods to spend time together, it may still not work out because nothing beats being together in one place and in each other's presence on a regular basis.


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brakel2 3 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

Hi lovebug - Great article. It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship. Carrie Underwood, the singer, is married to a hockey player from Canada. She was sure it would work, and they have the money to fly everywhere to see each other. I had a long distance relationship that did not work out. There are some hubbers who had this type of relationship, but they moved to the other person's area. So you are right, and nobody wants to be heartbroken. Thanks for sharing.


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rauffray 4 years ago from BC, Canada

I agree with you, Lena although I do think that the long distance thing could turn out to be great in the end but, you are right, it has to involve the "hands on" approach (pardon the obvious), I mean the actual face to face contact that hopefully leads to getting to know one another and intimacy etc. The long distance thing can be a lot of "fun" but I always "worry" about honesty and such. Thanks for this fine hub.


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lovebuglena 4 years ago from Staten Island, NY Author

mackyi - I was referring to a committed relationship... Thanks for your feedback.

I met someone online recently and fell in love with the person. I was into him, he was into me. We connected and things were going great. But he lived in another country. We talked about things and whether we should just be friends and then agreed not to give up the relationship. He said he was gonna fly in to see me... And then he vanished for a bit and when he resurfaced he told me it was over and that he met someone else...


mackyi 4 years ago

Before I dive into this conversation, the question I would like to ask, just for clarity --- are we talking about a committed relationship or one that involves just passion and intimacy but no commitment? If we are talking about the former, this is extremely difficult and very rare! However, if we are talking about the latter, I believe it can work, as long as each person invlove has an understanding.


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hawkeye49er 4 years ago

I don't long distance relationship is such a good relationship is such a good idea, mainly because you can't achieve any trust like any normal relationship or marriage period.

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lovebuglena 4 years ago from Staten Island, NY Author

It's hard when you get involved in a long distance relationship with someone and fall in love with that person hoping the relationship will last and then very shortly after the relationship starts the other person decides to end it...


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carol7777 4 years ago from Arizona

There is nothing wrong with long distance relationships as long as it is a temporary situation and also two consenting adults aware of the relationship and what it entails..Good thoughts here.

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