ChanceEncounter

Intimacy

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Brief Encounter




A passing stranger;


His hesitant footfall,


A lingering look;


Could he fill the role?


Could he be the one?


If only once?


A lingering glance,


A fleeting moment


A one time chance


Is this romance?



People rushing by


Destinations unknown


As a single woman


Who quietly surveys


Chaotic streets



Busy curbside table


Many stories untold


Mysteries unfold


She glances up


Catches his eye


Their gaze holds


Intimacy in a crowded place


A smiling face


Her eyes cast downward


He walks forward


She feels his presence


Smells his scent


Warm, earthy, slightly sweet


Promises sent.



Seconds are endless


Time is suspended


Stopped in this moment


Decisions await


She tilts her head



Eyes soften


Mona Lisa smile


Eyes meet


Engage for a while


Held for an eternity


His hand touches hers


She slowly stands


Reaching hands


Silent acceptance



Hectic street


Busy city


Heat rises from asphalt


Sound echos from tall structures


Faceless bodies hurry by


Silent acquiescence


Beautiful woman


Handsome man


Hand in hand


Crossing congested streets


His hand caresses her neck


She leans into his touch


Walking in silence


Past surreal scenery as


Light reflects from mirrored windows


High above steamy streets


The couple approaches majestic entryway



Through elegant doors


Spacious, subdued lobby


Voices in background


Hushed privacy


He takes keys from his pocket


They walk to elevators


Step in, doors close



Lovely woman, attractive man


His hand on her throat


Her hand covers his


She lifts her lips


Deep, passion shared


His hand glides over her cheek


As he pulls her in


Closer


Elevator doors open


Empty hallway


Arched ceiling


Gilded woodwork


Bronze doorknob


The couple enters


Graceful surroundings


Vaulted ceiling


Wind rustles gauzy curtains


Scarf falls to the floor


He turns to push


The heavy, wooden door


Which slowly closes.............







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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

What a story! Loaded with restrained passion....

Until safely behind closed doors....

(Let me rather not share my thoughts!)

Lucky Cats, you made me hold my breath. I could feel the vibes. (And let me rather not share my thoughts....)

Voted up and awesomely thrilling :)


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

yea!!! Martie! There IS beauty, excitement, thrilling aticipation and allure/sensuality in subtlety, isn't there? Haha...thank you, my friend.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

At the request of several friends, I republished this. I pulled it for fear I may have put some readers off w/the idea of a "chance" encounter; anonymous intimacy. I hope not. I think this is a pretty tame fantasy; one, I suspect...many of us have entertained. Please enjoy it on the level w/which it is intended....Kathy


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

I have just learned that I can purr and be breathless at the same time...

oh my Aunt Fanny, this was wonderful, Kathy! Voted UP & Beautiful.

I love the way you left this to our imaginations and mine is working overtime... Love, Maria


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

What I like here is the slow, silent, sensuous movie unfolding. The visual Imagery is outstanding- capturing all the right nuances to create a sexually charged yet restrained atmosphere full of lights and shadows, touches and tension. Oh what a fine picture you paint, Kathy, Awesome.


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Julie DeNeen 4 years ago from Clinton CT

This was great...held my attention all the way through :)


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A.A. Zavala 4 years ago from Texas

I enjoy people watching, looking at faces and wondering what everyone may be like if we were to ever meet. One time I was sitting in an outdoor cafe, and I did lock eyes with an attractive woman and got that smile. I know from personal expereince that it's magical. It never went beyond that, but my mind was whirring...

There are billions of people in the world. All shapes and sizes, and out of those billions, a select group share similiar desires and beliefs. Condensed further, and some would be compatible as future friends. One more shake of the seive, and one could represent a true and passionate lover for life. Like this other side, a side we haven't seen much. Brilliant!


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

Kathy, I am so glad you've published this again. I refrained from sharing my thoughts, because it could spoil the interpretation of others. This is truly a movie of a very romantic scene, and I can so relate.... Meeting someone for the first time, feeling the magnetic attraction, blushing for my own thoughts and also for his, so pertinent in his eyes, feeling desire grows.....

In my case only one thing to be grateful for: Familiar territory without an elevator....

Again, voted up, stylish, tasteful, elegant, perfect descriptive words and thrilling....

ENCORE!

So, my sista can purr while breathless ? Lol!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

I'm answering you, first, Martie...because I know what you've done for me...on this and so many ways...and I truly love and appreciate you and your friendship. Love this comment, too..you've said it exactly as I hoped it would be seen...in all aspects. thank you my dear, dear friend. Kathy


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi my dear Maria...ok, you can breath now....E-X-H-A-L-E......breath in...deep breaths....now, E-X-H-A-L-E !! Really, though, thank you so much for liking this and seeing it just as I had hoped...means so much to me...I love mystery and suggestion...on all levels....don't want to (as in scary movies!!) introduce the monster too early in the game!! LO and Haha.


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Amy Becherer 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

My heart is beating faster, Kathy. I held my breath as the story escalated. One thing that was both beautiful and made me smile was your love of architecture shining descriptively in this romantic, sexy read. Sensual brushstrokes creating nuances that paint a picture by a master. You are an artist of the highest magnitude, my friend. Your readers are all "Lucky Cats."


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mckbirdbks 4 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

I could hear the unspoken words, sense the furtive glances, and braced myself for the complexity of anticipation.


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epigramman 4 years ago

....to paraphrase the great Amy Becherer ......"I need a cigarette."


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Wow! Tantalizing.. The scene ended much too soon. I'm with Amy and Epi, inhaling might be nice...


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi Docmo..It's always, from my perspective (a woman's point of view) to see how this is perceived by my male readers. I love what you've said and am very pleased that you were touched by this. that is what it is all about, afterall. thank you so much. Kathy

Julie, thank you so much. Glad you liked this little fantasy.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Autustine, I truly like your comment...particularly the last paragraph...it reads as beautifully as your poetry. It is true, all of it. I once heard someone say, "there are thousands of 'affairs' that happen in the blink of an eye. Eyes meet as you are driving in traffic...linger a while...an instant and mutual "affair.' " The often quoted "when their eyes met across the crowded room...." The chance encounter, fleeting moment of of being totally taken; absorbed by and w/another person....

I used to work in the Financial District of San Francisco. The environment, the pavement; was rich with opportunity. So many beautiful people in every possible level of availability. It was a constant dance with, sometimes, very intricate steps.

I appreciate your very "cool" comment, Augustine. It rings true.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Dear Amy, I am SO HONORED that you like this little escapade. I enjoyed writing it. Because I think you are one of the very most talented writers here, your comment is especially meaningful...I do think of painting a picture, creating an environment of anticipation..this is exactly what I wished to impart. It is like art, trying to create a mood using suggestion. Thank you so much. I am truly honored, my dear friend.


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epigramman 4 years ago

...thanks to Amy .... I have smoked an entire pack of cigarettes .....lol


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Dear mckbirdbks, you have made my day! Because you responded exactly as I had hoped my male readers would..Yes! thank you so much.

Hi there Ruby...glad you liked this little fantasy feature... so happy to see you here, and thank you

Hey Eman...glad this could serve as a conduit for you! any time, my friend...just give me the word. Thank you for visiting my little story.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

LC, your comment 'Eyes meet as you are driving in traffic...linger a while...an instant and mutual "affair.'' reminded me of the day I stopped at a traffic light and caught the eye of a man in the car next to me. He was smiling at me and his lips moved: "How are you?"

I immediately knew he was one of those I would fall in love with. But the next second I recognized him - my ex-husband!

This incident happened 10 years after our divorce and I haven't seen him in months.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Oh Martie...I don't know of I should laugh or offer you my condolences! I think I'll Laugh!!! What is this called? I want to say 'serendipity' but, no...maybe not..How about, "Damn!" But, these intimate interludes occur all the time...and leave both people thinking about all the possibilities for the rest of their waking hours...and go to sleep; perhaps, entertaining sweet dreams. Hmmmmm.....


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Epi smoked a whole pack of cigs. I'm cracking up here.....HeeHee


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

it's amazing what the mind can do!! Hey, Ruby!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Sista, after that comment, I wanna smoke a whole pack of funny cigarettes.

Lucky, I apologize but that is too fooking funny not to remark on... I know I'm being catty!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Mar, is that a pun???? Huh? Catty? Ok!!! haha


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b. Malin 4 years ago

What a Beautiful Hub Lucky Cats...actually Stunning. I'm so Glad I stopped by to read. I now look forward to Following your Hubs.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi b. Malin. I am very honored that you liked this enough to be encouraged to follow me...I am truly honored. I'm so glad you stopped by, too. I shall get to know you through your writing, too. I specially am looking forward to reading the article you've written about super cell storms. I used to live in SE Kansas (still have an animal sanctuary there run by my best friend...going back, soon, for a few weeks); and I absolutely loved those storms. We saw many pass right over our little farm. I've never seen a tornad0 yet; but, I would love to see one pass over just harvested fields which surround my place...that way, no one or property would be harmed. Thank you so much for the great, and very appreciated, comment. kathy


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aviannovice 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

Beautifully done. I could see every mo ve in my mi9nd's eye as I read this wonderful piece. Superbly done. Voted awesome and up. Great work!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Thank you, aviannovice. I am very complimented by your positive feedback on this one! I love mystery, subtlety and elegance....I hope to have expressed that here. Your comment is deeply appreciated!


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schoolgirlforreal 4 years ago from USA

Interesting and romantic. Is this about you? Lol. :)


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Alastar Packer 4 years ago from North Carolina

There are more than a few of us breathing today whose creation came about in this very way. The naive farm girl in the big city for the first time, meets the well-dressed, handsome stranger; neither fully realizing the fruits of their Peachtree Street passion.~ Couldn't have been better described than your poem here Kathy.


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BeyondMax 4 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Oh, Kathy. How tantalizing! Erotic induced coma...I am currently in this fantasy LOL Very impressive, wow!


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Wow LC..... It's really hot in here.... Maybe, it's the weather outside *_*

Steaming story..... I am with Epi, if I smoked I would be finishing a pack too :)

Great job.... Voting up and awesome!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi schoolgirlforreal. I am happy that you noted the romance in this little foray into fantasy. To answer your question: 1) " A girl never tells....," and 2) I take the 5th! j/k

Dear Alastar. I am so pleased to read your comment; and I love seeing how the male "half" relate to this. I, of course, love romance and anticipation; subtlety and "the dance" leading up to....so; thank you so much for the added anecdotal contribution which, happily I feel, underscores my intent. And, I wonder; is yours a true retelling of such an encounter?? Kathy

Beyond Max...my sweet HP friend...I am very happy and pleased that this little offering inspires such feelings! This is my hope. I am always so very elated to see you here in my hubs!!! Kathy

hey LaThing! First of all, I love your name...and, well, it was hot outside on that particular day (according to how I read it) and the weather was not to be controlled; inescapable inside and out! Hey, now....no smoking !!!! Not allowed!!! (for you health and that of Eman, of course!) Thank you so much for the visit and comment. Truly appreciated. K


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Alastar Packer 4 years ago from North Carolina

Could be. Only my hairdresser knows for sure.:)


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

@ Alastar: ;D


Vincent Moore 4 years ago

This Chance Encounter is breath taking and holding at the same time. I loved how you took us to the first eye contact through to the closing door. I felt the sensuality heighten with each step they took along their journey of finality. This chance meeting was so romantic, it's always so exciting when two meet and know they must have each other, even if its only for a little while behind those sacred closed doors. They mysteries of life are never ending, it's like dancing in the rain, we want more and more of it.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi my friend Vincent...well, I am so pleased by your comment....and I have no doubt that you have played a major role in similar one act plays...the leading man! Yes, "the mysteries of life never ending; it's like dancingin the rain and we want more and more of it." You have said it so beautifully and poetically. thank you so much. Kathy


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epigramman 4 years ago

....and now back with a 'proper' comment after being distracted by smoking too many cigarettes - lol - this is certainly one of the eloquent romances I have ever read here at Hubville - for me it unfolded like an exquisite French foreign language film on a rainy afternoon - you took me away to a time and place with the art of only using a few well placed words creating mood and tension through the narrative of your poetic masterwork - and yes I need another 'ciggy' - currently listening to Led Zepplin's Physical Grafffiti by the lake here at 4:35am and if that isn't yin and yang then I don't know what is .....


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epigramman 4 years ago

....now you've got me in the mood , Kathy , for some Leonard Cohen , with a song like Take this waltz or Dance me to the end of love - yes your words here and this poetic journey had that kind of effect on me ..... and also before I go - your Chance Encounter reminded me of jazz music and the art of improvisation - and you never know .....where it's going to take you ........ lake erie 4:43am


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

thank you Eman....I appreciate your comments. of course.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

There's a fine line between subtlety and certainty. Who's to say where it is to be placed in a literary work? You placed it at the closed door, leaving our certainty to take it from there. It is an effective poetic strategy, as the comments here attest. And your entire - and beautifully trimmed to just the most charged and meaningful words - journey was beautifully poetic. It really is one of the loveliest sensual works I've read on HP, neither too obvious nor too obscure.

I'm musing about life and how it unfolds. Moments of instant recognition of a kindred spirit or a compatible partner are spontaneous treasures which crop out over a lifetime.

I sort of felt my first stirring at 7, very specifically toward a neighbor kid for whom I had to wait 9 years for him to notice me. It led to love and even commitment, but not to culmination (probably because my parents had firmly intimidated him - certainly not because of me!); even 40 year later when we again met, it didn't happen. Yet we were soulmates and - that feeling was so amazing - ah. I even wrote a hub about it.

Perhaps guys and gals experience such times very differently. Gals are usually slow to become truly sexually awakened. I was to learn that at 7, mine was a mere shadow. I suspect that if truth were known many gals may become involved in sex with little or no real specific arousal, but more a response to a general sense aura or languorous feeling, less specific than that of their male counterparts for whom is it quite specific, usually urgent and somewhat disassociated with anything but that specificity and urgency of the moment. It's never quite like that for a woman.

For guys, surely attractive, suggestive visual stimulus starts it but that becomes less involved during the act than it is for gals, who continue to superimpose the fantasy and magic on it, especially before their full sexual maturity. Then for the gals, there comes motherhood which inarguably somewhat dulls early sensuous stirrings, sometimes to the point of being eclipsed. Not so does parenthood affect their desire for guys except as it actually interferes & blocks their natural responses.

Wives may accommodate but often that magic is subverted for both participants and routine may set in. Many kinds of peaks and valleys are encountered as time flows on

Perhaps for some of us, our full awareness and responsiveness occurs later on, and it may hit us like one of those Kansas tornados, Kathy! When it does, we finally recognize ourselves as whole beings and ask ourselves, as I wrote in a little one-liner,"Where have I been all my life?" :-) Our responses still involve the general aura, languorous feeling and misty magic, but suddenly there's also the specificity and indefinably - urgency.

So whether it's a gripping glance across a room or at the next table, in a passing car or sparks and vibes from the next seat on an airplane, - we KNOW what the response is when it sweeps over us as we'd never really known before becoming fully awakened to it. At those times, our self-value may guide how we respond and express it on various levels, but our awareness of it as a delicious value of its own which completes us as woman is never again in question. Am I right?


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Nellieanna....I just hit the APPROVE!~! button...YES! I approve...and, YES! you are right! What a beautfifully composed comment...you've written a short, fantastic and fabulous hub about feminine sexuality and the growing awakening of our sensual selves. I could not have said it better and I will not change the impact of your words w/an attempt to do so. Honest, true (certainly, according to my own understanding) and said in such a lovely way. Who could not resist agreement? Thank you so very very much, Nellieanna, for ALL the incredible words you have given me, through commets. You are amazing!!! Kathy


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

Thank you, Kathy. You know, I read various hubs aimed at sensuous effects. I don't always respond. I don't seem quite to fit among the commenters. Many of the hubs are beautiful tributes to human feelings and responses and others strike me as being transparently aimed at eliciting certain responses in readers, in an almost manipulative manner. But I don't wish to judge or to rain on anyone's parade.

Yours seems to me a valid, real and beautiful tribute to our mutual humanity and BEINGS as humans, for which I have high regard so I really wanted to respond. Still, at first I didn't know quite how to comment. Then I thought - well - that's it! - just to the mutual humanity it portrays, responded to from the only perspective I have to bring to it - my own.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Dear Nellieanna, I have noticed that our culture; our society seems to be moving away from a sense of subtlety and the art of being discreet. ( I looked up the exact definition of the word discreet; it does not exactly describe my intent, here however; close enough). I feel that our personal behavior is just that; personal. I feel the same way about intimacy. I feel that, many aspects (including advertising, the push to "sell sell sell," an industry built around stirring feelings of inadequacy in appearance, desirability, etc., profit motive, and more) have proven to be highly influential means by which our behaviors are altered. Young children are sexualized, young girls are taught to flaunt themselves w/no second thought, in order to attain their goals (whatever these may be), and our most intimate selves are portrayed as anything and all but intimate...

I am sorry that the beauty of our selves has been sold out to the lowest common denominator; that, rather than being celebrated and joyous; we are "told" (through the lyrics of much "rap" music, images which border on abusive, certainly, attitudes which portray the use of our bodies as manipulative; as a tool to 'get what we are after,' rather than a part of our total selves...) and "sold" images and behaviors designed with an ulterior motive, selfishness, greed, etc.

Not entirely, thankfully but, I am going to venture...a large percentage of the time.

There is an advertisement which is being aired daily. The young man has received a birthday gift from his grandmother. It is in the form of a birthday card. He removes the card from the envelope and, immediately, looks for the 'real' gift...(and we ALL know what that is supposed to be....money!). His grandmother is standing right in front of him. Without a second to read or enjoy the gift of his grandother's sentiment through the card or her personal words written inside; he looks up at her as if "where's the money?????" AND...here is where the change in our society; in our behaviors and attitude is evident ...she gestures to his smart phone, which indicates that she's given him $100.00.

This blatant "looking the gift horse in the mouth" behavior is taken for granted; no questions asked!

I was raised to NEVER 'look the gift horse in the mouth.' If I DID receive a check or a folded note w/money inside; I was ALSO raised NOT to open it at that moment, unless urged to do so by the giver. NOW...the rudeness; the expectations and assumptions take over..rarely is one encouraged to act with diplomacy or respect.

I'm off the point here but, I think it all merges together to equal a lessening of recognizing and being stirred by the finer things in life.

Like violence, mayhem, abuse, etc..we keep raising the bar which requires more and more extreme behaviors (aggression, etc.)in order to elicit a response..and this goes across the spectrum of human behaviors.

We're losing our subtlety and wonder; mystery and imagination. We've become a numbed, desensitized society, requireing more and more stimulation in order to respond....this is how I read it.

It's sad.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

Kathy - the overall loss I see in so many phases of life is the loss of the sense of decency which, in spite of its being an imperfect world in "my day" - still permeated it. It was almost a 'given'. Now it's an oddity if it exists at all it seems.

One of the effects of this loss I see is an almost total obliviousness - to others' feelings, to their rights and ultimately - to the character and value of those who are being oblivious. It's a self-fulfilling standard which backfires constantly - often in terrible violence.

I agree about that commercial you describe. I noticed that and cringed too. Another one I've seen lately that makes me cringe is the one in which the little boy is eating Col. Sanders chicken nuggets and the dad suggests they play 'hide and seek' and sends the kid off to hide, so he can gobble up the chicken nuggets! The kid calls out from his hiding place, "Are you looking?" and the dad, without the slightest hesitation, continues gobbling and answers, "I'm looking!" The betrayal is visceral.

It gives me serious concern about what is happening to our culture, its families, its whole structure.

And yes - intimacy is just that - intimate. Not public. One of the sub-definitions of it in my online dictionary: "• a private cozy atmosphere : the room had a peaceful sense of intimacy about it." Even the old movies protected that most intimate private act, though of course they alluded to it in every possible way. None of that even begins to rival the new 'normal' of movies and even daytime TV.

I'm far from a prude, but it really saddens me to see the most valuable personal moments exploited and - as you say - for any and all gains from the trivial to the profound. You say it well - "the beauty of our selves has been sold out to the lowest common denominator". And the saddest part is that it's so unrecognized that the loss isn't even registered as such.

And it does all relate to the 'looking the gift horse in the mouth' and other examples of where our sense of decency has eroded almost beyond recall.

It can only be salvaged by individuals. The government can't. The corporations can't. Even the churches can't. It's what each person applies to each moment's experience as it is happening that makes the difference. Of course that involves some touchy subjects, such as parents having time - and their own commitment - to give their children guidelines, such as you mentioned that you were taught not to look a gift horse in the mouth. Kids learn from lessons but even more from examples of those with whom they are most associated. If parents aren't there, they learn from each other - and we can see at every turn how that turns out!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Nellieanna, I have also seen the ad you've mentioned and I share your feelings. Far too many commercials depict parets as "clueless," silly, inane, bumbling, un-hip, selfish, lacking a sense of being the adult when relating to children, ignorant, "old fashioned" and oafish. The same w/men; particularly white, middle aged men; portrayed as the buffoon, "un cool," and apologetic. If you have the chance; I'd like you to read two hubs: "Steal the Experience," and "Assumptions, The Art of Disarming an Opposing Point of View." If you do have the time; you'll see how much we are in agreement. Even the fact that, when voicing our feelings, opinions; we preface our words with a defensive posture such as; "I'm not (a) ________ (fill in the blank)... " because,(we) already feel a need to "explain" or ward off the onslaught of attacks using defaming terms, that we know will be assumed or placed upon (us) rather than our words being heard. The assumption being that there is something inherently "wrong" with one's view over the other's.


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

I'll definitely check out those hubs, Kathy! You might be surprised, though, to learn that I word my opinions less from a defensive posture than avoiding an offensive one! :-) Except when discussing totally subjective things, I tend to think a bit objectively, and have in the past expected or hoped others responses will be equally matter of fact. They aren't, always. So prefacing with some kind of reassurance of my awareness that it is opinion (which of course, anything that comes forth from a person IS) and then avoiding personal pronouns in favor of impersonal ones as much as possible has become my M.O. in touchy situations putting forth touchy opinions Somehow folks tend to tense up when personal pronouns are used, especially those referring to themselves. Minds snap shut.

I truly dislike feelinf impelled to explain myself. I try to be as clear as I can and like you, I want my words heard but I'm really not concerned that they be agreed with. What is disturbing is when they're obviously disagreed with without even being heard accurately. It takes two to tango and clarity isn't foolproof. ;-) I'm sure you know what I mean.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

I do and you do and "we are all together...coo coo ca choo" (John Lennon)...hey Nellieanna..of course, I do .... Like you; I try to write (as in the comment(s) above...) and in articles and comments, using the "collective" 'we,' 'us,' etc. I hope that I've made that clear, too...oh, words! Thank you!!!!! ;-D


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

Ah. Well - I even was referrinf to the totally impersonal 'it' or a bit more personal, (being human) but not very accusative: 'one'. And allowing effects to be occurring rather than brought about by people. Know what I mean? This is not to mislead - in fact it is to clarify. "It happens" really is more accurate than "you made it happen" or "I made it happen. It's a mindset which promotes a bit less defensive response. The truth is that most of us are not all that powerful! haha.

I've been looking for those hubs you recommended - "Steal the Experience," and "Assumptions, The Art of Disarming an Opposing Point of View." I didn't find them among your hubs. Can you give me links?

( I did enjoy skimming over some of your other hubs!) We must have started HP about the same time!


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Nellieanna 4 years ago from TEXAS

I meant to reply more to your mention of how so much media make buffoons out of parents, men, etc. From my first days online in 1996, this grabbed my attention and horrified me. I thought, "How can youngsters respect any kind of authority when viscous humor mocks, ridicules and demeans it like this?" And it was set up so that anyone voicing objections was depicted as having no humor (horrors!) and prudish and out of it.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

;-D Agreed.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Loved this Kathy! its amazing how words bring back memories!! lol! in fact two memories two guys! wonderful stuff and so steamy! loved it, voted and shared nell!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

hello my dear Nell...so glad this was able to stir up memories (2 of them, as a matter of fact! LO) Love it. Thank you for the vote and share!!! Kathy


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

KATHY,

You ladies and epi's cigarretes and steamy conversations put me in shaky waters. I'm just commenting with a cool mind, but you did good! The boundaries of sensuality can be pushed according to each one of us...but this was really scorching imagery with raising temperatures. Voted up!..Speechless...!


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Hi there LDC! I had fun writing this. I worked in the financial district of San Francisco for a few years and this scene - most likely - unfolded daily. I met a young man named Jack who worked at Bank of America headquarters; I was employed by BofA International...just down Kearny. We met in passing; actually...I saw him and sped up my step until I met up w/him as he was stopped at an intersection. He heard my approach (I was trying to be quiet/subtle)...and we struck up a conversation...it wasn't quite like this encounter but, ended up as a relationship until his illness took him away...anyway...I am glad you liked this. It's interesting to see how men react / respond to the less graphic nature of this. Thank you !!! Kathy


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Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

So brilliantly composed Kathy and here's to so many more to share on here.

Eddy.


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Lucky Cats 4 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California Author

Oh! Hi Eddy! I had so much fun writing this one as I wanted to express the sensual side and excitement that exists in such a situation but, in a subtle, elegant way. I am so glad you like it. Thank you my dear friend! Kathy

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