How to find Chinese women looking for American men

American men have always been fascinated by exotic Asian women. Go on any dating site and you'll soon find thousands of lovely Chinese women looking for American husbands.

Here are some tips about finding a great Chinese woman online.

Where can American men find Chinese women?

There are loads of online dating sites that allow American men to make contact with Chinese women. Specialist dating sites that allow American men to email Chinese ladies include Chnlove and Chinese Love Links.

Alternatively you can find plenty of single Chinese ladies on popular Asian dating sites such as Cherry Blossoms, Asian Dating Mall and Asian Kisses.

Remember that China has a vast population, so these sites have thousands of beautiful ladies of all ages.

The Chinese lady is the lovely lady. It's no wonder that so many American men are looking for Chinese wives
The Chinese lady is the lovely lady. It's no wonder that so many American men are looking for Chinese wives

Are Chinese women better than American women?

I guess this is controversial, but it needs addressing. Many American men think American women are fat, lazy and just marrying them for their money. So obviously they look at the slim, beautiful hard working Chinese ladies on sites such as Chnlove and think a Chinese wife would be a great idea.

I guess some of this is justified, up to a point. Chinese ladies are very beautiful. While some of it is down to Asian genetics, Chinese ladies know that staying out of the sun does wonders in prolonging their beauty. They also eat excellent diets, and don't tend to smoke or drink alcohol that much. Tobacco and alcohol are relatively expensive in mainland China, so they are very much luxury items rather than something to use every day.

At the same time, women are women which ever country they are from. There are plenty of Chinese ladies that marry for money. Online dating sites where American men can meet Chinese women are full of divorced ladies, so married bliss is probably just as much as an illusion for the Chinese as it is for Americans.

Chinese ladies have their faults as well. The single child policy has coincided with a massive economic boom. This has created a generation of very spoiled princesses. Date a younger Chinese lady and you'll find she has very different values to her mother.

Are Chinese women better than other Asian women?

There are big differences between women from China and other Asian countries. The differences go way beyond language and cultural differences.

In general you'll find that Chinese brides on dating sites are much better educated than the Thai ladies you tend to see on dating sites. On sites such as Chnlove there are some very highly educated women indeed, which is not what most Western people think when you mention mail order brides.

Chinese ladies are also very variable in appearance. China is a vast country made up of many different ethnic groups. Some men prefer the shorter, dark skinned ladies from the South, while others prefer the tall pale skinned ladies from Beijing and the Northern Provinces. Some Chinese ladies are very tall indeed, and they tower over their Thai or Filipina sisters.

Slim bodies, long beautiful black hair, great dress sense. The modern Asian woman is smart and sophisticated
Slim bodies, long beautiful black hair, great dress sense. The modern Asian woman is smart and sophisticated

Chinese women and visa issues

The American immigration authorities are naturally suspicious of mail order bride type marriages. They are particularly suspicous if...

  • There is a large age difference between the couple (i.e. more than 15 years).
  • The lady is from a developing economy such as Thailand, the Philippines or China.
  • The Chinese lady is from a Chinese city known for visa scams (Nanning, Shanghai and Shenzen spring to mind).

Be prepared to provide evidence of your relationship with your Chinese woman. Remember to document your visits to her and get her to save any letters you've sent her. Yes this is very intrusive, but if you want to marry a Chinese lady then this is the kind of stuff you'll have to put up with from immigration authorities.

Many ladies are interviewed before they are allowed to enter the United States. For this reason I highly recommend that you find a Chinese lady who already knows some English. There are plenty of English speaking ladies on sites such as Cherry Blossoms and Chinese Love Links, so just build this into your criteria for when choosing a suitable Chinese wife.

Finally make sure you are certain your lady is marrying you for love rather than money or a visa. It can be difficult to determine this so you really just have to take your time with your relationship and trust your male intuition.

As far as I can determine, the best way of telling if a woman is in love with you and not your money or passport is that she will want to talk to you at all hours of the day and night, regardless of how busy she is in her job and home life. This is a big sign that she is genuinely interested in you.

More and more American men are choosing to live in China, although it's vastly different to the average town in the United States
More and more American men are choosing to live in China, although it's vastly different to the average town in the United States

Your country or mine?

Possibly the biggest issue facing a marriage between a Chinese woman and an American man is the decision about which country to live in after marriage.

For many American men the issue is simple - they want their Chinese lady to come and live with them in America. While this is reasonable, bear in mind that a Chinese family is very closely knit, much closer than your typical American family. Your Chinese lady will get homesick and miss her family. To mitigate this make sure you fully integrate her with your own family and friends. It's also good to allow your Chinese lady to visit her family back in China. Many Chinese families have regular get togethers, especially around Chinese New Year (January/February) and the Mid-Autumn celebrations (September/October).

Many American men are now choosing to settle with their new Chinese brides in China or neighbouring Hong Kong. The southern provinces of China bordering Hong Kong are especially popular. Modern Chinese cities such as Guangzhou and Shenzen have much to offer American expats. Beijing and Shanghai also have significant expat populations.

Coastal cities such as Zuhai and Zhongshan have good climates and would offer a very good standard of living for an American expat. Failing that, Hong Kong is an attractive place to live although it tends to be more popular with Americans who find jobs there. Accommodation costs, food prices and taxes are all very low in China compared to America.

I hope this article helps you in your search for a loving Chinese wife. Here's more information about how to find Asian girls looking for men.

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Are you an American guy looking for a Chinese wife? Any thoughts or comments? Post them below... 3 comments

john 5 years ago

My sister is Chinese and she is in New York now.Her husband died three year ago,she wants to find a serious relationship for marriage.How can she find some American men who are looking for a Chinese wife.


Shanghai baby 3 years ago

You make them sound like a commodity. Being slim, pretty, long dark hair doesn't make a relationship or marriage work. There are lots of things to consider when dating other races and cultures. They have more traditional, conservative family values, most send money back and support their parents. They are looking to marry rich westerners. Some are very materialistic and have jealous self obsessed natures!


Darryl 17 months ago

Hello Ladies, i’m looking for the love of my life someone thats real from the soul someone thats not caught up on all the worldly matters that at times get in the way of relationships. Looking for that Woman that is ready to move forward in a truely caring, loving, respectful relationship. PEACE and HAPPYNESS!

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