Christian Marriage In A Contemporary Society

Christian Marriage in A Contemporary Society

What is a Christian marriage? Marriage was designed to be a sacred relationship! “In the beginning God created marriage” consisting of one man and one woman! He made Adam from the dust of the ground and then decided that Adam needed a suitable partner. “It is not good for man to be alone…” Genesis 2. God put Adam in a deep sleep and while sleeping He performed the first surgery, removing his rib bone. From this in His own miraculous way He then fashioned a woman, from Adam’s flesh and bones! Adam later named her Eve. Although now two, they were one! From the blessed union of the two of them the rest of mankind came forth.




It is good to know from whence we come from and how it all got started. There are many erroneous concepts and theories as to how it all has come about? ( See Genesis 1-3 for complete story) The Bible is clear and has stood the test of time! From the beginning Adam spent time with God, His Creator. No doubt he was intelligent Adam himself named all the animals. God gave him dominion over all He created! Living in the Garden of Eden was a bed of ease, a magnificent self watered, weedless, thornless paradise! However at some point Adam decided to go against what he knew to be right and was deceived. He listened to what was created rather than to His Creator! Adam and Eve decided to do their own thing and all chaos, mayhem and pandemonium entered the world. They then had to leave their beautiful paradise! This is what has continued to happen down through subsequent generations. This is also why Jesus Christ came!





Jesus Christ came in the flesh to restore us! To give us the opportunity to once again to live our lives to please God! For His will and way to be our first priority! To remove the enmity that stood between us and God! He fulfilled the requirements by becoming the ultimate sacrificial “Lamb of God” He alone was perfectly sinless. He overcame sin in the flesh for the world! He died for the world and atoned for sins! “For He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son He loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sin. Colossians 1. We can call on Him as Savior and Lord to help us! We then can repent and His forgiveness is granted! His Holy Spirit abides within us, is our Comforter and is our internal, eternal teacher to bring us to all Truth! God does not sanction sin. Sin is anything that separates us from God. It is through His Holy Spirit we can spiritually grow! As we grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, implement and embrace His principles we are shaped and molded in His image!





His Holy Spirit is a precious gift! Jesus Christ “suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified died and was buried. On the third day He arose from the dead and ascended into heaven…” When He rose to heaven this is when He left us His Holy Spirit! This is what the Word teaches us about Jesus! “He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by Him all things were created: things in heaven and earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities, all things were created by Him and for Him. He is before all things and in Him all things hold together. And He is the HEAD of the body the CHURCH…” Colossians 1. Take some time and ponder on this powerful scripture! Now that's power! God truly is Awesome!



God knows what is best for us He is Sovereign! He could have but He did not make us robots. He allows us the freedom to choose! One must be aware of what happens when we choose to go against what He has said! Chaos! God is not only our Creator He is the Sustainer and giver of life. EVERYTHING is held together by Him! Through Jesus Christ we are or can be reconciled to Him! There is much spiritual warfare to change God’s plan for marriage and the family!



God designed marriage and now in this 21st century man has decided to again do whatever he feels is right. The Supreme Court of the United States has voted against the WORD Of GOD and now supports same sex unions. LORD HELP US! God’s design for marriage is increasingly becoming an alternative? Saying you have a committed heterosexual marriage sounds strange to many? We are becoming a growing minority! Many Christians as well as non believers are being seduced into committing adultery, having affairs galore, divorcing over and over and abandoning healthy Christian relational boundaries. The children suffer the most… There is much spiritual warfare to negate the Christian marriage! Pandora’s box has been opened and its lid has been lost! So now an unconventional hybrid man made marriage is being widely accepted. The difference is it cannot produce after its own kind! Marriage was never designed to be based on one’s sexual preference! It goes so much deeper. The human body has been designed in a marvelous phenomenal extraordinary way that a man and woman joined together fit perfectly! So once again the two can become the “one” God created in His image!



Within a marriage healthy sexual intercourse takes place and bonding takes place! God sanctions sex within the confines of marriage. Be careful who you join your self to! Now anything goes? But is this the Christian way? Where is the model of Christian marriage derived originally? From the Bible is it not? God is totally aware when this is or is not the case! Is it more important what man thinks or what God knows? Today, again man continues to pervert and now voraciously promotes an unconventional hybrid marriage between same sexes! Deciding again to do his own thing. Wrap this around your brain for size if you can? Despite what Truth God has to say; one is expected to ignore the Word ? “Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh she shall be called ‘woman, for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave father and mother and be united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame…” Genesis 2. God is love! Marriage was a beautiful God given gift to Adam and Eve and to us as well!



Now many want to do their own thing to the degree they even want to alter or suppress what God has to say about marriage in the Word! So much so they want to redefine marriage to fit their own description. To change laws and make it equal to civil rights which is quite disturbing! It is not the same! If you like, go on and have your “cup of tea!” Or should I say "same sex relationship!" Marriage is the first institution that GOD created. God does not support same sex relationships! So, please why not call it what it is? “A rose is a rose, is a rose!” But when it is a hybrid it says so! It is then considered man made! So now in this 21st century why can’t we say hybrid relationships and let Christian marriage be! In the eyes of GOD; Christian Marriage is "HOLY MATRIMONY!" God created it and that settles it! Even in this ever changing contemporary society God’s Word is the same “Heaven and earth will pass away but my Words will never pass away…” Matthew 24. There is something so much deeper than we in our little finite minds will ever understand that takes place when a man and woman come together. God gives us the freedom to choose. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, with whomever you want, but there are spiritual consequences… But please just don’t expect God to sanction it. “A rose, is a rose, is a rose...”

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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

A superbly written certification of the veracity of God’s first and last word concerning the sanctity of marriage.

This hub provides an excellent and quite comprehension explanation of this sacred union between man and woman from a strictly biblical perspective.

"Many Christians as well as non believers are being seduced into committing adultery, having affairs galore, divorcing over and over and abandoning healthy Christian relational boundaries. The children suffer the most…" Unfortunately, this is the truth and bears witness to the perverseness of our times. The alternative lifestyles that seem to be pervading our society and world are producing human wrecks in the process and leaving families broken, children's young hearts broken, churches broken, Christianity broken, our society broken.

Within a marriage healthy sexual intercourse takes place and bonding takes place! God sanctions sex within the confines of marriage. AMEN! The Bible clearly teaches that sexuality is one of God's precious gifts and that the joy of sexual intimacy between husband and wife is an expression of their essential oneness and is also symbolic of the marriage of Jesus to the Church.

“You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, with whomever you want, but there are spiritual consequences…” ABSOLUTELY THE GOSPEL TRUTH. And, in many instances, there are latent physical consequences.

A blessed hub DeBorrah that I hope many are led to read and ponder in the context of their own lives.

In the bond of Christian love,

Forever His,


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msorensson 6 years ago

Only in complete surrender do we find peace, DeBorrah but this is quite difficult to do so thank you for this beautiful hub to remind us.

Blessings!


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Sky321 6 years ago from Canada

Great hub Deborrah, I think I read somewhere that the divorce rate for christians is now 50%.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Rev Lady, Thank you for dispersing confirming words and godly spiritual counsel. The sanctity of Marriage is important! Is not the Church referred to as His Bride?

We are in for some very interesting times! Marriages and the family are under spiritual attack and the spiritual warfare has heightened! Jesus is still the reason for the season and His will and way has not changed.

It is important to know the Word of God! We as believers must know that being a Christian means being spiritually radical! Yes! Many are suffering in the flesh for deciding to ignore and or go against what God has said… Yes there are “latent physical consequences” Pestilences mentioned in the Word are varying diseases = HIV for one is rampart it is not prejudice millions worldwide young and old are being impacted… Through the power of His Holy Spirit Jesus Christ is able to transform lives! Therefore we can always have “HOPE” in the Lord! Thank you for sharing my sister in the Lord! In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Morensson, Yes! Peace is possible in the Lord! Although it may not be the chosen path for many... The narrow path is not one of ease... Thank you for visiting and sharing your meaninful insight! In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Sky321, Divorce for the Christian is no different from that of the world! This really should not be... It is somewhere between 55-60%! Thank you for visiting and always feel free to share! In His love, peace & Blessings!


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Chin chin 6 years ago from Philippines

As in the beginning, the enemy has been tempting man to go his own way. One of his hot targets really is the basic unit of society - the family especially Christian families. He's working double-triple time to succeed at separating husbands and wives, pervert sexual relations, and the like. Christians should really make a stand against this scheme of the devil and protect the sanctity of marriage. Great sharing, Deborrah! Blessings.


kristeen 6 years ago

Great hub Deborrah!

I hope and pray it makes a difference in someone's life. We need to be in the word daily to be able to resist the temptations of the world we live in where "anything goes".

Praise the Lord and to Him be the glory!! "A rose is a rose is a rose..."


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Chin Chin, So nice to see you here! I so agree! Yes let's STAND UP for the Christian Marriage! Thank you for sharing your wise spiritual insight!

In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Kristteen, Thank You! Let's continue to lift up God's Design for the Christian Marriage! To God be the GLORY!

Thank you for visiting and sharing! In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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cristina327 6 years ago from Manila

This is another excellent hub from you DeBorrah K. Ogans. Very well and courageously written, without any single compromise. Thank you for sharing it here at Hubpages. Remain blessed always.


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

Thanks for this inspiring Hub. I've learnt a lot from it and hope the Lord directs my steps.

Wishing you a Blessed new Week. :)


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Cristina, Thank You! Nice of you to stop by to share! Your presence here is welcomed and much appreciated! In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Lady E, Thank you so much you are always inspiring! "Trust in the Lord will all your heart and lean not to your own understanding in ALL your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight..."

Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share! May the Lord be with you! Be encouraged! Much love! Have a wonderful, eventful and enjoyable week! Peace & Blessings!


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UlrikeGrace 6 years ago from Canada

Very well written...I myself have fallen prey to the lies society and our own hearts have created regarding marriage...God has been re-teaching me and been gracious in his forgiveness...but there is always horrible debris left behind when we stray from the true Word of God. Thanks Deborrah

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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Ulrike Grace, What is so wonderful about the Lord is we can start from this day on going forward in HIM! "Give us today our daily bread" Society continues to water down the effectiveness of the Word of God! It was never meant to be a legalistic set of rules to live a life of drudgery! His Word is to protect us and teach us a better way to live! As our Creator He knows what is best for us! It is because of His Love for us He allows us to choose...

This is why Jesus came! We all need a Savior! Thank God for His Holy Spirit our Comforter! It is important to know His WORD and develop an ongoing relationship with Him... This helps us not to conform but "be transformed by the renewing of our minds"

God truly is "gracious!" Yet He changes not! Be encouraged! Since He is the Potter He can continuously mold us as long as we are willing... As long as He has us on this side of heaven it is to continuously grow spiritually in the Grace and Knowledge of Him...

Thank you for openly sharing, your comments are appreciated! In His love, may the Lord Bless you!


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UlrikeGrace 6 years ago from Canada

Oh DeBorrah and God does graciously continue to mold me into what He saw for me in the first place....not what I became in my before life, but what I am now becoming...Jesus makes all the difference...and nothing, not even the "church" organized must take His place. It truly does need to be God, spouse, family, church...and the Body work (Church) that God has for us to do comes out of our relationship with Him...not out of our relationship with the organized Church. In fact, as in my case, the misplacement of that order ended up in a disaster for me...

But what we have seen as disaster...God can take and use for good so that in the end He may be glorified in all that we are and do.

Thanks sweet one for your gracious gentleness and uplifting words of encouragement.

Love you DeBorrah

UlrikeGrace


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York

Thank you sister so much for your teaching. Marriage has been given to me twice and I was in it for 20 years the first time and almost 12 this time. I know that I function well as a husband and not alone. I know that my wife was designed for me and me alone. It is truly a miracle when you think about it. She is such a support to me and to the ministry the Lord has given. Our life contains such sweetness and even though I deserve hell the Lord gives me love and a woman to love me. I thank the Lord for you too, my sister and friend.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Ulrike Grace, Yes! He makes all the difference in the world!

You are so right about the importance of order! It puts everything in its proper perspective! Putting Him first teaches us how to properly relate to everyone and everything else! After all God is Love! It is through His love we are being molded and shaped into His image! We are "forever becoming..."

Wonderful insight! Love to you as well!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Nobody, What a pleasant surprise! Yes I agree! It is truly a blessing to be married to the spouse God has designed for us! And what an extra treat to be co laborers together to spread "The Gospel!" Yes! It is a miracle! It also confirms we serve an Omniscient God! He knows what is best for us! God is Awesome!

Praise God for His Grace & Mercy! So nice of you my friend, to stop by and share. In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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drpastorcarlotta 6 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

DeBorrah your a wonderful writer may God always Bless you and yours!!! I have missed you alot! Blessings!!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Drpastorcarlotta, Welcome back! I am humbled by your kind words. You are always welcome here! Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share! In His love, Peace & Blessings to you and yours as well!


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stars439 6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Beautifully written hub. Your words so truly compliment the words of our Lord God. Your photographs are magnificent and stunning in beauty. God Bless You.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Stars439, Thank You! So nice of you to stop by and share! In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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Cari Jean 6 years ago from Bismarck, ND

God bless you for writing such a great hub that is written by speaking the truth in love.

This part especially caught my attention: "One must be aware of what happens when we choose to go against what He has said! Chaos!"

It's pretty obvious how far people have strayed from the word of God when you see all the chaos happening in the world today.


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

Excellent hub and comments! It seems the divorce rate for Christians should be lower. Maybe articles like yours will help!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Cari Jean, Thank you and God Bless you! I discern that you see where I am coming from! It is because we care we want others to see how valuable the Word is! It is our Life Manual given to us by God! Is nothing Sacred anymore? If someone elects not to respect or believe it; this does not mean it is okay to change it to suit what they want...

Have you noticed how many different sexual addictions are on the rise?


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A M Werner 6 years ago from West Allis

DeBorrah, while this whole hub is excellent, you cinched it up bravely at the end and I don't think that should go unnoticed.

" Now many want to do their own thing to the degree they even want to alter or suppress what God has to say about marriage in the Word! So much so they want to redefine marriage to fit their own description. To change laws and make it equal to civil rights which is quite disturbing! It is not the same!"

Although many will continue to disagree I'm sure, the civil rights movement did not intend to embody protecting the choices people make. For this element of society that wants sexual freedoms to glom onto the struggles of people who were being persecuted for ancestry sake, is disturbing. A rose truly is a rose and apples are not oranges. People can control their sexual urges and their desires but they cannot control whom their parents are or where their ancestry came from. People can choose to live chaste lives if they want too. The predilection to do that which is taboo goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden (which I personally believe was an adulterous act). Wonderful hub as always. Peace.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Habee, I think it is important to have more discussion about how to improve marriages and what marriage is really all about! Many just have not or did not think it through...

Divorce is on the rise many marriages are under attack! What has happened cannot be changed. God is Love and He is a forgiving God! But moving forward and having more insight helps! I think Christians have to begin to step up to the plate... Starting by having a better understanding "Before saying "I DO"

Thank you for sharing as always! I pray that this helps as well. In His love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

A M Werner, Thank You! Yes, it is offensive and discourteous to think that one can equate their sexual preference to having “equal rights” and proceed to change the laws to accommodate their sexual preference. Many died in order to be able to have the privilege to walk through a front door. Simply because of their color or pigment of their skin or ancestry they had to walk in the rear door! As well as suffering being treating less than an animal! Now to say you want the same rights because you want to have sex with someone of the same sex seems ludicrous? Not too long ago the Medical Profession said it was classified as a perversion! Now one is considered unloving or biased when they do not support or condone the cause? We love others but not the sin. Nor should we support wrong in anyone! I realize many do not agree and have a clever argument to prove their point…

They have a right to choose because God gave them that right. But He also has shown the consequences for the choice, this is what many want to deny! Therefore everyone else is supposed to comply to their desires. This is why we have chaos and NOW the sexual appetites have gotten out of hand because the natural boundaries are being ignored… It is a ploy of satan to present it as though it is love. GOD is LOVE! He knows what is best. The Bible candidly illiustrates example after example when man “does His own the thing.” I am Pro Marriage God’s Way! I am bound to state and embrace God's Word!

I believe that Adam and Eve were one from the beginning! Eve was uniquely and marvelous designed from Adam’s to be soul mates this was the first marriage. I am not sure about your idea of adultery here?

Thank you as always for sharing, Your comments are always welcomed! In His Love, Peace and Blessings


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ALL4JESUS 6 years ago from USA

You bring the world of God to us - in every way. You are right - we are being "seduced into adultry" and accepting it. Sadly it is so pervasive in our society. The children suffer but so does the society. "Liers lie and cheater cheat", it all starts with one lie. I pray that Hubs like this help us as a society.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

All4jesus, So nice of you to stop by and share your comments! You are right "it all starts with one lie" PRAYER HELPS! Thank you for visiting, Please do come again! In His love, Peace & Blessings!

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