There is nothing more beautiful than a strong, confident, woman. How to be confident in a relationship.

There's nothing more beautiful than a strong, confident woman.

There's nothing more beautiful than a woman in love.

Nothing is more precious and this I'm sure of.

Your eyes can see it, for a woman that's cherished by her man display's... completeness.

There's a light that comes from inside her that sets her apart from the women around her.

And you can feel it; for the confident way that woman carries herself truly reveals it!

I'm just assuming, nothings more alluring, than a confident woman, in all that she's doing.

So grab a pen and take notes all you fella's out there.

You see a fine woman and you all stop and stare.

you're wondering where that confidence came from. fella's,...

find you a good woman, than shower her with your love.

The truth about love. Why staying together doesn't seem to be valued anymore.

It's becoming clear, that it's getting harder for people to make relationships work. Marriage's are crumbling, relationships are not lasting, and everyone is wondering what the secret is. The secret is 'love. 'unselfish, unadulterated love.'

Indeed, there is nothing more beautiful, or sexier than a person who knows that they are loved. That glow that transcends from inside them is contagious and sets them apart from everyone else. Loving someone means: You are responsible for that person and that person is responsible for you. It's that feeling of completeness that allows your partner to feel, safe, protected and cherished... it allows them to walk in a confidence that no one can deny.

But relationships are no longer seen as important anymore. People are not valued as they use to be. We have become very irresponsible in the way we treat ourselves and each other. People are no longer setting high-standards for themselves and are looking for immediate fun and gratification, This attitude can turn you bitter about how beautiful love is supposed to be.

We all have standards in our lives in order to give our life a certain peace. Sometimes when we meet someone we are attracted to physically those standards go out the window. Once the glow wears off we start noticing things we don't like; after all, no one is perfect. We then began to start nagging and nit-picking on the things we don't like but that is where the problems begin. People can only be who they are and the desire to change must come from within. Choose people who possess qualities you like. For example: If you can't tolerate smoking or drinking, then do not choose that person for a mate. See people for who they are the first time, if you do, it will save you a lot of heartache in the long run.


Toxic relationships; why is it hard to walk away?

I was in a long term relationship that turned toxic in it's last year; I was devastated. I refused to understand that my season with that person was probably over and I needed to move on. I kept trying to find ways to rekindle the chemistry and fix the situation and in the end I ended up broken.

I confided my troubles to a friend one day and he asked me a question that changed my whole way of thinking. He asked me "why was I trying to fix my man?" When you love someone deeply, its hard to break away even when the relationship starts to go wrong. You want to keep trying to fix the situation or, fix them. Living in the past of the way things used to be won't change things. People grow and change and, if you have grown apart, its time to move on. Relationships are hard but they should never break your spirit.

Love should always make you feel whole and never incomplete. You can't fix someone if they are broken; their pain lies deeper than your eyes can see. Sometimes you can end up broken if you choose to stay in a relationship that has turned sour. If your relationship is not making you feel cherished or complete then you're no longer compatible. People, relationships come into your life for a reason and a season, don't block your blessings in life by not understanding when it's time to let go.

How many people agree that a woman that is well-loved stands out in a crowd?

  • I agree
  • Never noticed
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Ladies in or out of a relationship remember you are always....

Creative

Over achievers

Nurturing

Fierce

Independent

Dazzling

Exceptional

Noticeable

Trail-blazers

Wonderful

Optimistic

Marvelous

Edifying

Noble

He who finds a good wife finds a good thing.

The bible says: " He that finds a wife finds a good thing." What qualities do you feel men look for in women?

In your opinion what type of woman is more appealing to men?

  • Women who are strong, independent and confident in their skin
  • Women who adds excitement by the chase of this game called love.
  • Women who are quiet, reserved, less demanding.
  • Women who are nurturing making her a good mother and good homemaker.
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He said... She said...How not listening to your mate will ruin your relationship.

One of the biggest problems we have in relationships today is not listening. Have you ever noticed in a fierce argument you and your partner spit out all the nasty little things you cannot stand about each other. Sometimes you're so angry you're not paying attention to what comes out of their mouth. The truth comes from the heart and soul and comes out of the mouth and not listening to your partner can cause you a lot of pain.

Although this can be very hard to do in the heat of the moment, if you understand that when people point out "negative" things about your character, though they may have intended to hurt, they have given you a gift... a gift of understanding. Its a fact that we go through life blocking blessings and opportunities. Have you ever heard:

  1. You have a temper
  2. You're too controlling
  3. You're not a good housekeeper
  4. You don't cook
  5. You're lazy
  6. You're not aggressive
  7. You're not sexual enough
  8. You hang out with your friends too much

When your partner leaves or cheats, or whatever the circumstances may be, you were never blindsided. If your partner leaves most likely they spoke those things into existence and once they got tired mentally they began to stack up reasons to leave. Once the reasons to leave out-weigh the reason to stay they make a choice.

I would be told about my temper all the time. However, because things usually were okay once things cooled down I never listened in a way where I understood it was a problem. When the relationship failed I didn't get any different reason than what I had been hearing all along which is, my temper was too much. I went through a lot of relationships that way until I realized how important it was to listen to what people saw in me. I began to turn things around and my blessings began to flow once I understood because I can't see myself people blessed me when they pointed out things I needed to work on. Look past the hurtful words in order hear what they are saying about you.

"LISTENING" is the key to long lasting relationships and a life full of opportunities and blessings.

© 2013 Dana Tate

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Harriett 3 years ago

There is something beautiful about a woman in love she just glows and everyone around her is mesmerized by it


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Careermommy 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

What a nice poem and dedication to all the strong, beautiful women out there. Nicely written and expressed.


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Dana Tate 3 years ago from LOS ANGELES Author

Thank you careermommy, as always, your comments are very much appreciated


chocolate doll 3 years ago

Very lovely and inspiring. love makes a woman feels so safe and complete the way they are supposed to feel beautifully expressed voted up!


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Harishprasad 2 years ago from India

Dana, power of love is great and yes, loved ones are a class apart. A beautiful & sweet piece ! :-)


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Dana Tate 2 years ago from LOS ANGELES Author

Again my dear Harishprasad: Thank you very much for your lovely comment. It has always been my opinion that when the world is seen through the eyes of a person in love, everything looks more beautiful.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Hello, Dana,

This is an excellent piece of writing. Amazing, to be quite frank with you.

I loved every word--and the lay-out was superb. Interesting, in-depth, helpful, and very informative. Great job.

Voted up and all the choices because you deserve it.

You have such a gift for writing. Just keep writing and good things are bound to happen to you.

Sincerely,

Kenneth Avery, Hamilton, Alabama


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Dana Tate 2 years ago from LOS ANGELES Author

Kenneth avery: Thank you so much for your extremely generous comment. To say I appreciate your words doesn't compare to how I feel. You have really brightened up my day. Sometimes trying to find things to write about can be discouraging but the moment I read your comment I felt renewed. Thanks's again for you visit, comment and generous appreciation of my hub.


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stbrians 23 months ago from Vihiga County,Western Kenya

A confident and sure woman exudes inner beauty that surpasses all. We should care and love our women whatever what others say. God made woman for man to love, hold and cherish


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Dana Tate 23 months ago from LOS ANGELES Author

And that He certainly did my dear friend. Nothing is more beautiful than a woman who knows her self worth and finds a man who treats her that way. Thank you for your kind and generous comment.


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kenneth avery 23 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Jan. 5

Dear Dana,

So sorry it has taken me so long to reply. I have no excuse except this fibromyalgia and neurothopy, which I have had for 13 years, gets worse in damp and cold weather which we are having in northwest Alabama, is getting worse.

I LOVED this work. I really did. You did it without overdoing or over-explaining each segment of the topic. In short. You are good, Dana!

I love reading and writing abstract/prose poetry and have written some of my own, but I cannot come near the romantic and overall sensitive side of a confident woman you have captured in this hub.

Honest.

I pray that you will continue in this avenue of writing for I am very selfish of things I love. I know that whatever topic you choose, it will be great, Dana.

Happy New Year--and All Good Things come to you.

Your Friend for Life, Kenneth


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Dana Tate 23 months ago from LOS ANGELES Author

Thank you very kindly Ken for you kind words and encouragement. Happy New years and all the blessings they entail.


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kenneth avery 23 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

Dear Dana,

You are welcome. And please remember . . ."You will always have a friend in me."

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