Could she be cheating on you?

When "he" visits you

she always has to look to hot that she could set your apartment on fire.
she always has to look to hot that she could set your apartment on fire.
She only laughs when your best friend tells a joke.
She only laughs when your best friend tells a joke.
She cannot look you in the eyes for any period of time.
She cannot look you in the eyes for any period of time.
"I think your best friend loves my legs," she tells you at dinner one night.
"I think your best friend loves my legs," she tells you at dinner one night.
You ask her to put on her best, and she wears a flannel robe.
You ask her to put on her best, and she wears a flannel robe.
When your best friend visits you to watch the game, she dresses for him, not you.
When your best friend visits you to watch the game, she dresses for him, not you.
"I need to be alone on the town," she says.
"I need to be alone on the town," she says.
She confesses her sexual fantasy and you aren't in it.
She confesses her sexual fantasy and you aren't in it.
She always wants to look even hotter when your best friend is coming by to see you.
She always wants to look even hotter when your best friend is coming by to see you.

For the guys who are "in the dark"

So this is a touchy subject. I do not want to ever be accused of running from controversy. And friends, this "is" controversy at its finest.

I wish this was a story about Dr. Seuss, but sadly, it's not. This is a story about a common event that takes place everyday, every night, and almost every minute. The ageless plight of guys who never think. Never suspect that their "sweetie," girlfriend or wife, who rates a 12 on a scale of 1 to 10, could ever look at another guy, much less cheat on you with him. What do you call these guys? Gullible. Good-hearted, trusting to a fault, but gullible.

And the story is not new. Nor is the subject. Who knows the human heart and what it wants? The only thing I can lend to this subject of "Could she be cheating on you," is that "I" am no expert on this venue. And the signs I am listing below to tell the gullible guys to watch for in their relationships with their "hotties," are not conclusive. They can vary from couple to couple.

Okay. It always starts out innocently. You and your best friend, "Thad," who has been your best friend since high school and college, are sitting in your living room watching The Super Bowl like guys do all across America. You two are laughing, talking, zinging each other like best buddies do, sipping a few cold ones and just having a great Sunday afternoon.

Then like changing acts in a Shakespeare classic, you have to visit the bathroom to relieve yourself of the beer you have guzzled. Nothing strange about that. But while you are in "the head," something mysteriously-hot is about to happen in the living room. Oh, if you had held your beer for another five minutes.

"Thad," is fully-engrossed in the football game on television. And now the sparks fly. Your hot wife, "Ginger," dressed only in short shorts, halter top, and high heels, (and it's January for decency's sake), for that's how she dresses at home, strolls from the kitchen to where "Thad" is sitting and trips on the torn place in the carpet sending her falling clumsily into "Thad's" lap. If only you had fixed that torn carpet two weeks ago.

"Ginger's" eyes meet "Thad's." Talk about awkward. This is awkward with a capital "A." "Uhh, excuse me, 'Thad," for being so clumsy," "Ginger" says sounding like one of those sultry voices on those telephone sex numbers.

"Ohhh, uhh, haw, haw, err, that's fine, 'Ginger,' it was more my fault than yours. I was sitting too close to the kitchen," "Thad," who has kept his linebacker body in shape since he graduated from college says with an innocent look on his face.

"Ginger," takes her time in getting off "Thad's" lap. "Thad" is now acting uncomfortable. Aroused, but doesn't show it. Sweat pops out on his forehead. "Ginger," stands and smooths out the wrinkles in her short shorts and says, "do you need another beer?"

"Uhh, yeah, please," "Thad" mumbles wiping sweat from his forehead.

Then "you" walk back into the living room from letting your kidneys act. You can sense a change in the atmosphere in the room. You don't say a word. You take a sip of your beer. Ask "Thad," "who's ahead, the Patriots or Giants?" "Giants," "Thad" hurriedly answers triggering your suspicions even more.

From there it's a game of "cloak and dagger," with you and "Ginger." She changes right before your eyes. You notice the drastic changes in her and each time you try to talk to her, she cuts you off, snaps at you and leaves the room. Yep. "Ginger," is losing, or has lost her attraction for you.

But don't beat yourself up. It really wasn't your fault. You did all the right things. You courted her, romanced her, paid her all of the attention a woman can enjoy, took her dancing, dining and to shows. You bought her expensive gifts right and left, and still, she found a spark of something she liked in your best friend, "Thad," but now you cannot help the situation. You can only be cool, level-headed, and pray that "Ginger" comes to her senses and wants to "talk things out" with you.

My friend, you should have read this list of things that ask . . ."Could She Be Cheating On You?"

If your hot girlfriend or wife displays any or all of these signs, then be concerned. You might be left alone one day and feeling very dumb for not being prepared.

  1. DOES SHE change the subject when you ask, "who was that you were on the phone with at two this morning?"
  2. DOES SHE say another man's name when you and her are making love?
  3. DOES SHE get really dressed-up hot when your best buddy drops by to give you back the monkey wrench he borrowed from you eight years ago?
  4. DOES SHE invite her "bestie," "Judy," over to talk to her. And spends the next twelve hours talking about "having affairs," but when you accidentally walk into the bedroom, she changes the subject to "produce shopping"?
  5. DOES SHE insist on sitting near your best buddy on the love seat when he visits you to watch sports on Saturday?
  6. DOES SHE find reasons to touch your best buddy on the cheek, arm, and butt?
  7. DOES SHE volunteer to ride with your best buddy back to town on a "beer run," and says to you, "you have worked hard all week. "We" can get the beer."
  8. DOES SHE and your best buddy spend six hours "buying beer," when the nearest package store is only five minutes from your house, and when they return, she only hands you a six-pack?
  9. SHE INSISTS that you buy her a private cell phone plan of her own. And doesn't share her number with you?
  10. SHE URGES you to go on a weekend fishing trip when it's not even fishing season.
  11. SHE EMBRACES your best friend when he picks you up to ride to work with him and gets stuck in the driver's side window of your best friend's truck.
  12. DOES SHE always invite your best friend to come with her to the bedroom to see the new lingerie she has bought?
  13. DOES SHE GET MIFFED if you do not take her along when you and your best buddy go out drinking after a hard day?
  14. DO YOU CATCH HER throwing your best friend kisses across the room?
  15. DOES SHE BRING SHAME ON YOU by wanting to sit in your best friend's lap at Denny's restaurant?
  16. DOES HER VISA CARD show thousands of dollars worth of purchases of men's clothing for your best friend?
  17. WHEN SHE CALLS YOU from "work" she says, to let you know that she will be running late, and you hear a man answer the phone in the background, "Good evening, Holiday Inn Express?"
  18. WHEN IT'S JUST YOU AND HER at home, she continually begs you to call your best friend, who is out of town, and find out when he is coming home?
  19. WHEN IT'S JUST YOU AND HER at home and you want a romantic evening with her, and she falls asleep at 7:30 p.m.?
  20. WHEN YOUR BEST FRIEND eats with you, she insists on taking him home and doesn't come back until 2 a.m. the next morning?

Guys, and you know whom you are, if any or all of these signs fit you and your relationship with your girlfriend or wife . . .

wouldn't you agree that something's wrong?



She's seldom home

and one time you ran into her in the elevator in your best buddy's building. Coincidence?
and one time you ran into her in the elevator in your best buddy's building. Coincidence?

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junko 4 years ago

My mother said when I was a child "you can knock a fool down with hint and he would get up and ask you what you meant". She also said "It takes all kind of people to make a world". I've witnessed men and women who knew but didn't care and are willing to except their share. Love is strange, user beware.


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WillStarr 4 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

People cheat because they need the admiration, and often, they are cheating with more than just one. It also seems important that they make those being cheated aware, because the creater also feeds on the jealousy they are able to create.

There's another factor that needs to be addressed...separation. Men whose jobs take them out of town are susceptible to loneliness, and so are their wives. It’s a strong marriage indeed that can survive the double temptation of long separations.


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tamron 4 years ago

I was a cheater and I pretty much did everything you described in this article. The only difference was my old man was never romantic,he never did anything nice without a motive. He was always accusing me of cheating so I cheated.

Great hub. vote up! FB Like


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catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

Well, sorry to say that if you guys miss any of these signs, then you aren't paying attention...or don't want to know! Great hub Kenneth, for the truly clueless out there!


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Very detailed and informative about the signs that a woman could be cheating. Like the old saying goes, "If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, then it must be a duck!". Voted up and shared too.


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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

Funny and true. These definitely are tell-tale signs!!


Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Kenneth,

If a man sees any of these signs and refuses to face the truth then he is really in the dark but then again who would want to face the fact that their partner is interested in someone else .

Voted up up and away!

I hope you are doing well my friend :)

Have a good evening.


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

LOL...yep..the 'please go fishing even tho it's not fishing season'? If that's not a dead giveaway boys...

lol


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Mellonyy 4 years ago

Interesting signs, almost all of them are true! Thanks for sharing! Voted up!


Debra Emerson 4 years ago

Voted up and very funny. Very interesting, too.


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Some signs are subtle and then there are those that stand out like bill boards. Many people choose not to see the signs because they don't want to face the ugly truth. Great signs!


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jellygator 4 years ago from USA

Great list!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Junko,

thank you for your lively comment and I dearly love what your mom told you. By the way, where did she get these sayings? I think her wise sayings would make a great hub--hint, hint to YOU!!!

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Will . . .amen to all you said, bro. Great wisdom in your words. Hope someone will read YOUR comment and remember how easy it is to cheat, but it takes a lifetime to forget it.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hey, Tamron,

I admire your honesty. I need to write a hub using you as the inspiration: Honest Women: My Praises To Them . . .would that be okay? Honest. I am very taken with your honest comment. Many, both women and men, who have cheated, had rather lie and deceive than to just admit it and let it be.

Thanks, Tamron.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear catgypsy,

some guys just don't want to know thinking that the situation will just go away. The situation will go away. Right along with his girl.

Thanks again!

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, Janine,

how was your vacation? I hoped you and yours had a great one. Your duck analogy is dead-on. Thanks for being so sincere in your comments. I appreciate it very much.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, picklesandrufus,

although this hub was purely tongue-in-cheek humor, do you suppose that there ARE guys out there who are so igorant or gullible as to not see these signs? I would hate it if there were guys in this shape.

Thanks for your input.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Dear Susan,

I have to agree with your thinking. On both counts - -if a man refuses to see these signs, he must love darkness and then again, you hit it on the head, as it were, who really wants to face the "Pain Monster"?

Kenneth

PS: Thanks for the votes and well-wishes. I am resting pretty much. I fell in the shower at our lodge on vacation last week. Hit my head on the tub, bruised some ribs . . .sore isnt the word. But Im too old to really be taken out by some shower.

LOL


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, ImKarn . . .that fishing con always gets the guys out of the house. Who in their right mind, speaking of men, would go fishing in January in the deep south, when their wife or girlfriend is standing in a dainty negligee with expensive perfume and painted-up prettier than Marilyn Monroe??? What guy is this off-center? Can you tell me?

I am not. I can answer you that now.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, Melonyy,

love that name! Thank you for your warm comments which I appreciate very much. Have a great day and stay safe.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Debra . . .thank you so much for the sweet compliments. I wont forget them. You are truly a great friend.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello Tammy "Music Queen" Swallow . . .you are absolutely right. Ignoring signs leads to being in denial. Both are painful. But like you said, so is pain. I admire your comments. And your writing.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hello, jellygator . . .thanks, my friend. I did my best on this. I know that there are more signs, but I think these are the highlights. Come back for a visit anytime.

Peace out.

Kenneth


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Voted up awesome & funny!

Men have a secret code that they adhere to when it comes to their best friend's wife or girlfriend. It's all about loyalty and respect regardless of how much time has passed by. Guys, you are definitely dating the wrong type of woman if your hot girlfriend or wife is displaying any of these signs, but you also need to be careful that you are not reading too much into it. Perhaps, your girlfriend is just testing your jealousy and if you overreact, then you have just given her the reassurance that she was looking for. Some women cheat to boost their self-esteem and prove their worth. Guys, if this were to happen, then that just proves that both the girl and your best friend were both scumbags.. Get rid of both!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

My Dear (Friend, Mentor, Ally) Lovedoctor . . .couldn't have said it better myself.

Thank you kindly for summing this up. Great work and I see how how you got your title, "lovedoctor," for you are absolutely right.

Kenneth


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daskittlez69 4 years ago from midwest

My t friend could have used this Hub a few years ago. I didn't have the heart to tell him what I thought. When I hinted around at it he got mad at me. Thanks for the Hub. Here's your up!


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hey, dadkittlez69 . . .thank you, man, for your comment and I appreciate very much, your input. Your comment makes doing these hubs worth it. Keep up YOUR good work yourself too.

Kenneth


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ericdunbar 4 years ago from FORT WORTH

This is a very interesting hub Kenneth. To say you're not an expert at spotting cheating signs is an understatement. It really is amazing how gullible some guys really are.

You made your point very well.


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Eric,

first of all, peace to you. Secondly, this hub was aimed at guys such as myself, who as a single guy, loved the company of a girl so much that I was blind to the signs of her wanting to be with my best friend or someone else.

But I learned. The hard way. The hard way of getting my heart stomped on numerous times.

Then it occured to me. Why am I wasting my time? These girls that I long to be with are NOT of a classy background. No wonder. And you are right. About me. Gullible is not the word.

Thanks so much for your comment. I appreciate it.

Kenneth


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kenneth avery 4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Eric,

first of all, peace to you. Secondly, this hub was aimed at guys such as myself, who as a single guy, loved the company of a girl so much that I was blind to the signs of her wanting to be with my best friend or someone else.

But I learned. The hard way. The hard way of getting my heart stomped on numerous times.

Then it occured to me. Why am I wasting my time? These girls that I long to be with are NOT of a classy background. No wonder. And you are right. About me. Gullible is not the word.

Thanks so much for your comment. I appreciate it.

Kenneth

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