The pursuit of happiness is the life work and desire of all men. Love relationships are one of the most precious and vital parts of our lives. The relationships of man and wife, their children, their lifestyle and the company they keep are the foundation society is built upon. This is the place where we are established in the behavior patterns that will stay with us throughout our lives. We learn what we have lived, and the truth is that the natural man has no control over the deeply embedded character traits and flaws that all men who live independent of Jesus Christ are subject to.
Can the Ethiopian change his skin, or the leopard his spots? then may ye also do good, that are accustomed to do evil.
Only by the goodness and grace of divine intervention can learned behavior be changed. However, the desire to do good and to want change is present in most every man. Hearts yearn for the kind of love we hear about in many great love songs. It seems that the whole world is so hungry to love and to be loved!
I think that the beautiful song I'm sharing here speaks the truth about our relationships so well. It contains very good lessons on the necessary ingredient of forgiveness and sacrifice of pride to save relationships in danger.
"We Believe In Happy Endings" by Johnny Rodriquez
Sadly, forgiveness and the desired happy endings don't always happen. But in many cases we can unlearn and relearn if one is willing to pay the price. An honest heart can ask for wisdom and grace to outgrow the bitterness that often happens because of failed relationships. We can rise up above blame and a desire to get even. These are emotions that will always keep our souls troubled.
In my humble opinion the failure of the love and marriage relationships is one of the most serious problems of our society. Sick and hurting marriages and relationships cause ripples of bitterness and strife which effect the atmosphere of our homes and families. Fighting and wars in the home life lay a foundation for deeply ingrained insecurities. Such childhood insecurities remain with us as we grow up and become a part of society. Often, a broken and troubled part.
I think all would agree that good character undergirds society. I look all around me and see the damage done by hatred and strife. And I wonder about our personal responsibilities. Are we as a parent and family member keeping our learning priorities in right order? Do we save our best behavior for friends and employers, not realizing that kindness and our "best behavior" is what all our loved ones hunger for and deserve? Are we devoting our learning skills mostly to the pursuit of excelling in reading, writing, and arithmetic and even responsible civic duties? Agreeably, these are some basic necessities for life. However, we can all be found guilty of taking too lightly a right education in stable relationships and matters of the heart. A high Intellect often is considered much more admirable than good character and integrity in our relationships. Do we even realize that when our hearts are humble and we desire peace we can change the atmosphere we live in?
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
It's true that we can't change the world, but there is a way we can change our own world. If we will take care to learn and to apply God's spiritual laws of love and forgiveness to our relationships we can guard our lives from hurtful failure.
Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
Forgiveness and mercy are powerful forces for good. These gifts from God possess the power to re-create the atmosphere we live in. May we seek to be found worthy of God's desired happy ending in our relationships in life, and look forward to eternal life in him through our desire to trust and obey.